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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's true, people think we have as much choice as we want... Not always true we sometimes want those that don't want us, just because our inbox is full doesn't mean it's easy pickings

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

What a perfect description.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

I know!! We’re really hard to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

Well said. Interesting OP!!!!

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

I guess it's just a perception not the truth, like guy's will shag anyone. But It's not always the case.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s true in a way we do but most need to be attracted to the person they want to sleep with.

I see that line (personally) as a matter of lie back, imagine you are somewhere else and hope it is over soon - not a pleasant thought at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to get my violin ?? out. lol.

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

This! A million times over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is rather dispiriting.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

In a sense it is true. Woman do have the pick of the crop. Not necessarily the best outright but the best of what is available. There is a difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I need to get my violin ?? out. lol. "

Not on our account, I did say it wasn't a moan

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In a sense it is true. Woman do have the pick of the crop. Not necessarily the best outright but the best of what is available. There is a difference.

"

Yeah, there's a brilliant description for that above

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'd say it's easier for a guy who does things right to find a compatible woman here than the other way around.

My experience and observation of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x"

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about what I have found. It's just the assumptions grate me. I've probably spent too long in the sun

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x"

So says Nora the Ignorer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about what I have found. It's just the assumptions grate me. I've probably spent too long in the sun "

You may not be complaining but there is a deep rooted ugliness and bile directed at men all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

"

Except it wasn't at all, it was just a question

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Having the pick of the crop just means you have lots of options to choose from, which women do on here

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I suppose it differs greatly in what a women wants from a man on here, just a nsa wonderful weekend away is quite easy to find, where as a 1 to 1 bdsm relationship tailored to them would be slim pickings indeed

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x

So says Nora the Ignorer "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

Except it wasn't at all, it was just a question "

But you generalise and put down people you have never ever interacted with.

How the hell can anyone be worth getting to know with minds that are so closed.

One of them on here knocking men fabbed my pics?

Why bother if you think the way you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could all have a shag aday if we was only interested in the willys. But we're not. By the time we break it down to who we're attracted to then check if they're attracted to us. I personally am back to 0

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

There will be some that participate in the race and some that choose not to. You can have the pick of those that chose to participate but they may not be the ones that you want. That's just the nature of the game.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Because its easier to “accept” defeat/rejection by blaming someone/thing else rather than looking close to home.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

Except it wasn't at all, it was just a question "

No it wasn’t at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess when people use that ‘pick of the crop’ expression they refer to numbers. The crop is what it is and certainly more bountiful for women. That it doesn’t meet their quality standards is a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having seen the crop it's often very slim pickings indeed.

Then you have to pick one who likes you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before and will again

The better women on this forum and site never belittle or put down men. They know it lessens the chance if meeting a good one.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women "

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive "

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

So, starvation it is then!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?"

No because she can’t see why “pick of the crop” applies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?"

Apparently not, I'm just bashing men for the sake of it. I'll keep my thoughts to myself in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100% agree. I can barely find one that floats my boat on here. I just ignore those threads. They annoy me x

Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining about what I have found. It's just the assumptions grate me. I've probably spent too long in the sun

You may not be complaining but there is a deep rooted ugliness and bile directed at men all the time.

"

I'll probably get a ban for this but we've never interacted yet you've blocked me.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?"

Sorry I’ve mistaken tinder girl as op. I guess we are saying the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I guess when people use that ‘pick of the crop’ expression they refer to numbers. The crop is what it is and certainly more bountiful for women. That it doesn’t meet their quality standards is a different matter."

I shall add that Fab, for men as well as for women, is most probably representative of the general population as a whole, if not in numbers from a gender point of view, at least in body types, personalities and many other characteristics.

So I doubt that the men on fab are worse than what would you would find anywhere else.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?

Sorry I’ve mistaken tinder girl as op. I guess we are saying the same thing "

Oh! That’s why I was confused! Doesn’t take much to be fair

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?

