FabSwingers.com forum: When does a compliment irritate

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

rather than make you happy?

Just curious...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am feeling low about myself. It's hard to believe one then. Even though intentions are good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘You’re looking well!’

‘What, was I looking sick before ?!’

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"When I am feeling low about myself. It's hard to believe one then. Even though intentions are good.

Understood - is it like what agenda do they have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's very apparent it is insincere

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"‘You’re looking well!’

‘What, was I looking sick before ?!’"

Agree - I hate being told that but for a different reason. I always think they mean "fat"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I am feeling low about myself. It's hard to believe one then. Even though intentions are good.

Understood - is it like what agenda do they have?"

Kind of. Depends how genuine it seems. It's more of a need not to convince me that I'm wrong to feel yuck. Just be the space keeper. Until I sort myself out. I think that's what I meant. I didnt think it through!

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"When it's very apparent it is insincere "

Yes, agree to this one as well. It also makes it tricky to respond, doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's patronising or back handed.

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By *ohnsnowmanMan
over a year ago

Don't Go Back to Sexville

On a pay cam site I get "You are the hottest man on the whole site". I mean get a grip. There are absolute chisel jawed adonises with 10" dicks on there. I'm an out of shape 40 something. I know they just want my attention but really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm told I've got a great body when they can only see my boobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar to one above but "you scrub up well". That can get you into alot of trouble lol

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"When it's patronising or back handed. "

So when the intention of the compliment giver is disingenuous?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

When they add “for your age” at the end

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"When it's very apparent it is insincere "

Me too, just gets on my nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time, on here... I just don't believe them, especially when they are from people I find attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's constant, I know I'm fabulous but don't need to be told every minute of the day

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When they just want my number or email address to sell to a company.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

When they tell you you are beautiful but you know they just have any hole will do in mind.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't find any compliments irritating.

I often find the ones I get on here amusing though

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

When someone says - you look good - have you lost weight???

No I haven't and did I look so bad before???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they’re from a man that is breathing, judging by much of what I’ve seen on here

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

"When they add “for your age” at the end

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A compliments here are false.

Nothing but a dot on the internet.

Worthless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they add 'today' at the end of a compliment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of the time, on here... I just don't believe them, especially when they are from people I find attractive "

I do actually like your pumps though

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Most of the time, on here... I just don't believe them, especially when they are from people I find attractive "

Haha snap!

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

When they say something about liking “older” women. Makes me feel ancient

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By *BWBI2019Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Commenting on weight loss tends to rub me up the wrong way abit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Commenting on weight loss tends to rub me up the wrong way abit. "

You can compliment me on my weight loss any time. I’d be chuffing grateful! X

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

There is a guy I work with. I saw him for the first time in 14 months this week. He clearly had lost weight. He looked great. He’d also got good shiny skin going on. Moisturiser ? Looked like a different guy.

So after thinking about what to say I went in with “you are looking well”. I dare not say “you’ve lost some weight”. It’s always awkward.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

When they're not even trying to hide that they're doing it to manipulate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh wow, you've REALLY lost weight haven't you?"

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Commenting on weight loss tends to rub me up the wrong way a bit. "

I can relate to that - I am thinking that it should be totally irrelevant to that person whether I have or not, I just want them stop focussing on what I look like as if it defined me.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

""oh wow, you've REALLY lost weight haven't you?" "

Yes, that as well... like did I really look that awful before as one other poster said...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It’s the copy & pasted ones about how stunning I am when I don’t have much of a gallery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘You’re looking well!’

‘What, was I looking sick before ?!’

Agree - I hate being told that but for a different reason. I always think they mean "fat"

oh i would always take looking well as polite way of saying you lost weight without actually mentioning your weight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“You don’t sweat much for a fat lass” .. that sort of thing?

Or “I like you ... as a friend..”

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

When it's patronising and through gritted teeth: "You do make some good points".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never trust them.

They don't want good for you

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

When it's purely to get in yer undercrackers

When it's part of manipulation for whatever purpose

When you know they don't mean it, and are doing the kill them with kindness bollocks

When it's backhanded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything sexual. It's creepy.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Anything sexual. It's creepy."

Agreed

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

When it has an ulterior motive!

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it's purely to get in yer undercrackers

When it's part of manipulation for whatever purpose

When you know they don't mean it, and are doing the kill them with kindness bollocks

When it's backhanded"

Backhanded.

That's the word I was looking for thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"rather than make you happy?

Just curious... "

When you know its insincere and just being said in the hope you'll drop your knickers for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it’s clearly insincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Similar to one above but "you scrub up well". That can get you into alot of trouble lol"

I kinda don't mind this.. It feels more sincere haha

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