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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

First orgasm you had was it during sex or did you on your own discoving your body ?? I do think its good to play with yourself as you discover which pressures and rhythmas and toys turn on .. Theres books one called Becoming Orgasmic .I know Lots fake them pretend and plenty reasons why some dont cum bored too tired uncomfortable running out of time .... Most woman cant cum every single time thay have sex .. Oral really helps me cum as a woman . You happy if you dont cum everytime ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be happy with it, since it's really difficult for anyone else to make me come.

DIY by myself is just fine. DIY in front of someone else usually fine. Someone else trying to do it usually results in me eventually faking to get them to stop without risking hurting feelings.

I think I need a couple of patient, competent partners with rock solid belief in themselves to experiment with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was shown how to have my first orgasm when I stopped over with a school friend.....!

I rarely cum during sex, and I don't on a swingers meet - I don't need it, much prefer staying on a prolonged high for several days.... When I do cum, it's a private thing for me, and a special release!

But I get sooo hacked off by people why make a big thing of it and tell me that they need to make me cum. It's my body, I know what I want, and it isn't that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally mention, before I meet someone, that no one has ever made me cum and then I reassure them that I'm happy to do it for myself but, if they helped, they could certainly make it more powerful.

I try to avoid raising expectations and hurting feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to see a woman orgasim and the male ego normally wants to say I did that! But what's wrong with watching and letting a woman do it and join in her pleasure?

Jo as for me it was 9 years old rubbing against my pillow just made me feel nice!

Love 2 pillows ever since x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to be happy with it, since it's really difficult for anyone else to make me come.

DIY by myself is just fine. DIY in front of someone else usually fine. Someone else trying to do it usually results in me eventually faking to get them to stop without risking hurting feelings.

I think I need a couple of patient, competent partners with rock solid belief in themselves to experiment with. "
DIY in front of a horny man can be a real turn on ... I do find that myself and can make me cum too .. just knowing thay are looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to be happy with it, since it's really difficult for anyone else to make me come.

DIY by myself is just fine. DIY in front of someone else usually fine. Someone else trying to do it usually results in me eventually faking to get them to stop without risking hurting feelings.

I think I need a couple of patient, competent partners with rock solid belief in themselves to experiment with. "

I am very similar, I have yet to find anyone that can make me cum, except my OH, I think because it is connected emotionally for me and no one else has the mental connection with me but him.

With toys I can, but only clitoral stimulation makes me cum.

I can't cum during penetrative sex, wish I could!

For a number of years, early sexual days, I faked it to not hurt my then partners feelings.

I don't mind if I don't cum during a session, as can finish off after, if I want to, with my OH or start on me first.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It would be rather hared for mt fake an orgasm, especially if its with someone i know. However, and its a very rare case, i could have a good session and not cum. I rarely masterbate, im one of the few people that dont think about sex 7/24 on here. But it certainly doesnt mean im not sexual when im with someone. It just doesnt intterest me when im on my own. I know what i like and that usually means me and another person(s)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual mastebation either of or in front oif eash other is sucha turn on demands control, self control and is so erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also need clitoral stimulation. I love the feeling of penetration but they could pound me to exhaustion and I still wouldn't orgasm.

I've even tried a prolonged session with a fucking machine as an experiment. Fabulous but not going to make me come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My FB and I have hard pounding sex (sometimes with someone else) but most times also stimulating her clit at the same time. She likes to do it herself but sometimes trusts me to do it!

Is that. Climax by penetration or clit stimulation?

I am not sure but great fun!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was young and and an orgasm meant 'no mess' I loved it. First time something came out of the end I thought "fuck me I've broken it!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some times not climaxing can feel a bit frustrated as its a lovely feeling when i do. But great sex dont have to rely only on that ... Even if i dont cum i still can have a really horny time even satisfying its weird but at times i can gush and cum loads but that not everytime.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I was young and and an orgasm meant 'no mess' I loved it. First time something came out of the end I thought "fuck me I've broken it!""
ooo really .. xxx Must feel weird for you men seeing and feeling that first time coming out of the end . xxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When I was young and and an orgasm meant 'no mess' I loved it. First time something came out of the end I thought "fuck me I've broken it!""