Apparently not, I'm just bashing men for the sake of it. I'll keep my thoughts to myself in future "

Hey don’t turn this “bashing men” comment on me. I’m just explaining the numbers and the meaning behind “pick of the crop” and why it applies

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

There are some very hard truths I feel like saying but will keep to myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not knocking men at all, I'm giving a flip side perspective...the ones that we want don't always want us, the same position as many a man is in too with women

90% of guys on here have zero options. Zero messages zero replies zero meets

90% of woman on here get 100s of message a day but only 1 in 1000 is worth replying too

They’re kinda similar situations but if you don’t see the difference and why “pick of the crop” fits…. I think you’ll a little naive

Isn’t she saying the same thing you are though?

Apparently not, I'm just bashing men for the sake of it. I'll keep my thoughts to myself in future

Hey don’t turn this “bashing men” comment on me. I’m just explaining the numbers and the meaning behind “pick of the crop” and why it applies "

To be fair, I was replying to Nora, not you.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to "

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By *onochrome2Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

Hahaha that had me rolling, but describes the situation perfectly.

Dee

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to "

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Usually these do either start or turn in to men bashing (by women too) but this certainly was twisted to be it when it's clearly not. It's about a phrase that is used. This time it's just somebody looking to be butt hurt and looking to be the victim.

As for the phrase its about odds. Larger pool of men statistically means that yes women have a better chance of picking a good match.

Men on the other hand have a smaller pool to not only pick from, but are competing with a larger pool too.

Nothing but the odds being in the favour of women. Which everyone knows anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bit of a grump saying isn't it, to deflect dissapointments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice. "

That! ^

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

Ouch! Harsh but funny

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's just a bit of a grump saying isn't it, to deflect dissapointments. "

It’s exactly that.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

This is very true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn’t necessarily gender bashing.

In general, see the numbers any worse here than offline?

How many men do you come across on a standard daily basis. 99% go unnoticed. Here, it’s 95%. We’re up on that score already.

Of the ones you may choose to engage with offline, how many strike you as being close to someone who would excite you in any way? Perhaps none at all for many moons.

You understand the pattern. Just apply it to the real world and you can see it really is no different.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice. "

I think some people maybe have different senses of humour though. To me Annie’s comment was funny and probably would be to most men too. There’s always men who are going to take every comment a woman makes about a man as “man bashing”.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

That! ^"

Totally unrelated, but love your username

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I rather think that a few guys take exception to the fact we can actually say "thanks, but no thanks" - so they complain publicly (some of them).

I think there a re loads of genuinely nice guys with whom I would have a drink, a chat perhaps eventually a bit more.

What puts me off a bit is the pressure of getting into playtime within one meet - possibly a second meet if you count the social. I like to get to know people first.

Furthermore, I do not necessarily fancy the guys after a meet or two but like them as a person.

Does this mean to comply with unwritten singing rules I either cannot interact with them, have a drink etc unless I have sex with them? I dont think that is the case but it sometimes feels like a lot of pressure when really we cannot help whom we fancy and whom we do not.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

In a way I think we do...I've never been turned down on here when I've asked someone if they want to meet. I very rarely respond to incoming messages, I've always searched for people that I like the look of and approached them myself. Yes, there are many, many more men that I don't feel I'd be compatible with than those that I've approached, and I daresay some of those would turn me down... I'm no supermodel, but a 100% success rate from people I've asked to meet kind of does suggest to me that we really can have our pick if we go about things in the right way.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious. "

Well, statistically speaking it's true.

If you say that people are attracted to on average 1 in every 100 people they come across, then women are much more likely to find those men as there are many more men here.

For example if we say there are 10000 men and 1000 women here, that would mean women could find 1000 men they are attracted to and men 10.

This is obviously just numbers, and there is more to it, in genstat men might find more women attractive than women so men, the number of messages might make it harder to find those men, etc. Also getting a merry with those guys might be harder as there will be more women vying over them.

