FabSwingers.com forum: Stages of your fab journey

By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I joined Fab 2 years ago and was like a kid in a sweet shop. I enjoyed lots of socials, fucked lots of randoms and dived straight in the forums with a flirty demeanor. I had a ticklist of forumites I wanted to 'meet.' I used to respond politely to ALL messages.

Within 6 and 8 months I met 2 people I liked and I calmed down very much + pandemic.

I had some fab drama, went down to one liked person in my life, the forum became repetitive & I took a mini break. I returned with a new name & profile, initially not looking for anything. I now don't respond to random messages, I don't flirt much in the forums any more and I'm not solely looking for random fucks. Oh, and I no longer have a forum tick list

When I joined Fab I had no idea it could be this great (& bumpy) journey. I've evolved massively within myself from the woman who saw Fab as an easy site to flirt and get laid. It still can be, but that's not my sole purpose now.

How long have you been on Fab and what have been the stages of your journey?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I didnt have any preconceived ideas when i joined other than to find a place where enm would be accepted. I have found that and so much more.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Very similar to you OP but you forgot to mention the global pandemic which has changed my fab journey considerably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started 8 nearly 9 years ago met someone on here who we had a exclusive 4 year fling as a couple had afew other females join us.

Left came back single had loads of one offs with couples and women.

Left came back again 3 year ago had a few meets on here with someone but never went anywhere.

left and came back just over a year ago purely for the forums, im done with meeting

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I joined 2 years ago as a single, looking for a FB.

Realised there was so much more here and an opportunity to explore my sexual self.

Lived out a few fantasies and challenged all my beliefs around sex and relationships.

Found a bi side I didn't know existed.

Met K, who's a light in my life and we're now journeying on here together.

It's been an incredible two years.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yep; I definitely went through the slut in a sex shop phase. When I first joined, apart from one very good friend, I didn't particularly care about the other person/people and I wanted to fuck because I could. And people found me desirable. That's a heady aphrodisiac when you've always believed you weren't particularly.

I wasn't on the forum at the time so luckily it didn't happen on here but I remember yours and Vine's very flirty, fuck it list stage on here.

Then I found the forums. Had sex with a couple of people. People who I actually liked and treated me with respect and care.

Anyway, I then had a relationship. Lost my confidence a fair amount. Still working on that.

And now I'm mainly here for the forums. I'm hoping to meet someone soon who makes me feel like a slut in a sex shop. I think I'm at the point now where I'd rather meet a few people for lots of sex, rather than lots of people for a bit of sex. Or just carry on posting my inane ramblings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did the kid-in-a-sweetshop thing when I first joined 6 years ago. I even make myself blush when I think about it now!

I'm much calmer now. So calm, in fact, that I've only arranged to have full naked bodily contact with 1 person and the pandemic isn't a deciding factor in that. Before it was about sex, now it's about forum and friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined about 4-5 years ago after a messy breakup and a friend suggesting I joined. I joined, copy and paste messaged everyone with a 50 mile radius, got moody because nobody replied and I deleted my profile.....Then, during another period of hornyness, I tried again, but thing time I took time to read profiles, messaged accordingly and had a few meets which I really enjoyed. Since then I haven't looked back. I've had some great meets, met some lovely people and have been to a couple of parties and a few clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still in the kid in the shop phase and seem to be very happy with this stage! Obviously I love following the forum and all

Trying to stay clear from drama and situationships x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined thinking i would find regular nsa sex, but actually it's taken me further into my BDSM journey

At the moment i don't really know what it means for me

I've replied to a handful of posters over the years and thankfully had minimal drama

I've learnt that whilst I'm a spontaneous person my worries about sti tend to stop me from the FAF stage

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By *unandgamegeekMan
over a year ago

Bolton

When I joined 4 years ago, I wasn't looking for anything at the time, just someone to talk to as I had went through a bad heartbreak at Christmas back in 2016. When 2017 came round, I knew I had to make changes in my life and that was to start going out and make new friends.

To do that, I had to first overcome my social anxieties with me having Asperger's Syndrome. I set myself a task of going to a club. A couple of months later, I went to Cupids for the first time. The owner at the time made me feel at ease because he understood my condition and helped introduce me to a few people. The evening went ok but there was a moment when my anxiety kicked in and I shut down by sitting by myself so had to snap out of it by heading to the bar. Even though it was my first visit and I was still trying to overcome my social anxieties, I was proud to have made that first step into the club.

