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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

A compliment.

When I was younger of someone complimented me I'd deflect it....turn it into a joke or similar.

Now a day's I take them on the manner they are given.

Can you take a compliment?

Have you always being comfortable in doing so?

I think I used to feel embarrassed by compliments, now I embrace them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who from

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

No they’re up to something….

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes. Just smile and say thank you. And leave it at that. Maybe repay the compliment if I ha ve not already given one.

Believing it is a whole other issue.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If its genuine yes xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Not really no. I’ve never been great at it. I saw that thread done for you yesterday. If that had have been mean I would have died! I’d have logged off and not come back for days lol. X

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I appreciate them and give thanks no matter who it is and I like giving them also but sometimes they feel like hold no weight to someone who gets them constantly daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say "thank you". I might not always agree with them or believe they mean it, but I try to be gracious nonetheless. I used to deflect because it made me uncomfortable too, OP. I once heard somebody say that not accepting a compliment was a personal rejection of the giver. It made me think a bit.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It depends who is doing the complimenting. I've never been good at taking them, but honestly until fab it wasn't really an issue very often, and if I got a compliment I'd be embarrassed but at least I believed it was genuine.

These days I take everything with a bucket of salt and while compliments still make me blush it does take a lot to make me believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, no good at it, it feels false like it’s being done to get something in return.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I can't take them whatsoever. I used to deflect them but realised I was pissing people off in doing so. So I tend to say thank you or that's kind of you to say. And leave it there.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Can’t even remember the last time I got a compliment

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By *adlyDeeplyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Most men can I think, in fact they tend to compliment themselves!!

MrM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes nowadays when it's unexpected.

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P.s. You've a mighty fine personality OP

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

But I don't really like compliments xx true ones I don't mind x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Yes - on occasion when i do get them they make me happy.

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I've been known to give the compliment or 2 in hope that they are received well

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Take them with grace and appreciation with which they were intended

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes. It depends on who it is from, how I'm feeling at the time. There are certain ones that I'm always going to readily accept, others I'm polite and say thank you because I know they are well intended, regardless of how they land with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle. My best mate told me off once after her ladyship had complimented me saying she liked the way I smelt with a new aftershave she bought me. I thought this was nonsense, what she liked was the smell of the product which had become a bit of a joke between us "mmm that product you're wearing smells nice".

He told me that it was rude to deflect a compliment and sounded ungrateful so I try to be different now.

Mr

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm better at it than I used to be.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

A compliment is just acknowledging that we appreciate something about someone/thing else.

Most of the time we don’t like compliments because we know where all our skeletons are buried and so we can feel that they are not genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes . Compliments are better than the alternative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still feel embarrassed

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I still feel embarrassed "

Lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not great at it. But I think it really does depend who it’s from. If it’s from a close mate who will tell me when I look shit as well then I can take the compliments.

Or there is someone in my life who keeps telling me I look exhausted but still beautiful and that actually means a lot

But I find it difficult from others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still feel embarrassed

Lies "

Honestly I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a compliment????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it can lift your day.

(But it can also make you feel a bit smug, and then you think “but did they really mean it, or are they being sarcastic…”)

It depends on the giver as to how you respond.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

No, I find them awkward and embarrassing.

Oh look, a squirrel!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I feel very uncomfortable with most compliments. I like things to be objective and verifiable. That's rarely the case with a compliment.

If somebody gives me their opinion that I'm good at something or something they think is positive about me, I feel like accepting the compliment means I agree with them, and usually I don't. Luke

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes I can.

Just say thank you and smile.

The more you do it, the easier it gets.

Try it next time and see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say thanks even though I don’t believe them I don’t like awkwardness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get embarrassed

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I assume compliments are attempts at manipulation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope... On here I just assume they want to get laid... In person I just deflect... And assume they probably want to get laid... I find compliments quite empty... Insults I can take like a fucking champ tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No….. never have

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I accept them with grace and a smile...especially random ones from strangers, they can be so uplifting. Occasionally I'll make a joke of it, usually if it's from a close friend, and generally to stop them following up with a wisecrack...I have some twisted friends, but I know compliments from them are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it's from and what they say

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’m crap at accepting compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who it’s from. On here from a random, I take it with a juggernaut of salt.

If it’s from someone who knows me, I’ll accept it and say thank you.

If it’s someone close to me, I’ll really appreciate it.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Depends on the compliment, mostly I just get embarrassed, smile and say thankyou and change the subject

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I struggle to be honest.I find it easier to take compliments on my personality than my physicality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept a compliment, as it’s polite, but don’t often believe it I am getting better though

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Depends what it's about, if it's about work or something similar I'm more likely to accept it than if its directed at myself as in how I look.

That's a lack of confidence on my part too

Jo x

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm not the best at receiving compliments. I absolutely love giving them though and do so genuinely.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to give a compliment than take one xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It general (real life) I just say thanks and move the conversation on.

On here I rarely think a compliment is genuine but I’m not going to question it, so I just say thanks and move the conversation along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are few and far between these days.

