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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Just think of something really unsexy like your nan on the loo

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

A long cable tie will do the trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks. "

Hahaha i have a massage every week on Weds, usually at 5pm its my day off in the week. Have one every week for years due to my job is very stressful n full of tensions. I get aroused everytime. Ive had 3 women in that time who have massaged me. 1st was awesome for getting me feel better but knew i was aroused but became good friends n they are not stupid it happens so its accepted and they are clever with Towel. 2nd one was good, became a friend also but she talked of her naughty past n how she went to sex clubs, so offered me happy ending each time. I moved area so she was too far for me. Girl i have now is a gorgeous Thai lady who is expert in massage n does everything but touch ur cock but cant get any closer or ur bum hole. However will not and does not offer extras, n in a way its still amazing, n u just crack one off when u get home. Wonderful. They all know n accept its part of the job, as to what they do is their choice not yours so never push ur luck.

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By *randmrsrusCouple
over a year ago

legbourne

Bromide!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just think of something really unsexy like your nan on the loo "

(shudder)

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Just think of something really unsexy like your nan on the loo

(shudder) "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks.

Hahaha i have a massage every week on Weds, usually at 5pm its my day off in the week. Have one every week for years due to my job is very stressful n full of tensions. I get aroused everytime. Ive had 3 women in that time who have massaged me. 1st was awesome for getting me feel better but knew i was aroused but became good friends n they are not stupid it happens so its accepted and they are clever with Towel. 2nd one was good, became a friend also but she talked of her naughty past n how she went to sex clubs, so offered me happy ending each time. I moved area so she was too far for me. Girl i have now is a gorgeous Thai lady who is expert in massage n does everything but touch ur cock but cant get any closer or ur bum hole. However will not and does not offer extras, n in a way its still amazing, n u just crack one off when u get home. Wonderful. They all know n accept its part of the job, as to what they do is their choice not yours so never push ur luck."

Ah that's good to know. Maybe I'll just go with the flow. Last thing I want to do is get uptight about it and not enjoy the massage

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bromide!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was taught to simply ignore anything like that and move to another area of the body. If it was a full body massage I'd do the front of the body first so I could spend more time on the back as it's the largest area to massage. That way anything embarrassing to you would be covered when you rolled onto your tummy.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Have a male instead? Or would you still get aroused?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a massage therapist and yes, it does happen. Any therapist knows this, it’s not a drama. Just ignore it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was taught to simply ignore anything like that and move to another area of the body. If it was a full body massage I'd do the front of the body first so I could spend more time on the back as it's the largest area to massage. That way anything embarrassing to you would be covered when you rolled onto your tummy.

"

That's a good point!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have a male instead? Or would you still get aroused?"

Not sure really. not had one from a guy yet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a massage therapist and yes, it does happen. Any therapist knows this, it’s not a drama. Just ignore it and move on "

That makes me feel at ease knowing that. Thank you.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks. "

Just go for the back and shoulder massage and possibly a male masseur?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks.

Just go for the back and shoulder massage and possibly a male masseur? "

I'm a full body massage type of guy

Male masseur? Not had one from a guy yet, but who knows how I'd react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This did make me chuckle OP but hope it goes well for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This did make me chuckle OP but hope it goes well for you "

Ha. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right,

So I want to treat myself and have a bit of a spa day where I could possibly go for a swim etc and maybe have a massage treatment.

Now here's the problem.

I can get quite easily aroused when I have someone massaging me, especially in sensitive areas like the inner thigh etc. It's happened in the past. Not out of choice, but it just happens. I can't help it. I think I enjoy the touch of another human being too much.

Has anyone had this problem before and if so, how have you tried to negate this issue? Is there a solution at all?

Thanks.

Hahaha i have a massage every week on Weds, usually at 5pm its my day off in the week. Have one every week for years due to my job is very stressful n full of tensions. I get aroused everytime. Ive had 3 women in that time who have massaged me. 1st was awesome for getting me feel better but knew i was aroused but became good friends n they are not stupid it happens so its accepted and they are clever with Towel. 2nd one was good, became a friend also but she talked of her naughty past n how she went to sex clubs, so offered me happy ending each time. I moved area so she was too far for me. Girl i have now is a gorgeous Thai lady who is expert in massage n does everything but touch ur cock but cant get any closer or ur bum hole. However will not and does not offer extras, n in a way its still amazing, n u just crack one off when u get home. Wonderful. They all know n accept its part of the job, as to what they do is their choice not yours so never push ur luck.

Ah that's good to know. Maybe I'll just go with the flow. Last thing I want to do is get uptight about it and not enjoy the massage "

Best way, enjoy it n accept it, theyre not stupid, they do.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Would having a couple of wanks just before not help?