The second visit a month later was kind of the same but throughout that year, I gained many friends, gained good confidence and had many fun experiences which helped rid me of my social anxieties and made me a much happier person than I was in the beginning. I even had the best birthday celebrations at Cupids as well lol.

When I'm not in the club, I would be on the forums, mainly in the BBW chat forum chatting with friends on there too and was lucky to meet them at a Manchester Social a few years back as well which was great.

Ever since, I've always been grateful of the friends I've made and always look forward to seeing them again in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've done it wrong. I ticked off a whole sex bucket list, created a new one and ticked all that off too. Never been stood up. Had a brilliant fun time. Shagged some forumites but not on this profile so they don't even realise. Made a stupid amount of fantasies a reality. Not fucking randoms now due to covid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I joined 4 years ago, I wasn't looking for anything at the time, just someone to talk to as I had went through a bad heartbreak at Christmas back in 2016. When 2017 came round, I knew I had to make changes in my life and that was to start going out and make new friends.

Ever since, I've always been grateful of the friends I've made and always look forward to seeing them again in the future.

Love this!

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By *EXY_PILOTMan
over a year ago

Manchester, North West, UK

Joined 1 year ago, still trying to find the one that tickles my fantasy (I am not a shag around x)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Failed to start..

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Started, ran smoothly, stopped x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Joined 3 year ago! Met some lovely people! Some good sex! Some not so good! Enjoy the banter and flirting! Hopefully get back to the sexy meets! Not in a hurry as such! Hopefully find that perfect 1 fwb that I've been looking for! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trapped by abusive ex.6yrs ago

Fab started my freedom journey about me being allowed to get in control of my life.

Used it to chat n gain confidence.

Now met a fabster and in relationship

Use it for social connection's/chat/friendship

Just waiting for chams to open

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I was on fab originally on the dark ages

about 15 years I think and other sites with an ex,always couples meets nothing else. That ended and my next relationship there was nothing like that apart from a mff dabble towards the end of that one. Met someone on tinder who was on here and they dragged me back, originally to be as a fwb couple in Dec 19 but that all went south and I rejoined as a single in the jan, deleted as I got overwhelmed, and then got lured back just prior to lockdown.

Mostly find me inhabiting the lounge chatting, have made some good friends who I now am glad I'm finally going to get to meet! As for everything else well what happens happens I have no set plan or idea as such, yes there's the I'd love to meet but I just admire from afar lol

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve only really met sporadically and had two fwb’s during my time here where I didn’t meet anyone else for over a year, except for threesomes.

That has ended, and I doubt very much I will meet anyone else from here. My personal circumstances make it difficult to meet and I don’t actually want to meet anyone new anymore. Casual sex is rather over rated.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I originally came to fab about 8 years ago on another profile and had the pleasure of a few socials and meets.

I took some time out and then returned a couple of years ago. Now mainly reading the forums. Recently I've been engaging with chat again.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I love your post, OP

For me Fab was a slow burner. I joined a bit over 3 years ago, and I enjoyed the attention a lot! My very first meet wasn’t very satisfying though- I felt used tbh so I kind of retreated a bit. After a few months I understood what it was about and enjoyed meeting lots of people - socially and otherwise.

In mid 2019 I met someone extremely special and it was completely unexpected! That set the brakes for me a bit so I stopped meeting casually...

I started this year with the focus of meeting more people but in all honesty, casual meets are leaving me rather unsatisfied. So while I still want to experience nights at clubs (hopefully someday!) I think I am happier meeting people with a view of having FWBs- as emotionally tacing as it can be (for me!) sometimes. I still love chatting via messages and going to socials- something I am also looking forward to.

I have really enjoyed my time here.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I first got into the scene over 20 years ago...my memory isn't what it once was, but I don't think Fab even existed back then. I was part of a couple, and we had some fantastically hedonistic times for over a decade.

That relationship ended, and I had some time away, and first came back as a single around 5 years ago. Again, I had some fun times, but went away again after meeting someone that had severe mental health issues.

