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Etiquette on cancelling a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are your thoughts?

How late would you leave it to cancel a meet without being rude??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as I knew I definitely needed to cancel.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As soon as I knew I definitely needed to cancel. "

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Minimum 24 hours unless it’s unforeseeable circumstances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

You've just got to do it asap. They'll probably think you're BS-ing whatever you say, so just have to let them know early and hope they're cool with rescheduling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Not if that was the earliest you could do.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Better than an hour later.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Happened to me last night…

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Absolutely

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

If you have to cancel then you have to cancel. An hour or a day, you still have to do it.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Yes but if it's a choice between cancelling or a no show you've still got to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Can't believe you even have to ask

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Happened to me last night…"

Frustrating as it is, life happens.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Honestly yes it would especially if you knew beforehand it could happen and if the person has to travel. Unless it is real unforeseen circumstances the I would be very peeved off if someone cancelled an hour before we were meant to meet. But I suppose better than not turning up .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??

Can't believe you even have to ask "

It happened to me last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better an hour before than not at all.

Things happen, life gets in the way.

But let them know as soon as you're able.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

I'd be pissed off but shit happens. I'd much prefer that than being stood up.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"What are your thoughts?

How late would you leave it to cancel a meet without being rude?? "

I've had a meet cancelled with 2 hours notice recently. I accepted their reason and we've reschedule.

Personally if I arrange a meet knowing there's a possibility I'll have to cancel, for whatever reason, I'll tell the person when we're arranging it. That way if the situation comes up, then they're kinda pre-warned anyway.

Its your call as to whether you do a re-meet.

Good luck OP.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its just nice to know if the person you are meeting isn’t going to turn up, rather than being left to speculate.

If thats a week, a day or an hour at least you know and can then amend your plans.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

As soon as I know I need to cancel.

If a situation is developing, eg I have a mild cold and the other party might not want to meet, I'll update them.

Perhaps they've gone to some trouble to arrange the meet... childcare or coordinating arrangements with hubby...or getting an outfit ready. It's only fair to let them know ASAP, then they might have the chance to arrange something for the same date with someone else.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

Depends on how long before the meet they had to cancel. If soemthinh came up just before a meet then that's all the notice you get.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

An hour before would be reasonable if someone got ready for a meet and discovered their car had a flat tyre or wouldn't start. Or some other genuine last minute issue. I've had someone cancel on me because she crashed her car on the way to where we were meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had to cancel I’d also offer another date to make sure they know I wasn’t just blowing them off.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

With as much notice as possible

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??"

If due to a foreseeable reason, perhaps. If it's because their kid puked, their car broke down, Northern Rail ballsed up etc, then it's quite possibly reasonable. Entirely dependent on the situation.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

ASAP simple as that

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

60 seconds before your at the meet and then be gone on 60 seconds

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

The best laid plans of mice and men...

If they knew 24 hours before but only told you an hour before then it's a bit poor. But I'm inclined to always give the benefit of the doubt and it's the behaviour and attitude after that determines whether it worth trying again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with others - if you need to cancel, it should be done as soon as you know.

I have had to cancel meets twice. Once I had arranged to meet a play partner in the evening, went to the bathroom at lunchtime and found my period had unexpectedly started, so immediately sent him a message to cancel. The other one, which I feel really bad about, I had to cancel 30 minutes before - I was just about to leave the house when one of my dogs had a seizure. He was really pissed off, but what could I do?

Shit happens sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be concerned at his ability, or lack of, to follow through with plans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would an hour before be seen as a bit late??

Can't believe you even have to ask

It happened to me last night "

Be thankful he cancelled. I've arrived at a meet (an hour drive each way) and been ghosted, so although frustrating, at least he had the good grace to let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't appreciate someone waiting until the day to cancel, if they did the excuse would most likely be bullshit. Unless it's an emergency, you can be a decent person and give a few days notice

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm very upfront so I'd cancel as soon as I knew with honest reasons.. What ever they were.

There are so many different reasons for cancelling .. Life happens, things change, minds change. In an ideal world we would all behave respectfully and communicate honestly.