Bit in general, I think finding someone you like on here 'should' be easier for women.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
over a year ago

Durham


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "
i had to smile on reading your post as it’s so true. Including myself with too.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious.

Well, statistically speaking it's true.

If you say that people are attracted to on average 1 in every 100 people they come across, then women are much more likely to find those men as there are many more men here.

For example if we say there are 10000 men and 1000 women here, that would mean women could find 1000 men they are attracted to and men 10.

This is obviously just numbers, and there is more to it, in genstat men might find more women attractive than women so men, the number of messages might make it harder to find those men, etc. Also getting a merry with those guys might be harder as there will be more women vying over them.

Bit in general, I think finding someone you like on here 'should' be easier for women."

It doesn't bother me though. I'm happy here as it is.

It's just a bit of fun and if you worry or pine about what others have that you don't, you will just be miserable.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Most of you clearly have issues but love nothing but venting that on men.

Men like me you know fuck all about or ever will because soon as I see you become unattractive and dead to me.

And that's because I can walk away and not bow down and simp.

One of you had on her profile that she will attack men violently while he sleeps.

What kind of mind do you have to even think this?

"

Probably listened to Psycho Killer by Talking Heads before she got into bed

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O52jAYa4Pm8

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

That! ^"

To be fair the so called "man bashing" in this one is tame. We are talking pre watershed stuff. Could even class it as afternoon kids TV time slot it was that tame.

And most of it is true. Go take a look around at the majority of male profiles on here, the quality bar for decent guys is set so low that we don't have to do much to appear as if we are decent.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

It's because for once in their lives, men aren't in charge and they don't like it, so they kick off like spoilt babies.

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over a year ago

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious.

Well, statistically speaking it's true.

If you say that people are attracted to on average 1 in every 100 people they come across, then women are much more likely to find those men as there are many more men here.

For example if we say there are 10000 men and 1000 women here, that would mean women could find 1000 men they are attracted to and men 10.

This is obviously just numbers, and there is more to it, in genstat men might find more women attractive than women so men, the number of messages might make it harder to find those men, etc. Also getting a merry with those guys might be harder as there will be more women vying over them.

Bit in general, I think finding someone you like on here 'should' be easier for women.

It doesn't bother me though. I'm happy here as it is.

It's just a bit of fun and if you worry or pine about what others have that you don't, you will just be miserable. "

That’s exactly how I see it and also why I tend to go for the men who think similarly to you and don’t bloody moan all the time! And yes, whether it’s man bashing or not, people like you are in short supply.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

I think some people maybe have different senses of humour though. To me Annie’s comment was funny and probably would be to most men too. There’s always men who are going to take every comment a woman makes about a man as “man bashing”. "

Oh, I thought it was funny, but it’s a bit harsh.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Was sparkle hidden before? Now she’s disappeared. A simple fucking question that as usual has to be totally twisted.

Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

That! ^

To be fair the so called "man bashing" in this one is tame. We are talking pre watershed stuff. Could even class it as afternoon kids TV time slot it was that tame.

And most of it is true. Go take a look around at the majority of male profiles on here, the quality bar for decent guys is set so low that we don't have to do much to appear as if we are decent. "

Exactly this.. when 90% of messages consist of 'Hi' or 'Let me destroy that ass' it's hard to find decent conversations. There are some absolutely lovely guys on here but they are one to a dozen so that's why pick of the bunch isn't exactly the case. If the roles were reversed and men were outnumbered by women, it would be interesting to see how quickly attitudes would change

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"That’s exactly how I see it and also why I tend to go for the men who think similarly to you and don’t bloody moan all the time! And yes, whether it’s man bashing or not, people like you are in short supply. "

Frequently the same men...

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

can us men and women not co exist as friends ?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"can us men and women not co exist as friends ? "

We can! Just a few undesirables on both sides cause problems for us coexisting folk.

