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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its human nature to look.

I know I have sneaky peek if someone has curtains open or a door open.

I don't mean to cause the person any offence im just nosey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its human nature to look.

I know I have sneaky peek if someone has curtains open or a door open.

I don't mean to cause the person any offence im just nosey.

"

Maybe it's just how I was raised then. My dad used to tell us off really badly if we even dared to look up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo we were raised the same, but there are a lot if perves out there!

I shower with the blind open all through the lighter months, but as soon as i have to put a light on i close the blind, otherwise I'd be doing the light fandango

So i guess if it disturbs you, then really the solution is curtains / blinds as you can't really control other peoples actions

If you mentioned it to his wife i am sure she deal with it, but it could cause an atmosphere /animosity

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

It is terribly bad manners, but honestly, I’d look at you too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its human nature to look.

I know I have sneaky peek if someone has curtains open or a door open.

I don't mean to cause the person any offence im just nosey.

Maybe it's just how I was raised then. My dad used to tell us off really badly if we even dared to look up!"

I think it is bad manners especially if the person stops and stares but a quick curious glance wouldn't upset me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's bad manners. Maybe if he stopped and just stood there looking. If I see movement out of the corner of my eye I will always look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that"

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's bad manners. Maybe if he stopped and just stood there looking. If I see movement out of the corner of my eye I will always look."

Thats what I was getting at but you worded it better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

Confront him and accuse him of being a peeping tom....how dare he glace up on the off chance that your getting dressed with the curtains open...how dare he....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses "

Yes same. But I was always told to close my curtains when getting changed too. *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

You just know what time he is out there or the sound of the bins moving.

Lol admit it

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

Curiosity saw the Kitty... I think it is human nature to have a quick glance we probably all do it....

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I never forget to close my curtains when I get dressed.

First thing I think of when I'm naked is "God, I don't want anyone seeing my flab".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was never taught that or not that I can remember, but I wouldn't look up and peer in as I know it's intrusive. There are plenty that would though. It's when they're holding binoculars that you really have to watch out!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses "

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington


"I don't think it's bad manners. Maybe if he stopped and just stood there looking. If I see movement out of the corner of my eye I will always look.

Thats what I was getting at but you worded it better. "

As a one off, yes we have all done that, but this guy is persistently doing it, so for me, it is bad manners to continually do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's bad manners. Maybe if he stopped and just stood there looking. If I see movement out of the corner of my eye I will always look.

Thats what I was getting at but you worded it better. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

Yes same. But I was always told to close my curtains when getting changed too. *shrugs*"

Yes this is true too, I should make sure I do this every time. You're not wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think."

that sounds intentional / hopeful / pervy rather than nosey

I'm the same - never look in windows.. mum would've given me a crack I've got a couple of neighbours who are properly nosey, so just got some vertial blinds put in.. they let the light & air through but angled right stop people looking in!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

From my sofa I can see a couple of other people's bedroom windows, and, to be honest, if a hot man undressed in front of one of them I would probably watch.

I wouldn't set my alarm to make sure I didn't miss it though, and there's no chance he can see me through my hallway and living room.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

It was an unfair comment, Kitty.

He shouldn't be looking in your windows, and you shouldn't be worried that you have to close all your curtains/blinds before you move in your own hose! Xx

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do you watch him take his bins out every week?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Are his bins directly opposite your bedroom window?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get a camera and take pics at a distance then fix them to every lamppost in the neighborhood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think."

Yes it is agreed but at the same time you have to live next door to him and his wife when I walk round naked always make sure curtains and blinds closed maybe you should do the same acting devil’s advocate keeps the peace x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses "

It's just common decency, isn't it?

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By *eyondhornyMan
over a year ago

Abercynon-ish


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

I was also taught that it was rude, but it's hard for some people not to be nosey.

If he is only glancing up and then going about his day, it could be coincidence?

If he's knocking one out over his recyclables then it may be time to invest in blackout blinds, and maybe a supersoaker to put him off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd get a camera and take pics at a distance then fix them to every lamppost in the neighborhood.

"

Well how lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s rude, I don’t look in peoples windows because I think it’s intrusive, even though I’m curious and I’d like to.