I came back with this profile probably around 3 years ago now, and started using the forums shortly afterwards...I've met some wonderful people through them, one of which is very special to me, so I'm glad I persevered through all the bitchy comments and being ignored. I don't currently have any real desire to meet anyone new...unless Cillian Murphy lands in my inbox

but I'm looking forward to getting back into visiting clubs when we can.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

People on here seem to be more angry at everything now.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Been on the scene for many years long before Internet sites so FAB was simply another contact method. I had no illusions of what FAB was and still is.

So FAB us like a pub you got to from time to time, there are people you get on with and those you don't

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm enjoying reading all of your posts, thank you

A lot of us seem to change and pair off for periods of time it appers. Fab seems to be a confidence booster and social outlet for many which is nice to hear in amongst all of the threads of people being frustrated and getting nowhere on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started typing mine, but then I thought who’s interested in what I’ve been up to, but I’m okay with that, acceptance is key!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We both joined 6 years ago as singles. T had been here before.

I’d been in a 20 year relationship/marriage. I tried dating on POF but it seemed the men just wanted 1 night stands without having the balls to say so. So I stated I wanted nsa & they all hid!! A nice chap directed me here.....

After braving it in the nocturnal thread I met some lovely forumites & eventually T. We became fuck buddies but it turned into love

In 2016 we went to Swingfields (amazing!!) but T became seriously ill & was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. After chemo he needed a stem cell transplant & we planned our wedding from his hospital bed.

We got married in December 2018, I had a big op in March 2019 and we are finally starting to get back in to the swing of things!!

J x

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By *aynLexiCouple
over a year ago

Bridgwater, Somerset

Started as a single 4 years ago and met my partner a year in. Now experiencing it as a couple.

Would say we are still fairly inexperienced and there's alot we haven't tried but looking forward to ticking off a few fantasys together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started 10 years ago and still at the same stage I started on

And will probably never really change

Woman for social / chat / friends / sex one off or fb or fbw

Couple social / chat / friends / sex one off or fb or fbw

Tv/ts social / chat / friends and maybe sex fb fbw depends on them there is a couple that cought my eye

Men most just sex be it one offs or fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People on here seem to be more angry at everything now. "

I think covid has made the whole world just angry in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started typing mine, but then I thought who’s interested in what I’ve been up to, but I’m okay with that, acceptance is key!

I'm interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Signed up near the tail end of 2019 but didn't use the account. While on Fabguys I noticed they had a forum and had a lightbulb moment. Signed into Fabswingers July 2020 and found the forum and my mind started its upward trajectory into the stratosphere.

Over a five month period of using the forum my mind had finally left the solar system and just after Christmas crashed back to Earth without a parachute. A 3 month break ensued.

Came back on and it felt like sliding back into a comfy jumper.

I've had my sweetshop moment and bucket list ticking away from Fab so mainly here for forum posting and connecting with a few people whether online only or out in the offline world.

Not in a rush and would rather take stuff slooooow and anything beyond posting on the forum is a bonus. Really I'm still at the beginning of a Fab journey.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I joined fab many years ago, but had a lot of experience previous to joining through other sites and contact magazines.

I never had any real expectations when I joined, although had my first meet, a couple within a few weeks. I then a month or so later I met a single lady for a social, which never went any further, she was heavily into BDSM and just out of a relationship. But she was kind enough to verify me. For several years I would meet couples and single females. I would join in the forum's if I felt I had something relevant to say, advice etc. I have written a few stories for that section of the forum, 'The Manor' being one and 'Elephant earings' another.

I became jaded after several years, having ticked off everything I wanted to do. Rejoined, then left again after a couple of months. Rejoined again last year and still here at present.

Fab has changed over the years. I'm not certain I've changed with it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No preconceptions when I first joined 4 years ago despite having virtually no experience or self esteem. It was never dial-a-ride for me. Left and rejoined a few times because of drama and bad experiences.

Been back more than 2 years now and this is the first profile where I've used the forums so I'm enjoying engaging with people of a similar mindset who are also on a journey. I've evolved because I'm much more confident now.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've only been here a few months, unfortunately too old and knackered to be a kid in a sweet shop...

So I'm just enjoying lots of socials and the build up to meets.

The forums are a bonus, as they keep me occupied during the day when I'm having some down time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of comments about new female users joining and going through a slut phase where they went about enjoying themselves like kids in a sweet shop.

This made me understand why when new females join fab they immediately get pounced on by so many single guys chancing their luck.

The single guys are hoping to catch the ladies during their slut sweetshop phase, before Fab eventually makes them much more jaded with the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined to meet women as I was married, he was emotionally abusive, so I escaped.