AND..

Its really important that people do what they need to do regardless of who they might be letting down.

If it's a cancel because of cold feet/changed mind.. And I spent a while getting ready, tidying my house and looking forward to something.. Yes it would be disappointing, I might even stomp or have a cry. But I'd rather that person did the right thing for them than feel obligated.

I'm pretty secure in myself though.. I can see how that could be very triggering and tough for some.

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By *ceKweenWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

Whatever the reason, always best to be honest

Bites you on the arse at a later date eventually

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

However late it needs to be.

If you genuinely can’t make a meet then it’s only going to be for reasons outside of your control.

If the reasons are outside of your control you have no choice on how late you’re cancelling.

- John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to cancel a meet with a couple, first meet too.

They lived 25mins away so I drove over to their home and my car broke down 15 mins into the journey.

They wanted to come and pick me up to play still but my car needed recovery.

They were cool about it and we met up another time.

As a single guy on fab I knew how bad it looked but what could I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have cancelled a meet, nor would I !

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "
Fuck that for a game of soldiers if i arranged a meet with someone i wouldnt expect someone else turning up in their place they would soon get told to fuck off

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I never have cancelled a meet, nor would I ! "
How can you possibly know that your never going to encounter an emergency are you able to see into the future?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

This is not only abhorrent but against the rules of the site. If I agree to meet John, I do not wish to meet his friend Bob instead. This is why we ask for pictures and have social meets first

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By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Things happen. If you have to cancel or reschedule then so be it if the other party gets stroppy (so long as its a genuinely unavoidable reason) then he/she/they probably arnt worth your time boils down to having an adult mindset. Not just urges to scratch

And been that situation myself with a 10 min notice just as I was about to spend 2hrs on a train to meet no names but they suddenly vanished from site very fishy so in times like that you can't help but be suspect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

Unbelievable, a rank amateur because he doesn't have a stand by cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. Fuck that for a game of soldiers if i arranged a meet with someone i wouldnt expect someone else turning up in their place they would soon get told to fuck off"

I know, it’s not a relay race like.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. Fuck that for a game of soldiers if i arranged a meet with someone i wouldnt expect someone else turning up in their place they would soon get told to fuck off

I know, it’s not a relay race like. "

I'd be likewise appauled if someone else showed up and be angrier than if it was a no show!!

At least if it's a cancellation you know the deal.

I don't go to the shop for red wine and get given white wine as its kinda similar - I choose what (and, whom I like!)

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

Completely depends on the persons reason for cancelling with just an hour to go and their attitude about it.

Would be interested to hear what their reason was……as long as it doesn’t give the persons identity away lol

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. Fuck that for a game of soldiers if i arranged a meet with someone i wouldnt expect someone else turning up in their place they would soon get told to fuck off"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

If someone did that to me I would not be a happy woman at all. You can’t just pass someone around like that, I’m shocked it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are your thoughts?

How late would you leave it to cancel a meet without being rude?? "

I wouldn’t cancel, I would postpone.

This did happen to me once when I developed a nasty cold - so I postponed for a week.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Depends on the meet, you should say as soon as you know something has come up, but especially if travelling and hotels are involved, on a coffee one it's a lot more flexible for locals

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I would say if you have to cancel for a legitimate reason arrange another time so they know you do actually want to meet them

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours.

If someone did that to me I would not be a happy woman at all. You can’t just pass someone around like that, I’m shocked it happens. "

I agree that's a new one to me , never heard or thought someone would have a standby person for them if they can't make a meet. That's mad xx

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By *edheadjMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

Well that's wrong on so many levels

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have cancelled at the absolute last second before. I simply changed my mind and wasn’t feeling it.

V x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

I call bull shit on this. No decent nan would think a woman would be happy with another random guy she's never chatted to turning up in their place.

Why is someone a rank amateur if something came up and they cancelled? At least they let her know. Not like someone I was due to meet last week who just didn't bother to turn up and hasn't ever responded to texts.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

When I was meeting, I met in my home. If a total stranger turned up on my doorstep, not only would I be calling the police, I would make sure the vile specimen of human that gave my address to said stranger would suffer.

