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"My mates funeral in a couple of weeks... seems a long inquest into the what happened and what with Covid it’ll have been 8 weeks (probably nit to long I guess) But it got me thinking, I’m not into churchy stuff. Personally I’d love a bonfire (me on top of it) on a remote beach a tent for beer and a good feast. And music to remember me with. Also three songs I want played Creedence - have you ever seen the rain Dire straits - brothers in arms Lynyrd Skynyrd- free bird All have meaning to me. This isn’t an game just me interested in what people sometimes avoid discussing. But it’s something that dips into my life to frequently at the moment. And it helps me deal with trauma by openly having it in my face to avoid putting it to the back of my mind. If you want to comment! Leave your views in your ideas and even your songs. I’d genuinely like to hear them. Thanks " Sorry for you're loss. Free Bird is an amazing song. My mum and sister and I talk about it and have even written down what we want. I wouldn't want church service a humanist funeral for me. Everyone wearing my favourite colours and drinking Gin and talking stories about me. Not sure on the songs as yet as love so many. But definitely good to talk about  | |||
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"My mates funeral in a couple of weeks... seems a long inquest into the what happened and what with Covid it’ll have been 8 weeks (probably nit to long I guess) But it got me thinking, I’m not into churchy stuff. Personally I’d love a bonfire (me on top of it) on a remote beach a tent for beer and a good feast. And music to remember me with. Also three songs I want played Creedence - have you ever seen the rain Dire straits - brothers in arms Lynyrd Skynyrd- free bird All have meaning to me. This isn’t an game just me interested in what people sometimes avoid discussing. But it’s something that dips into my life to frequently at the moment. And it helps me deal with trauma by openly having it in my face to avoid putting it to the back of my mind. If you want to comment! Leave your views in your ideas and even your songs. I’d genuinely like to hear them. Thanks Sorry for you're loss. Free Bird is an amazing song. My mum and sister and I talk about it and have even written down what we want. I wouldn't want church service a humanist funeral for me. Everyone wearing my favourite colours and drinking Gin and talking stories about me. Not sure on the songs as yet as love so many. But definitely good to talk about "Thanks I’ve been to so many of guys my age over last 12 years. Lost 6 guys on operational tours, 8 good lads I worked with after leaving And unfortunately 6 more ex mil lads to suicide But I do think it’s good to talk. Either over a brew or a tinny on a hill after a good walk. | |||
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"My mates funeral in a couple of weeks... seems a long inquest into the what happened and what with Covid it’ll have been 8 weeks (probably nit to long I guess) But it got me thinking, I’m not into churchy stuff. Personally I’d love a bonfire (me on top of it) on a remote beach a tent for beer and a good feast. And music to remember me with. Also three songs I want played Creedence - have you ever seen the rain Dire straits - brothers in arms Lynyrd Skynyrd- free bird All have meaning to me. This isn’t an game just me interested in what people sometimes avoid discussing. But it’s something that dips into my life to frequently at the moment. And it helps me deal with trauma by openly having it in my face to avoid putting it to the back of my mind. If you want to comment! Leave your views in your ideas and even your songs. I’d genuinely like to hear them. Thanks Sorry for you're loss. Free Bird is an amazing song. My mum and sister and I talk about it and have even written down what we want. I wouldn't want church service a humanist funeral for me. Everyone wearing my favourite colours and drinking Gin and talking stories about me. Not sure on the songs as yet as love so many. But definitely good to talk about
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I’ve been to so many of guys my age over last 12 years.
Lost 6 guys on operational tours, 8 good lads I worked with after leaving
And unfortunately 6 more ex mil lads to suicide
But I do think it’s good to talk. Either over a brew or a tinny on a hill after a good walk.
