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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." lol | |||
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"Have to say I use lol a lot. Apparently it's a generation thing. Also.... Does she mean lots of love or laugh out loud? " Like me, she (at 58) probably remembers 'LOL' meaning lots of love in family letters but I have no doubt she now is using it where an exclamation mark would do adequately! | |||
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"Hmmm it depends. I don't mind lol. I really dislike babe, babes, hun etc in messages on here because there are two of us and I think it's rude. Being in my sixties "darling" was the pet name of choice for most of my life, these other words just sound wrong in my ears when applied to me" Alright me duck  | |||
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"I don't like to be called babe or hun. I am guilty of sometimes calling someone love, as it's very much a Yorkshire way of addressing someone, especially when you can't remember their name "That or duck. | |||
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"A certain someone calls me Babe all the time ... I actually quite like it , it's better than Twat "Rude. Moose. | |||
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 . I hate being called babe but I often call people babe. Not babes though. And not if I don’t know them well. I think babe is a southern thing to be honest. Never heard it used until I moved daaaarn saaaaarf | |||
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"A certain someone calls me Babe all the time ... I actually quite like it , it's better than Twat
Rude.
Moose."Is that because I'm always horny or I look like one | |||
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"I'm half Hungarian so I probably am related to Atilla. But hate hun with a passion. Same as babe I'm not a pig. " Aren't most people? I heard that he was that prolific. | |||
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"A certain someone calls me Babe all the time ... I actually quite like it , it's better than Twat
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Moose.
Is that because I'm always horny or I look like one "I don't know. I haven't decided yet. It came to me one day and it stuck. | |||
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"A certain someone calls me Babe all the time ... I actually quite like it , it's better than Twat
Rude.
Moose.
Is that because I'm always horny or I look like one
I don't know. I haven't decided yet. It came to me one day and it stuck."It was rather random yes  | |||
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"It's a living nightmare for you, poor sod. I wouldn't dwell on the pet names, I'd only see that a women was writing to me. "The real nightmare is that I'm beginning to suspect that, in this instance, 'hun' could be a short form of 'husband'. Then I would be a poor sod! | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." Tell her to fuck right off, can't stand that talk | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." I dislike babe and babes and hun is just ew. Just ask her to call you by your first name … say that you love her using your real name? It’s not such a bad thing to ask of someone … especially if you’re planning on being friends a while? … surely it’s ok to bring up the odd stuff? Lol … ehhhh I’m keeping quiet about that one as it’s there in black & white on our profile and I am tryyyyying to stop doing it *whispers lol  | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her. Tell her to fuck right off, can't stand that talk" bit harsh  | |||
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"Awww I love to call women hun babe babes and a guy that I like gets called it too well maybe not so much hun I use lol but only if I feel its necessary otherwise to me its pointless but alot of people are in the habit of using lol especially and to me when it's overdone I wonder if it's to show that their nervous or unsure xx" come here babe. how was your day. fuck your day, lets just go to bed x | |||
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"Depends lol i use and can live with as long as it really is a laugh out loud, not I'm going to be passive aggressive and add a lol to soften the blow. My lols are me laughing. Did she start calling you babes ect from the outset...if so should have nipped it in the bud, if its developed then maybe its because thats her way of connecting with you in her mind, less online cold. If it really grates on you either way I'd say... hey...name... i love that our chat is going well and you feel comfortable calling me ...insert... it's just that i prefer to save those terms of endearment affection for when we really know each other, I know to some people they're just nice words but to me when i say it i mean it. If she gets a cob on you've dodged a bullet, if not she may slip up which you can make a joke of, say what now? How does that sound? " hey sweet. hows my fav babe from plymouth | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." Just tell her. If she doesn’t know about it she can’t alter it. And if she doesn’t want to alter it then you’ll both have saved each other wasted time in finding out you are even more incompatible. | |||
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"Depends lol i use and can live with as long as it really is a laugh out loud, not I'm going to be passive aggressive and add a lol to soften the blow. My lols are me laughing. Did she start calling you babes ect from the outset...if so should have nipped it in the bud, if its developed then maybe its because thats her way of connecting with you in her mind, less online cold. If it really grates on you either way I'd say... hey...name... i love that our chat is going well and you feel comfortable calling me ...insert... it's just that i prefer to save those terms of endearment affection for when we really know each other, I know to some people they're just nice words but to me when i say it i mean it. If she gets a cob on you've dodged a bullet, if not she may slip up which you can make a joke of, say what now? How does that sound? hey sweet. hows my fav babe from plymouth " | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." Just say it. It's putting you off and most people can control it once they are told  humorous and gentle does it | |||
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"Hate the word hun here and in real life! Also nawty really annoys me too " so your not nawty then? owwwww  | |||
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"Awww I love to call women hun babe babes and a guy that I like gets called it too well maybe not so much hun I use lol but only if I feel its necessary otherwise to me its pointless but alot of people are in the habit of using lol especially and to me when it's overdone I wonder if it's to show that their nervous or unsure xx come here babe. how was your day. fuck your day, lets just go to bed x" Loooooooool danger ranger xx this tickled me | |||