Women don't want stunt cocks, we aren't usually into random fucks.

How dare you treat women like that. You disgust me.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

How late would I leave it to cancel? If something happened I'd let them know straight away be it a week, a day or a few hours. I'd hope they'd be understanding and rearrange but if it happened to me I'd be wary!

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Soon as possible! But if it happens I never reschedule! X

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I’d like a day but sometimes - in fact most times the reason to cancel is something that crops up last minute and is urgent enough to take priority. I had a cancellation before the weekend for today but the reason just sounded so lame I’d rather they said they got a better offer or they had changed their mind - honesty is the best policy I guess. You get a feel for someone as you chat to them and that’s why I like to get to know someone a bit before meeting.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

When a man is meeting women in swingworld then you must expect hiccups in the process on some occasions. Issues happen to disrupt lives and the meeting cannot take place or in hopefully few instances the woman may " not be feeling it" as she gets closer to the meet day/time. The solution for a man is to roll with it and accept the explanation and not be disappointed.When appropriate a new date can be arranged and all will be well.What is reasonable however is for as much notice to be given as possible and if possible being put on warning of any potential problems such as being unwell. If one has chosen a potential playmate wisely and conducted oneself properly then the consideration is mutual

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

Depends on the circumstances, but as soon as you find out you have to cancel, although reschedule would be the better word.

I had a meet cacel while she was on the way, her kids school had called as her son had been taken ill, we rescheduled for the next week.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I would cancel as soon as I knew I couldn’t make it. I would also offer to reschedule.

If they aren’t happy with that then I assume that they probably wouldn’t have been a personality that I would get on with anyway.

Most people have family, friends and pets that come first.

Shit happens!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. "

It was me, a female who called bull shit. Your veris got there by virtue of soneone else doing the leg work for you in that case

If the women were happy with the situation then fair enough. You didn't specify it was a gang bang situation. How many were 1 on 1 meets?

To imply that someone is a rank amateur because they didn't send in their standby mate is ridiculous. I feel your experience is in thd minority as I can't think of a single female friend on here who would be happy getting the understudy on a 1 to 1 meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. "

I’m embarrassed that you’re from my country mate.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

If it’s a first meet, cancelling 1-2 hrs beforehand will almost always guarantee they don’t get to reschedule. One shot, one opportunity... lol.

With FWBs it is very different- because I know it must have been an emergency.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

As early as possible.

If it was too late to stop the person travelling that is unfortunate but i'm still going to cancel.

I would never go through with a meet for the sake of etiquette.

I wouldn't cancel someone to meet someone else though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. "

I feel that this comment is your get out clause from your first comment which was in truly horrible taste and shows you to have a total lack of respect for women ...

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Before posting your comments, have any of you read my verifications. Obviously not!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

What?!!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Before posting your comments, have any of you read my verifications. Obviously not!"

First thing I did and I have a feeling if they knew the real you, they would be mortified.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I'm in Hull and was driving to York, an hour away to meet a guy. He messaged me when I was 10 mins away from York to say he couldn't make it !!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk. "

You really are missing the point. Do you work for Asda?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Before posting your comments, have any of you read my verifications. Obviously not!"

When people refused to write you a verification , did a stand it do it for them ?

That's a good idea Simpleshag..... a good idea indeed.

I'm warming to this stand in thing.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours.

What?!! "

Don't be laughing. He said ......

If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once sitting in a pub waiting for someone to turn up. Suddenly she messaged me saying 'something urgent' had cropped up and she couldn't make it. The next day on her profile she was moaning about the guy who had failed to turn up (and named him as a timewaster). That's right, she'd blown me out for a last minute 'better offer' who had also blown her out. Karma.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That gives a warm glow Mr. Kitchen.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes."

this has cheered my Monday morning up no end lol

The reason people got het up about it is because you never clarified in your original statement that it was only for group play or that the women were consulted first. This site and swinging is not just about group play. It was obvious from the original post that this was relating to a 1 on 1 meet and for you to suggest that any man worth his salt would just send someone else in to finish the job is actually pretty scary in that situation.

