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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How difficult is it to date whilst being a single parent though

As soon as some discover you have little people they're no longer interested

Trying to plan nights can prove difficult

That's life I guess folks

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Perhaps people's experiences in the past puts them off. Also I imagine the person you date will always come last over children, and many people don't want that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know why this is a surprise to some people

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes very tough. I chose the path of celibacy rather than try to juggle it. 17 years! A lot of time to make up for now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps people's experiences in the past puts them off. Also I imagine the person you date will always come last over children, and many people don't want that."

I do understand it and the reasoning etc

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It will all depend on what childcare support you have. And if the other parent is around/has the kids for periods of time.

There's more planning involved but if you have the above it is definately doable. Two single parents together will make it even more challenging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes very tough. I chose the path of celibacy rather than try to juggle it. 17 years! A lot of time to make up for now. "

Think I'm slowly getting to this idea myself

Thinking can I really be arsed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It will all depend on what childcare support you have. And if the other parent is around/has the kids for periods of time.

There's more planning involved but if you have the above it is definately doable. Two single parents together will make it even more challenging "

I don't get help so I can work so iv no chance of it to go out dating lol

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

You will generally find those with kids of their own will often prefer to seek out others with kids of their own.

Their will be common interest, an understanding on how kids can cause chaos in lives and schedule, how important kids are. And the main one I have noticed is they just don't want any more kids so by dating somebody else with kids you are less likely to want more since you already have at least one.

I don't have kids and I don't care either way if somebody I want to date had them or not. At certain ages you will find it more difficult to meet somebody who is without children . So best to accept it as a way things will be.

There are always exceptions to everything like this, but generally if you have kids you would have higher chances of success with others who have kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You will generally find those with kids of their own will often prefer to seek out others with kids of their own.

Their will be common interest, an understanding on how kids can cause chaos in lives and schedule, how important kids are. And the main one I have noticed is they just don't want any more kids so by dating somebody else with kids you are less likely to want more since you already have at least one.

I don't have kids and I don't care either way if somebody I want to date had them or not. At certain ages you will find it more difficult to meet somebody who is without children . So best to accept it as a way things will be.

There are always exceptions to everything like this, but generally if you have kids you would have higher chances of success with others who have kids. "

This I guess is true but then comes 2 people male and female both pointing out that there kids are number 1 priority and iv learnt that ain't as accepting when it's a bloke saying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will generally find those with kids of their own will often prefer to seek out others with kids of their own.

Their will be common interest, an understanding on how kids can cause chaos in lives and schedule, how important kids are. And the main one I have noticed is they just don't want any more kids so by dating somebody else with kids you are less likely to want more since you already have at least one.

I don't have kids and I don't care either way if somebody I want to date had them or not. At certain ages you will find it more difficult to meet somebody who is without children . So best to accept it as a way things will be.

There are always exceptions to everything like this, but generally if you have kids you would have higher chances of success with others who have kids.

This I guess is true but then comes 2 people male and female both pointing out that there kids are number 1 priority and iv learnt that ain't as accepting when it's a bloke saying it "

If she's not accepting of an equal arrangement why bother with a woman like that.

I think your comment about number 1 priority is a good point. It must be difficult for both to juggle kids and exes. But people with kids do meet new partners so it's possible.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It takes a lot of patience and understanding on both sides. Things need to be planned, spontaneity is rare and if an individual can’t see that or that your children are your first priority, then they aren’t right for you.

As a single parent you have to come to an understanding with yourself that life is different, but things can change in time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a patient so couldn’t see

But from a outside prospect

I wouldn’t say it’s all that hard can be a good way to gage if someone really in to you or not

Starting off Maybe hard but that’s the part you use to gage if they really in to you or not

And as things progress it gets easier

If I am date someone with kids

I understand they come first so don’t let it put me off if say things crop up and as they get more comfortable then dates are planed for three or 4 or 5

Like bowling or ice skating or cinema whare they can bring the kids or kid with them once’s they comfortable anuff

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Really difficult. People who don't have kids seem to think you can just get childcare so easily!

They don't appreciate the planning that goes into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try having to work and caring for your bed ridden mum.

i dont stop at all, but i still get away to meet and have future plans with someone lovely so it can be done with a little bit of calendar jiggling

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It will all depend on what childcare support you have. And if the other parent is around/has the kids for periods of time.

There's more planning involved but if you have the above it is definately doable. Two single parents together will make it even more challenging

I don't get help so I can work so iv no chance of it to go out dating lol"

Then yes, it will be incredibly difficult to date as you're saying you can't get out to date anyway.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I managed a bit of dating a few years back. But the I was lucky that although I had very young children at the time my ex would have then every other weekend and some of the school holidays. But you have to be creative and good at seeing opportunities. Be good at both planning long ahead and being flexible. The trouble I found as a single parent in his 30s the vast majority of women I dated also were single working parents. This can make things extra difficult unless they happen to have the same kids free weekends as you. At the end of the day its difficult but it is what it is. If you meet the right person it can work even if you don't see each other as much as you like. Plus the Internet is a great tool. Both in helping to find people to date (when you can't really get out much) and to stay connected and find someone.

To be fair I gave up on dating and just enjoyed a few hookups and FWB type things. Because I did find it difficult, plus although I met some lovely ladies non of them were right. Then I met Mrs Misfit on here. We both weren't looking to date but it was just so right. So here we are a few years down and engaged.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I was a single parent and was never interested in relationships when my son was young. It was just me and him. I did used to shag when he went to his dads but thats it

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It’s hard to date as a single parent. And even harder in your 50s when you have a young child. But it’s not impossible. You just have to allow yourself to sometimes choose you over your children. It’s ok.

V x

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