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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Are you able to pick up on hints?

Do you give hints?

Are they small and subtle, or do you need them to be one step away from stating the obvious to be able to.

I'm perceptive enough to notice the presence of potential hints, however I'm terrible at interpretation of them a lot of the time.

I'm not a fan of them, I'd much rather just be told without any detective work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible at picking up hints. Subtlety is completely lost on me.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Is this aimed at me…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible at taking or noticing hints, I'm also not good at hinting to things. No finesse whatsoever when it comes to being subtle.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious

In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Is this aimed at me…

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I may just be, depends if you can take the hint

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Fuck knows

On here people flirt and say shit they don't mean so I tend to take no notice of it when it's aimed in my direction, yet when I see others flirting I automatically think they mean it so I stay away, not wanting to get involved in anything which may create drama, tension, competition or bad feeling.

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious

In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx"

I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.

As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing.

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By *aitonel OP   Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity."

Thing is though, people go quiet or are busy, or just forget to reply. That doesn't make it a hint they don't want to speak - here and none fab. Which is why I dislike hints for stuff like that. Mistakes can be made and connections lost due to poor communication.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some hints I can easily pick up on, if someone stops contacting me I'm quick to pick up on the fact that they no longer want to be my friend for instance. However the more subtle type big hints are lost on me, I need clarity.

Thing is though, people go quiet or are busy, or just forget to reply. That doesn't make it a hint they don't want to speak - here and none fab. Which is why I dislike hints for stuff like that. Mistakes can be made and connections lost due to poor communication. "

Oh this is real life. On fab I understand that a break in communication isn't necessarily a bad thing. In outside life if a friend stops communicating or starts to make excuses not to meet I take the hint and leave them alone after checking they're ok a couple of times.

I read something once

"If you feel you're avoided by someone, never bother them again" it stuck with me

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"Are you able to pick up on hints?

Do you give hints?

Are they small and subtle, or do you need them to be one step away from stating the obvious to be able to.

I'm perceptive enough to notice the presence of potential hints, however I'm terrible at interpretation of them a lot of the time.

I'm not a fan of them, I'd much rather just be told without any detective work. "

With you all the way there

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious

In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx

I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.

As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing. "

Yeah it can be very confusing, I would like to think I can be careful at showing a person I'm being nice but not flirting.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious

In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx

I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.

As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing. "

I had that with a girl once. We were friends and I liked her but only in a friendly way. She went through some crap and I helped her out - being nice - which she took as I was interested in more than just friends.

On Fab or offline I can possibly pick up on hints but then misinterpret them which is more to do with my perception (if someone 'banters' back with me and I'm attracted to them I'll see it as flirting).

Whichever way if I make or don't make a move then just tell me straight whether its's wanted or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was terrible at taking hints until the bullet ricocheted off the wall.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I like to be told straight and I tend to tell it straight in the nicest possible way of course x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Completely blind to them, unless you wave it on a banner in front of my face then I'm oblivious, much to my own detriment sometimes

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont like people who make hints i ignore them. Just tell me out right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crap at it when they're aimed at me. For some reason it's always more obvious when I can see someone else not getting the hint. That makes me worry that I'm equally oblivious

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pick up on hints well at all. I wish the British weren't so keen on hinting. I should have been born a German.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Is this aimed at me…

I may just be, depends if you can take the hint "

Usually not!

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Hi OP I think I'm able to pick up on hints quite well and like to start with giving subtle hints to try be considerate to someone's feelings but if I feel they can't get the hint I would be a bit more obvious

In terms of flirting I think subtle hints are more fun depending on the topic xx

I don't mind that too much, gives the chance for hints to be picked up on without direct tension or whatever. Then as you say if not you then become direct with the point.

As for flirting yes! But only when flirting has already been established as a connection - some people are quite flirty when all they are being is nice. Or not great at flirting so it just comes across as being nice. It just gets so confusing.

I had that with a girl once. We were friends and I liked her but only in a friendly way. She went through some crap and I helped her out - being nice - which she took as I was interested in more than just friends.

On Fab or offline I can possibly pick up on hints but then misinterpret them which is more to do with my perception (if someone 'banters' back with me and I'm attracted to them I'll see it as flirting).

Whichever way if I make or don't make a move then just tell me straight whether its's wanted or not."

Oh dear hope she was OK in the end when she found out you was just being nice.

I agree it's best to tell a person what's wanted and what is isn't. That way everyone knows where they stand xx

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By *uiet confidenceMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I’m generally pretty good at picking up hints and interpreting people’s body language and non-verbal communication. However, that ability seems to completely disappear if I go on a vanilla date with someone, which is when I’d most like it to be on form!

Luckily for me, women tend to be more direct in clubs and on meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put puzzle pieces slowly..

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I can't pick up on a hint. I don't pick up when someone is flirting with me, I need people to be absolutely clear and unambiguous.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It varies, some aren't good at giving them so makes it difficult. I myself try to make it clear and if that's not picked up on I try to add a subtle neon light

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm terrible at picking up hints. Subtlety is completely lost on me. "

Yeah, just be blatant, I'll take it from there.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I prefer bluntness personally. I'm not very good at picking up hints. I don't really do hinting myself as a result.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I'm terrible at picking up hints. Subtlety is completely lost on me.

Yeah, just be blatant, I'll take it from there."

Same here, if I've got beef with anyone, I'll tell it how it is, and I would expect the same off anyone else, no good beating round the bushes

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yep when the conversation is going well and then all of a sudden it goes quiet

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