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"Depends lol i use and can live with as long as it really is a laugh out loud, not I'm going to be passive aggressive and add a lol to soften the blow. My lols are me laughing. Did she start calling you babes ect from the outset...if so should have nipped it in the bud, if its developed then maybe its because thats her way of connecting with you in her mind, less online cold. If it really grates on you either way I'd say... hey...name... i love that our chat is going well and you feel comfortable calling me ...insert... it's just that i prefer to save those terms of endearment affection for when we really know each other, I know to some people they're just nice words but to me when i say it i mean it. If she gets a cob on you've dodged a bullet, if not she may slip up which you can make a joke of, say what now? How does that sound? ... Just tell her. If she doesn’t know about it she can’t alter it. And if she doesn’t want to alter it then you’ll both have saved each other wasted time in finding out you are even more incompatible. " Two sound pieces of advice there. Needless to say, there is no physical incompatibility or it wouldn't have got this far. However, I should have said something about babes and Hun right at the start but was hoping that my non-reciprocation might drop the hint. On balance, I might just ignore it. I have had previous relationships where the sex was good but conjugal life was ruled out by repeated use of phrases which I couldn't bear to hear used such as: 'You get ma drift?'. Another would add '..and blah blah blah' to almost everything (that drove me crackers). Luckily I've not had to endure a 'you know?', a 'djinott ar mean?' or an 'I was like' user as a lover....yet! I've observed 'you know' spreading like covid once one person introduces it into a conversation. It gets picked up very easily. I need to find an annoying phrase for me to use, with the too keen, which will have the same deterrent effect as the 19 inch wide rack mounted Wayne Kerr Performance Meter (looked like an oscilloscope) which I kept in my bedroom to frighten off those dreaming of wedding bells. Bar all the hobbies related junk and my fancy free nature, I'm too much of a good catch, especially with no children who I know about. That's the real problem! | |||
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"Hate the word hun here and in real life! Also nawty really annoys me too so your not nawty then? owwwww "Not with anyone who starts a first message with hi nawty, then usually carries on with a cringe message | |||
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".. Just say it. It's putting you off and most people can control it once they are told humorous and gentle does it "Thanks, that one came in while I was typing! I could always say "I've been discussing pet names with my friends on Fab Swingers and the consensus is... ". That in itself might cool things adequately, especially as it wasn't here that we met! | |||
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".. Just say it. It's putting you off and most people can control it once they are told humorous and gentle does it
Thanks, that one came in while I was typing!
I could always say "I've been discussing pet names with my friends on Fab Swingers and the consensus is... ". That in itself might cool things adequately, especially as it wasn't here that we met! "Me and my friends opinion vs your annoying habit. Hmm.. Maybe something else. | |||
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"Give her the benefit of the doubt for a short coffee meet........ If she calls you babes or hun or LOLs every time you speak NEVER darken her door again ...... If I was getting that when texting with someone i'd know right away that we were not going to be able to converse....... Mind you if he was 6ft and sexy I'd meet just to do the dirties once. Give it a go ...." It got well beyond the coffee stage by the second meet. The physical attraction is not in doubt. The choice of terms of endearment is merely symptomatic of of my realisation that various underlying differences will inevitably stop things at some point. For that reason I'm inclined to not go down the route of using the consensus on here as a lever. Finally, if 'the dirties' are enjoyable, why stop at just once? | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her." Can't stand being called Babe, Babes or even worse, Bbe! Also hate the use of lol. I'll never use it and it puts me off someone if they use it. | |||
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"I've met someone (from another site, who won't be reading this) who I am pleased to say is mainly content to contact me via SMS rather than any proprietary medium. The only problem is that she insists on calling me 'Babes' or 'Hun', both of which I inherently detest (I only live near the wood and am not related to Attila). To make things even worse, she rounds messages off with 'Lol'. Does anyone else dislike these terms and if so do you just grin and bear it and hope that your own never using them might drop a hint? I haven't got the heart to tell her. Tell her to fuck right off, can't stand that talk" rude doesn't bother me also get called flower. | |||
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"I can't stand pet names. For me it's because of my job and we aren't allowed to use pet names as it's usually a term of endearment between couples, loved ones etc. I will ask people to use my name instead. " OK, I'll do that 4373 | |||
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"Old friend of mine used “cock”, as in “alright cock?” Never forget the local landlady’s face when he paid for some drinks and asked, “got enough, cock”. " My Nana use to say that | |||
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"I'd like to call everyone bub like wolverine but don't think I could pull it off. " Only really works when being a little stand offish and passive aggressive. As for the OP, there are plenty of words that are frustrating, a lot of them are regional and just a thing said. Some may be stereotypical like the geordie "pet" or the Bristolian "me lover" Others are generational. Some are just habitual like the bizzare xx I get at the end of some messages and texts of people I'm not familiar with. Unless it was directly offensive then I'd not let words get in the way of something good. Until a deeper familiarity is formed and I would piss take their overuse of the words as friendly bant... No, I fucking hate that word... I refuse to use it   | |||
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"I'd like to call everyone bub like wolverine but don't think I could pull it off. Only really works when being a little stand offish and passive aggressive. As for the OP, there are plenty of words that are frustrating, a lot of them are regional and just a thing said. Some may be stereotypical like the geordie "pet" or the Bristolian "me lover" Others are generational. Some are just habitual like the bizzare xx I get at the end of some messages and texts of people I'm not familiar with. Unless it was directly offensive then I'd not let words get in the way of something good. Until a deeper familiarity is formed and I would piss take their overuse of the words as friendly bant... No, I fucking hate that word... I refuse to use it "Oh yes definitely works and have used it in that context, along with petal and cupcake. | |||
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"Someone at work called me flower and I’m still beaming from it. I’m definitely giving her a Christmas card. " To quote Peter Gabriel then David Bowie "A Flower?" | |||
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"Someone at work called me flower and I’m still beaming from it. I’m definitely giving her a Christmas card. " Awk thats nice petal | |||
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