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By *ubmissiveman2u OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Talking to a Lady we seem to be getting on, but she wont meet me just for a coffee, to meet the real me because i am submissive.

I have explained if I was a stick of rock it would say submissive right through it. I kind of think she wants me to, after 40 years become a vanilla man, but I cant. Any tips on how to explain this would be apreciated please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just very clearly tell her that being a submissive is a big part of who you are, and not one that you're willing or able to give up. Then let her know that if she doesn't want that, then you aren't the right fit for her.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

You are incompatible so just walk away.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Talking to a Lady we seem to be getting on, but she wont meet me just for a coffee, to meet the real me because i am submissive.

I have explained if I was a stick of rock it would say submissive right through it. I kind of think she wants me to, after 40 years become a vanilla man, but I cant. Any tips on how to explain this would be apreciated please. "

Sounds like she wants you to be something that you're not...? If she wanted you to have a 3rd leg or blue eyes or a foot long sausage would you.? Its a stranger you've never met. Imagine if you said to her... "I'm not meeting unless you show up as mistress cruella deville in Costa coffee."

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"You are incompatible so just walk away. "

This at least you know that before you do meet and aren’t wasting your time and effort.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

If she wants something you are not why pursue it?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you been submissive to her whilst you've been chatting ?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

I have explained if I was a stick of rock it would say submissive right through it. "

It would be a big, thick stick of rock !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you already know the answer. If she can't accept you for all of you then it's not going to work. Like you said, It's right through you, it is you, anybody who can't see and accept that isn't compatible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What's to explain? You've told her who you are, she's told you she doesn't want to meet you. Nobody is misleading her or you. Are you trying to get her to change?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't understand what there is to explain. You say you're submissive through and through and it isn't going to change. She doesn't want to meet because you are submissive. Isn't that the end of the discussion? If you both wish to continue chatting online only is up to you both but in terms of meeting people it's obvious you both need to look elsewhere.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I wouldn't waste any more time.

You are what you are! It would never work if she just wants vanilla x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are incompatible so just walk away. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is so much more awaiting for you. You don't need to become anyone else to feel accepted and valued. And it's horrible when people try to mould you into something you are not for their own pleasure. Head high and say bye.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Talking to a Lady we seem to be getting on, but she wont meet me just for a coffee, to meet the real me because i am submissive.

I have explained if I was a stick of rock it would say submissive right through it. I kind of think she wants me to, after 40 years become a vanilla man, but I cant. Any tips on how to explain this would be apreciated please. "

What makes you "kind of think" she wants you to change?

Why do you want her to change?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talking to a Lady we seem to be getting on, but she wont meet me just for a coffee, to meet the real me because i am submissive.

I have explained if I was a stick of rock it would say submissive right through it. I kind of think she wants me to, after 40 years become a vanilla man, but I cant. Any tips on how to explain this would be apreciated please. "

You’re not a match - just move on.

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP   Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

On a nilla level we are very compatable, but any type of kink chat "FROZEN" and ignored, I certainly would never ask or do anything she did not want, but i think its time i moved on we are clearly on diffrent planes. Thank you to all for your comments...

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