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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's much difference in the time I've been here

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I don't know if it's a thing that has become worse on FAB as I don't think I've been here long enough to judge.

However, I've definitely seen more entitled behaviour outside of FAB in the last few years.

Unsure what the reasoning is though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop putting others on pedestal they don't deserve.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…"

I demand to suck your penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I now feel entitled to fluffy bunnies. Where are my fluffy bunnies?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…"

Very sweeping statement...include some examples

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You mean I'm not!?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Stop putting others on pedestal they don't deserve.

"

I don’t see how that’s relevant to the question

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think expectations can be high on here.

Don't know if it's Entitlement though.

I have a profile and I expect people to read it and act accordingly; I'm not entitled to well thought out replies, and I expect there to be many who don't read it properly.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I think some people join thinking sex is a guarantee, especially if they have paid a site supporters fee. They do get awfully put out when they find it isn't the case. The threads do seem more frequent than they were years ago I guess

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I now feel entitled to fluffy bunnies. Where are my fluffy bunnies?!

"

There's a FAB Form you have to fill...

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…

Very sweeping statement...include some examples "

No it’s not and if you don’t know what I’m talking about, then look at the double standards thread, there are a few examples on there

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"You mean I'm not!? "

You’re entitled to cakes, as is every forum poster.

Sadly it’s urinal cakes

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…

I demand to suck your penis "

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"You mean I'm not!?

You’re entitled to cakes, as is every forum poster.

Sadly it’s urinal cakes"

Oh...

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…"

I think it's probably become worse due to all the effects of lockdowns and the restriction of our freedoms.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away."

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Yeah stick to fluffy bunnies mate

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I think expectations can be high on here.

Don't know if it's Entitlement though.

I have a profile and I expect people to read it and act accordingly; I'm not entitled to well thought out replies, and I expect there to be many who don't read it properly.

"

I like the way that you played with expectations vs entitlement there.

Do you think that one is acceptable and the other isn’t?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

It was much the same when I was last on five years ago, I wonder if there’s an increased desperation around COVID though?

Who knows, I’ve got cake, pass the custurd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think there's much difference in the time I've been here"

I agree. I don't think this is anything new.

There have always, well at least for as long as I've been using fab over the past 7 years or so, been some members that have such an attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away."

So you think that it’s a wider sickness in society?

What would combat it?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"You mean I'm not!?

You’re entitled to cakes, as is every forum poster.

Sadly it’s urinal cakes

Oh... "

Soz

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I do feel the people (mainly guys, but some couples) who message within the first hour of being on here with no pics and a basic profile asking to meet us is on the rise.

They really should have something in place that you can’t join and message straight away, to allow people to look at their profile more.

People think they will be knee deep in sex without having to try. I feel something in place to allow them only to view profiles will give them a better idea of what’s needed.

K

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…

I think it's probably become worse due to all the effects of lockdowns and the restriction of our freedoms."

There is that possibility, it’s affected us all in weird ways

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away."

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Yeah stick to fluffy bunnies mate "

Bunnies aren’t as cute as everyone supposes…

What’s with all the carrots, what do they need such good eyesight for anyway?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away.

So you think that it’s a wider sickness in society?

What would combat it? "

No meaning fucking no.

Not parents giving in after 285 "no" and changing it to yes.

Companies not bowing down to complainers and actually saying "tough shit cupcake, your business isn't welcome with that stinker of an attitude"

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?"

You don’t see an issue with people demanding things of others? What if it’s in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah stick to fluffy bunnies mate

Bunnies aren’t as cute as everyone supposes…

What’s with all the carrots, what do they need such good eyesight for anyway?"

Sounds like a line from a song.....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

To be honest I’m starting to think these entitled posts are started by folk who want to attract traffic to their profile and get themselves noticed.

Nowt like ruffling a few feathers to increase profile views. I bet if you messaged them they’d woo you with their charm, next thing you know you’re meeting them and their plan worked!

But seriously, it has always been like this - I don’t see an increase, just a few have moaned at the same time.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

in my opinion entitlement has become increasingly problematic over the last decade or so.

The ease with which you can get answers, find information etc. leads to people no longer putting in any or much effort yet still “expecting” to get the same results as others.