I don't care if people think I'm 'cancelling' you (or attempting to). When a women arranges to meet a man online and gets attacked the first question is 'what did they do to make sure this person is safe?'. It usually takes a lot of questioning, social meets first etc before someone is happy to meet someone else.

For the majority of women the insinuation that any pole is a goal (which is essentially what your post implies) is insulting to say the least, even in a gangbang situation. But hey, if you're happy getting by as a stand in then who are we to comment.

No one gives a flying fuck about your verifications so stop using them like some sort of get out of jail free card .

Also.... Use reply and quote so people know who you're replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was once sitting in a pub waiting for someone to turn up. Suddenly she messaged me saying 'something urgent' had cropped up and she couldn't make it. The next day on her profile she was moaning about the guy who had failed to turn up (and named him as a timewaster). That's right, she'd blown me out for a last minute 'better offer' who had also blown her out. Karma."

Well she got what she deserved. I guess we all at some stage have been blown off for Someone else that they think is better than sexier and more fun than you. That is fab for you.But then they get the harsh reality of someone treating them the same as they have done to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk.

You really are missing the point. Do you work for Asda?"

Are you really 66 years old?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk.

You really are missing the point. Do you work for Asda?

Are you really 66 years old? "

Yes. Why do you ask ?

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk.

I’m embarrassed that you’re from my country mate. "

I’d be embarrassed for coming from there too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone can have something that can crop up at the last minute and have to cancel. its unfortunate but that's life. If it was a reasonable and genuine reason I'd accept it and give another chance but if it happened again then that would be it for me. So the question is how much notice should one give for cancelling. I guess its down to the individuals involved. Depending on whether they know each other well enough and have an understanding with each other. I would at least give 24 hours notice as I feel without a reasonable genuine reason its rude and disrespect. Just treat people as you would like them to treat you. If it would feel shitty to have something done to you then don't do it to someone else simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few weeks ago the manager where I work comes over and says there's a lady crying sat at the outdoor barrel and it turns out she's been stood up on a date

One free drink later all the staff know what happened and yehh it's shit sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes."

You're veris tell a different story regarding one on one meets sorry!

And if you're totally into this lifestyle why would you be wasting ladies time on dating sites?

What you said wasn't controversial it was just thoughtless and erring to the downright dangerous hence all the ladies indignation ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Few weeks ago the manager where I work comes over and says there's a lady crying sat at the outdoor barrel and it turns out she's been stood up on a date

One free drink later all the staff know what happened and yehh it's shit sometimes"

Touching. x

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By *agan gentlemenMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I was once sitting in a pub waiting for someone to turn up. Suddenly she messaged me saying 'something urgent' had cropped up and she couldn't make it. The next day on her profile she was moaning about the guy who had failed to turn up (and named him as a timewaster). That's right, she'd blown me out for a last minute 'better offer' who had also blown her out. Karma."

Been thier as well months of ping ping msg off site chats. Let to an arranged meet booked a room as she was 200miles away and settled down to lunch in the restaurant got a dear John text just as I was settling the bill..

But try not to let shuch things jade me as you said.. Karma is a thing

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I never have cancelled a meet, nor would I ! "

Me either! Very rare for it to b a legit reason! But have had peeps cancel they then try to reschedule at later date! I just decline x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Few weeks ago the manager where I work comes over and says there's a lady crying sat at the outdoor barrel and it turns out she's been stood up on a date

One free drink later all the staff know what happened and yehh it's shit sometimes

Touching. x "

Yeah it was me who suggested get her a free drink ,give her a hug and tell her that she's dodged a bullet with that one to cheer her up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Few weeks ago the manager where I work comes over and says there's a lady crying sat at the outdoor barrel and it turns out she's been stood up on a date

One free drink later all the staff know what happened and yehh it's shit sometimes

Touching. x

Yeah it was me who suggested get her a free drink ,give her a hug and tell her that she's dodged a bullet with that one to cheer her up "

You lovely little human you ...... can I come and cry at your outside barrel ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Few weeks ago the manager where I work comes over and says there's a lady crying sat at the outdoor barrel and it turns out she's been stood up on a date

One free drink later all the staff know what happened and yehh it's shit sometimes

Touching. x

Yeah it was me who suggested get her a free drink ,give her a hug and tell her that she's dodged a bullet with that one to cheer her up

You lovely little human you ...... can I come and cry at your outside barrel ?"

