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"It's all over the news. I don't make this stuff up... I’m a woman (born one and my choice of gender) and a Mother (actually gave birth). I don’t want to be called a Milf or Pilf. Gender issues are becoming ridiculous in my opinion. Happy to call anyone what they wish but I am secure in who I am." Exactly and no-one should dictate to the other what they choose to be called. | |||
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"It's all over the news. I don't make this stuff up... I’m a woman (born one and my choice of gender) and a Mother (actually gave birth). I don’t want to be called a Milf or Pilf. Gender issues are becoming ridiculous in my opinion. Happy to call anyone what they wish but I am secure in who I am." | |||
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"It's all over the news. I don't make this stuff up... I’m a woman (born one and my choice of gender) and a Mother (actually gave birth). I don’t want to be called a Milf or Pilf. Gender issues are becoming ridiculous in my opinion. Happy to call anyone what they wish but I am secure in who I am. Exactly and no-one should dictate to the other what they choose to be called. " | |||
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"According to reports the Stonewall organisation wants organisations to stop using the word Mother as it is not gender neutral. Instead they should be called, 'Parents who have given birth' So MILFs are out and PILFs are in.. Any Mum's on fab have a view?" If you can call it news lol | |||
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"According to reports the Stonewall organisation wants organisations to stop using the word Mother as it is not gender neutral. Instead they should be called, 'Parents who have given birth' So MILFs are out and PILFs are in.. Any Mum's on fab have a view? If you can call it news lol " American pie will be dubbed to “pilf pilf pilf pilf” | |||
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"According to reports the Stonewall organisation wants organisations to stop using the word Mother as it is not gender neutral. Instead they should be called, 'Parents who have given birth' So MILFs are out and PILFs are in.. Any Mum's on fab have a view?" Left wing bullshit, but that's just my view. | |||
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"I'll stick with being called a mother. I notice the news reports don't mention banning the word 'father', and what about people who have adopted their children? They are no less mothers and fathers just because they didn't physically give birth. I'm all for people identifying however they want and using their preferred pronouns, but I take exception to having my identity as a mother obliterated." I agree. You call yourself what you want but I reserve the right to call myself a mother. | |||
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"But how can it be: "Parents who have given birth"? There is only one of you that goes through it, not both. It's as bad as when couples say: "We are pregnant" There is no "we" about it, its only one person who is pregnant yet again. It should be: "We are having a baby" or something along those lines. Just my opinion obviously " Its to include a person who was born a female but later transitioned and/or identifies as male who becomes pregnant and gives birth, some have concludes that it is bigoted to make statements such as women get pregnant/ women give birth women menstrate as it excludes people who identify as male but still are able to do all those things.... But I agree with whoever said I don't want to be called a milf or a pilf | |||
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"Get the directions from Stonewall directly, Tom, rather than media reports. " Yes, this. A lot of strong reactions here over an inaccuracy posted by someone who's clearly trying to shit-stir. | |||
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"All over the news? Yet Googling +PILF +Stonewall returns nothing." Suggest you remove PILF from your search.. | |||
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"But how can it be: "Parents who have given birth"? There is only one of you that goes through it, not both. It's as bad as when couples say: "We are pregnant" There is no "we" about it, its only one person who is pregnant yet again. It should be: "We are having a baby" or something along those lines. Just my opinion obviously " Oh god hate that too 'we are pregnant' nope,no your not ! So weird! | |||
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"Get the directions from Stonewall directly, Tom, rather than media reports. Yes, this. A lot of strong reactions here over an inaccuracy posted by someone who's clearly trying to shit-stir." I looked and got this... 'Hundreds of organisations wanting to be included on Stonewall's equality leaderboard should replace the term 'mother' with 'parent who has given birth', the LGBT charity has said. The controversial group has issued various guidance to employers wanting to make the cut on its Workplace Equality Index, which has attracted more than 500 applications in the last year.' | |||
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"Google Stonewall and mother. People actually think I make this up.... " If you post links people may believe you. | |||
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"Google Stonewall and mother. People actually think I make this up.... If you post links people may believe you." Why disbelieve ? X | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding " | |||