I am not sure that the FAB forums are truly representative of FAB or swingers as a whole, but there have been threads where a persons sense of entitlement shines through based on their words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?

You don’t see an issue with people demanding things of others? What if it’s in person? "

In person its different...this is a site and people act differently on the Internet...90% of whats posted in the forums would not be said in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people join thinking sex is a guarantee, especially if they have paid a site supporters fee. They do get awfully put out when they find it isn't the case. The threads do seem more frequent than they were years ago I guess "

Very much agree!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"in my opinion entitlement has become increasingly problematic over the last decade or so.

The ease with which you can get answers, find information etc. leads to people no longer putting in any or much effort yet still “expecting” to get the same results as others.

I am not sure that the FAB forums are truly representative of FAB or swingers as a whole, but there have been threads where a persons sense of entitlement shines through based on their words."

Agreed.

Also lack of consequences.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Oh god, it goes much further beyond fab. Large parts of society all act entitled and selfish in one way or another, feel they are worth and owed more than others, or have the "right" to say and do certain things. Entitled to do whatever they can squeeze out.

I don't think any single person is fully exempt from, not on all levels of it anyway.

You run in to it almost everyday when there is interaction with other people. It has become much more common than it used to be, but it is still a natural human trait. Society has now allowed it to become a standard trait, prevalent in some much much more than others. The internet just allows such behaviour to be seen more because it is global, and not the smaller pool of people in local community.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away.

So you think that it’s a wider sickness in society?

What would combat it? "

I don't know if it's a sickness. It's certainly a learned way of life. I'm sure I'd not be able to see it without the benefit of hindsight but to an extent we are all responsible for this zeitgeist..... modes of thought are created by the masses , us included.

People are taught now that they are entitled to have what ever they want.

Everyone is beautiful, everybody is beautiful, a pauper can be a king, anyone can write a book , anyone can act / sing / paint ........ anyone can go abroad , anyone can go into space... and if you can't afford it well everyone else will pay ..... that's democracy ( except it isn't ) and that's the modern state for you.

And why not ... expectation keeps the capitalist wheels oiled and crushing you softly while you grow fat and complacent.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Oh god, it goes much further beyond fab. Large parts of society all act entitled and selfish in one way or another, feel they are worth and owed more than others, or have the "right" to say and do certain things. Entitled to do whatever they can squeeze out.

I don't think any single person is fully exempt from, not on all levels of it anyway.

You run in to it almost everyday when there is interaction with other people. It has become much more common than it used to be, but it is still a natural human trait. Society has now allowed it to become a standard trait, prevalent in some much much more than others. The internet just allows such behaviour to be seen more because it is global, and not the smaller pool of people in local community. "

Oh yes definitely. I was about to say something similar but no need to now!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"It's no worse on FAB than it is in wider society.

Reap what you sow , I say. All the molly coddling of those who still sit with open beaks in adulthood and fear of litigation along with the onus on any public body or employer to have a care of duty and it becoming easier to pander to people aided by expensive insurances , than to fight them.

The way to get what you want in society now is to ask for it. If it's not forth coming think of something you can post on social media in a whinging kind of way and watch your sympathy pour in and all the fingers point at those that work for what they have and wouldn't just GIVE it away.

So you think that it’s a wider sickness in society?

What would combat it?

I don't know if it's a sickness. It's certainly a learned way of life. I'm sure I'd not be able to see it without the benefit of hindsight but to an extent we are all responsible for this zeitgeist..... modes of thought are created by the masses , us included.

People are taught now that they are entitled to have what ever they want.

Everyone is beautiful, everybody is beautiful, a pauper can be a king, anyone can write a book , anyone can act / sing / paint ........ anyone can go abroad , anyone can go into space... and if you can't afford it well everyone else will pay ..... that's democracy ( except it isn't ) and that's the modern state for you.

And why not ... expectation keeps the capitalist wheels oiled and crushing you softly while you grow fat and complacent. "

Couldn't have phrased it better. You're on a roll this morning!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just from a forum perspective I've seen a few long standing forumites guilty of this.