But

If anyone compliments me I smile and say thank you. Then jump in the air clicking my heels as I walk away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm terrible at receiving compliments. I try to just say thank you and leave it at that, but I find myself arguing about how they must be mistaken, deluded, or just mad.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I really struggle

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I only take them from close friends, the rest I just smile and say thanks

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t like them, never have. I change the subject quickly or walk away

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Depends who’s doing the complimenting, if it’s someone I’ve spoken to for a while or met I’ll receive it well as it feels more genuine xx

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Not really no. I’ve never been great at it. I saw that thread done for you yesterday. If that had have been mean I would have died! I’d have logged off and not come back for days lol. X"

Aww the thread

It was totally unexpected and really appreciated

I has a bit of a crappy moment yesterday and the thread stopped and made me smile x

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By *amish SMan
over a year ago

Eastleigh

Occasionally give compliments, sometimes with a thanks or you don't mean it reply. But I find if I give a nice smile it is appreciated more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I can, but I never believe them. I gave up fighting people a very long time ago as it does you no favours and people can easily think you're just looking for attention.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

If it’s about my work or a new haircut then yes. Anything body related I just don’t understand.

I happily compliment others loads though - a poor woman in town must have thought I was nuts on Tuesday when I almost jumped in front of her, told her she look fab & wanted to know where her dress was from.

J x

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can take a compliment

A colleague at work complimented me a few weeks ago and I was like "I know right!" She laughed and said that she wished she could be more like me and accept compliments confidently.

People keep complimenting my hair atm, which has simply gone very (home dyed) wrong but apparently looks good. That's harder to take a compliment on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, but generally it makes me squirm and I turn it into a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time yes. Depends how surprised I am

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

No no no, call me every name under the sun and I’ll just bat it off. Tell me something nice or pass comment on something I’ve done I’ll do a “homer sinking into the bushes”

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

For the peeps who find it hard to accept compliments, do you think it's tied in with your self esteem?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"For the peeps who find it hard to accept compliments, do you think it's tied in with your self esteem?

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Yep, without a doubt.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I love compliments, especially if they're sincere.

They're food for the ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like backhanded compliments best. They make me laugh.

Last compliment I had, I was bouncing enthusiastically on a cock and he said I'm sexy. Men talk shit when they're about to/ have just cum.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It depends for me.

If someone is paying a compliment that plays into my perceptions of my strengths then I will take it (You're dead funny! Yes I am, thanks for noticing).

If it's something I don't perceive as a strength then I will immediately decide the person paying the compliment is full of shit and start getting sarcastic (You're gorgeous! Sure, why should I believe the evidence of my own eyes, every mirror and every photograph when I could listen to a horny bloke's sycophancy?).

I am excellent at paying compliments though, and like to do so frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s genuine

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"A compliment.

When I was younger of someone complimented me I'd deflect it....turn it into a joke or similar.

Now a day's I take them on the manner they are given.

Can you take a compliment?

Have you always being comfortable in doing so?

I think I used to feel embarrassed by compliments, now I embrace them "

Nope. I change the subject or just smile of its in person. Still can’t take compliments lol

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I love compliments, they are always flattering in my eyes I just don't like men complimenting my lips as its obvious what's on their mind before we even get to have a conversation first.

Unless they say I have kissable lips then I accept those

Otherwise just brush the lips compliments off with a thanks yeah so anyway looool xx

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Depends if they're being genuine or I think they want something.

I mostly just say thank you now.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

No.

I don't know how to take them to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I just say thank you but always try to compliment them back as if I owe them one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so good at taking them! I mean why not I deserve them after all and my name is fab

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Probably laugh it off or make a joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, no good at it, it feels false like it’s being done to get something in return. "

Wow feel sorry for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope... On here I just assume they want to get laid... In person I just deflect... And assume they probably want to get laid... I find compliments quite empty... Insults I can take like a fucking champ tho! "

Well I guess you are right… they can only lie

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By *BWBI2019Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I've learnt to always say "thank you for the compliment" now doesn't necessarily mean I believe what they say but to put other people's positivity down with negativity is just going to make everyone feel abit shit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah. I usually end up laughing them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get them very often so I tend to get embarrassed when it happens

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By *adistic_visionMan
over a year ago

bolsover

I tend to answer with offering them my glasses as they must be in need of them

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

No idea why but I just find them hard to take, even when I know there very sincere. I really don't know what say when complimented in any situation, I always feel I try and deflect then and afterwards have a word with myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t take them well but I don’t get them often so that’s ok

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I’m good at taking compliments, but then I‘ve had plenty of practice

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

It depends on who says it & in what context.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad to say that I’m notoriously bad at accepting and believing compliments , I always think it’s just some kind of ploy to get in my knickers.

I wish I knew why I find it so hard to just accept them for the nice thing they are ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m good at taking compliments, but then I‘ve had plenty of practice "

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

No. I absolutely can’t.

I try to just accept any with grace but they make me uncomfortable.

I feel that any I get come with the expectation of reciprocity, that they’re giving me one to receive one in return or with a cost involved. Mainly because that’s how it’s often been in the past

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