Some love to stir shit. Some love to get butt hurt. Some can't seem to accept that it's possible to get along while also disagreeing. Or disagree while also staying civil.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"can us men and women not co exist as friends ? "

Most of my friends are women.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"can us men and women not co exist as friends ? "

Absolutely. I have lots of male friends, both ones K have a sexual history with and not. They all share qualities of being decent, down to earth and not entitled.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"can us men and women not co exist as friends ?

Absolutely. I have lots of male friends, both ones K have a sexual history with and not. They all share qualities of being decent, down to earth and not entitled."

This ^^^

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"Was sparkle hidden before? Now she’s disappeared. A simple fucking question that as usual has to be totally twisted.

Well done "

Standard. But if people can't accept that others have differing opinions then perhaps an open forum isn't the best place to spend time. There are stereotypes and generalisations about numerous subsets that get bandied about on here, and they're usually founded, rightly or wrongly, on observed behaviour...there's no smoke without fire as the saying goes. If people are secure in the knowledge that they don't behave in that manner then it shouldn't bother them...you can't control others perception of your behaviour.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"can us men and women not co exist as friends ?

Absolutely. I have lots of male friends, both ones K have a sexual history with and not. They all share qualities of being decent, down to earth and not entitled."

Same. I tend to look at peoples shoulders first when I meet them, male or female, just to check for chips.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Not read the whole thread, so apologies if it's been covered.

I agree it may seem we get the pick of the crop, but what if that giant, juicy peach holds steadfast to the branch & won't let me eat it? Most frustrating

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Usually these do either start or turn in to men bashing (by women too) but this certainly was twisted to be it when it's clearly not. It's about a phrase that is used. This time it's just somebody looking to be butt hurt and looking to be the victim.

As for the phrase its about odds. Larger pool of men statistically means that yes women have a better chance of picking a good match.

Men on the other hand have a smaller pool to not only pick from, but are competing with a larger pool too.

Nothing but the odds being in the favour of women. Which everyone knows anyway.

"

Works the other way too, there's men on here I would love to message but I don't as I know they have their 'pick' so to speak and probably a lot better option that me, so I would go unnoticed too like a lot of men feel when messaging women

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Was sparkle hidden before? Now she’s disappeared. A simple fucking question that as usual has to be totally twisted.

Well done

Standard. But if people can't accept that others have differing opinions then perhaps an open forum isn't the best place to spend time. There are stereotypes and generalisations about numerous subsets that get bandied about on here, and they're usually founded, rightly or wrongly, on observed behaviour...there's no smoke without fire as the saying goes. If people are secure in the knowledge that they don't behave in that manner then it shouldn't bother them...you can't control others perception of your behaviour. "

To be fair I think it's less about different opinions and more about the way things just seem to nose dive because somebody feels just a little bit offended and has to shout about it. It's no longer about a discussion and closer to two chimp tribes in a territory dispute - go check that shit out, nature is brutal.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Was sparkle hidden before? Now she’s disappeared. A simple fucking question that as usual has to be totally twisted.

Well done

Standard. But if people can't accept that others have differing opinions then perhaps an open forum isn't the best place to spend time. There are stereotypes and generalisations about numerous subsets that get bandied about on here, and they're usually founded, rightly or wrongly, on observed behaviour...there's no smoke without fire as the saying goes. If people are secure in the knowledge that they don't behave in that manner then it shouldn't bother them...you can't control others perception of your behaviour.

To be fair I think it's less about different opinions and more about the way things just seem to nose dive because somebody feels just a little bit offended and has to shout about it. It's no longer about a discussion and closer to two chimp tribes in a territory dispute - go check that shit out, nature is brutal. "

This

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Well that escalated quickly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn’t necessarily gender bashing.

In general, see the numbers any worse here than offline?

How many men do you come across on a standard daily basis. 99% go unnoticed. Here, it’s 95%. We’re up on that score already.