With so many people leaving and new arrivals they aren't getting the same level of adulation or sycophancy as before and it's put a dent in their egos.

That's when the" Do you not know who I am?" attitudes appear.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me. "

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact we put a profile on a site means we want some attention and/or interaction, possibly sex too unless you are only here as a 'fab' vote seeker. I don't expect anything but we are all owed a bit of respect which does seem lacking in some people. Lockdowns do seem to have affected some peoples social skills in their communications but that could be more to do with frustration or sheer desperation. I never comment on fluffy bunnies!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s just general frustration that comes about with relations between men and women, it’s just made worse by the exaggerated gender biases that a swinging site has.

It’s an unhealthy level of entitlement but I say let them have at it, because that just shows everyone your not worth a 2nd look

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?

You don’t see an issue with people demanding things of others? What if it’s in person?

In person its different...this is a site and people act differently on the Internet...90% of whats posted in the forums would not be said in the real world "

But it’s still thought and written…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nearly 6 years since we joined first.

There was just as much entitlment then as there is now I feel.

I thing the difference is the site is much bigger.

Many more people looking for validation. And if only 1 in a 100 people use the forums as a place to vent their frustrations then the forums will have a lot more frustrated people on them.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?

You don’t see an issue with people demanding things of others? What if it’s in person?

In person its different...this is a site and people act differently on the Internet...90% of whats posted in the forums would not be said in the real world

But it’s still thought and written…"

I'd say far more in the real world. I can't get banned out there

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely "

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I’m am not owed nor do I expect any form of validation/attention on here this is a site where thousands of supposed sexually liberated people should be able to display what they like on there profiles, no one is ever going to be everyone’s cup of tea.

These threads in relation to leagues/popularity etc make me cringe, we’re not in high school - if you think you deserve special treatment you probably came to the wrong place to find it.

If you are comfortable in yourself and put yourself across in a fun and friendly way the likelihood is you will may make more connections it’s no different to how it should be in real life you just have a few more bits on show in the process.

Embrace what it should be about and don’t get hung up on comparing yourself to others or taking the opinions of others to seriously, and try not to be a knob

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’m am not owed nor do I expect any form of validation/attention on here this is a site where thousands of supposed sexually liberated people should be able to display what they like on there profiles, no one is ever going to be everyone’s cup of tea.

These threads in relation to leagues/popularity etc make me cringe, we’re not in high school - if you think you deserve special treatment you probably came to the wrong place to find it.

If you are comfortable in yourself and put yourself across in a fun and friendly way the likelihood is you will may make more connections it’s no different to how it should be in real life you just have a few more bits on show in the process.

Embrace what it should be about and don’t get hung up on comparing yourself to others or taking the opinions of others to seriously, and try not to be a knob

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"But if people want to think they are entitled then leave them to it...im sure people will decide for themselves if they want to engage with "entitled " people?

You don’t see an issue with people demanding things of others? What if it’s in person?

In person its different...this is a site and people act differently on the Internet...90% of whats posted in the forums would not be said in the real world

But it’s still thought and written…

I'd say far more in the real world. I can't get banned out there"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome."

Oh agreed. I know some horrible old shites. A mean shite is a mean shite regardless of age.

I was speaking about societal changes, not entitlement in individuals.

You can't blame an older generation for imbuing you with certain ideals. You still don't wash behind your ears and save up for a rainy day !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there a growing problem on fab that people feel increasingly entitled?

I’ve spotted quite a few threads, comments and attitudes that point towards people thinking that they’re owed attention, interactions or sex, just

by virtue of having a profile. This in itself isn’t a new thing but the frequency and volume seems to be growing.

Do you feel that it’s an issue?

Do you believe that you’re owed something or deserve something, by virtue of who you are or how you are?

Is it justified?

Am I asking too many questions and need to post about fluffy bunnies?

Thoughts folks…"

Ive noticed with recent messages a huge amount of self entitlement, so many are argumentative when i say im not meeting atm

For me i think im too layed back to be 'self entitled'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome."

Worth remembering the world wide web and common internet use was recent as in from the early 1990's. We can't blame the 'older codgers' for misleading the youthful pioneers in the etiquette on social media platforms

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think it has gotten any worse than it always has been.

