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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm off for a birthday brunch but I'll get back to this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women. And women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you supplying the answers to the mysteries?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm off for a birthday brunch but I'll get back to this thread "

Thats my thing....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you supplying the answers to the mysteries? "

No!

I'm just curious about what people are curious of!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women. And women."

Men and men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm off for a birthday brunch but I'll get back to this thread

Thats my thing...."

Seems I broke the monopoly

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Women. And women.

Men and men."

No mystery about us Rose ... We're simple folk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

"

Scientific spoilsports

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Women. And women.

Men and men.

No mystery about us Rose ... We're simple folk "

That hasn't been my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happens after we die?

Is there a god?

Is there alien life outside of Earth?

How do you get your first job if companies are always asking for previous experience?

Does the illuminati exist?

Got plenty more but I'll give someone else a chance now!

Oh and happy birthday by the way!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Happy birthday!

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Natural island water filled sink holes fascinate me. Could they lead to a tunnel system under the earth's crust

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Is it your birthday gorgeous lady?

Many happy returns to you xxx

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

The spirit world.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Romford

Happy birthday Tuberose.

Why isn't there mouse flavored cat food?

If a turtle doesn't have a shell, is he homeless or naked?

Why don't sheep shrink when it rains?

Why do they sterilize needles for lethal injections?

What was the best thing before sliced bread?

A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my ex-boss's desk, he had a work station..

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about? "

Lady Di and Marilyn Monroe deaths.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

nottingham

The Bermuda Triangle!

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By *hilfe69Man
over a year ago

grays

Why do they call orange jam marmalade

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Hard.shoulder of the M1

Where does all my money go?

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By *weet Treat 69Couple
over a year ago

North Wales area

Paranormal

Bermuda Triangle

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Lady Di and Marilyn Monroe deaths."

. Yes Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe as well as JFK , RFK , Jack the Ripper. Also the Bible John case although it’s possible they have the man in custody but don’t have enough to charge him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where does all my money go?"

To rich folk.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about? "

Here's a mystery. All women hate male strippers. Ask them. They all say male strippers are gross. Yet troupes of male strippers pack theatres. It makes no sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rooby dooby dooooooo!

Reehee heehee heehee

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Why do they call orange jam marmalade

"

They are a little different.

Jam users the pulp and juice of sweet fruits (jelly just uses the fruit btw) and marmalade is (usually) made from citrus fruit and includes the peel. You can have lemon, lime and grapefruit marmalades too. Seville Orange marmalade is just the classic.

Oddly there are even onion marmalades

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By *irtyold manMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I am intrested in super mice.

In the early 90s scientists took mouse embryos and distroyed the bit of dna that makes youre imune system.they then put them back and let them be borne natrally.all mamal when in the womb have activ t cells that turn off when born.

The mice having no imune system were born with t cells still activ.

Scientists have found that aslong as blood is going to the brain everything grows back in two weeks.for those who dont understand imagin wolverine on xen the mice regenerate.

Since this hapend in the early 90s.

I wonder if the scientists have now done the same with humans.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Firstly it's not my birthday, but thanks

I was just a guest;-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What happens after we die?

Is there a god?

Is there alien life outside of Earth?

How do you get your first job if companies are always asking for previous experience?

Does the illuminati exist?

Got plenty more but I'll give someone else a chance now!

Oh and happy birthday by the way!

"

I would like a 20 years old with 10 years experience and Masters Degree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happy birthday! "

Not my bday.. who started it. thanks tea!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Natural island water filled sink holes fascinate me. Could they lead to a tunnel system under the earth's crust "

When I was a kid one of my favourite authors was J. Verne for these kind of ideas.. like journey to the centre of the Earth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it your birthday gorgeous lady?

Many happy returns to you xxx "

It isn't. But I'll screenshot it for my upcoming one in August. In case i don't get to be called gorgeous then

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Why do people think mice like cheese???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The spirit world. "

What about it exactly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happy birthday Tuberose.

Why isn't there mouse flavored cat food?

If a turtle doesn't have a shell, is he homeless or naked?

Why don't sheep shrink when it rains?

Why do they sterilize needles for lethal injections?

What was the best thing before sliced bread?

A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my ex-boss's desk, he had a work station.."

Some of these made me really chuckle. Apart from mouse flavoured food. That would require some odd research.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Lady Di and Marilyn Monroe deaths."