I remember when my son was about three come running in the room shouting ive brokemn it, hysterically. He must of had a little erection and then it had gone down. Still makes me laugh to this day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could climax but struggled, and when i met Pork over time he taught how relax and enjoy. Now i can't be stopped and have men wanting more lol..... As for faking i am not sure if i have ever done that or even if i could, by far to noisy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some orgasms only last seconds .. I have had some last Minutes but i think thats me holding it off and it helps .. But again i cant all the time do that .Is that same for men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that watching a woman come is the best part about sex. I used to think it was all about the physical act and nothing else so I was all into pounding away like mindless idiot. How bloody wrong was I ?

The mind can do so much more than I ever imagined.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In swinging you can find some who are very selfish and its all about there needs and just looking to fuck no oral no fourplay and thay think thats good sex. I hate them ones. And after i think should i have said somthing to improve it and feedback come in saying how good sex was .... I now just dont put them on ..here as dont all my feedback as like to keep some to myself good and not so good .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree that watching a woman come is the best part about sex. I used to think it was all about the physical act and nothing else so I was all into pounding away like mindless idiot. How bloody wrong was I ?

The mind can do so much more than I ever imagined. "
Long as the rest is there like good oral and fourplay ... I like it hard and soft and a pounding at times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first orgasm i had was when i played with myself when i was a teenager.

I have only met a few men who made me cum, either with their finger or their tongue.

My hubby used to make me cum by rubbing my clit, and once when he was fucking me and i played with my clit at the same time.

Then i started using rabbit vibrators and he used to get realy turned on watching me.

He filmed me using my toy, and likes to watch it sometimes.

I was going to put the film on another site i was on, only it wouldnt go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it doesnt bother me if i dont cum when having sex.

i just use my toy either at the time or some other time.

Someone said, its good for you to have orgasms as it strengthens the pelvic floor muscles which can stop you from having bladder problems when you are older.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, it doesnt bother me if i dont cum when having sex.

i just use my toy either at the time or some other time.

Someone said, its good for you to have orgasms as it strengthens the pelvic floor muscles which can stop you from having bladder problems when you are older."
yes i bet it do help xxx I like the feeling thay give me ... I am on a sex high days after good sex ,, feel i could take the world on. x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I agree that watching a woman come is the best part about sex. I used to think it was all about the physical act and nothing else so I was all into pounding away like mindless idiot. How bloody wrong was I ?

The mind can do so much more than I ever imagined. "

well said m8..

so very true..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MMM definately. I think if you connect properly then you can judge what mood the other person is in. Swinging doesn't me non emotional sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time i cum i was 14 and i had been playing with myself for a few days - not continuosly lol - but every time i got close i doubled up in what i thought was pain. When i eventually did cum i was shocked. Thought there would be more than just thin milky water dripping out if the end. I shouldnt of 'borrowed' my stepdads porn vidoes, as i used them as a comparison lol.

I have to say on the subject of making a woman cum. In my late teens and early 20's i considered myself a failure if a woman touched herself while i was meant to be pleasuring her. Then as time went on and i matured i realised how satisfying it is too watch a woman masterbate. And i think (i may be wrong) that there has to be a strong connection for a woman to play in front of a man.

In conclusion, as long as both parties are satified then anything is fine.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I was very young when I discovered the joys of orgasms...but the real joy of multiple orgasms came much later. Experiencing that at the hands (or other parts) of a confident man is something totally awesome and beyond words.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I was very very young when I had my 1st orgasm

used to fake as a late teen/early twenties, usually to get sex over and done with as I could only please myself. As I've got older, I've had some great sexual partners, male and female and I've learnt to relax and enjoy sex now. I thoroughly enjoy masturbating in front of a guy and have him cum all over my clit as I climax. They are body shuddering orgasms, the best I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was very very young when I had my 1st orgasm

used to fake as a late teen/early twenties, usually to get sex over and done with as I could only please myself. As I've got older, I've had some great sexual partners, male and female and I've learnt to relax and enjoy sex now. I thoroughly enjoy masturbating in front of a guy and have him cum all over my clit as I climax. They are body shuddering orgasms, the best I have "

Which is exactly what i was saying. We all think that in our teens and early 20's that we are fantastic lovers. It isnt untill we mature that we realise that it is the combination of experience, experiments and the connection that brings satisfaction.

Or am i wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I'm not the only woman that doesn't orgasm with someone else. Ony on my own. I don't think about sex 24/7 either. I can go weeks not wanting it. Doesn't bother me at all.