Of the ones you may choose to engage with offline, how many strike you as being close to someone who would excite you in any way? Perhaps none at all for many moons.

You understand the pattern. Just apply it to the real world and you can see it really is no different."

Doesn’t anyone else see the similarity with real life? That it’s not simply a Fab issue or am I entirely wrong?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

Not once did I bash males? I stated it's not a simple as a numbers thing, take control of my inbox for a day and you'd clearly see that.

Not that I expect a reply as im now on block Island.

Don't tar us all with the same brush "

You didn’t!

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Well at least we know who to avoid in the future.

Just another male bashing thread.

Not once did I bash males? I stated it's not a simple as a numbers thing, take control of my inbox for a day and you'd clearly see that.

Not that I expect a reply as im now on block Island.

Don't tar us all with the same brush

"

Most of us dint read it as such , just having a discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn’t necessarily gender bashing.

In general, see the numbers any worse here than offline?

How many men do you come across on a standard daily basis. 99% go unnoticed. Here, it’s 95%. We’re up on that score already.

Of the ones you may choose to engage with offline, how many strike you as being close to someone who would excite you in any way? Perhaps none at all for many moons.

You understand the pattern. Just apply it to the real world and you can see it really is no different.

Doesn’t anyone else see the similarity with real life? That it’s not simply a Fab issue or am I entirely wrong?"

I hope real life isnt the same!!! After 18 months of a virtual social life, i’ve put my belief in real world interactions not having many of the pitfalls of online communications.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It isn’t necessarily gender bashing.

In general, see the numbers any worse here than offline?

How many men do you come across on a standard daily basis. 99% go unnoticed. Here, it’s 95%. We’re up on that score already.

Of the ones you may choose to engage with offline, how many strike you as being close to someone who would excite you in any way? Perhaps none at all for many moons.

You understand the pattern. Just apply it to the real world and you can see it really is no different.

Doesn’t anyone else see the similarity with real life? That it’s not simply a Fab issue or am I entirely wrong?"

I see no similarity at all in fab and real life! Not my real life anyway. It’s a different planet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually these do either start or turn in to men bashing (by women too) but this certainly was twisted to be it when it's clearly not. It's about a phrase that is used. This time it's just somebody looking to be butt hurt and looking to be the victim.

As for the phrase its about odds. Larger pool of men statistically means that yes women have a better chance of picking a good match.

Men on the other hand have a smaller pool to not only pick from, but are competing with a larger pool too.

Nothing but the odds being in the favour of women. Which everyone knows anyway.

Works the other way too, there's men on here I would love to message but I don't as I know they have their 'pick' so to speak and probably a lot better option that me, so I would go unnoticed too like a lot of men feel when messaging women

"

Believe in yourself. Of course there is a risk of being turned down when messaging somebody and that risk is the same for all of us.

However you don’t know what people really like beyond what they write in their profile. You could well be an attractive option for them.

Besides, if forum comments are to go by, most men don’t get loads of spontaneous messages so they notice when they do.

Try your luck. Could be worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s exactly how I see it and also why I tend to go for the men who think similarly to you and don’t bloody moan all the time! And yes, whether it’s man bashing or not, people like you are in short supply.

Frequently the same men..."

You’re right.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Well I'm after a Scottish or Canadian long haired, olive skinned, 3 penised man hunk, with a soft top car to take me out on summer rides, eyes for only me coz I'm more than enough to satisfy him and he enjoys taking photos of me and other women I wanna bang, bringing us drinks and nibbles and lubing us up.

Now.

I'm well aware he doesn't exist so I don't have a crop to choose from. I accept that tho. I don't blame men because none of them fit what I'm after at this time. It simply *is*

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By *BWBI2019Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I CERTAINLY don't have my pick of the crop. More like pick of the scraps the birds have left behind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn’t necessarily gender bashing.

In general, see the numbers any worse here than offline?