Any unexplained deaths or disappearances. I watched a good series on Netflix on that theme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do we clean our teeth with cold water yet, wash everything with hot water?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The Bermuda Triangle! "

Are you planning a flight or a cruise?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Why do some people think the earth is round?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do they call orange jam marmalade

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I don't know but it rolls of the tongue nicer than jam

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where does all my money go?"

There must be a secret mini shredder inside your wallet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Paranormal

Bermuda Triangle "

What about paranormal stuff?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Lady Di and Marilyn Monroe deaths.. Yes Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe as well as JFK , RFK , Jack the Ripper. Also the Bible John case although it’s possible they have the man in custody but don’t have enough to charge him."

I have this odd 'dream' sometimes of being there, in those peoples dying alone last moments. Like an invisible witness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where does all my money go?

To rich folk."

Thats one explanation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Here's a mystery. All women hate male strippers. Ask them. They all say male strippers are gross. Yet troupes of male strippers pack theatres. It makes no sense. "

I never felt like that if I'm honest.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about? "

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rooby dooby dooooooo!

Reehee heehee heehee"

That is a mystery ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

"

What did they decide was the reason behind the Dyatlov Pass mystery?

I'm curious about lots of things tbh. I'd love to know what really happened to Elisa Lam.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

What happens after death.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some people think the earth is round? "

I think they *know* it rather than *think* ?

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Why do we clean our teeth with cold water yet, wash everything with hot water?"

So we don’t burn our mouths?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

What did they decide was the reason behind the Dyatlov Pass mystery?

I'm curious about lots of things tbh. I'd love to know what really happened to Elisa Lam. "

I like your necklace

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"What happens after death. "

Usually a funeral of some sort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do they call orange jam marmalade

They are a little different.

Jam users the pulp and juice of sweet fruits (jelly just uses the fruit btw) and marmalade is (usually) made from citrus fruit and includes the peel. You can have lemon, lime and grapefruit marmalades too. Seville Orange marmalade is just the classic.

Oddly there are even onion marmalades "

Thanks for a little lesson;-) the things we learn here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am intrested in super mice.

In the early 90s scientists took mouse embryos and distroyed the bit of dna that makes youre imune system.they then put them back and let them be borne natrally.all mamal when in the womb have activ t cells that turn off when born.

The mice having no imune system were born with t cells still activ.

Scientists have found that aslong as blood is going to the brain everything grows back in two weeks.for those who dont understand imagin wolverine on xen the mice regenerate.

Since this hapend in the early 90s.

I wonder if the scientists have now done the same with humans."

Would you volunteer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do people think mice like cheese???"

I don't know. It looks cute though.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

What did they decide was the reason behind the Dyatlov Pass mystery?

I'm curious about lots of things tbh. I'd love to know what really happened to Elisa Lam. "

Have a read here:

https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/has-science-solved-history-greatest-adventure-mystery-dyatlov

As regards Elisa Lam there was a rather good documentary on Netflix explaining her very sad demise. ‘Crime Scene: The Vanishing at the Cecil Hotel’ Well worth a watch

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do we clean our teeth with cold water yet, wash everything with hot water?"

Warm from mixed tap?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The world is full of mysteries, as are we!

The wonder that is our own consciousness is a mystery in itself and the human condition is a source of eternal wonder (and occasional despair) for me.

‘There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy, Horatio’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Dyatlov pass incident is definitely an interesting one followed by Atlantis.

There's a few more like what's under the pyramids and even the sphinx, and the Bermuda triangle which also interest me as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch. "

Lots of judgement here I sense.

Imagine a circle of people standing in the room. And you in the middle holding a ball of yarn. Think you are a woman trapped in an abusive relationship. Think of one reason why you can't leave or that woman told you before (as I am sure she had)... I'll give you - no family support as he isolated us from them. Now throw the yarn ball to another person in a circle and ask them to do the same, whilst you hold on to the end of the thread. They say - I am scared for my safety as I was told by my support worker, that women are in most danger when they dare to leave. Then throw the ball again and hold on to the thread. And so on. Imagine that at the end of this exercise 20 people answered.. Imagine you in the middle tangled up in a web of reasons not to leave. That's how hard it is.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Why do we clean our teeth with cold water yet, wash everything with hot water?"