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"Google Stonewall and mother. People actually think I make this up.... If you post links people may believe you. Why disbelieve ? X" Fair point.. But it helps if you post the link to what you read because then people can get more info and discuss it. | |||
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"Around 6,000 children will have died today from preventable diseases. The reason why developed nations have drama around what label they intend to wear today is because this isn’t happening where they live. Perspective would be so nice wouldn’t it? " Where have they sadly died? | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding " Please tell me that’s not serious!??? | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding Please tell me that’s not serious!???" Sadly it's true...no more breast feeding...it's called chest feeding | |||
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"It's all over the news. I don't make this stuff up..." you should start a blog called this | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding Please tell me that’s not serious!??? Sadly it's true...no more breast feeding...it's called chest feeding" Nah I’m not having that lol. That’s not true | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding Please tell me that’s not serious!??? Sadly it's true...no more breast feeding...it's called chest feeding Nah I’m not having that lol. That’s not true " It's true.. It's all over the news.. I don't make this stuff up | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding Please tell me that’s not serious!??? Sadly it's true...no more breast feeding...it's called chest feeding Nah I’m not having that lol. That’s not true It's true.. It's all over the news.. I don't make this stuff up" I dunno what news channel you watch Tom! | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding Please tell me that’s not serious!??? Sadly it's true...no more breast feeding...it's called chest feeding Nah I’m not having that lol. That’s not true It's true.. It's all over the news.. I don't make this stuff up I dunno what news channel you watch Tom!" Please find just one of my news threads that is not true x | |||
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"But how can it be: "Parents who have given birth"? There is only one of you that goes through it, not both. It's as bad as when couples say: "We are pregnant" There is no "we" about it, its only one person who is pregnant yet again. It should be: "We are having a baby" or something along those lines. Just my opinion obviously " Got to take issue with the "only one of you goes through it " trust me, she made me suffer..... | |||
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"Yeah, I have a view. I'm 100% supportive of all and I think it's fantastic that acceptance of the variences in how people identify is becoming better accepted. However, why is it then at the cost of MY identity as a woman rather that a 'person with a uterus' and as a Mother. Am I to be open to others identity at the cost of my own? Why, why does my identity have to be replaced? I am a woman and a mother and I will continue to be such. " i agree with you and it was never a uterus that made someone a mother anyway - how many adoptive parents get called mum, how many guys who didn't contribute the sperm take on the father role for their partners kids …. so if you used to be a woman and now identify as a male thats fine - you can be dad, and vice versa for trans women - where is the problem? | |||
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"Apparently it's chestfeeding and human milk.. no more mother's milk " Stop the world I wanna get off | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding " hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? | |||
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"Yeah, I have a view. I'm 100% supportive of all and I think it's fantastic that acceptance of the variences in how people identify is becoming better accepted. However, why is it then at the cost of MY identity as a woman rather that a 'person with a uterus' and as a Mother. Am I to be open to others identity at the cost of my own? Why, why does my identity have to be replaced? I am a woman and a mother and I will continue to be such. i agree with you and it was never a uterus that made someone a mother anyway - how many adoptive parents get called mum, how many guys who didn't contribute the sperm take on the father role for their partners kids …. so if you used to be a woman and now identify as a male thats fine - you can be dad, and vice versa for trans women - where is the problem? " Over the years I know a few women who got themselves pregnant but I am sure they identify as mum's... | |||
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"Right. So top stories are from The Sun, The Daily Mail, The Express, The Times, LBC... Tells me all I need to know, really." It's on the independent too | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? " Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) | |||
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"But how can it be: "Parents who have given birth"? There is only one of you that goes through it, not both. It's as bad as when couples say: "We are pregnant" There is no "we" about it, its only one person who is pregnant yet again. It should be: "We are having a baby" or something along those lines. Just my opinion obviously " Couvade syndrome, also known as phantom pregnancy, is a condition men suffer from when women are pregnant. Often referred to as sympathetic pregnancy. They may nit get the end result, but they can go through the feeling | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) " im scared to | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) im scared to " oh ok no that makes total sense, the baby is still breast feeding but just getting extra nutrients through a tube either way there is a boob involved so i dont understand why changing it to chest feeding | |||
