FabSwingers.com forum: Are you petty?

By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Or more of a live and let live person?

I'm definitely petty, not over really silly things but I'm definitely not one to let things slide and I do, subconsciously perhaps, make a mental note of who has fucked me over and how. I don't necessarily seek "revenge" but I will have a little laugh to myself when it happens.

Actually, perhaps I'm evil rather than petty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or more of a live and let live person?

Actually, perhaps I'm evil rather than petty..."

I’m not sure if I’m petty but once I’ve reached the point of no return the recipient of that is dead to me and I won’t lose an ounce of sleep lol

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Depends on my mood. Sometimes I can let anything slide, sometimes I pick a hill and die on it.

I’d like to do the first one more often and as I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten better at being the duck and letting the water roll

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nope. There's too much negative energy in pettiness and holding grudges. People that wrong you will ultimately reap what they sew. And I will carry on on my merry way.

However it would be wise to take heed and nor let them wrong you repeatedly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would be an example of being petty?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I can let anything slide, sometimes I pick a hill and die on it.

I’d like to do the first one more often and as I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten better at being the duck and letting the water roll "

Pick a hill and die on it ? I am so stealing that

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By *pellboundCouple
over a year ago

Derby and North Wales

I tend to stew on the wrong doing, lie awake plotting my revenge, thinking of the witty, cutting things I am going to say. then I do nothing as I can't be arsed with it, so I would say - Lazy!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm probably not petty enough. I let too many things go

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I really am an I have no shame about it

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I'm probably not petty enough. I let too many things go"

Nothing wrong with being nice

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By *issAphrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

To quote local hero, Alan Partridge: "It really amuses me when people criticise my book just because I happen to use the phrase " Needless to say, I had the last laugh" 14 times."

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

No petty. Detailed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this thread was titled “are you pretty”

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I thought this thread was titled “are you pretty”

I did at first glance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought this thread was titled “are you pretty”

I did at first glance

I mean not that I entered because I think I’m prettty

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm a "Too lazy to react to anything".

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I can be drawn to be petty about the small things but only usually when the big things have got a bit out of control. I generally self correct.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I'm probably not petty enough. I let too many things go"

I feel ya . Same here

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I'm a "Too lazy to react to anything"."

Same I've got better things to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Someone has to have done something really bad for me to hold a grudge. If someone I a dick I just withdraw and focus my attention elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be. Would let stuff ruminate and dwell on it for far too long. Nowadays have learnt to let things go (mostly) so it would have to be something major for me to just walk away.

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By *ohnny_ThunderMan
over a year ago

LLandudno

"Are you petty?"

Yes, I'm very pretty thank you very much.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Depends on my mood. Sometimes I can let anything slide, sometimes I pick a hill and die on it.

I’d like to do the first one more often and as I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten better at being the duck and letting the water roll "

This for me too. I don't stand up for myself at work and tend to get trodden on a lot.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

You can buy your hair if it won't grow

You can fix your nose if he says so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I can be. About certain issues. Not sure if it's a best quality to have but with elephant memory and being delicate fucking flower, cannot help it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Are you petty?"

Yes, I'm very pretty thank you very much. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. Someone has to have done something really bad for me to hold a grudge. If someone I a dick I just withdraw and focus my attention elsewhere."

That would be me. That's where I become petty.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"To quote local hero, Alan Partridge: "It really amuses me when people criticise my book just because I happen to use the phrase " Needless to say, I had the last laugh" 14 times."

I was going to call it knee jerk..but it sounded like no joke in geordie

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No, there are important things to focus on and enjoyment

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

No. My version of "revenge" if you want to call it that when someone has fucked me over is just to forget they ever existed and enjoy my life without them in it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"No. My version of "revenge" if you want to call it that when someone has fucked me over is just to forget they ever existed and enjoy my life without them in it. "

This. I just cut off. Although I’m very very stubborn which maybe could be classed as petty but petty itself no I don’t think I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or more of a live and let live person?

Actually, perhaps I'm evil rather than petty..."

Life encounters shape us.

Some can only meet someone once and if that's not to their liking hate a religion or colour based on that experience.

When relationships go wrong this can change the way we think of the opposite sex.

Things hurt us so we naturally put up a defence which can mean lashing out, maybe over the top but it's the experience that bought us to that point.

We argue, refuse to back down and become blind over silly things. that cold silence that eats away and I'll be damned if I'm going to talk to her/him etc.

Then we avoid people, go round them or not stay in the same room as them because of something small but pride won't let you break the ice and thaw the relationship.

That's our problem as humans.

Pride. We do not wish to appear weak by being agreeable or backing down.

We always want to be right and the loudest voice in the room.

Sometimes you have to say bad things so people listen as you cannot get through to them.

Never go so far to hate someone over words. You are a woman and I am a man so it is impossible for us to agree on everything or anything.

What is important is to treat everyone with respect, dignity and not to dismiss what is said because you disagree.

There is value in crossing swords time to time.

It's how I learn about you.

And you about me

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nope, these days I chose my battles and don't lose sleep over the petty stuff.

Who wants to get all bitter and twisted over petty stuff.

Let it go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No... Ruminating is really bad for you, who needs all that negative energy weighing you down. I'd much rather focus on me and the light i radiate in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't confuse disagreement with hate.

Hate makes you appear ugly and can isolate you.

Disagreement can be a debate that goes on for as long as it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they have done tbh

I had some pretty vile stuff thrown at me this week, so it is safe to say some do let hate eat them from the inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very live n let live but some things really wind me up, briefly

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I'm very much live and let live, being petty only drags you down to someone else's level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm cautious with my trust I suppose. I don't consider it petty, but if someone hurts me it will be noted in my brain and a little less trust will be bestowed on that person.

I wouldn't relish in their future misfortunes though.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'm live and let live, I forgive but never forget.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not a forgive and forget sort.

I just bin folk off and once they’re gone they’re gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. Someone has to have done something really bad for me to hold a grudge. If someone I a dick I just withdraw and focus my attention elsewhere.

That would be me. That's where I become petty. "

Is that petty though? I don't take pleasure in others' misfortunes and I don't stew over perceived wrong-doings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not healthy to hold onto things, and have grudges, you’re only hurting yourself.

It’s much better to let things go, and concentrate on love and compassion, and as midnight says, let your light radiate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what they have done tbh

I had some pretty vile stuff thrown at me this week, so it is safe to say some do let hate eat them from the inside."

Hope you can brush it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends what they have done tbh

I had some pretty vile stuff thrown at me this week, so it is safe to say some do let hate eat them from the inside.

Hope you can brush it off.

I'm hated all over the forum apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. Someone has to have done something really bad for me to hold a grudge. If someone I a dick I just withdraw and focus my attention elsewhere.

That would be me. That's where I become petty.

Is that petty though? I don't take pleasure in others' misfortunes and I don't stew over perceived wrong-doings. "

I meant for me this is the point of becoming petty. Rather than straight cut off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. Someone has to have done something really bad for me to hold a grudge. If someone I a dick I just withdraw and focus my attention elsewhere.

That would be me. That's where I become petty.

Is that petty though? I don't take pleasure in others' misfortunes and I don't stew over perceived wrong-doings.

I meant for me this is the point of becoming petty. Rather than straight cut off. "

Oh I see. Gotcha.

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