FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies what’s your opinion

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello and good evening to all you lovely fabbers.

I have a question for the ladies if I may.

Is a man that is a single parent (full time) something that would put you off him if he liked you and wanted to have a relationship with you?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Nope. Not at all.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Hello and good evening to all you lovely fabbers.

I have a question for the ladies if I may.

Is a man that is a single parent (full time) something that would put you off him if he liked you and wanted to have a relationship with you? "

Plenty of ladies are single parents full time. Pretty sure if you want an actual relationship it's not a problem.to a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. Not at all."

Do you think that some women would find it an off putting thing ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hello and good evening to all you lovely fabbers.

I have a question for the ladies if I may.

Is a man that is a single parent (full time) something that would put you off him if he liked you and wanted to have a relationship with you? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello and good evening to all you lovely fabbers.

I have a question for the ladies if I may.

Is a man that is a single parent (full time) something that would put you off him if he liked you and wanted to have a relationship with you?

That’s what I would of thought before being in the situation myself but I have found it’s been a bit of an obstacle

Plenty of ladies are single parents full time. Pretty sure if you want an actual relationship it's not a problem.to a lot of people. "

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Nope. Not at all.

Do you think that some women would find it an off putting thing ? "

Some women would.

But some women would find it a bonus.

And some women wouldn't give a monkey's right bollock either way.

If you want a relationship with a person you take into account everything about them. And kids are a part of the deal. Want that person, want everything about them. Including the kids. That doesn't mean it's going to be easy. It probably isn't. Because two people trying to make something work is hard enough in a lot of ways. Adding another human or more humans into it will obviously make it more difficult.

But if it is what you want, you make the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would for me.

I don't date men with kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. Not at all.

Do you think that some women would find it an off putting thing ?

Some women would.

But some women would find it a bonus.

And some women wouldn't give a monkey's right bollock either way.

But if it is what you want, you make the effort."

That’s what I was hoping would be the case but I’ve been dipping my toe back into the dating world for about 6 months now and found it’s been a lot harder after they find out I’m a full time dad and don’t have nights free very often ( he’s mum only has him 5 hours every other Saturday)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would for me.

I don't date men with kids."

Do you mind me asking why you feel like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would for me.

I don't date men with kids.

Do you mind me asking why you feel like that? "

There are several small reasons, but I suppose the honest truth is that I don't like other people's kids and I don't want to be involved in bringing up a child who isn't mine

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Nope. Not at all.

Do you think that some women would find it an off putting thing ?

Some women would.

But some women would find it a bonus.

And some women wouldn't give a monkey's right bollock either way.

But if it is what you want, you make the effort.

It will be harder. And having so little time to spend with a date will make it harder still. It'll be about being inventive in order to find time for each other.

I really do wish you all the luck in the world with your dating journey OP. I hope it works out for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. Not at all.

Do you think that some women would find it an off putting thing ?

Some women would.

But some women would find it a bonus.

And some women wouldn't give a monkey's right bollock either way.

But if it is what you want, you make the effort.

It will be harder. And having so little time to spend with a date will make it harder still. It'll be about being inventive in order to find time for each other.

I really do wish you all the luck in the world with your dating journey OP. I hope it works out for you

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Thank you

Seems I’m going to need it lol

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I wouldn’t get involved with a man with children. Just a personal choice and I will be in the minority.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Some will find it a turn off, some won't x

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

It wouldn't put me off, I'm a full time solo parent as well so I'd be a bit of a hypocrite if I discounted a man who was in the same situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m glad I asked this question as it seems to be varied of opinions so thank you everyone for your feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off but for my own reasons.

My kids are very nearly grown and Im finally nearly done - to start that again, even for an amazing guy, wouldnt appeal to me.

But there are plenty of women who are at different points in their lives and wouldnt mind or would even love it!

Lolly xxx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

"Hello and good evening to all you lovely fabbers.

I have a question for the ladies if I may.

Is a man that is a single parent (full time) something that would put you off him if he liked you and wanted to have a relationship with you? "

Yeah I know its extremely hard to find but not impossible but I personally would date a guy with children as from my personal experience its never worked out well for me.

I just believe everyone should know their own luck and what works for them. It's nothing to do with the child or children its always been their child's mother that's either given me grief or tried get in between us.