I met a few people, most importantly my special Dom.

Then I left, returned and flounced off again

Now I’m back and I’ve still got my special person, and we are having an awesome journey together, I’ve only met one forumite on this new account.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Jeez. Ok...

So, arrived here 5 years ago after finding the balls to kick my abusive ex out. I came here on the search for knowledge about relationship dynamics and how couples got to the stage where they were soooo honest and open, soooo in love that they could swing. Having been lied to, cheated on and abused over the previous 8 years it was something I was in awe of. Didn't want it for myself, but nice to share others joy ya know and feel love that way. I'd really get a kick out of the love between 2 people.

From there, well. Shagged a few that I wouldn't now, done things I wouldn't now. I think I was trying to prove to myself I could push myself, that I wasn't a "victim". I took risks and put myself in potentially dangerous situations. Daft as it sounds, I was used to living in survival mode for so long I guess I seeked it out, just in a different way from being beaten and mentally tortured at home.

After a year or so I had a breakdown. Full on. Demons of the past had come back to haunt me and the abuse I thought I had escaped unscathed from were there, in my mind, controlling me without me even realising it. I discovered I had been left with complex PTSD. I spent 9 months off work and aside from the men flooding my inbox with "you know what'll make ya feel better? My dick" messages, everyone here was fucking awesome. I documented my counselling journey and the support was unbelievable. People opened up. People laid bare their own experiences and I was truly humbled. Inspired too. It was at that point I learned just how important it can be for other people to know they ain't alone in their problems and when I decided to keep being that heart on the sleeve wearer, not just for me, but for other people too. Someone they could relate to, even from afar, someone who could make them feel less lonely, less weird, less different, less worthless and more "normal"

Year or so after that I met my ex. Holy fuck. Well, I think we all know how that went down.

Left me broken once more but a different kinda broken. Fucking angry at myself really.

So my main fab journey has been the friendships, the support, the slaps up the mush if I'm being a cunt. You lot have helped me and cared for me through all of it, my son moving out, breakdown, relationship, the loss of my beautiful girl dog. It hasn't all been plain sailing, there's been some real nasty shit go down too, I can't and won't pretend otherwise.

So me and mine? Learning I'm loved for being me, regardless of what's between my legs. I have made THE most wonderful friends who I genuinely owe my life to. My time here is coming to an end soon I feel. I've been saying it for a good while now, but aside from giving people the odd giggle, I don't feel I've much left to give. Sex is something that whilst it can be magical, comes with a side order of bullshit most of the time and I'm just plain tired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jeez. Ok...

Year or so after that I met my ex. Holy fuck. Well, I think we all know how that went down.

Left me broken once more but a different kinda broken. Fucking angry at myself really.

I think you’re fucking awesome, you’re my absolute favourite small

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By *orace pinkerMan
over a year ago

North west

I got chlamydia from a meet, that was fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im mainly here for the forums these days. Im not what most women want. I think its the shorts

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Lots of comments about new female users joining and going through a slut phase where they went about enjoying themselves like kids in a sweet shop.

This made me understand why when new females join fab they immediately get pounced on by so many single guys chancing their luck.

The single guys are hoping to catch the ladies during their slut sweetshop phase, before Fab eventually makes them much more jaded with the whole experience. "

Fab hasn't jaded me. I'm still hopeful, not cynical about people. I've changed a bit though - I joined when I was in my early twenties and was discovering my sexuality and lust for men. Fab helped me realise and be comfortable with the fact that I found men attractive. Bar one I wouldn't say I had bad meets, the woman I was back then loved every minute of it.

What has happened is I'm looking for something different now. I value friendships more, whether they are platonic or not. I'm not jaded by Fab but I am more experienced, more comfortable in speaking up for what I want and more secure in my mind about what works for me. I've still got so much more to experience and undoubtedly I'll keep growing and learning about the woman I am becoming.

(Men do pounce on women when they first join because they see them as fresh faced, naive and wet vaged, that's true)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I joined here 11 years ago after a guy I met on POF told me about the place. I used to go on cams all the time. Not doing a show but just showing my face. I used to watch the guys that could suck their own dicks and tie bits of string tightly around their willys and punch themselves in the face for me. Started using the forums around 9 years ago and boy they were fun times.