It’s worse when you’re riding a horse, you’re high, you can see in windows and gardens, the temptation is strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never heard of it being bad manners to look only stare. As someone has already suggested, your eyes are very good at picking movement up and focusing on it. If you're in your window moving about as normal, his reaction would be to look. You said he doesn't stare so it might not be perving. You know what time he puts his bins out, stand back from a different window and see if he checks your bedroom window regardless of wether you're there or not. Or don't worry about it and keep making an old man happy

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think."

It sounds like he's looking at your roof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think."

Is it rude of you to look out of your window to see where he's looking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bad manners to look. You were not raised wrong.

But I would look too if I was in his shoes.

It feels different for you than posting pictures here because here you have control and distance. Him looking at your windows in the hope of seeing you, must feel like an invasion of privacy.

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

It is really bad manners.

Unfortunately some men forget their manners in the presence of such a sexy lady and let out their inner voyeur

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I see my earlier joke was in bad taste, and would like to apologise to Kitty. Sometimes in the forums we go a bit too far, if a women’s distressed by a man’s actions, we should take note. I’m sorry I didn’t see your distress Kitty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think.

Is it rude of you to look out of your window to see where he's looking?"

I don't think so, surely you can't think it's rude to look outside?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think.

Is it rude of you to look out of your window to see where he's looking?"

Of course it's not!

But looking into someone's window is. Especially when, as reported, he does it regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think."

Just seen this. Yeah he's perving, that is rude.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"To be honest I was raised the same don’t look in to any ones houses

I'm glad it's not just me who was raised this way. Thought maybe I was being over sensitive.

I'm not about to cry over it, I just think it's rude to look, especially when he does it every time. Even when I'm not up there, I've seen him have a good look up when I've been downstairs and he hasn't spotted me. That's not something catching his eye... That's being rude I think.

Is it rude of you to look out of your window to see where he's looking?

I don't think so, surely you can't think it's rude to look outside? "

Do you look out while you're getting dressed?

Is your light on?

If it I there's probably more than one person watching you get dressed

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

To answer the question though, yes it's rude to look into people's windows, but a lot of people do it.

Especially if there's something interesting catching our eye.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

"

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be more concerned about the old bugger having a heart attack.

Wont anyone think of the old buggers!

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

If that was true how would your father know someone was robbing a neighbours house using torches.

movement catches peoples eyes and if your putting a show on

Of coarse we are going to look.

Just incase you dont know you can be fined for undressing in a window or being naked in a window.

Same as being in your garden and doing the same.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Does he take his bins out at the same time every week and your getting dressed or undressed at the same time every week.....maybe just a coincidence.....and happens to look up. Never heard it being bad manners.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I have to admit I have stared in windows-albeit downstairs ones, or living rooms.

I used to wish I had a nice life, or partner, like the people in the windows did.

I would be on a train, or walking the streets in the rain, after a particularly horrible torrent of abuse from my husband.

You may be the only little piece of joy that 65 year old man has in his life.

Does he live alone?

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

"

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before "

I'm pretty sure that was a joke

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"It's bad manners to look. You were not raised wrong.

But I would look too if I was in his shoes.

It feels different for you than posting pictures here because here you have control and distance. Him looking at your windows in the hope of seeing you, must feel like an invasion of privacy. "

That's an interesting thought, would OP feel different if it were someone she found attractive?

As someone mentioned, you could always go out and make a point of looking at your roof, casually mentioning you've noticed him looking.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ooo we were raised the same, but there are a lot if perves out there!

I shower with the blind open all through the lighter months, but as soon as i have to put a light on i close the blind, otherwise I'd be doing the light fandango

So i guess if it disturbs you, then really the solution is curtains / blinds as you can't really control other peoples actions

If you mentioned it to his wife i am sure she deal with it, but it could cause an atmosphere /animosity "

Why get a woman to deal with a man's perceived rudeness?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

I'm pretty sure that was a joke "

It was, but, would the police really fine someone for a card in their window? Or, would the neighbour go to the police with a complaint like that?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Anyway, back to the OP's question...