I wonder if this is because hot water (in the UK at least) wasn't as clean as cold due to the way it was stored and heated (same as why we don't drink hot tap water, but heat it in a kettle).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch. "

For more information it's good to look into things like gaslighting, info graphics such as power circle or cycle of abuse. Healing is not linear. Hope she is okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there really treasure on Oak Island??

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

The Mystery Spot in Santa Cruz, California

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch.

Lots of judgement here I sense.

Imagine a circle of people standing in the room. And you in the middle holding a ball of yarn. Think you are a woman trapped in an abusive relationship. Think of one reason why you can't leave or that woman told you before (as I am sure she had)... I'll give you - no family support as he isolated us from them. Now throw the yarn ball to another person in a circle and ask them to do the same, whilst you hold on to the end of the thread. They say - I am scared for my safety as I was told by my support worker, that women are in most danger when they dare to leave. Then throw the ball again and hold on to the thread. And so on. Imagine that at the end of this exercise 20 people answered.. Imagine you in the middle tangled up in a web of reasons not to leave. That's how hard it is. "

an exceptional answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch. "

My father was a shitty person. He isolated my mum from her friends and family. He changed "facts" and made her question everything. He withheld money and made sure she was never comfortable.

Where would she go? Who could take in a married woman and 3 kids?

When he didn't come home for a month who was going to pay her bills? Provide money for food? When she told him not to come back, social workers withheld her deserted wives payment because she wasn't deserted if he wanted to come back.

The local parish priest wouldn't give her communion because she was basically no more than a whore if she wouldn't just let her husband back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch. My father was a shitty person. He isolated my mum from her friends and family. He changed "facts" and made her question everything. He withheld money and made sure she was never comfortable.

Where would she go? Who could take in a married woman and 3 kids?

When he didn't come home for a month who was going to pay her bills? Provide money for food? When she told him not to come back, social workers withheld her deserted wives payment because she wasn't deserted if he wanted to come back.

The local parish priest wouldn't give her communion because she was basically no more than a whore if she wouldn't just let her husband back.

"

All the love to your Mother. What a strong woman

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch.

Lots of judgement here I sense.

Imagine a circle of people standing in the room. And you in the middle holding a ball of yarn. Think you are a woman trapped in an abusive relationship. Think of one reason why you can't leave or that woman told you before (as I am sure she had)... I'll give you - no family support as he isolated us from them. Now throw the yarn ball to another person in a circle and ask them to do the same, whilst you hold on to the end of the thread. They say - I am scared for my safety as I was told by my support worker, that women are in most danger when they dare to leave. Then throw the ball again and hold on to the thread. And so on. Imagine that at the end of this exercise 20 people answered.. Imagine you in the middle tangled up in a web of reasons not to leave. That's how hard it is. "

I understand all of those points, as explanations of how hard it is to leave. But she left, her family (and others) supported in all sorts of ways, got her healthy again, gave her financial support, helped her to get a new job, paid for counselling, basically did everything they could think of.

And a few months into her new job, without discussing anything with her family or friends, simply dropped the divorce proceedings and moved back in.

Maybe the finality of completing the divorce? Or finding it hard to believe that there wasn’t something good in the previous relationship and that she could get it back to the good times again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch.

Lots of judgement here I sense.

Imagine a circle of people standing in the room. And you in the middle holding a ball of yarn. Think you are a woman trapped in an abusive relationship. Think of one reason why you can't leave or that woman told you before (as I am sure she had)... I'll give you - no family support as he isolated us from them. Now throw the yarn ball to another person in a circle and ask them to do the same, whilst you hold on to the end of the thread. They say - I am scared for my safety as I was told by my support worker, that women are in most danger when they dare to leave. Then throw the ball again and hold on to the thread. And so on. Imagine that at the end of this exercise 20 people answered.. Imagine you in the middle tangled up in a web of reasons not to leave. That's how hard it is.

I understand all of those points, as explanations of how hard it is to leave. But she left, her family (and others) supported in all sorts of ways, got her healthy again, gave her financial support, helped her to get a new job, paid for counselling, basically did everything they could think of.

And a few months into her new job, without discussing anything with her family or friends, simply dropped the divorce proceedings and moved back in.