How many men do you come across on a standard daily basis. 99% go unnoticed. Here, it’s 95%. We’re up on that score already.

Of the ones you may choose to engage with offline, how many strike you as being close to someone who would excite you in any way? Perhaps none at all for many moons.

You understand the pattern. Just apply it to the real world and you can see it really is no different.

Doesn’t anyone else see the similarity with real life? That it’s not simply a Fab issue or am I entirely wrong?

I see no similarity at all in fab and real life! Not my real life anyway. It’s a different planet!"

Not in lifestyle or communication but the numbers. How many men do women interact with in real life. Same here it’s just that here, the men notice being ignored. Offline, it’s normal to be ignored.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Pick of the crop, or any other analogy that you might like to use, is a bit irrelevant with all the most interesting and exciting people invariably located at opposite ends of the country, unless of course one or other is on first name terms with Dr Who, or Mr Spock to beam each other together at the speed of light, meeting up is highly unlikely, thus narrowing down the field a bit for both men and women.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Pick of the crop, or any other analogy that you might like to use, is a bit irrelevant with all the most interesting and exciting people invariably located at opposite ends of the country, unless of course one or other is on first name terms with Dr Who, or Mr Spock to beam each other together at the speed of light, meeting up is highly unlikely, thus narrowing down the field a bit for both men and women. "

Yep.

Plus women that women like, but they're straight.

A couple they like who only play with other couples and not singles.

Blokes that they like who are miles away/in demand/getting close to someone so ya don't wanna cause any aggy/work out they're married and cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of you clearly have issues but love nothing but venting that on men.

Men like me you know fuck all about or ever will because soon as I see you become unattractive and dead to me.

And that's because I can walk away and not bow down and simp.

One of you had on her profile that she will attack men violently while he sleeps.

What kind of mind do you have to even think this?

"

One of you, oooooh one of you.

Why not just mention me by name if you’re going to split hairs about everything.

Also that’s something that’s written in my profile and if I’m not mistaken, you’re not supposed to critique someone’s profile unless they specifically ask for advice.

Every time you comment I keep hearing a certain Mariah Carey song in my head, why you so obsessed with me.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Pick of the crop, or any other analogy that you might like to use, is a bit irrelevant with all the most interesting and exciting people invariably located at opposite ends of the country, unless of course one or other is on first name terms with Dr Who, or Mr Spock to beam each other together at the speed of light, meeting up is highly unlikely, thus narrowing down the field a bit for both men and women.

Yep.

Plus women that women like, but they're straight.

A couple they like who only play with other couples and not singles.

Blokes that they like who are miles away/in demand/getting close to someone so ya don't wanna cause any aggy/work out they're married and cheating.

"

Yup the list is endless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also let’s be honest, on here is probably the only place where it really is a woman’s world.

When it comes to dating and proper romantic connections, 99% of the time the guy is the one who calls the shots. Most men ‘aren’t looking for anything serious right now’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

Exactly!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don't hear of people going to social events, complaining about someone else having better odds - it's nothing more than a defeatist attitude from the safety of a keyboard.

Everything in life is what you make it.

The grass is not greener for anyone!

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rather think that a few guys take exception to the fact we can actually say "thanks, but no thanks" - so they complain publicly (some of them).

I think there a re loads of genuinely nice guys with whom I would have a drink, a chat perhaps eventually a bit more.

What puts me off a bit is the pressure of getting into playtime within one meet - possibly a second meet if you count the social. I like to get to know people first.

Furthermore, I do not necessarily fancy the guys after a meet or two but like them as a person.

Does this mean to comply with unwritten singing rules I either cannot interact with them, have a drink etc unless I have sex with them? I dont think that is the case but it sometimes feels like a lot of pressure when really we cannot help whom we fancy and whom we do not."

There's loads of decent men on here. They shouldn't take it personally if someone is discussing the bad ones as it's obviously not about them.