Yes, I was brought up to think it rude to even look, let alone stare, into someone's house. I would never do it. It's just a show of having good manners. X

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

(my post doesn't warrant an answer .. I was just musing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was raised the same

But because so many are so uncouth

Two words

Net curtains

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was never told not to look into peoples windows and Iv never told my kids not to do it either. I don’t think it’s rude either to look up if you see movement.

Don’t go next to the window naked and shut your curtains if you don’t want people peeking at you.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

Yes it is bad manners. However, he may have glanced at your window initially and seen you undressing. He enjoyed the view and hopes for more.

Have you thought about putting a net curtain in that window?

He can’t see and you don’t have to worry about drawing the curtains every time you get changed.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I always have a nosey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

I'm pretty sure that was a joke

It was, but, would the police really fine someone for a card in their window? Or, would the neighbour go to the police with a complaint like that?"

You can only be a peeping tom if you are actively looking into windows.

If you are undressed or partly with the curtains open your are stupid to complain or are attention seeking.

People who do not want to advertise themselves in a state of undress close the curtains.

I'm sure a hero (simp) will defend the fair maiden.

If it was a man at HIS window with his cock out he would be damned for it.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

I agree it's not a fair statement.

That's not what she is saying so please believe it. Women have had enough of men telling them what they are doing after already explaining themselves.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Lucky bastard.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I was raised the same

But because so many are so uncouth

Two words

Net curtains "

Urgh. Hate net curtains!!

But seriously. Folk shouldn't look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him

I agree it's not a fair statement.

That's not what she is saying so please believe it. Women have had enough of men telling them what they are doing after already explaining themselves.

"

Close the damn curtains

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

I'm pretty sure that was a joke

It was, but, would the police really fine someone for a card in their window? Or, would the neighbour go to the police with a complaint like that?"

https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/956366/neighbours-note-nude-couple-big-bum-boobs-newcastle

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'd have a peep OP. If I'd spotted someone getting undressed or just in the window, my curiosity would be naturally drawn to look.

If it starts to feel different and he is lurking.. then your instincts will know.

But if you don't want the attention.. Put some nets or blinds up or remember to close the curtains.

I forget all the time too

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Love nosing in windows! Cant say I blame him tbh! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been taught the same, sometimes If I'm walking the dog in the evening and movement catches my eye in a window and I quickly glance. I feel absolutely awful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

It's a grey are but the one thing that is not true is the idea that if you undress in your bedroom you're showing off to neighbours thats just ridiculous and as a man I can honestly say any guy who thinks like that thinks women deserve to be attacked because they have a short skirt they are a beast and please don't pay any attention to them

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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago

hemel hempstead

I was never raised like that.

However I am a hgv driver.

I'm in London quite a bit.

As a driver we have set routes we have to take in London set out by the government.

I go past quite a few houses as you can imagine.

One house in particular sits right next to a set of traffic lights.

There is always a lady there either standing completely naked or in a sexy outfit.

You have to look as you need to watch the traffic lights you can't miss her.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him

I agree it's not a fair statement.

That's not what she is saying so please believe it. Women have had enough of men telling them what they are doing after already explaining themselves.

Close the damn curtains"

Respect her privacy and not look. Responsibility works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been taught the same, sometimes If I'm walking the dog in the evening and movement catches my eye in a window and I quickly glance. I feel absolutely awful! "

agree with this... especially when the pooch is proper nosey she even followed a family into their front door once

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

I'm pretty sure that was a joke

It was, but, would the police really fine someone for a card in their window? Or, would the neighbour go to the police with a complaint like that?

You can only be a peeping tom if you are actively looking into windows.

If you are undressed or partly with the curtains open your are stupid to complain or are attention seeking.

People who do not want to advertise themselves in a state of undress close the curtains.

I'm sure a hero (simp) will defend the fair maiden.

If it was a man at HIS window with his cock out he would be damned for it.

"

But Ranger, If he was stood at the window brandishing his cock, as your example suggests, that's a different thing altogether.

Kitty is not performing a striptease at the window, she's going about her normal business in her own home and sometimes forgets to close the curtains. As do I. Often.