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"Sorry for your loss. I want a humanist ceremony, where the focus is about me and my interaction with friends and family rather than some mythical made up being. I actually have a playlist for my funeral with a few songs on it that I’m trying to narrow down to 3 or 4, so far I’ve settled on Queensryche - Silent Lucidity Jacob Bryant - Pour Whiskey on my grave" Just listened to the Jacob Bryant one I love it! Yeah I certainly don’t want a churchy one... and those that do that’s great. But yeah I just want stories about my life and interactions with those that matter My two circles as such. | |||
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"Sorry for your loss. I want a humanist ceremony, where the focus is about me and my interaction with friends and family rather than some mythical made up being. I actually have a playlist for my funeral with a few songs on it that I’m trying to narrow down to 3 or 4, so far I’ve settled on Queensryche - Silent Lucidity Jacob Bryant - Pour Whiskey on my grave Just listened to the Jacob Bryant one I love it! Yeah I certainly don’t want a churchy one... and those that do that’s great. But yeah I just want stories about my life and interactions with those that matter My two circles as such. " the song sums up my attitude to it perfectly really. I want people I care about to carry on enjoying themselves and think of me as they do | |||
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"Sorry for your loss. I want a humanist ceremony, where the focus is about me and my interaction with friends and family rather than some mythical made up being. I actually have a playlist for my funeral with a few songs on it that I’m trying to narrow down to 3 or 4, so far I’ve settled on Queensryche - Silent Lucidity Jacob Bryant - Pour Whiskey on my grave Just listened to the Jacob Bryant one I love it! Yeah I certainly don’t want a churchy one... and those that do that’s great. But yeah I just want stories about my life and interactions with those that matter My two circles as such. the song sums up my attitude to it perfectly really. I want people I care about to carry on enjoying themselves and think of me as they do" Rum for me though A rum toast to remember me by | |||
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"Sorry to hear it mate. I’d like to be burned, preferably on a beach in Northumberland, my ashes scattered on the sands and sea. Musically: The Big wheel by Massive Attack Song to the siren - This Mortal Coil When the music’s over - The Doors And I want people to wear colourful clothes, no black! " No Chelsea colours then lol  | |||
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"Sorry to hear it mate. I’d like to be burned, preferably on a beach in Northumberland, my ashes scattered on the sands and sea. Musically: The Big wheel by Massive Attack Song to the siren - This Mortal Coil When the music’s over - The Doors And I want people to wear colourful clothes, no black! No Chelsea colours then lol "Haha, touché! | |||
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"Sorry to hear it mate. I’d like to be burned, preferably on a beach in Northumberland, my ashes scattered on the sands and sea. Musically: The Big wheel by Massive Attack Song to the siren - This Mortal Coil When the music’s over - The Doors And I want people to wear colourful clothes, no black! No Chelsea colours then lol
Haha, touché! "Great songs though and I’d love the pyre to be somewhere cool Bamburgh beach always gets my heart beating | |||
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"As Brits we are far too scared to openly talk about death. I think the attitude is slowly changing and I think it's a really important discussion to have. " Yeahs a taboo topic, but I think it helps to move forward. We can still Mourn respectfully and pass on best wishes to people that prefer solitude and time to grieve. But I much prefer to laugh and tell stories. And toast a few memories with my brothers... I mean I’d sooner it have to... and would sooner get slaughtered over beer with them around a fire pit | |||
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"As Brits we are far too scared to openly talk about death. I think the attitude is slowly changing and I think it's a really important discussion to have. " I’d rather not though. It’s going to happen I know that. That’s enough talking about it I need to do. | |||
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"Sorry for your loss op Since losing my mum suddenly a few years ago I've planned how I would like my funeral all the music and dress code my husband and children know my wishes " Thankyou x It’s good to let people know what you want... I know we are no longer here to care. But it’s a respect thing | |||
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"Sorry for your loss op Since losing my mum suddenly a few years ago I've planned how I would like my funeral all the music and dress code my husband and children know my wishes Thankyou x It’s good to let people know what you want... I know we are no longer here to care. But it’s a respect thing " My parents never discussed it with each other let alone anyone else so was hard to know what she wanted or didn't want even after sorting out my grandparents funerals in quite quick succession | |||
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"My mates funeral in a couple of weeks... seems a long inquest into the what happened and what with Covid it’ll have been 8 weeks (probably nit to long I guess) But it got me thinking, I’m not into churchy stuff. Personally I’d love a bonfire (me on top of it) on a remote beach a tent for beer and a good feast. And music to remember me with. Also three songs I want played Creedence - have you ever seen the rain Dire straits - brothers in arms Lynyrd Skynyrd- free bird All have meaning to me. This isn’t an game just me interested in what people sometimes avoid discussing. But it’s something that dips into my life to frequently at the moment. And it helps me deal with trauma by openly having it in my face to avoid putting it to the back of my mind. If you want to comment! Leave your views in your ideas and even your songs. I’d genuinely like to hear them. Thanks " The bonfire reminds me of when I went to arrange my youngest kids dads funeral the undertaker said soonest is nov 5th he was having a cremation! I said ohh yes deffo that date! that would appeal to his sense of humour! X | |||
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"Mine is all sorted...not songs as such but more music both on the bagpipes Highland Cathedral and Amazing Grace " I do love a good tune on a bagpipe... I’ve only once been to see the tattoo but the lone piper still makes the hairs on my neck tingle even thinking about it... There us a Welsh marching song that does the same for me too Men of Harlech | |||
