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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

Have you ever carried a torch for someone you've known for a while?

Maybe they are a good friend and you feel/felt friend zoned.

Maybe they are in a relationship and the timing is all wrong.

Or are you waiting for the right moment?

Did you tell them? How did it work out?

Or, do you still carry a torch and will never tell them?

If not...why not?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I did and it didn’t.

That’s just the way life goes sometimes.

It’s shit though.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I did and it didn’t.

That’s just the way life goes sometimes.

It’s shit though. "

At least you went for it. That's got to be better than not knowing...isn't it?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I did.

We went out a few times together as mates and I wanted to tell her but was too shy... then my work mate asked her out.

She ended up marrying him and moving abroad.

I was gutted, but that was a long time ago now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now

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By *omesticflightMan
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

Ooooft.. yes. Several crushes

Maybe it's unhealthy, because I suppose I do cross my fingers that something might happen.. but I've no expectations. Grateful I have so many beautiful women in my life. It's a nice problem to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever carried a torch for someone you've known for a while?

Maybe they are a good friend and you feel/felt friend zoned.

Maybe they are in a relationship and the timing is all wrong.

Or are you waiting for the right moment?

Did you tell them? How did it work out?

Or, do you still carry a torch and will never tell them?

If not...why not?"

I didn't as never had the nerve

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I did and it didn’t.

That’s just the way life goes sometimes.

It’s shit though.

At least you went for it. That's got to be better than not knowing...isn't it?"

Sorry I did carry a torch, circumstances meant I didn’t do anything about it.

It’s true, nice guys do always finish last!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did and it didn’t.

That’s just the way life goes sometimes.

It’s shit though.

At least you went for it. That's got to be better than not knowing...isn't it?

Sorry I did carry a torch, circumstances meant I didn’t do anything about it.

It’s true, nice guys do always finish last! "

I feel your pain bro

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now "

There’s no such thing as Sod’s law! You have an opportunity, take it, you have nothing to lose, and maybe, everything to gain!

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I had a crush on a female friend for the longest time but never said anything because she wasn’t single and when she finally was I was in a relationship… eventually told her after about 15 years when it looked like it would never go any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now

There’s no such thing as Sod’s law! You have an opportunity, take it, you have nothing to lose, and maybe, everything to gain! "

It is now she’s not interested in men

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now

There’s no such thing as Sod’s law! You have an opportunity, take it, you have nothing to lose, and maybe, everything to gain!

It is now she’s not interested in men "

Gay or had enough of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a secret that I may have this secret….or maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now

There’s no such thing as Sod’s law! You have an opportunity, take it, you have nothing to lose, and maybe, everything to gain!

It is now she’s not interested in men

Gay or had enough of them? "

She’s gay so she says but think it’s more than that she won’t tell me but plenty more out there I suppose I can only do my best and support her Decision

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I’ve had a best friend since I was 5 and fell in love with her at school, never told her as she was my best friend still have feelings for her and haven’t seen her in a while since I moved to the lakes, but recently found out she was single. Just Sod’s law I can’t do anything about it now

There’s no such thing as Sod’s law! You have an opportunity, take it, you have nothing to lose, and maybe, everything to gain!

It is now she’s not interested in men

Gay or had enough of them?

She’s gay so she says but think it’s more than that she won’t tell me but plenty more out there I suppose I can only do my best and support her Decision"

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

I don't think I have ever had a secret crush, I suffer from opening my mouth before thinking syndrome so if I like someone they will know about it! Any 'crushes' usually become great friends, crushing to me feels like a surface emotion

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It was never a secret. We had a thing years ago and he asked me to move away with him, I didn't think he was serious at the time but 30 odd years down the line he is the only man I trust as much as my dad.

My best male friend I shall love/care about always x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a secret crush and I still do , didn’t hand the courage to tell her, and when I did was to late x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I thought you meant on here!

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I thought you meant on here! "

A crush is a crush ...don't matter where it is

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I thought you meant on here! "

Could be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past but not at the moment

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Had a crush on my boss once, I used to get a night flight to work and arrive early hours and sleep a couple hours at her apartment in a spare room then travel into the office together. She used to answer the door all sleepy in a nightie, and I wondered if we’d ever make a slightly different arrangement. We were close, but both professional so nothing happened, then she got married for a while and we both moved on to different countries, but still catch up time to time abs carry a bit of matchstick

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes. The son of my parents’ best friends. Since I was about 10. I used to get sooooo excited when when we went there or they came to ours. We went on holidays together too. There was always chemistry and still is 40 years later. I still get those butterflies when I see him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

younger yes.

today no. you waste so much of your life on ifs buts and maybe. i see no point in dreaming about others who quite frankly couldnt give a monkeys about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, when I was younger (16 ish) - I wasn't as confident back then as I am now. He eventually found out but the feeling wasn't mutual. He's now married with a baby and I'm happily engaged so it all worked out for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a crush for a couple of years on a friend I’d known for ages, opened up about it to her, kissed and then we both decided it would just be too weird and would probably ruin the friendship that we’d built.

I’m now head bride dude for her wedding and outrank all of her bridesmaids

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