Now play nice, or you will be punished x

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

Yes you can be nude in your home and garden however not if its causing problems to others.

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/6234141/illegal-naked-own-home-sunbathe-topless-garden-uk-law/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

I’m sorry Kitty but if I was local, I’d be looking into your window daily

Take it as a compliment, the 65 year old guy obviously likes what he sees and hopes to see more. Maybe give him your fab details to stop him looking in the window lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been taught the same, sometimes If I'm walking the dog in the evening and movement catches my eye in a window and I quickly glance. I feel absolutely awful!

agree with this... especially when the pooch is proper nosey she even followed a family into their front door once "

Hahaha yep! Or has to stop right Infront of someone's house to have a wee. I never know where to look!

My dog would move into anyone's house having the chance. Forever escaping and going to our neighbors house and has a good old nose around. Git

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

"

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

.

I’d say leave it be. I don’t think he does so purposely and not everyone is raised by the same standards.

I, for instance, will not allow my son to wear a pair of jeans in my presence and thank goodness, he has developed a disliking of them (I know some girl will come along and tell him that she thinks he’ll look good in them and all my hard work will be undone in that moment!! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time I hear of this "rule"

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

"

No. I honestly wouldn't. I was brought up with manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again. "

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

No. I honestly wouldn't. I was brought up with manners. "

What's that smell???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

its not fair because its not deliberately for him, but its also not fair to hold him at fault either as it is visible from the street

i live on the ground, like natural light and am of the opinion if folk dont want to see they shouldnt look in windows but if i was bothered by people seeing i would close a blind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

"

If he was recreating the Coca-Cola advert with that song blaring out. Yeh maybe I would

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Truly shocked now that folk are saying you should be flattered that someone is staring in your windows. As if you undressing in your own bedroom somehow equates to your profile on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Firstly my OP didn't say I was always naked. I said that a couple of times he's seen me dressing. That's different to me provocatively stripping for the whole road to watch. Secondly, he looks up regularly, not just once, and sometimes I'm not even in the room and I still see him look up, so yeah, I think it's a bit rude.

Seems there's a range of opinions on this and that's fine, that's why I posted it, but I'm not deliberately getting naked for anyone to watch (except on fab of course). I'm very different at home, as I'm sure we all are. Just thought I'd clear that up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window. "

I think just closing the curtains is best for all.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

I think just closing the curtains is best for all."

And let's all wear shapeless sacks

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

No. I honestly wouldn't. I was brought up with manners.

What's that smell???"

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

One way film on the windows, you can see out but he can't see in.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

No. I honestly wouldn't. I was brought up with manners.

What's that smell???

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

I think just closing the curtains is best for all.

And let's all wear shapeless sacks "

If you like, a bit of an over reaction I'd say though. Hessian or plastic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

I think just closing the curtains is best for all.

And let's all wear shapeless sacks "

not the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

I think just closing the curtains is best for all.

And let's all wear shapeless sacks

not the same thing "

to expand on that , as a british society we are prudish about nudity, and therefore naturally curious about nudity

woman or man if you suddenly see someone naked your eye will be drawn , if you dont want people to see just do something that makes sure its not visible - ie close the curtains or dress at the side of the room away from the windows

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was taught to always respect myself and not get undressed at a window where people could see you

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe just remember to close the curtains? I do agree that yes, it is rude to look in... but unless he's really going out of his way to have a look then I think you're being unreasonable in being uncomfortable about it.

I sometimes get changed by the window and if someone sees me I wouldn't blame them for looking in! It's just human nature for some to be nosey. I'm the same whenever I walk by houses where you can see in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may think he’s a pervert for looking up all the time too but he might think you’re some weirdo who gets off getting dressed/undressed in the window so all the neighbourhood can see.

This just occurred to me, he might go back in to his wife saying that bloody women is flashing her bits again.

Exactly... he might be going back in to his wife and saying kids play around here outside and that women keeps getting dressed by her window.

I think just closing the curtains is best for all."

Yup pretty much. You can’t moan about people looking up when you’re getting undressed/dressed in front of the window and not closing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it really worries you then buy the special window film. Then you can look out as usual but anyone outside has a restricted view.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home."

Exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home."