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"Mine is all sorted...not songs as such but more music both on the bagpipes Highland Cathedral and Amazing Grace I do love a good tune on a bagpipe... I’ve only once been to see the tattoo but the lone piper still makes the hairs on my neck tingle even thinking about it... There us a Welsh marching song that does the same for me too Men of Harlech " It's the Scottish in me. The tattoo is absolutely amazing but as you say there is just something about the lone piper...glad I have one in the family. | |||
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"Talking through trauma as cliche as it sounds can be one of the best mechanisms to avoid self destruction, although there can be some cathartic release in the physicality of taking a hammer to a brick wall. Music can be very emotive and as such my choices change quite a bit depending on my mood, however today this is what I would choose: Korn - Blind - The first band that I ever felt “spoke” to me and this was *the* song! Mushroom Head - Carry On - Not their best tune but I appreciate the lyrics Johny Cash - Hurt - When a cover takes the original and makes it their own " Jonny cash’s hurt is an amazing song, I’ve chose mine fir similar meanings, they all evoke meanings to me. Fortunately my mum spoke recently about sings she would like. And she mentions a song I also love skynrds simple man I played her the Shinedown version and she loved that one too. And it’s a great song about a mother’s advice to her boy | |||
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"Mine is all sorted...not songs as such but more music both on the bagpipes Highland Cathedral and Amazing Grace " I walked down the aisle to a bagpiper playing Highland Cathedral & it would be on my list too. I do love piped music - have you listened to The Red Hot Chilli Pipers? J x | |||
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"Mine is all sorted...not songs as such but more music both on the bagpipes Highland Cathedral and Amazing Grace I walked down the aisle to a bagpiper playing Highland Cathedral & it would be on my list too. I do love piped music - have you listened to The Red Hot Chilli Pipers? J x" I've been to see them a few times..absolutely brilliant x | |||
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"Sorry for your loss OP. I'm not into the church music either. I would like two of my favourite songs.. Piano Man - Going In Flying without Wings - Going out" Thank you... it seems to be becoming far to familiar as late. Luckily I tend to deal with things quite well. And rationalise shit in my head. He was a from my inner circle so harder than most. But I’ve got an amazing circle to help me talk things through. This is just a little bit of therapeutic and lighthearted way to remember fir me. Nothing sad just good thoughts. Yeah my list is in order if how I want them played I’d like my regiments marching song played too When I go Hearts of oak | |||
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"Sorry for your loss OP. I'm not into the church music either. I would like two of my favourite songs.. Piano Man - Going In Flying without Wings - Going out Thank you... it seems to be becoming far to familiar as late. Luckily I tend to deal with things quite well. And rationalise shit in my head. He was a from my inner circle so harder than most. But I’ve got an amazing circle to help me talk things through. This is just a little bit of therapeutic and lighthearted way to remember fir me. Nothing sad just good thoughts. Yeah my list is in order if how I want them played I’d like my regiments marching song played too When I go Hearts of oak " I’m from a very military family & my younger brother has lost more than our dad or granddads did. It doesn’t get easier either. Sending my love J x | |||
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"Sorry for your loss OP. I'm not into the church music either. I would like two of my favourite songs.. Piano Man - Going In Flying without Wings - Going out Thank you... it seems to be becoming far to familiar as late. Luckily I tend to deal with things quite well. And rationalise shit in my head. He was a from my inner circle so harder than most. But I’ve got an amazing circle to help me talk things through. This is just a little bit of therapeutic and lighthearted way to remember fir me. Nothing sad just good thoughts. Yeah my list is in order if how I want them played I’d like my regiments marching song played too When I go Hearts of oak I’m from a very military family & my younger brother has lost more than our dad or granddads did. It doesn’t get easier either. Sending my love J x" Thank you and the military always mourns a loss me very ones a brother or a sister | |||
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"I lost my dad 2 years ago suddenly, to be honest it was devastating to the whole family. He wanted some crackers of songs played at his funeral and that's exactly what he got. I've thought about my own when the time comes and to be honest i had already made my mind up on the song. It has to be and will be Lynyrd Skynyd's Freebird as well lol. But it has to be the live version from One more from The Road. It's a song that has been with me my whole adult life and anyone that knows me will also know how much it means to me. Plus they will all have to sit through all 11 mins and 30 seconds of it "Haha there’s a few Skynrd songs I love Tuesdays gone is another But I remember car drives with my old man listening to free bird. Brothers in arms fir my military life And creedence are probably my life long love with music. And hugely over looked at times | |||
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"You Can't Kill Rock and Roll by Ozzy. I am a Randy Rhoads fan who was the lead guitar on this track. He died tragically in 1982. Put so much emotion in his playing." I love the personal choices that go into songs. They done even need to be full of meaningful lyrics. Jyst cool tracks that evokes memories | |||
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"Oddly this is somthing that has been discussed over the years with family and friends due to us having lost some close people at a young ages. I’ve said I want a service yes but not really as a send off for me but more as a way of having people togther tgat may not have seen each other for a while. I have a little money put away for a bar tab and I’ve basically said I want them to have a fucking good party on me. Who knows could be a week or 60 bloody years before they get that ??????. I’ve told them I want marshal Jefferson move your body and pennies from heaven played just basically cause I’ve always loved both those tunes and they are very uplifting." Who doesn’t love a good send off Here’s hoping it’s the latter end of the timescale | |||
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