I think many men assume women should just fuck anyone who asks, hence the 'pick of the crop' rubbish.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

There's loads of decent men on here. They shouldn't take it personally if someone is discussing the bad ones as it's obviously not about them.

I think many men assume women should just fuck anyone who asks, hence the 'pick of the crop' rubbish. "

This^^ and with those the expectations is... within the first or second meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious. "

Do they? I must cruise around with my head in the clouds then because I don't see any of that, or even think it.

Nobody is above anyone, nobody should think they are

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious.

Do they? I must cruise around with my head in the clouds then because I don't see any of that, or even think it.

Nobody is above anyone, nobody should think they are "

I didn't read that as being said. I read it as yeah, women may get plenty of offers, but if the offers aren't enticing, it doesn't matter how many you get.

But like me if someone offered me a mega ginormous seafood platter. Shit loads to pick from and a seafood eater would think I was the luckiest person on earth....but I won't touch any of it coz I don't do seafood.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Usually these do either start or turn in to men bashing (by women too) but this certainly was twisted to be it when it's clearly not. It's about a phrase that is used. This time it's just somebody looking to be butt hurt and looking to be the victim.

As for the phrase its about odds. Larger pool of men statistically means that yes women have a better chance of picking a good match.

Men on the other hand have a smaller pool to not only pick from, but are competing with a larger pool too.

Nothing but the odds being in the favour of women. Which everyone knows anyway.

Works the other way too, there's men on here I would love to message but I don't as I know they have their 'pick' so to speak and probably a lot better option that me, so I would go unnoticed too like a lot of men feel when messaging women

"

You can message me any time you want

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

4000%

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By *reativeBurnsWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle "

Welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle "

Welcome, it’s like the hotel California, you can check out anytime you like , but you can never leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

Not sure if I should be offended?? Nah I’m going with

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By *reativeBurnsWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle

Welcome to the forum "

Thank you

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By *reativeBurnsWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle

Welcome, it’s like the hotel California, you can check out anytime you like , but you can never leave "

Hahaha I’m not surprised. Look forward to the madness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle "

Welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the crop organic or are they using Pesticides ?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Is the crop organic or are they using Pesticides ? "

Free range, home grown, pesticide free, up for debate on organic

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By *reativeBurnsWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

It was suggested to me I check out the forums and this was one of the first things I saw and let me just say: Thanks for the evening chuckle

Welcome to the forum "

Thank you kindly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious. "

Yip the inbox is constantly full

But … I’m not looking for a dick with a cock

Too many men think women are basically free prostitutes

Calling me a bitch, whore, slut and saying they want to split me open etc just doesn’t do it for me

Not do the requests to sew up the end of a blokes todger, send someone my used knickers

Asking if they can piss or shit on me, if I’m into panda sex etc just isn’t floating my boat

I’m had some shit meets when men think it’s acceptable to force themselves on me, grope me, grab my hand and out it on their groin, shove their hands in my top or down my jeans etc

Yip high rates of males to females … but I’m looking for a gentleman not a twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat.

Not sure if I should be offended?? Nah I’m going with "

I'm just gutted to now find out growing up on nuclear waste site was a bad thing I glow in the dark and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes women have more choice than guys in terms of sheet ratios. However considering that, I do find that many women make way more effort than guys in terms of profiles wrt to carefully curated photos, well written profiles.

The guys who moan about being rejected often have a single dick pic or a gurning selfie of them in a car (at best) and a fill in later bio, they don’t actually make any effort, yet bitch when they get nowhere.

There are lots of decent men on here… I have made friends with many truly decent guys.. but they are the ones who have actually made an effort with their profile, great artistic pictures and they are capable of chat & banter that doesn’t revolve around dick or vagine….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men are also picky. Me for example only fancy two women on this thread. One knows me as we chat sometime and the second one got unfortunately age filter, but we share the same passion for knife play .

I would like to know how the op manage to connect with men in here as she’s invisible ?