Some men feel like just joining here means they are entitled to a shag others think that because they are a woman they get to make others jump through hoops to just chat. Some couples seem to think they are entitled to meet who ever they want and get stroppy when told no. But it's always been that way well as long as I've been on here anyhow. And it is only some people are like this the majority are not I have found anyhow. And it's easy enough to pay no real heed to those who do feel entitled and go concentrate on people who you have something in common with and you want to get to know better.If people spent more time on their own journey on here and less time worrying about what others do it would probably be a lot more enjoyable for them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome.

Worth remembering the world wide web and common internet use was recent as in from the early 1990's. We can't blame the 'older codgers' for misleading the youthful pioneers in the etiquette on social media platforms "

Boom !

If it was just 'old codgers' that influenced everyone you'd all be down on the allotment rolling your own whilst not having any baccy.....

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome.

Worth remembering the world wide web and common internet use was recent as in from the early 1990's. We can't blame the 'older codgers' for misleading the youthful pioneers in the etiquette on social media platforms "

As I said further up, the Internet is just an extension of the world, the attitudes would still have existed but the Internet makes it all the more obvious that more people do it. They just take their unchecked attitudes from the physical world on to the digital. They can now act entitled to the entire world instead of just to the local community.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I don't think it has gotten any worse than it always has been.

Some men feel like just joining here means they are entitled to a shag others think that because they are a woman they get to make others jump through hoops to just chat. Some couples seem to think they are entitled to meet who ever they want and get stroppy when told no. But it's always been that way well as long as I've been on here anyhow. And it is only some people are like this the majority are not I have found anyhow. And it's easy enough to pay no real heed to those who do feel entitled and go concentrate on people who you have something in common with and you want to get to know better.If people spent more time on their own journey on here and less time worrying about what others do it would probably be a lot more enjoyable for them.

"

Yes, alongside the entitlement, there's an awful lot of minding other people's business goes on.

So many of the threads on here (and else where across the interwebs) are about people policing others.

In itself it's a form of entitlement, "I insist everyone think and behave as I do..."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome.

Worth remembering the world wide web and common internet use was recent as in from the early 1990's. We can't blame the 'older codgers' for misleading the youthful pioneers in the etiquette on social media platforms

As I said further up, the Internet is just an extension of the world, the attitudes would still have existed but the Internet makes it all the more obvious that more people do it. They just take their unchecked attitudes from the physical world on to the digital. They can now act entitled to the entire world instead of just to the local community. "

Yep! If some of the discussions that went on in offices I worked in in the 70s were on the net

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lot of questions Tea, I need more coffee to help. But to answer one of them, yes, there is a huge sense of entitlement on here from some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I log off and re commence cleaning again ........

It's mostly the under 40's .... Trust me.

Definitely

Debatable, I've run in to some truely horribly entitled "older" people that younger generations could never even hope to live up to their level of entitlement in a million years.

I agree though that you are very more likely to see it in a younger person. Largely because we are all brought up within the examples and boundaries that have been set to us by an older generation. Entitlement did not start with X generation or those of X age, it did manifest stronger than previous. The previous generation will always set the tracks for what comes next and holds part of the responsibility for the outcome.

Worth remembering the world wide web and common internet use was recent as in from the early 1990's. We can't blame the 'older codgers' for misleading the youthful pioneers in the etiquette on social media platforms

As I said further up, the Internet is just an extension of the world, the attitudes would still have existed but the Internet makes it all the more obvious that more people do it. They just take their unchecked attitudes from the physical world on to the digital. They can now act entitled to the entire world instead of just to the local community. "

The internet removes boundaries and for many a false view that accountability and respect needs to be considered. Social media is open to the world at large as you say and perhaps the lack of local community interaction could be part of the problem. As we get more freedoms we expect more and the sense of entitlement grows.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't think it has gotten any worse than it always has been.

