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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Maybe.

Sometimes it’s a legitimate issue and dismissing it is just being more offensive.

It all depends on what was said and to whom

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day "

Well that’s a bit mean saying people have bad hair days! How rude!

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport

As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I agree OP, maybe they get out on the wrong side of the bed . I think some just like to make it look like their offended to start trouble too.

So far I've seen two people start threads and then hide and watch people bite each other’s heads off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cunt.

Any good?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day "

Love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intent

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Maybe.

Sometimes it’s a legitimate issue and dismissing it is just being more offensive.

It all depends on what was said and to whom"

Ahhh stick it up yer bum Mr. (monkeyemoji)

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Diarrhoea: Now that’s an offensive word.

The phonetics are frankly, ghastly.

Experiencing the phenomenon is little better to.

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day

Well that’s a bit mean saying people have bad hair days! How rude!"

I would stroke your hair whilst singing you a lullaby as we spoon together

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day

Well that’s a bit mean saying people have bad hair days! How rude!

I would stroke your hair whilst singing you a lullaby as we spoon together "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres that adage that, thoughts become words, words become actions. Thats great when its motivating yourself to do a positive thing like loose weight or save money but what when the intention isnt positive and the process leads to violence or abuse or self harm?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Maybe.

Sometimes it’s a legitimate issue and dismissing it is just being more offensive.

It all depends on what was said and to whom

Ahhh stick it up yer bum Mr. (monkeyemoji) "

How so very offensive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They said I've a smelly arse !! And I'm offended !!

...but in an hours time I'll have moved on and forgot about it, realising being offended means fack all

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Theres that adage that, thoughts become words, words become actions. Thats great when its motivating yourself to do a positive thing like loose weight or save money but what when the intention isnt positive and the process leads to violence or abuse or self harm? "

That's almost exactly ma point, maybe some people say some things too literally in a spoken word. It's better to keep your thoughts to yourself sometimes, no matter how well being they may be

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day "

Oh I don't find that at all.

Disgusted of Torquay

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day

Oh I don't find that at all.

Disgusted of Torquay"

Are you John Cleese in disguise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cunt.

Any good?"

I love that word. I'll tell about the game we play with that word one day.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

As I get older I find I take offence less and give it more lol.

I just don't give a fuck anymore, and call things the way I see them . I am completely intolerant, of crap like, bullying, racism, bigotry, wilfully ignorance, lies, and bullshit.....

I no longer let it escalate to the point where it makes me angry. I just firmly and politely call it out when I see it, and then leave it up to the person to either take offence or ammend their words, and or behaviour.....

It's fun getting older

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

The older I get the more sensitive I get. I blame hormones, I’m at that age

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day "

Not really for you or anyone else to decide what might offend or upset others though.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Theres that adage that, thoughts become words, words become actions. Thats great when its motivating yourself to do a positive thing like loose weight or save money but what when the intention isnt positive and the process leads to violence or abuse or self harm? "

Very much so - we only have to watch people like Trump (am I glad we do not hear so much dribble from him these days), whose thoughts become words and unfortunately encouraged others to act in unlawful ways.

Words, language is such a powerful tool, whether we look at poetry, motivational speech, well-thought out arguments in debates, but also in personal insults and other verbal attacks.

We do need to be mindful of how we use words and that some words are not neutral anymore but have connotations.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day

Not really for you or anyone else to decide what might offend or upset others though. "

I would agree with you there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day "

But some words are undeniably offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I get older I find I take offence less and give it more lol.

I just don't give a fuck anymore, and call things the way I see them . I am completely intolerant, of crap like, bullying, racism, bigotry, wilfully ignorance, lies, and bullshit.....

I no longer let it escalate to the point where it makes me angry. I just firmly and politely call it out when I see it, and then leave it up to the person to either take offence or ammend their words, and or behaviour.....

It's fun getting older "

I would agree with you. I feel as if I've used up enough of my time, energy, resolve, stuffing, whatever you call it, I've used up enough. I need what I've got left for enjoying myself and will now pick my battles carefully or just have the confidence to walk away knowing I've done the right thing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people say the right triggers for a reaction, in order to suggest others are easily offended.

Some people seek to be offended.

Then there's all those in between

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Some people say the right triggers for a reaction, in order to suggest others are easily offended.

Some people seek to be offended.

Then there's all those in between"

Good way of looking at it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the majority of communication is actually body language, I'm not surprised in the least

But i also think people have different levels of humour and circumstances in their life /day /week have a tremendous impact on how they interpret /receive /view text information

Whats the line... Know your audience !

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day

But some words are undeniably offensive. "

Yeah, but some people find certain words offensive and take it to heart, I can understand if was directly aimed at them, but I always look on the bright side, I call ma best mate Brother Dave a knobhead or a cretin sometimes, but it's all said in jest

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day

Oh I don't find that at all.

Disgusted of Torquay

Are you John Cleese in disguise? "

No Fawlty is the name, I'd ask you to try and remember that if you're able.

(Imbecile), oh nothing Sybil I was just muttering to myself

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day

Oh I don't find that at all.

Disgusted of Torquay

Are you John Cleese in disguise?

No Fawlty is the name, I'd ask you to try and remember that if you're able.

(Imbecile), oh nothing Sybil I was just muttering to myself"

The term imbecile was once used by psychiatrists to denote a category of people with moderate to severe intellectual disability, as well as a type of criminal.[1][2] The word arises from the Latin word imbecillus, meaning weak, or weak-minded.[3] It included people with an IQ of 26–50, between "idiot" (IQ of 0–25) and "moron" (IQ of 51–70).[4] In the obsolete medical classification (ICD-9, 1977), these people were said to have "moderate mental retardation" or "moderate mental subnormality" with IQ of 35–49

So shut it you cretin

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"As you get older Ace you tend to take things in your stride I can take criticism no problem use to rise to the bait but I can honestly say not anymore live for the day

Oh I don't find that at all.

Disgusted of Torquay

Are you John Cleese in disguise?

No Fawlty is the name, I'd ask you to try and remember that if you're able.

(Imbecile), oh nothing Sybil I was just muttering to myself

The term imbecile was once used by psychiatrists to denote a category of people with moderate to severe intellectual disability, as well as a type of criminal.[1][2] The word arises from the Latin word imbecillus, meaning weak, or weak-minded.[3] It included people with an IQ of 26–50, between "idiot" (IQ of 0–25) and "moron" (IQ of 51–70).[4] In the obsolete medical classification (ICD-9, 1977), these people were said to have "moderate mental retardation" or "moderate mental subnormality" with IQ of 35–49

So shut it you cretin "

Pst Sybil, I think he's swallowed an encyclopedia, keep him sedated while I call an ambulance

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Some people, in my own humble opinion, can get upset at almost anything, maybe they're having a bad hair day "

Try not to get upset by this. Consider deep breathing or focussing on the here and know. Either could work.

Gbat

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By *ce Winger OP   Man
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Dimwits and numbskulls the lot of ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyday is a bad hair day.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Delicate issue, my opinion is that if words that have really been used to offend and upset in a bullying way and meant to put someone down then it's as bad a physical bullying. If however someone has innocently said something in a wrong context or in a passing comment I don't feel they should be hammered because someone has taken offence, especially if immediately they realise and apologise. Offence is taken far too easily these days, being thick skinned has it's good points and being able to recognise when someone is truly being offensive as apposed to making a faux pas which if we were honest we all have done at some time or other. I learned a lot from reading the chimp paradox about human behaviour, it has calmed me down and let me understand why others are sometimes harsh.

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