Granny I'm the one who picks them up when they fall down the stairs , tell them they look nice and nobody saw so it didn't happen , get them a glass of water when all them drinks the guys buy them prove too much and occasionally I have to get them out the back door when the guy they are with is weird ...you can come sit at my barrel and rest assured I'll be watching ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !"

And I'll shout back im in Chester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

And I'll shout back im in Chester "

Hahahahahahahaha touché

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

And I'll shout back im in Chester "

Ah ..... I like Chester. During the day.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

And I'll shout back im in Chester

Hahahahahahahaha touché"

touche ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

And I'll shout back im in Chester

Ah ..... I like Chester. During the day."

If you ever need help with holding you up around Chester just ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well ...... one day I'll walk around B'head shouting ..... Massssssssssssssonnnnnnn !

And I'll shout back im in Chester

Hahahahahahahaha touché"

Me and Granny are slow boil ..she rarely puts these days out but if she did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never have cancelled a meet, nor would I ! How can you possibly know that your never going to encounter an emergency are you able to see into the future?"

Well as you put it like that, the only exception would be an emergency. I am suitably chastised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I was suppose to meet at 12 today, in the car driving over and they just messaged (11.35) saying can’t do it. It’s a pain as I booked some time off work for it, but it is what it is, somethings cannot be helped.

If it’s a one off then that’s life but if they keep doing it then I’d not agree to meet them again.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes.

You're veris tell a different story regarding one on one meets sorry!

And if you're totally into this lifestyle why would you be wasting ladies time on dating sites?

What you said wasn't controversial it was just thoughtless and erring to the downright dangerous hence all the ladies indignation ... "

You might be surprised how many people men and women, are both on here, and on straight dating sites, both are equally useful for meeting people where you are on the same wavelength, and sometimes that leads on to playing as a couple where she is in a safe, and protected environment.

Thank you for actually taking the time to read my profile, and verifications, and judging by the viewings my profile has had today, one or two may have been surprised by the feedback, and perhaps if they had done so beforehand, would not have been shooting from the hip.

I personally don't particularly like correspondence by email or text because, a word or phrase taken out of context can often be misinterpreted, hence the reason why I prefer early telephone conversation.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes.

You're veris tell a different story regarding one on one meets sorry!

And if you're totally into this lifestyle why would you be wasting ladies time on dating sites?

What you said wasn't controversial it was just thoughtless and erring to the downright dangerous hence all the ladies indignation ...

You might be surprised how many people men and women, are both on here, and on straight dating sites, both are equally useful for meeting people where you are on the same wavelength, and sometimes that leads on to playing as a couple where she is in a safe, and protected environment.

Thank you for actually taking the time to read my profile, and verifications, and judging by the viewings my profile has had today, one or two may have been surprised by the feedback, and perhaps if they had done so beforehand, would not have been shooting from the hip.

I personally don't particularly like correspondence by email or text because, a word or phrase taken out of context can often be misinterpreted, hence the reason why I prefer early telephone conversation. "

Don't assume just because we don't appear on the looked at me section that we didn't look. Your profile and verifications have no bearing on what you posted on here regarding being a stand in cock.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"If he had been an established well verified guy, he should have had a mate who could stand in his place. A pal of mine who is known to a lot of the old school in South Wales as he worked in swinger clubs, would occasionally ring me up and ask me if I could stand in his place, if something suddenly cropped up, and he couldn't make it. I can only assume that he was a rank amateur, and not worth bothering with. His loss, not yours. "

This is none-sense. I am very well verified but wouldn’t dream of “sharing the love around”.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Oh, I’ve had to cancel a meet this Friday with a couple. I’ve given them six days notice and offered them an alternative day. When you get a cancellation but no alternative day, that smells of BS to me.