Some men feel like just joining here means they are entitled to a shag others think that because they are a woman they get to make others jump through hoops to just chat. Some couples seem to think they are entitled to meet who ever they want and get stroppy when told no. But it's always been that way well as long as I've been on here anyhow. And it is only some people are like this the majority are not I have found anyhow. And it's easy enough to pay no real heed to those who do feel entitled and go concentrate on people who you have something in common with and you want to get to know better.If people spent more time on their own journey on here and less time worrying about what others do it would probably be a lot more enjoyable for them.

Yes, alongside the entitlement, there's an awful lot of minding other people's business goes on.

So many of the threads on here (and else where across the interwebs) are about people policing others.

In itself it's a form of entitlement, "I insist everyone think and behave as I do...""

That’s one way of looking at it, although a touch extreme.

Challenging negative behaviours and asking for respect, to be treated with empathy or as a human isn’t policing others.

It’s strange that in these times, expecting others to behave with consideration is seen as a negative and drawing attention to potential areas of issue, is a bad thing

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"That's a lot of questions Tea, I need more coffee to help. But to answer one of them, yes, there is a huge sense of entitlement on here from some. "

I knew that I should have stuck with the bunnies

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I don't think it has gotten any worse than it always has been.

Some men feel like just joining here means they are entitled to a shag others think that because they are a woman they get to make others jump through hoops to just chat. Some couples seem to think they are entitled to meet who ever they want and get stroppy when told no. But it's always been that way well as long as I've been on here anyhow. And it is only some people are like this the majority are not I have found anyhow. And it's easy enough to pay no real heed to those who do feel entitled and go concentrate on people who you have something in common with and you want to get to know better.If people spent more time on their own journey on here and less time worrying about what others do it would probably be a lot more enjoyable for them.

Yes, alongside the entitlement, there's an awful lot of minding other people's business goes on.

So many of the threads on here (and else where across the interwebs) are about people policing others.

In itself it's a form of entitlement, "I insist everyone think and behave as I do..."

That’s one way of looking at it, although a touch extreme.

Challenging negative behaviours and asking for respect, to be treated with empathy or as a human isn’t policing others.

It’s strange that in these times, expecting others to behave with consideration is seen as a negative and drawing attention to potential areas of issue, is a bad thing

"

Sorry OP, I had meant to add a line, that not necessarily in this particular thread.

But a lot of these threads are not really about pulling people up on negative behaviour, but about pointing at people not complying to the norms the poster wishes them to adhere to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah stick to fluffy bunnies mate

Bunnies aren’t as cute as everyone supposes…

What’s with all the carrots, what do they need such good eyesight for anyway?"

Rabbits are super cute. I currently have 13 In my back garden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I now feel entitled to fluffy bunnies. Where are my fluffy bunnies?! "

Hehehe

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I'm entitled to my own opinion, thoughts and way I choose to live my life, and that is it.

I am owed nothing by anyone except respect, I owe no body anything except respect

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm entitled to my own opinion, thoughts and way I choose to live my life, and that is it.

I am owed nothing by anyone except respect, I owe no body anything except respect"

I’m a bit like this. Is it bad that I don’t really care what other people do, want and post?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Doesn't seemed to have changed much to me in the last four years.

Has peaks and troughs. Hey ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some people join thinking sex is a guarantee, especially if they have paid a site supporters fee. They do get awfully put out when they find it isn't the case. The threads do seem more frequent than they were years ago I guess "

I knocked a fella back last year who wanted a same day meet that I hadn't advertised for and couldn't possibly manage even if I had wanted to meet up. He saw his arse, went on a six message rant and ended up getting blocked.

I guess others must have done the same, as he's back with the same profile text, same pics and same messages, but a different user name and a recent joining date towards the start of this year.

In spite of my profile text saying in the very first line that I'm not meeting at the moment and will update when I am able to again, he still gave it a go. I just deleted his requests for a meet the first few times (the old 'if you can't be bothered to read what I wrote, I can't be bothered to reply' philosophy), but every few days he has another crack. Now I just open his messages and leave them unanswered.

Until I can meet again and take full advantage of the reason I'm on here, reading the rage in this fella's messages, knowing that I've read his borderline demands for a meet but have not even had the 'curtesy' to respond has honestly become the most entertaining thing for me on the site at the moment. Hearing him piss and moan about having a gold account and not paying to just be ignored is absolutely hilarious to me.

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