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"Apparently it's chestfeeding and human milk.. no more mother's milk Stop the world I wanna get off " Wait for me i'll join you. I see this as cancelling of women to appease a radical, very vocal, very tiny minority. | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) im scared to oh ok no that makes total sense, the baby is still breast feeding but just getting extra nutrients through a tube either way there is a boob involved so i dont understand why changing it to chest feeding " Male parents can actually use an SNS. I'm aware of same-sex male parents who've used them, for example.... Often in conjunction with bottle feeding if there's no breast involved, but still, it's possible for no nipple or breast to be involved in an SNS. | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) im scared to oh ok no that makes total sense, the baby is still breast feeding but just getting extra nutrients through a tube either way there is a boob involved so i dont understand why changing it to chest feeding Male parents can actually use an SNS. I'm aware of same-sex male parents who've used them, for example.... Often in conjunction with bottle feeding if there's no breast involved, but still, it's possible for no nipple or breast to be involved in an SNS." is there any real benefit to that though? like what os the child getting from it that they couldn’t just get from sitting on the couch feeding them normally with a bottle? genuine questions | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) im scared to oh ok no that makes total sense, the baby is still breast feeding but just getting extra nutrients through a tube either way there is a boob involved so i dont understand why changing it to chest feeding Male parents can actually use an SNS. I'm aware of same-sex male parents who've used them, for example.... Often in conjunction with bottle feeding if there's no breast involved, but still, it's possible for no nipple or breast to be involved in an SNS. is there any real benefit to that though? like what os the child getting from it that they couldn’t just get from sitting on the couch feeding them normally with a bottle? genuine questions " Most of the examples I've seen DID involve latching on, just to a nipple that didn't have milk on the other side, so the SNS did the bit that the milk ducts would otherwise do. The idea is to allow the parent and baby to have a breastfeeding relationship. Kellymom is a good breastfeeding advice site, they have an article entitled "Transgender parents and chest/breastfeeding" which may be of interest. | |||
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"It’s getting crazy now I’m in a breastfeeding group and your not allowed to say things such as mum and they call it chest feeding hold on - so what are people chest feeding doing? do they not need to have milk filled breasts? or have we invented some strap on contraption now? Google supplementary nursing system (SNS) im scared to oh ok no that makes total sense, the baby is still breast feeding but just getting extra nutrients through a tube either way there is a boob involved so i dont understand why changing it to chest feeding Male parents can actually use an SNS. I'm aware of same-sex male parents who've used them, for example.... Often in conjunction with bottle feeding if there's no breast involved, but still, it's possible for no nipple or breast to be involved in an SNS. is there any real benefit to that though? like what os the child getting from it that they couldn’t just get from sitting on the couch feeding them normally with a bottle? genuine questions Most of the examples I've seen DID involve latching on, just to a nipple that didn't have milk on the other side, so the SNS did the bit that the milk ducts would otherwise do. The idea is to allow the parent and baby to have a breastfeeding relationship. Kellymom is a good breastfeeding advice site, they have an article entitled "Transgender parents and chest/breastfeeding" which may be of interest." ah ok so the article i saw when i googled it was women who were creating milk, just not enough to feed the baby sustainably so this was going in nat same time as the nipple and supplementing | |||
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"Technically PWHGBILF" No, that's Welsh *nods* | |||
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"It's all over the news. I don't make this stuff up... you should start a blog called this " | |||
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"Apparently it's chestfeeding and human milk.. no more mother's milk Stop the world I wanna get off Wait for me i'll join you. I see this as cancelling of women to appease a radical, very vocal, very tiny minority." That's kinda my point. Yes have your identity just not at the cost of mine. | |||
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"Right. So top stories are from The Sun, The Daily Mail, The Express, The Times, LBC... Tells me all I need to know, really." It doesn't matter where it comes from if its true | |||
