FabSwingers.com forum: Planner or winger?

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Do you plan ahead in life..or go with the flow and just wing it.

Best laid plans and all that....

If you stick to the plan, does it not leave room for experiences that you may not have had if you'd just taken a chance?

Are you a meticulous planner and don't deviate from them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both. I do like to plan somethings to keep a handle on anxiety (and I always like to know where I'll be eating) but in general I'm a winger.

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By *osmicRobMan
over a year ago

Chorlton cum Hardy

I believe things happen for a reason in life so despite the best plans you gotta go with the flow and not worry too much.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m a planner but there is always room for a curve ball too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both works well... knowing the do's and don'ts...and then going with the flow

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'm a bit of a winger. I have trouble planning what I'm having for dinner

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’m a planner but there is always room for a curve ball too

I should be more of a planer in life...I wonder of it'd too late now to change my ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like having plans to look forward to

And I'm a bit wary of people who are incapable of making plans

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Bit of both. I do like to plan somethings to keep a handle on anxiety (and I always like to know where I'll be eating) but in general I'm a winger."

I suppose planning can help to alleviate some anxiety

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I plan but can equally drop everything and change tack in an instant.

The best plans factor in eventualities and appropriate deviations. X

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I was a winger until i had kids and turned into a bit of both, then had to turn into a meticulous planner when I became a single parent and that's sort of stuck now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a planner but there is always room for a curve ball too

I should be more of a planer in life...I wonder of it'd too late now to change my ways

Never to late to learn a new skill like carpentry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would say a bit off both to be honest sometimes plans can change x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a winger. I have trouble planning what I'm having for dinner"

I always plan dinner. Food is a big thing for me - comes from growing up in a family which revolved around food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am both... If i have too many plans i get overwhelmed.. So spontaneity is sometimes good... I think i like to feel in control perhaps!

I'm really not keen on people planning on my behalf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a winger. I have trouble planning what I'm having for dinner

I always plan dinner. Food is a big thing for me - comes from growing up in a family which revolved around food."

I like to buy all my food in one go, so generally have a menu planned for the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Down to the last detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am both... If i have too many plans i get overwhelmed.. So spontaneity is sometimes good... I think i like to feel in control perhaps!

I'm really not keen on people planning on my behalf"

I hate other people planning for me. I think I'm a control freak..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am both... If i have too many plans i get overwhelmed.. So spontaneity is sometimes good... I think i like to feel in control perhaps!

I'm really not keen on people planning on my behalf

I hate other people planning for me. I think I'm a control freak..

Or when you have plans, invite someone else and the plans end up being completely changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I plan but it's always many legged plan. Lots of options in case plan A, B and C fail.

It's also part of the experience. Such as planning for a holiday. And sex.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Bit of both really. The way my life is means I have to plan but I do like spontaneity.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Planner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a winger. I have trouble planning what I'm having for dinner

I always plan dinner. Food is a big thing for me - comes from growing up in a family which revolved around food.

I like to buy all my food in one go, so generally have a menu planned for the week

Snap

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’m an agent of chaos

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

A bit of both. I plan the big stuff, then the little things tend to have me winging it.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Both of both I guess......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a planner with home stuff and 100% with work... socially more wing it - when I spent the bank holiday in manchester it was massively frustrating having to book every pub / bar in advance... took a bit of the spontaneity out of the day!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have to plan my days as they can be very busy, and people rely on me.

Yesterday I had my morning written down, hour by hour, as I was worried about being late, and making someone else late for work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am both... If i have too many plans i get overwhelmed.. So spontaneity is sometimes good... I think i like to feel in control perhaps!

I'm really not keen on people planning on my behalf

I hate other people planning for me. I think I'm a control freak..

Or when you have plans, invite someone else and the plans end up being completely changed

I hate that!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have terrible anxiety around time constraints.

I used to become very ill if I thought I was going to be late for school or work.

It's debilitating.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

A bit of both. I love organising certain things because I get such a rush from it and I also like being in control, there's less room for error that way. I also like leaving some things up to whatever it is and seeing how things go. So yes. Neither but both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best winging it was two nights in Paris with an ex. Just got the Eurostar there on a whim, found a hotel, ate at McDonald's and got d*unk in cafés. It was February.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I’m a planner - I have to for my anxiety. If it’s not on the calendar then it’s not happening. T is very go with the flow

J x

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’m an agent of chaos"

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"A bit of both. I love organising certain things because I get such a rush from it and I also like being in control, there's less room for error that way. I also like leaving some things up to whatever it is and seeing how things go. So yes. Neither but both."

Lies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So in conclusion...

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm a bit of both, say if we want to go away I'll plan the time, travel, accommodation and if there's like an exhibit or something I want to go see. The rest I'm happy winging it and see what takes my fancy.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just drifting along in the tide of life…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best laid plans always go awol so now just winging it through life and take each day as it comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best winging it was two nights in Paris with an ex. Just got the Eurostar there on a whim, found a hotel, ate at McDonald's and got d*unk in cafés. It was February."

My mate always books her hotel accom as she lands in the airport

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"My best winging it was two nights in Paris with an ex. Just got the Eurostar there on a whim, found a hotel, ate at McDonald's and got d*unk in cafés. It was February.

My mate always books her hotel accom as she lands in the airport

If she can't find one, she can always bunk with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit of both. I do like to plan somethings to keep a handle on anxiety (and I always like to know where I'll be eating) but in general I'm a winger."

Same. I want to be a planner as my anxiety needs structure to stay in check and I try really hard, but I end up flying by the seat of my pants most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best winging it was two nights in Paris with an ex. Just got the Eurostar there on a whim, found a hotel, ate at McDonald's and got d*unk in cafés. It was February.

My mate always books her hotel accom as she lands in the airport

I'd wing it for a few nights. Go somewhere by train and just sort it out when you get there. Longer I'd have to pre-book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best winging it was two nights in Paris with an ex. Just got the Eurostar there on a whim, found a hotel, ate at McDonald's and got d*unk in cafés. It was February.

My mate always books her hotel accom as she lands in the airport

If she can't find one, she can always bunk with you

Ithink that's her plan

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