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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A very attractive brunette likes me (not on here) she has high sex drive which Is fine. The problem is she is full of drama, everythings an issue which she creates. I'm not interested in having a emotional tie with her but I'm interested in fwb.

how do I go about this, how do I not cause a massive scene in suggesting only sex.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Discuss it with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she interested in you?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Just don’t go there, then no drama ….. if you know it’s in her character, it is sure to raise its head

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Be open and honest and discuss it with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure she is a drama or you give her reasons to be 'dramatic'?

If only we could create a custom fwb. With no flaws. learn to tolerate or sort it together. I bet you have lots of annoying things about you too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A very attractive brunette likes me (not on here) she has high sex drive which Is fine. The problem is she is full of drama, everythings an issue which she creates. I'm not interested in having a emotional tie with her but I'm interested in fwb.

how do I go about this, how do I not cause a massive scene in suggesting only sex. "

Don't go there unless she's 100%

on the same page it wouldn't be fair on her. Why do you want someone to change, you know what she's like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s pointless telling us what you want but much better for you personally to explain how you feel with her.

When I used to play each and every partner knew it was just for sex and nothing else as I was very upfront and honest.

Three left their husbands but we had no dramas.

Best of luck.

Tony

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"It’s pointless telling us what you want but much better for you personally to explain how you feel with her.

When I used to play each and every partner knew it was just for sex and nothing else as I was very upfront and honest.

Three left their husbands but we had no dramas.

Best of luck.

Tony"

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

If, as you say, she is full of drama and everything is an issue which she creates then I would say don't go there.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"A very attractive brunette likes me (not on here) she has high sex drive which Is fine. The problem is she is full of drama, everythings an issue which she creates. I'm not interested in having a emotional tie with her but I'm interested in fwb.

how do I go about this, how do I not cause a massive scene in suggesting only sex. "

Yes baffles me why ask us

You will meet her anyway

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Think with your big head

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

You ask her to be fwb and accept the answer.

End of thread right? Unless you want to lie?!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I have an emotional tie with my friends. It's part of friendship is it not?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Put your cards on the table. She can take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be open with her. Be honest about what you want. Most drama usually comes when one person isn’t being clear with the other

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

She’s not a blow up doll, there’ll be some sort of emotional tie, afterall we all need trust. So unless you want drama I would stay away

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I am a no drama llama so i avoid these people like the plague. Some people enjoy the second hand drama. She won't change so decide if you are on board for the theatrics or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t go there. I did and got burned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me.

I don't care how hot she is,if she's causing me grief I walk away, no text,no reason,gone.

Let some other poor bastard deal with it as he will likely come to the same conclusion and leave her too.

Plenty of women on this planet so don't be scared to walk away

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Come on! At 39 you must have learnt by now - women are so easy to manipulate. String her along. Fill your boots and enjoy the drama. Every hole is a goal!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, I will talk to her obviously about it just weren't sure how to not hurt her feelings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Come on! At 39 you must have learnt by now - women are so easy to manipulate. String her along. Fill your boots and enjoy the drama. Every hole is a goal! "

At 39 I've learnt every hole isn't always a goal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am a no drama llama so i avoid these people like the plague. Some people enjoy the second hand drama. She won't change so decide if you are on board for the theatrics or not. "

She does enjoy it, im not sure why it's stressful, we've been close before so I do care for her just not enough to get sucked in

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Thanks for the advice, I will talk to her obviously about it just weren't sure how to not hurt her feelings"

I think there's already every chance you will hurt her feelings, because you're rejecting her for her but want to keep her around, at arms length for her hole.

That's likely to sting.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"If, as you say, she is full of drama and everything is an issue which she creates then I would say don't go there. "

Yeah I would say the same best not to go there in my opinion xx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Thanks for the advice, I will talk to her obviously about it just weren't sure how to not hurt her feelings

I think there's already every chance you will hurt her feelings, because you're rejecting her for her but want to keep her around, at arms length for her hole.

