FabSwingers.com forum: Handing my number to a woman in public

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Inspired by a recent thread from a beautiful lady over there —

Wound you accept a number from a guy at a bus stop?

If so, please tell me which bus stop, and the time, and I will see you there , note in hand.

Literally form a queue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

#threadisdead

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

No i would not contact him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s unlikely I would contact him, purely because it’s a complete stranger and I’d be scared to.

I know that’s a bit ridiculous, because you have to start somewhere, but dodgy experiences have put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No i would not contact him. "

I hope you’d be polite about it

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

This is sort of thing which could get blokes put in the 'desperate' or even 'creepy' bracket!

Luckily, I suspect the OP is joking.

Fair enough is there has been an obvious spark between them.

In this instance it doesn't help if we don't know the content of the post to which OP refers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect had this been posted any other day you'd have had quite a few replies explaining how such behaviour is wrong, intimidating, borderline sexual assault etc

For what it's worth, I don't think it's a great idea for a man or a woman to behave in an un-solicited way. If there's been a few caught glances, an awareness that the other person has an interest then fair enough - though I know that there are plenty of people who would convince themselves of this without the slightest bit of evidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd laugh in honesty - maybe embarrassment or mortification!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if a guy I found attractive gave me his number I’d take it but there’s conditions… Location, gym, supermarket any public place, eye contact exchanged, some form of compliment, maybe a line like hi I don’t mean to be forward but I think you’re beautiful, would love to grab a coffee with you one day, here’s my number…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an activity mostly women could get away with I think.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Personally if a guy I found attractive gave me his number I’d take it but there’s conditions… Location, gym, supermarket any public place, eye contact exchanged, some form of compliment, maybe a line like hi I don’t mean to be forward but I think you’re beautiful, would love to grab a coffee with you one day, here’s my number… "

I'm kinda of the same opinion x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Maybe.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"It's an activity mostly women could get away with I think. "

Doesn't mean the other person wouldn't throw the number away though.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I'd give them a txt why not? X

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I wouldn't call him because there's no way I'd believe it wasn't part of some massive joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Not as a conversation opener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if you didn't think he was attractive but a pervy creep?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Yeah...If I was attracted to them and the number was handed over in a respectful way..I may give them a call.

You can get to know them a little over the phone and see where it goes.

You have to start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kinda of the same opinion x"

In my view, the only circumstances under which it would be at all acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This reminds me.. a group social.. talking to a couple of male friends, a third man barges in, cuts our chat through, proceeds to stand too close, throws some half hearted compliment, get his phone out and asks if he can send a friend request..

Yeah sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if you didn't think he was attractive but a pervy creep?

Mr"

I think people know on some level whether there’s a mutual attraction even if it’s a first glance attraction. Mutual looking at each other, maybe exchanging some kind of pleasantries or small talk and then from there could slide in the number exchange.

If it was a pervy creep I didn’t find attractive I wouldn’t even acknowledge him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually have done this once to a girl on the train to work... we got talking as it was incredibly packed, this was pre covid. She was impressed with the bold statement of me taking her newspaper and writing my number on it as I was getting off the tube. I don’t think there was a physical attraction initially on her part... but she loved my character. And we actually did meet up. It was pretty exciting to be honest as we literally had so much to talk about... because we knew nothing about each other. I don’t normally do that kind of thing but I was going through a phase of trying new things and not giving a damn about what other people think. And it actually worked.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

If we've been chatting, I've taken a guy's number before. It's worked out really well a couple of times for me.

If it was just a random, completely put of the blue, here's a bit of paper with a phone number on it then I'd take it the same way I take religious pamphlets that are handed to me, but I wouldn't use it any more than I do the pamphlets.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I would take it and say thank you but wouldn’t phone it

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would not take a random mans number at a bus without any prior communication. If he can not be bothered to talk to me then why should I phone to talk to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a really crappy experience with this before and it definitely put me off strangers speaking to me in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh if attraction was mutual then yes, I'd except it gracefully, and maybe even text a hi and thank you back ... who knows what adventures and who with lie ahead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some bloke actually gave me his number, at the bus stop, yesterday

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When I was younger like in my late teens and early twenties this kind of thing happened a lot. I don't think it's any different to swiping right or whatever happens now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was younger like in my late teens and early twenties this kind of thing happened a lot. I don't think it's any different to swiping right or whatever happens now. "

Totally agree with both! Happened a lot when (a lot) younger! Everywhere to be honest ...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"No i would not contact him.

I hope you’d be polite about it

I would do nothing very politely.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"When I was younger like in my late teens and early twenties this kind of thing happened a lot. I don't think it's any different to swiping right or whatever happens now.

Totally agree with both! Happened a lot when (a lot) younger! Everywhere to be honest ... "

Yep and our response as women always depended on whether we found the guy attractive or not. Attractive guy = rush home and immediately comandeer the nearest phone to tell all your friends about this gorgeous man who just handed you his number.

Guy you didn't find attractive = immediately rush home to complain to your friends about the creepy guy who insisted on giving you his number.

Nothing whatsoever has changed its just all moved on line

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

If it was someone with whom I'd had zero engagement with, ie not even eye contact, then I'd bin it. But it it was someone when it was clear there was a mutual interest of some kind, then I may well respon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was younger like in my late teens and early twenties this kind of thing happened a lot. I don't think it's any different to swiping right or whatever happens now.

Totally agree with both! Happened a lot when (a lot) younger! Everywhere to be honest ...

Guy you didn't find attractive = immediately rush home to complain to your friends about the creepy guy who insisted on giving you his number.

Nothing whatsoever has changed its just all moved on line

Oh yes! Hahahahahahahaha totally

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I would take it

Then shred it for their own safety. I could do anything with their number, the dafty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had hoped that the tongue in cheek nature of my thread might have caused much hilarity. It seems that so very much is taken so very literally these days.

Insightful into today’s attitudes and beliefs however, thanks to all for contributing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people did get your humour... but it did spark of a topic of conversation.

I know I got it... but it bought back a memory that I fancied sharing.

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