I don't bother faking it. If I enjoy it it's great, if I get bored I try to make them cum cos after that they aren't bothered about me anymore.

I do sometimes have whole body orgasms that make me shake but only with one person. Totally different but brilliant.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I was very very young when I had my 1st orgasm

used to fake as a late teen/early twenties, usually to get sex over and done with as I could only please myself. As I've got older, I've had some great sexual partners, male and female and I've learnt to relax and enjoy sex now. I thoroughly enjoy masturbating in front of a guy and have him cum all over my clit as I climax. They are body shuddering orgasms, the best I have

Which is exactly what i was saying. We all think that in our teens and early 20's that we are fantastic lovers. It isnt untill we mature that we realise that it is the combination of experience, experiments and the connection that brings satisfaction.

Or am i wrong"
I dont think you are wrong per se - I just think we enjoy sex in different ways at that age. It is usually fast and furious at that age whereas as you get older you learn to take more time, allow your partner and yourself to reach a higher climax than before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was very very young when I had my 1st orgasm

used to fake as a late teen/early twenties, usually to get sex over and done with as I could only please myself. As I've got older, I've had some great sexual partners, male and female and I've learnt to relax and enjoy sex now. I thoroughly enjoy masturbating in front of a guy and have him cum all over my clit as I climax. They are body shuddering orgasms, the best I have

Which is exactly what i was saying. We all think that in our teens and early 20's that we are fantastic lovers. It isnt untill we mature that we realise that it is the combination of experience, experiments and the connection that brings satisfaction.

Or am i wrongI dont think you are wrong per se - I just think we enjoy sex in different ways at that age. It is usually fast and furious at that age whereas as you get older you learn to take more time, allow your partner and yourself to reach a higher climax than before. "

Exactly. When i was young i was just thankful i was getting any lol. Time is good too. The longer you know people and the more you are with them, the more relaxed you become and are more willing to open up

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

No your not wrong xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isnt there different levels of 'cumming' and orgasming???- for myself, sometimes I cum for the sake of it(thats not to say I'm not enjoying the sex/masturbation), but its sometimes just 'cum'...and really doesnt affect me in the feel of an orgasmish feel.On a proper one, I'd have the jelly legs feel etc..other times its just a case of its shot out my cock now...cheers.

Sometimes I dont cum, and hope it doesnt mean the other person thinks they werent good enough..but as I'm more wanting to be a pleaser it doesnt bother me if I havent came myself.I suppose there is varying factors to each invidual situation.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Isnt there different levels of 'cumming' and orgasming???- for myself, sometimes I cum for the sake of it(thats not to say I'm not enjoying the sex/masturbation), but its sometimes just 'cum'...and really doesnt affect me in the feel of an orgasmish feel.On a proper one, I'd have the jelly legs feel etc..other times its just a case of its shot out my cock now...cheers.

Sometimes I dont cum, and hope it doesnt mean the other person thinks they werent good enough..but as I'm more wanting to be a pleaser it doesnt bother me if I havent came myself.I suppose there is varying factors to each invidual situation."

I think you are right ... there are different levels and experience of orgams can vary not only from one person to another but within that one person. There is the simple climax at one end of the spectrum versus the multiple wave of orgasms that can be experienced vaginally, anally and clitorally (from, woman's perspective only, of course) and that can leave you exhausted and elated to the point of fainting - almost an outer body experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt there different levels of 'cumming' and orgasming???- for myself, sometimes I cum for the sake of it(thats not to say I'm not enjoying the sex/masturbation), but its sometimes just 'cum'...and really doesnt affect me in the feel of an orgasmish feel.On a proper one, I'd have the jelly legs feel etc..other times its just a case of its shot out my cock now...cheers.

Sometimes I dont cum, and hope it doesnt mean the other person thinks they werent good enough..but as I'm more wanting to be a pleaser it doesnt bother me if I havent came myself.I suppose there is varying factors to each invidual situation.

I think you are right ... there are different levels and experience of orgams can vary not only from one person to another but within that one person. There is the simple climax at one end of the spectrum versus the multiple wave of orgasms that can be experienced vaginally, anally and clitorally (from, woman's perspective only, of course) and that can leave you exhausted and elated to the point of fainting - almost an outer body experience. "

I've just fiddled with my pie and ur right too...

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