Maybe the finality of completing the divorce? Or finding it hard to believe that there wasn’t something good in the previous relationship and that she could get it back to the good times again? "

Maybe. Maybe she doesn't know herself. No point speculating. Though I understand it must feel like your helping efforts were wasted. They weren't. They showed her different ways. Choice is hers ultimately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly it's not my birthday, but thanks

I was just a guest;-)"

I did wonder for a moment, but figured it out from the way you worded it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Serious question. Why do women go back to wife-beaters having successfully moved away from them?

I have a real example of this in my life at the moment, someone I gave a lot of support to (time and money, as did a load of her family members), and as soon as she got back on her feet I found out that she had moved back in with him.

Self-destruct button? Enjoy danger / drama? Or just naive enough to think that it won’t happen again?

Heartbreaking to watch.

Lots of judgement here I sense.

Imagine a circle of people standing in the room. And you in the middle holding a ball of yarn. Think you are a woman trapped in an abusive relationship. Think of one reason why you can't leave or that woman told you before (as I am sure she had)... I'll give you - no family support as he isolated us from them. Now throw the yarn ball to another person in a circle and ask them to do the same, whilst you hold on to the end of the thread. They say - I am scared for my safety as I was told by my support worker, that women are in most danger when they dare to leave. Then throw the ball again and hold on to the thread. And so on. Imagine that at the end of this exercise 20 people answered.. Imagine you in the middle tangled up in a web of reasons not to leave. That's how hard it is.

I understand all of those points, as explanations of how hard it is to leave. But she left, her family (and others) supported in all sorts of ways, got her healthy again, gave her financial support, helped her to get a new job, paid for counselling, basically did everything they could think of.

And a few months into her new job, without discussing anything with her family or friends, simply dropped the divorce proceedings and moved back in.

Maybe the finality of completing the divorce? Or finding it hard to believe that there wasn’t something good in the previous relationship and that she could get it back to the good times again? "

It's called manipulation.

For many people on the receiving end of abuse in a relationship its a slow creep of abuse.

You groom them. Make them feel special. Make them adore you. But you also make them dependent on you. So they need you.

Once you have your victim isolated and dependent on you, you ease them slowly into the cycle of abuse. It's a slap or a punch and then lots of contrition. Or it's gaslighting and you make them feel like they are worthless and It's all their fault. But it can't be all bad so you make the highs really high. The good times are amazing. They really love you. Really really make everything about the target of the abuse.

The cycle gets worse. More abuse, less good times. Your world becomes filled with fear. You don't want to wake the anger so you become less and less.

And after a while you live in a world of fear and pain and lies. And your self esteem is ground to dust.

When this is your world, nice people are weird. They are all lying to you. You don't trust them. You are waiting for the other shoe to drop, waiting for them to turn on you. It's exhausting.

At least with the abuser you know where you stand. You know that existence. It's a nightmare but it's familiar.

I was sexually abused as a child and I still can't fully understand why I knocked on his door every morning before school. It hurts me to my soul thinking about it but I did it. My abuser groomed me and became my father figure. And the 10 Yr old child craved his father so much that he was willing to take the risk that the bad thing would happen.

That's why people return to abusers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

What did they decide was the reason behind the Dyatlov Pass mystery?

I'm curious about lots of things tbh. I'd love to know what really happened to Elisa Lam.

I like your necklace "

Thank you it was about £3 from Shein

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I absolutely love world mysteries.

Unfortunately, as science surges forward, it keeps bloody well solving them though!

The infamous Dyatlov Pass incident is the latest victim.

Bloody scientific spoil sports

What did they decide was the reason behind the Dyatlov Pass mystery?

I'm curious about lots of things tbh. I'd love to know what really happened to Elisa Lam.

Have a read here:

https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/has-science-solved-history-greatest-adventure-mystery-dyatlov

As regards Elisa Lam there was a rather good documentary on Netflix explaining her very sad demise. ‘Crime Scene: The Vanishing at the Cecil Hotel’ Well worth a watch "

It's on my list of thinks to watch. Some interesting theories out there about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about?

Lady Di and Marilyn Monroe deaths."

The marilyn mystery been solved but fbi blocked invedtigation , she was alive in the ambulance ,died on the way ,taken back and staged the scene, the ambulance driver retracted his statement , a senior politicians brother took a helicopter flight to confront her that nite cos she gonna spill the beans ,mafia had tapes and everyone scared,tragic really ,

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

Hey t-rose, its a mystery to me where my socks go, i put two in the dryer , and i 'll get oneout?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Bermuda Triangle

How/why was Stonehenge built?

What happened to Amelia Earhart?