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"the more i think about this the more i am torn, i can see how a trans woman can feel excluded by some terms, and how women clinging on to them sends a message ok i was kind of for your equality but only if i actually was slightly superior to that - which i can see is wrong but the other half of me says this isn’t about equality, its about identity, and trans people have had the opportunity to define their identity, yet many women have identified as mothers for a very long time and that identity is now being removed from them - and i can also see that is wrong all it leaves me with is i have no idea what the right answer is, in this specific case i do think mother and father have always been inclusive and never had to mean biological so a trans person can still just adopt the term of their chosen gender (and presumably we need a new term for gender fluid) but in more generalised gender language it is hard to provide equality to one group without eroding the identity of another " I also don't think its just about trans. As I've just posted, a lot of guys assume anyone over thd age of 30 is a milf. For those who struggle to conceive or who simply cannot be a milf it can be very upsetting. | |||
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"the more i think about this the more i am torn, i can see how a trans woman can feel excluded by some terms, and how women clinging on to them sends a message ok i was kind of for your equality but only if i actually was slightly superior to that - which i can see is wrong but the other half of me says this isn’t about equality, its about identity, and trans people have had the opportunity to define their identity, yet many women have identified as mothers for a very long time and that identity is now being removed from them - and i can also see that is wrong all it leaves me with is i have no idea what the right answer is, in this specific case i do think mother and father have always been inclusive and never had to mean biological so a trans person can still just adopt the term of their chosen gender (and presumably we need a new term for gender fluid) but in more generalised gender language it is hard to provide equality to one group without eroding the identity of another I also don't think its just about trans. As I've just posted, a lot of guys assume anyone over thd age of 30 is a milf. For those who struggle to conceive or who simply cannot be a milf it can be very upsetting. " I’ve had kids and I bloody hate the term. And cougar! Awful. | |||
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"I give my full support to every sexual identify but there are some that follow blindly, incapable of debate, pouring scorn on the poster, scorn on the source and use the 'if your not with us your against us strategy'. Essex Tom often tackles the difficult topics, Diversity, Racism, Identity Politics, Brown Sauce or Ketchup, UFOs, Alien Life, Sharks and Crocodiles. Some then put their prejudice on to him. They think he is a racist, bigoted, homophobic, sexist, mysognist, misandric, Lionel despising moron. He is none of these things. Now he will concentrate on his latest dog ears thread....." I thought Tom and Lionel are the same person. | |||
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"I give my full support to every sexual identify but there are some that follow blindly, incapable of debate, pouring scorn on the poster, scorn on the source and use the 'if your not with us your against us strategy'. Essex Tom often tackles the difficult topics, Diversity, Racism, Identity Politics, Brown Sauce or Ketchup, UFOs, Alien Life, Sharks and Crocodiles. Some then put their prejudice on to him. They think he is a racist, bigoted, homophobic, sexist, mysognist, misandric, Lionel despising moron. He is none of these things. Now he will concentrate on his latest dog ears thread..... I thought Tom and Lionel are the same person." No. We are streets apart but share common ground. We can actually debate and share views. Of course his are usually flawed but all the same I respect him | |||
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"I give my full support to every sexual identify but there are some that follow blindly, incapable of debate, pouring scorn on the poster, scorn on the source and use the 'if your not with us your against us strategy'. Essex Tom often tackles the difficult topics, Diversity, Racism, Identity Politics, Brown Sauce or Ketchup, UFOs, Alien Life, Sharks and Crocodiles. Some then put their prejudice on to him. They think he is a racist, bigoted, homophobic, sexist, mysognist, misandric, Lionel despising moron. He is none of these things. Now he will concentrate on his latest dog ears thread..... I thought Tom and Lionel are the same person. No. We are streets apart but share common ground. We can actually debate and share views. Of course his are usually flawed but all the same I respect him" Bromance | |||
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"I would hazard a guess that the individual parents be they mothers, fathers or whoever aren't really that bothered & know their situation is not the established norm & just want to get on with their life quietly. What you have here is an organisation run by crackpots trying to create publicity for themselves as they become ever less relevant in how people choose to identify & just get on with their lives day to day. " I like that... | |||
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"Fucking fuck off, and when you get there, fuck off some more you fucking fuckers who think this shit up! Phew, that feels better...PMT, in case youre wondering " Calm down dear...in case your wondering.. David Cameron Quote.. Who? The crooked bastard | |||
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"As much as I hate to support the OP and his views, I saw this on the Beeb website a few days ago. Not seen anything about Step-Pilfs, or Pilfs-in-law though Total lunacy!!! " Why do you hate to support the OP? | |||
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