I've become so comfortable and content with single life anyway that I can't vision me wanting to date romantically let alone seeing it happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would probably find it a bonus to be honest as he would understand my situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't put me off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn’t bother me, it might make it trickier to arrange meets, especially if the woman is a single parent too I guess, but if you want to make it work you will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'd be hypocrite.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would be put off dating someone who could only meet once a fortnight for a few hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be the unpopular one here, but yes it would. When I was dating I had a list of no no's and single dads or men with young children was up near the top. Because I've raised my family, its bloody hard work, and now I have a bit of freedom, less hassle and money that's my own. I don't want to go backwards and start again. You might not like my answer, but that's how I feel about it. Plenty of women wouldn't be bothered

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single mum and my boys don't see their dad at all. It wouldn't put me off, however the logistics of both of us being in that situation would make it harder. Although the trade off is that both have an understanding of the situation.

I'm lucky in that my boys are much older now but i remember the loneliness of having no time for me. I worked and came home and that was my life for many years.

For the right person it won't be a problem.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It would me, as I've never wanted children, so not what I'm looking for (if I was single).

I'd always appreciate the children would be a parents main focus and rightly so.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It wouldn't put me off, but both me and M have young children from a previous relationship. And I can't lie it's been hard to merge together, especially with awkward ex's. So although it wouldn't put me off it's something I had to consider in great depth as my kids come first, if that makes sense?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It depends on the person and their situation; if they’re young/single and child free, then it might be a barrier but many people have children and juggling life needs with responsibilities is part of being on fab.

I would just be careful that you don’t ‘use’ your children as a way to try to make you look like a ‘good guy’. I’ve seen some guys do that and it’s quite unsettling

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Maybe women that don't have kids would be put off, people who aren't parents don't always get it.

I've been a single parent for a long time, I know how hard it is and how valuable your free time is.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"It depends on the person and their situation; if they’re young/single and child free, then it might be a barrier but many people have children and juggling life needs with responsibilities is part of being on fab.

I would just be careful that you don’t ‘use’ your children as a way to try to make you look like a ‘good guy’. I’ve seen some guys do that and it’s quite unsettling "

I've seen this alot... They claim to be single dads when in fact they only have their kids every other weekend. It's really not the same thing!

OP is obviously the main carer though.

You just need a good support system, myself and the other single parents would often take it in turns to have the kids over night, to let the others have a break.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

No..it wouldn't!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

To be honest, it probably would if he had full-time custody...I've never wanted children. Having shared custody is a different matter entirely, and I wouldn't bat an eyelid at that. But, like everything, it would very much depend on the individual person and circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just be careful that you don’t ‘use’ your children as a way to try to make you look like a ‘good guy’. I’ve seen some guys do that and it’s quite unsettling "

The old virtue signalling thing.

I might be wrong but in my life experience I have come across far more 'single mothers' than 'single dads'. Most people in this situation dont use their kids to project a positive image of themselves - they just get in with parenting as best they can.....but some people do leverage their kids in this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have said "wouldn't be an issue" however last year I met a widow with 3 teens and it was tough as found it hard to find time to meet etc, I'm at a stage in my life where I want to enjoy my life, I raised my son completely alone but I think for the right person I'd make it work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth of the situation is that having children full time doesn't leave much time to devote to a relationship. Even if a woman likes children, she may feel frustrated at how slow a relationship progresses out of necessity with a full-custody dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t put me off but I’m not a very kiddy person. Kids in general annoy me and I can’t do fake niceness. Although I have a child myself I’ve found that when I’m around other people with their children and they do things that I wouldn’t do with my own child I can’t bite my tongue. An example I have a friend who has a child that is 4, the kid could be doing something naughty and she’ll laugh with the kid and playfully grab him and say no but then change no to giving him a tow but then playfully grab him and laugh again. I’m just looking at her thinking just fucking shout at the kid, be stern stop fucking laughing cos he thinks it’s a game.

I’ve been very stern with my own child and never tolerated bull shit and I have no issue shouting at someone else’s kid but it’s nothing I wouldn’t say or do to my own child but other people get shocked by it.

It’s like nah if you’re gonna bring your child to my house and let it fuck around then expect me to lose my shit like I would with my own.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

At the age I am now, very much so. When I was younger I would have been hesitant to become involved with a full time single father. A parent always puts their children first rightly so and I'm not sure I'd have been happy with that

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Generally no but it's different depending on if you have your own kids, how old you are, your priorities in life etc.

If it does bother someone though it's not worth persuing. Imo.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I'm currently step mum to 5 children .. my ex had 4 who all despite his subsequent marriages see me as their step mum and now have a 10 year old who thinks I'm the coolest step mum in the world.

So it wouldn't put me off but I for 14 years maintained I'd stay single for ever lol

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