Almost every thread I started I would have loads of people accusing me of being fake, accusing me of being a man due to my writing style and content, accusing me of playing some kind of role, well 9 years on and I’m still saying the same shit, still the same writing style so that’s a pretty long time to keep up an act!

I’m 100% authentically real and as honest as the day is long. Wear my heart on my sleeve and not ashamed to talk about my failings or struggles of which I’ve had many over the years.

The forums have been a great source of support over the years and there really is a good bunch of people on here.

As for my sexual journey, at the start I thought I’d find a kinky boyfriend who would be loyal to me but that idea went out the window long ago.

Haven’t met many guys for sex, haven’t met anyone for over a year off here for sex.

Not really looking for anyone in particular but I’d know it if I saw it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"So I joined here 11 years ago after a guy I met on POF told me about the place. I used to go on cams all the time. Not doing a show but just showing my face. I used to watch the guys that could suck their own dicks and tie bits of string tightly around their willys and punch themselves in the face for me. Started using the forums around 9 years ago and boy they were fun times.

I’m 100% authentically real and as honest as the day is long. Wear my heart on my sleeve and not ashamed to talk about my failings or struggles of which I’ve had many over the years.

The forums have been a great source of support over the years and there really is a good bunch of people on here.

As for my sexual journey, at the start I thought I’d find a kinky boyfriend who would be loyal to me but that idea went out the window long ago.

Haven’t met many guys for sex, haven’t met anyone for over a year off here for sex.

Not really looking for anyone in particular but I’d know it if I saw it. "

I for one am glad you do. You take a lot of stick, and a lot of the time it's unnecessary. To me it clearly shows people who've not suffered MH issues and have no interest in trying to understand. I totally get a lot of what you say and I do think you're doing an awesome job in seeing areas of improvement and acting on them. I also think there are way more people than will actually admit to having attachment issues etc on here. They just carry their shit on on the sly, yet present a well balanced individual on here. I admire the shit outta ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still trying to nail everyone I want before my meat falls off the bone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joined a few years back….2 or 3, I don’t remember now. Started off in the chat rooms mostly before moving more towards the forums. Got the point of starting to arrange one meet but it would have meant being away from home for too long so had to call it off.

Left in July last year but was back not long after.

Still not had any meets yet and not massively hopeful of achieving one based on circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread OP. My journey began about 10 years ago, after years of my hubby hinting that he wanted to watch me with another bloke, we met someone at La Chambre through Craig's List. People at La Chambre were talking about fab so we joined.

I did the initial kid in a sweet shop thing too until I realised actually I was putting all the effort in for basically very little gratification for myself. I would take time getting ready, I would go to their home, have unsatisfying sex with someone who never even left me feedback then have to travel home and describe in great detail what I had done to my husband. I ended up feeling unsatisfied, used and got diagnosed with pelvic inflammatory disease. However attending swinging clubs I discovered bdsm and dungeons and it intrigued me so that is now my goto play now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m 100% authentically real and as honest as the day is long. Wear my heart on my sleeve and not ashamed to talk about my failings or struggles of which I’ve had many over the years.

The forums have been a great source of support over the years and there really is a good bunch of people on here.

As for my sexual journey, at the start I thought I’d find a kinky boyfriend who would be loyal to me but that idea went out the window long ago.

Haven’t met many guys for sex, haven’t met anyone for over a year off here for sex.

Not really looking for anyone in particular but I’d know it if I saw it.

I agree with this.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I joined fab 15 years ago after being recommended it by a guy i was seeing. I had been swinging all my adult life and ive been on the internet over 20 years. When i joined fab i was going to clubs, doing group sex, having orgys and gangbangs. I had a regular number of guys i saw regular. I never did the kid in a sweetshop thing and it actually took me six months to meet the first guy but he went on to become a long term friend. I started meeting more guys from here. Id invite them over to my house for sex no social.

I was organizing and going to socials.

Then i decided i would do a social meet before one on ones. That went really well.

I had found the forums from the word go and quickly became an active member starting lots of inclusive threads and generally having a ball.

About 5 years ago i got fed up of clubs and just stopped going i also stopped going to socials.

I grew out of gangbangs and having sex with multiple people apart from mmfs and ffms

I was still seeing my regular guys and meeting new guys.

About three years ago i was quite poorly and took quite a long break from fab.