That's likely to sting."

100% peachy peach xx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Come on! At 39 you must have learnt by now - women are so easy to manipulate. String her along. Fill your boots and enjoy the drama. Every hole is a goal! "

Loool your looking to wind up the women on here init xx tut tut

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice, I will talk to her obviously about it just weren't sure how to not hurt her feelings

I think there's already every chance you will hurt her feelings, because you're rejecting her for her but want to keep her around, at arms length for her hole.

That's likely to sting."

We're long time friends and obviously do care, I have others to consider in my life now and I avoid any drama, il be honest with her. I keep her around because we do have a laugh, I've actually refused her "hole" many times to not lead her on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A very attractive brunette likes me (not on here) she has high sex drive which Is fine. The problem is she is full of drama, everythings an issue which she creates. I'm not interested in having a emotional tie with her but I'm interested in fwb.

how do I go about this, how do I not cause a massive scene in suggesting only sex. "

Switch off your hearing system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a no drama llama so i avoid these people like the plague. Some people enjoy the second hand drama. She won't change so decide if you are on board for the theatrics or not.

She does enjoy it, im not sure why it's stressful, we've been close before so I do care for her just not enough to get sucked in"

Just ask her if she's up for a fuck. I've had a few similar arrangements with friends. It works great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A very attractive brunette likes me (not on here) she has high sex drive which Is fine. The problem is she is full of drama, everythings an issue which she creates. I'm not interested in having a emotional tie with her but I'm interested in fwb.

how do I go about this, how do I not cause a massive scene in suggesting only sex. "

F**king avoid! Tie a knot in it and take a cold bath! Really, don't bother don't go anywhere near!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who love drama are exhausting. I can imagine no matter how great the sex is, this will counter her personality. If your asking the question, you probably already know the answer

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id be running in the opposite direction cant be doing wirh drama llamas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id run the opposite way. I dont have time for drama or insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself if getting your willy wet is worth all the drama that comes with it. Only you will know what she’s like and if she’s worth it.

If yes, go for it.

If no, avoid.

How I’ve never made it as an Agony Uncle I’ll never know.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Come on! At 39 you must have learnt by now - women are so easy to manipulate. String her along. Fill your boots and enjoy the drama. Every hole is a goal!

Loool your looking to wind up the women on here init xx tut tut "

Guilty!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There are emotionally attachments with a FWB....sounds like you need a FB instead x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This reminds me of the Mickey Flanagan routine where he compares the merits of two women, one who isn't interested in sex but makes a nice sandwich and one who loves sex but is full of drama. "I suppose I could always wear a stab best but then again I do like a sandwich"

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

You know the right answer to this one OP, up to you whether you listen to your big brain or your little one in your pants.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This reminds me of the Mickey Flanagan routine where he compares the merits of two women, one who isn't interested in sex but makes a nice sandwich and one who loves sex but is full of drama. "I suppose I could always wear a stab best but then again I do like a sandwich" "

Haha love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Update after few texts last night with this girl, il think il avoid and just be mates.

Don't think I got the strength in me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask yourself if getting your willy wet is worth all the drama that comes with it. Only you will know what she’s like and if she’s worth it.

If yes, go for it.

If no, avoid.

How I’ve never made it as an Agony Uncle I’ll never know. "

Do a thread! Agony Willy

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"This reminds me of the Mickey Flanagan routine where he compares the merits of two women, one who isn't interested in sex but makes a nice sandwich and one who loves sex but is full of drama. "I suppose I could always wear a stab best but then again I do like a sandwich" "

I too was reminded of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

My advice would be to avoid them it's not worth the agro.

I stopped meeting a FB I had on here because of background drama from one of his other fbs .Even though he was nice enough the crap that I was getting was not worth the hassle and drama that was followed and seemingly is still going on.

So my best advice is to avoid getting into anything especially if you know already that drama follows the person.

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