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

Thai massage is a safe bet for a happy ending x

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

Male massage therapist here and I echo what the other therapists here have said. Massage theory just dictates u ignore it and move on to another body part. Its a natural response so don't be embarrassed and possibly why a lot of men don't like being massaged by another man as they think it sends out the wrong signal- sexual interest, when the truth is it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would having a couple of wanks just before not help?"

You know what...that's not a bad shout. Although, I'd have to have about 4 before I turn up as I get aroused multiple times a day even after a wank

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Male massage therapist here and I echo what the other therapists here have said. Massage theory just dictates u ignore it and move on to another body part. Its a natural response so don't be embarrassed and possibly why a lot of men don't like being massaged by another man as they think it sends out the wrong signal- sexual interest, when the truth is it isn't. "

Brill. Thanks mate. That's reassuring

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

There's nothing wrong with getting an erection. No shame. It doesn't mean your therapist has to do anything with it. Just enjoy being fully alive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's nothing wrong with getting an erection. No shame. It doesn't mean your therapist has to do anything with it. Just enjoy being fully alive. "

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think it's something that must happen to most guys getting a massage tbh. You can't help how your body responds!

However, I recently learned (thanks to Reddit lol) that if you get a hard on to get of it just tense up your leg muscles or flex your arm muscles, it directs the flow of blood to those muscles instead!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Pick someone who is not attractive to you and control your mind and body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just be transparent and voice the concern. Ask her to ignore it but totally engage with the feeling.

When men massage me I set a clear boundary of no go areas. But then I enjoy the “fantasy” of it in their hands. Knowing there’s no pressure to be anything but receiving pleasure is lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's something that must happen to most guys getting a massage tbh. You can't help how your body responds!

However, I recently learned (thanks to Reddit lol) that if you get a hard on to get of it just tense up your leg muscles or flex your arm muscles, it directs the flow of blood to those muscles instead! "

That's a new one. Not heard of this technique before. I'll give it a try

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Could you listen to a podcast or music with headphones during? Keep your mind occupied

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would just be transparent and voice the concern. Ask her to ignore it but totally engage with the feeling.

When men massage me I set a clear boundary of no go areas. But then I enjoy the “fantasy” of it in their hands. Knowing there’s no pressure to be anything but receiving pleasure is lovely. "

Yeah maybe. I guess it's a natural response from my body. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could you listen to a podcast or music with headphones during? Keep your mind occupied "

Meh, would be too distracted. I want to immerse myself and enjoy the massage in peace and quiet. Something we don't tend to get nowadays in life eh?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Could you listen to a podcast or music with headphones during? Keep your mind occupied

Meh, would be too distracted. I want to immerse myself and enjoy the massage in peace and quiet. Something we don't tend to get nowadays in life eh? "

Bust one out before you go then lol? That should keep him down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could you listen to a podcast or music with headphones during? Keep your mind occupied

Meh, would be too distracted. I want to immerse myself and enjoy the massage in peace and quiet. Something we don't tend to get nowadays in life eh?

Bust one out before you go then lol? That should keep him down "

Might need to bust out 2 or 3 knowing my little pecker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Update:

I just had a massage this afternoon. Deep tissue. Really enjoyed it.

I did get a stiffy a couple of times though!

First time, I was lying down so it was all good.

And the second time, I had one for a moment and she did notice but I played it cool, so there was no embarassment from either side.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"Update:

I just had a massage this afternoon. Deep tissue. Really enjoyed it.

I did get a stiffy a couple of times though!

First time, I was lying down so it was all good.

And the second time, I had one for a moment and she did notice but I played it cool, so there was no embarassment from either side.

"

Great!

I'm a masseuse a honestly.. If you get a decent, experienced therapist, the chances are we've seen this before and its not a problem. It's very natural. Massages are sensual, the body responds and even if you were drifting into an erotic fantasy.. That's your business!

Maybe you should think about some tantric massage?? Then sexual and sensual response is perfectly welcome.. Within the boundaries of the type of massage you have arranged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Update:

I just had a massage this afternoon. Deep tissue. Really enjoyed it.

I did get a stiffy a couple of times though!

First time, I was lying down so it was all good.

And the second time, I had one for a moment and she did notice but I played it cool, so there was no embarassment from either side.

Great!

I'm a masseuse a honestly.. If you get a decent, experienced therapist, the chances are we've seen this before and its not a problem. It's very natural. Massages are sensual, the body responds and even if you were drifting into an erotic fantasy.. That's your business!

Maybe you should think about some tantric massage?? Then sexual and sensual response is perfectly welcome.. Within the boundaries of the type of massage you have arranged. "

Ah that's a good point! Never thought about a tantric massage but might put that on my list for next time.

Today was really enjoyable. I play a lot of tennis/football, so it was good to get the knots out of my shoulders!

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