During that time i had plenty of talks with myself and realized i no longer wanted to meet new guys id got everything i wanted from my regular guys. I came back and hid my profile. From then onwards i took a step back. Although i still post on the forums im nowhere near as active ( or argumentative as i once was).

Ive really enjoyed my time on fab ive not had abuse been stood up or cancelled on I stay away from any drama.

Im a lot older now and quite happy to just see my regular guys without seeking attention from elsewhere. Its also the most contented ive ever been sexually it was always me wanting to chase and do more but never be satisfied.

Now i am satisfied and quite happy to take a back seat.

I enjoy seeing the up and coming newbies and watching their journeys begin. So i am happy where my journey has gone

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

Some great posts here.

About 7 years and maybe 3 profiles and more names.

The fat kid in the sweet shop phase was rather fun. Since then I’ve divorced, realised I can be extremely naive when my minge twinges, and met some absolutely amazing friends. I like that when I step into the forums I feel like I am someplace where I know some people and they know me, flaws and all.

The evolution of Mac is still happening but I don’t think I’ll leave Fab anytime soon. I seem to have found my groove after all this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im mainly here for the forums these days. Im not what most women want. I think its the shorts

Pink shorts are cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I started because an ex opened my eyes to swinging so when we broke up and I later god married I missed the lifestyle and yes I’ve been carrying on as a naughty guy. However I’ve asked my wife to entertain the idea of would she like other guys.....watch this space hopefully.....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Its been 2 years on here now, started off with sweet shop fucking and fantasy tick offs,

In that time I met my first fwb so I started to build a stable of regular longterm playmates and in that dec I found my first fab party social.

Lockdown was just a slight pause in the sexual bucket list, now things are back on track and I am enjoying physically consummating all of the online connections I have made with some wonderful friends

Next is continuing on with fab party socials as an attendee and a host and I have a few new friends to meet

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We’re still on the doorstep of the sweet shop. We’ve been inside and looked around but just as we had built up the courage to try a bendy banana and some cherry lips the sweet shop was closed down.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Same as OP, initial phase kid in the sweet shop followed by periods of absence only to come back for a bit, followed by further periods of absence - but all under the present profile. It has been a rather interesting journey, I did learn a bit about myself and I have become more tolerant.

Nowadays, enjoying the forums as I always have done, looking ahead at meeting people again but as always, I need a little bit of a "mental" connection to want to meet. Torsos and todgers alone don't do it for me, they have to be attached to a nice person with a sense of humour.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I became active 4 years ago and literally hit the ground running. I was working in western Wales at the time. Never had an issue with interacting people and getting meets. Initially it was pure debauchery with meets nearly every weekend with someone different. I discovered organised socials and enjoyed those. Next came clubs and their unique experience I fully embraced, and even co hosted a couple of events.

I was a free spirit and loving every minute of my second bachelorhood.

Unexpectedly met someone very special that made me rethink my priorities.

My shameless man tart phase is out of my system now. Hope to continue the journey side by side with that special someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still on the first rung after a few weeks, a fab virgin.

Had some interest expressed in meets but I've got a twitchy flake-o-meter. Like when I speak to both sides of a couple who look too good to be true and are well up for it but "she" uses exactly the same figures of speech he does and carries the same tone. Overcautious maybe but I got a run a mile vibe from that.

I'm very patient though.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I was part of a couples profile many years ago. We didn’t meet anyone and only went to a couple of clubs, without playing but it opened my eyes to this part.

When we split I got a single account and over 12 - 18 months I enjoyed my time travelling all over the country and just chatting and meeting lovely people. Then I decided FAB was taking too much of my time and I started a relationship with someone who was married (

), so I left, believing I’d never return again.

So when that relationship ended during the start of Covid I didn’t know what to do. Working from home, no interactions with anyone, I turned back to FAB.

I had to wait 2 weeks to join the forums again and within a few days I stumbled over C’s profile. She’d just been informed by one of her FWB’s that he was wanting something full time, which she wasn’t….so it opened up a space. So I came along at the right time.

We chatted all day, every day, about anything and everything. By the time we met after a couple of months we were already embedded into each other’s lives. Covid restricted us meeting anyone else so a bubble was formed.

We soon realised it was much more than FWB’s, the more time we spent together. Thankfully we both felt the same way and we made it official and decided there was a lot more we wanted to explore sexually and so here we are…having the time of our lives and enjoying the ride

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