Nobody has blamed her though? All people have told her to do is close her curtains.....

I see both sides here....and it's not about blame it is about taking advocacy over a situation to stop it from continuing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home.

Nobody has blamed her though? All people have told her to do is close her curtains.....

I see both sides here....and it's not about blame it is about taking advocacy over a situation to stop it from continuing

"

this is what i wanted to say and couldn’t think how to word it

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I don't think it's bad manners.... it's bad manners to climb a tree with binoculars and ogle you...if you were a little underdressed..and he copped an eyeful good luck to the old? Same age as me bloke....just don't be embarrassed about it .. and if you have issues...draw the curtains...just watch out he doesn't bring his mates round

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

This thread seems to have gone from the OP seeking an opinion on a behaviour she was encouraged by as a kid and asking people's thoughts on it, to then offering advice on what she can do about it.

Why have people picked up on one detail around having been caught undressing. Remove that from discussion and then answer the question around the man being bad mannered or is it an over reaction?

The question of the habitual looking into the room, regardless of whether anyone present in the room, may be innocent. Does he do it to other houses or particularly this one?

I was always taught looking into people's houses is rude, but understandably if something catches your eye that you may glance. I'd say it's something to be aware of, but without breaking any laws you can only control what you can. Protect yourself as best you can with regards to your personal privacy, and if you feel the behaviour changes or escalates then maybe approach him directly and ask why?

Perhaps not bad mannered, but it's happened enough to be noticed then not over sensitive either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread seems to have gone from the OP seeking an opinion on a behaviour she was encouraged by as a kid and asking people's thoughts on it, to then offering advice on what she can do about it.

Why have people picked up on one detail around having been caught undressing. Remove that from discussion and then answer the question around the man being bad mannered or is it an over reaction?

The question of the habitual looking into the room, regardless of whether anyone present in the room, may be innocent. Does he do it to other houses or particularly this one?

I was always taught looking into people's houses is rude, but understandably if something catches your eye that you may glance. I'd say it's something to be aware of, but without breaking any laws you can only control what you can. Protect yourself as best you can with regards to your personal privacy, and if you feel the behaviour changes or escalates then maybe approach him directly and ask why?

Perhaps not bad mannered, but it's happened enough to be noticed then not over sensitive either."

ironically you have also gone on to provide advice on how to deal with the behaviour after criticising others for doing it

if you want to be a purist about the original question with no additional context then yes i believe it is an over reaction

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"This thread seems to have gone from the OP seeking an opinion on a behaviour she was encouraged by as a kid and asking people's thoughts on it, to then offering advice on what she can do about it.

Why have people picked up on one detail around having been caught undressing. Remove that from discussion and then answer the question around the man being bad mannered or is it an over reaction?

The question of the habitual looking into the room, regardless of whether anyone present in the room, may be innocent. Does he do it to other houses or particularly this one?

I was always taught looking into people's houses is rude, but understandably if something catches your eye that you may glance. I'd say it's something to be aware of, but without breaking any laws you can only control what you can. Protect yourself as best you can with regards to your personal privacy, and if you feel the behaviour changes or escalates then maybe approach him directly and ask why?

Perhaps not bad mannered, but it's happened enough to be noticed then not over sensitive either.

ironically you have also gone on to provide advice on how to deal with the behaviour after criticising others for doing it

if you want to be a purist about the original question with no additional context then yes i believe it is an over reaction "

I was thinking the same with his answer

To the Op, I was terrible as a kid for staring into windows and was regularly told off about it.

These days nobody around to tell me off

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol


"This thread seems to have gone from the OP seeking an opinion on a behaviour she was encouraged by as a kid and asking people's thoughts on it, to then offering advice on what she can do about it.

Why have people picked up on one detail around having been caught undressing. Remove that from discussion and then answer the question around the man being bad mannered or is it an over reaction?

The question of the habitual looking into the room, regardless of whether anyone present in the room, may be innocent. Does he do it to other houses or particularly this one?

I was always taught looking into people's houses is rude, but understandably if something catches your eye that you may glance. I'd say it's something to be aware of, but without breaking any laws you can only control what you can. Protect yourself as best you can with regards to your personal privacy, and if you feel the behaviour changes or escalates then maybe approach him directly and ask why?