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By *siancouplehantsCouple
over a year ago

K-PAX


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes.

You're veris tell a different story regarding one on one meets sorry!

And if you're totally into this lifestyle why would you be wasting ladies time on dating sites?

What you said wasn't controversial it was just thoughtless and erring to the downright dangerous hence all the ladies indignation ...

You might be surprised how many people men and women, are both on here, and on straight dating sites, both are equally useful for meeting people where you are on the same wavelength, and sometimes that leads on to playing as a couple where she is in a safe, and protected environment.

Thank you for actually taking the time to read my profile, and verifications, and judging by the viewings my profile has had today, one or two may have been surprised by the feedback, and perhaps if they had done so beforehand, would not have been shooting from the hip.

I personally don't particularly like correspondence by email or text because, a word or phrase taken out of context can often be misinterpreted, hence the reason why I prefer early telephone conversation. "

I only clicked on your profile so I could block you,I did not read a word

N

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd be unhappy too, having to cancel but not as unhappy as being stood up. So it's important to let them know ASAP and if you are happy to rearrange, which may soften the blow. Nobody wants to do it but it might happen sometime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of them were ever one on one meets, and it is a swinging site that we are on for those of us who appreciate alternative lifestyles. One on one meets are something that I do on straight dating sites, and then with only like minded women who are not narrow minded or judgemental.

Thank you all for the private messages of support on this matter of cancellation as you all have obviously had similar experiences. It's obvious that I've said something controversial but once again I will say that this site is no place for time wasters, daydreamers and wannabes.

You're veris tell a different story regarding one on one meets sorry!

And if you're totally into this lifestyle why would you be wasting ladies time on dating sites?

What you said wasn't controversial it was just thoughtless and erring to the downright dangerous hence all the ladies indignation ...

You might be surprised how many people men and women, are both on here, and on straight dating sites, both are equally useful for meeting people where you are on the same wavelength, and sometimes that leads on to playing as a couple where she is in a safe, and protected environment.

Thank you for actually taking the time to read my profile, and verifications, and judging by the viewings my profile has had today, one or two may have been surprised by the feedback, and perhaps if they had done so beforehand, would not have been shooting from the hip.

I personally don't particularly like correspondence by email or text because, a word or phrase taken out of context can often be misinterpreted, hence the reason why I prefer early telephone conversation.

I only clicked on your profile so I could block you,I did not read a word

N"

If nobody else is gonna say it I will ...that's a cold assed bitch right theyahhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens.

Give notice as soon as possible. if it's last min apologies and say you'd like to re-arrange whenever it's possible for both parties.

Some people my class you as a timewaste but shit can happen and get in the way of meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've just got to do it asap. They'll probably think you're BS-ing whatever you say, so just have to let them know early and hope they're cool with rescheduling. "

This.

I had to cancel one before it was even finalised, as it became clear it wasn’t going to be practical.

But sometimes that amount of advance notice just doesn’t exist…. If you had a family emergency an hour before a meet for example, you’d have to cancel and say at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never known so many people such as fabbers to have a sudden family emergency

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I've never known so many people such as fabbers to have a sudden family emergency "
Really? Thats not my experience. In 15 years ive not had one cancellation or no show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never known so many people such as fabbers to have a sudden family emergency Really? Thats not my experience. In 15 years ive not had one cancellation or no show"

Oh, I'm basing it on observation rather than experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other people have always been told that I, or indeed any other guys were coming in his place, and so not let down. They have invariably known that I was coming, including speaking to me on the phone, and it's then their call, if they want to carry on, and meet up. If anyone of you has arranged a gang bang, and experienced the let downs, and no shows by time wasters, daydreamers or wannabes, you would appreciate the opportunity to have someone to stand in. As for the guy thinks that I am full of bullshit, read the verifications, which I could plaster the profile with. They didn't get there by themselves, they got there by being able to walk the walk, and not just talk the talk.

You really are missing the point. Do you work for Asda?

Are you really 66 years old?

Yes. Why do you ask ?"

Just surprises me sometimes that you’re 9 years older than my mother yet behave the way you do.

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