So maybe her hunting ground is not big enough, maybe she doesn’t talk enough with men?

I recently had a message from a local woman asking me a specific question then state that men don’t usually converse on here?? Some of us love it…

You want the top of the crop then make an effort like we do….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be really interested to know what would make a message or profile stand out to a lady on here…?

It’s so challenging for a man (or anyone) to come across genuine but show a playful side within an opening message. Most messages I send don’t even get opened. Again, not complaining, just interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would be really interested to know what would make a message or profile stand out to a lady on here…?

It’s so challenging for a man (or anyone) to come across genuine but show a playful side within an opening message. Most messages I send don’t even get opened. Again, not complaining, just interested "

You can’t really ask that as it’ll be different for absolutely everyone.

Just be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these threads turn into a gender war, the question was about generalisations not men bashing. Ironic when a lot of threads on here are aimed at women being so rude, horrible for having preference and putting us all in the same boxes.

Stop taking threads as a personal attack on you and your gender. We are all allowed to have opinions and start threads we want to

Perhaps, because some of the comments directed towards men, initially, weren’t very nice.

That! ^

Totally unrelated, but love your username "

Thanks. I appear to have a knack for picking unpronounceable usernames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not easy for single men on here so maybe they say that kinda comment to be flattering or a way of showing a compliment. Would you prefer someone to be rude and disrespectful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

Unfortunately there isn’t enough people on here that’s willing to give the chance to find out

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here

Unfortunately there isn’t enough people on here that’s willing to give the chance to find out "

For both sexes it's playing the long game that makes fab worthwhile. Sure, you can get laid fairly easy if you really want just that. But finding real connections, that takes time or luck and good timing?

So worth the wait though

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Or women in general. Why is it that the phrase " they have their pick of the crop" is banded around so much in reference to women?

I see it all the time and I don't understand it.

They're may be more guys on here but we have to be attracted to that person too or have something in common with them or them meet our preferences. That soon narrows the shortlist.

You see all the time, women saying how mad their inboxes go and there's nothing great in there. What's with people making out that we can have our pick of the bunch without doing our fair share?

Disclaimer - it's not a moan, I'm just musing and curious.

Yip the inbox is constantly full

But … I’m not looking for a dick with a cock

Too many men think women are basically free prostitutes

Calling me a bitch, whore, slut and saying they want to split me open etc just doesn’t do it for me

Not do the requests to sew up the end of a blokes todger, send someone my used knickers

Asking if they can piss or shit on me, if I’m into panda sex etc just isn’t floating my boat

I’m had some shit meets when men think it’s acceptable to force themselves on me, grope me, grab my hand and out it on their groin, shove their hands in my top or down my jeans etc

Yip high rates of males to females … but I’m looking for a gentleman not a twat "

PANDA SEX!?

Lord..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The communist stores used to have products in them, often without some stuff for long periods, but you didn't earn much. Shopping wasn't much fun and neither was much of the consumption of the fruits of your labours.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"In a sense it is true. Woman do have the pick of the crop. Not necessarily the best outright but the best of what is available. There is a difference.

"

Tend to disagree.

Players do.

Fun ladies, we have had so much fun.

There is a pattern.

Pedestal vs need = male desperation

Pedestal are so needy.

Play with fun.

The entitlement side? If you need it make you feel good, incongruent comes to mind.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "
This

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm picky myself so wouldn't say they have their pick of the crop, more they have a larger crop to big from

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

We're women, of course we only want what we can't have .

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Pointless having your pick of the crop if that harvest failed that year or was built on nuclear waste and nothing is good enough to eat. "

This made me chuckle () x

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners


"In all fairness, I think in a sense it's true.. we do have choice but doesn't necessarily mean its from a good bunch. If your looking for a quick bonk then sure it's easy to 'take your pick'. However, a decent guy with good conversation, banter and attraction is hard to come by on here "

you called? :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lool because you can it’s just facts

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