Why did the writers of Lost write such a shit ending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

where is jimmy hoffa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evening beautiful.

I often wonder about stuff and then forget to ask!

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The Bermuda Triangle

How/why was Stonehenge built?

What happened to Amelia Earhart?

Why did the writers of Lost write such a shit ending?

"

I wish I could add my latest pic to the forum. Stonehenge felt good. whatever it is. Even if placebo effect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Evening beautiful.

I often wonder about stuff and then forget to ask!

Jo.Xx "

I often forget about my threads these days. That's a mystery too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What happens after death. "

You spend eternity in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Human folly

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Happy birthday!

Not my bday.. who started it. thanks tea! "

I had a little panic then, I thought I had missed your birthday Rose.

If it were your birthday today I would have told you that you share it with James Young Simpson, Alois Hitler, Jessica Tandy, Dean Martin, James Jude, Tom Jones, Liam Neeson, Prince and Damien Hirst. But as it isn’t your birthday, I won’t.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Aliens. UFOs. UAPs.

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By *elleRoseCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

I habe so many questions lmao and so many random things in my head I worry for myself lolllll

-Aliens are real just want the proof in front of me ya know....

-Did someone really stand on the moon why did the flag look like it was moving in the wind?

-bermuda triangle is it a thing or is it a cover up for something else ?

Also do dogs bark in there own language ?

When I die do I still get to be like a real deal slut du think God will make a deal with me?

did u know that dobby has a grave ! On a beach

Haha

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

We are led to believe that the number Pi is infinite.

But what happens if we discover it really isn't ? That is has a final, last digit. An End.

Well, it would mean a circle is finite for starters.

Take it a stage further and factor in quantum mechanics and the act of observation.

Would whoever makes this stunning discovery, simply by the act of their observation, undo our known universe ?

What things would "break" that rely on Pi being infinite ?

The mind boggles.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Here’s a fascinating possible explanation for the Bermuda Triangle; It makes for intriguing reading for all those interested:

https://www.nationalgeographic.com/culture/article/160315-norway-craters-methane-hydrates-bermuda-triangle-science

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

And for those wishing for a more grisly mystery which scientists now believe they have solved, look no further than the following:

https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/how-science-solved-the-mystery-of-feet-washing-ashore-in-the-pacific-northwest-salish-sea

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

Death of Elisa Lam - fascinating and the elevator footage is so creepy Would love to know what happened!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mary Celeste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Religion in a modern society and why anyone believes any of it?

Total mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perpetual motion and why it dose not work

First person to get it is going to be a gizilonaire

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By *inBleuMan
over a year ago

Sunny Yorkshire

Despite their best efforts, scientists still can’t explain...

How water rises to the top of the tallest trees...

Or how an aeroplane can fly upside down.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Loch Ness Monster and Big Foot.

I'm all Scooby Doo at heart!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happy birthday!

Not my bday.. who started it. thanks tea!

I had a little panic then, I thought I had missed your birthday Rose.

If it were your birthday today I would have told you that you share it with James Young Simpson, Alois Hitler, Jessica Tandy, Dean Martin, James Jude, Tom Jones, Liam Neeson, Prince and Damien Hirst. But as it isn’t your birthday, I won’t. "

I'd love to share birthday with Mr Neeson

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Loch Ness Monster and Big Foot.

I'm all Scooby Doo at heart! "

Have you been to see the Loch?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are led to believe that the number Pi is infinite.

But what happens if we discover it really isn't ? That is has a final, last digit. An End.

Well, it would mean a circle is finite for starters.

Take it a stage further and factor in quantum mechanics and the act of observation.

Would whoever makes this stunning discovery, simply by the act of their observation, undo our known universe ?

What things would "break" that rely on Pi being infinite ?

The mind boggles.

"

I need to know more of this !

Isn't our universe breaking apart anyway?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Mary Celeste "

They solved that one.

It’s like many ‘mysteries’; the answer is out there and has been found but the romance of the mystery persists long after the answer is discovered.

See also;

The Loch Ness monster

The Bermuda Triangle

Big foot

Those are just off the top of my head

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By *antric ecstasyMan
over a year ago

Co Durham


"What world mysteries intrigue you and you would like to know more about? "

Why is it that when we don't know or understand something or just can't explain it we invent highly improbable explanations, invoke the supernatural or just make shit up? That's a mystery!

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