Perhaps not bad mannered, but it's happened enough to be noticed then not over sensitive either.

ironically you have also gone on to provide advice on how to deal with the behaviour after criticising others for doing it

if you want to be a purist about the original question with no additional context then yes i believe it is an over reaction "

I don't recall criticising others for providing advice? And everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I strongly encourage that 100% - I believe that's what these threads are for to share opinion after all. But I do believe that it would be unnecessary to insult anyone though as has previously commented.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Looking up is something we rarely do as a species, unless something catches our attention, noise perhaps or movement. We rarely take our eyes from the level we are on and look down more frequently than up.

Perhaps your neighbour, whilst putting the bins out, maybe even long before you became aware, caught a glimpse of movement with the corner of his eye and looked up. When he did, he saw his attractive neighbour in a state of undress.

If this happened once, then he may have looked again, hoping he would be lucky again. I think that is probably hu-man nature. I know I would, being honest. Although surreptitiously rather than blatantly.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'd be paranoid if my neighbour kept looking up at my bedroom window.

A big piece of card on the window with "FUCK OFF PEEPING TOM" written on it, might help.

just remember the boot can be put on the other foot if you want to play that nasty way.

all it takes is a photograph and a report to the police and you have a nice day in court with a fine.

think before

I'm pretty sure that was a joke "

It was, but, would the police really fine someone for a card in their window? Or, would the neighbour go to the police with a complaint like that?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm no better than the 65 year old man. I look at windows.

I'm a window looker

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I think if someone has unintentionally copped an eyeful one then curiosity will creep in, in the future.

There's a difference between a glance and standing there full on perving.

As has been mentioned..if I unintentionally copped a eyeful of a hot guy..who didn't shut his curtains, I may glance up from time to time when passing

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Ps..I only shut my curtains when it's dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

No. I honestly wouldn't. I was brought up with manners.

What's that smell???"

By the question marks in your post, I had presumed you were asking for opinions and not making a statement on what you believe about everyone’s behaviour.

You can smell what you like but I would say I wouldn’t look up either as a matter of not wishing to invade someone’s privacy, just as I don’t make it a habit to peer into someone’s workstation at the office.

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

So how'd u react to all the strangers perving at yr pics on here? That bad manners too

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

Why not he obviously likes what he sees and it may be a thrill to tease the old fella . As long as nothing more comes of it

Put a smile on the old boys face

If it did offend you though I’d suggest closing the blinds as not everyone was brought up with the don’t look there rule

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

Not going to lie but I would look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there some sort of treasure map with directions to this window ?

No I'm not asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?

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I’d say leave it be. I don’t think he does so purposely and not everyone is raised by the same standards.

I, for instance, will not allow my son to wear a pair of jeans in my presence and thank goodness, he has developed a disliking of them (I know some girl will come along and tell him that she thinks he’ll look good in them and all my hard work will be undone in that moment!! )"

That's a really interesting comment, because for a large part of my youth (I still consider myself young, but 30), I was dead against jeans - I used to say that they were for doing the painting in. I have no idea why I initially didn't like them: it certainly wasn't my parents who influenced me, but now I almost live in my jeans (I change them obviously). I have no idea why I changed my perception of them though, but it happened one day. It was probably a suggestion by someone. So, I'd say you might want to brace yourself for a son who might, one day, turn up in jeans. That said, if that's the most he rebels, I think you've come out of the whole child raising experience well. Anyway, I digress with my waffle ...

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Yup, definitely bad manners. Could even be argued it may be voyeurism.

I was brought up that you don't look in people's windows. I was also told that if invited in to their house, you keep your eyes either locked on theirs when talking or you look at the floor. Under no circumstances do you look around their room, at their "things", or make comment on their "things", as that is rude and nosey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?

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I’d say leave it be. I don’t think he does so purposely and not everyone is raised by the same standards.

I, for instance, will not allow my son to wear a pair of jeans in my presence and thank goodness, he has developed a disliking of them (I know some girl will come along and tell him that she thinks he’ll look good in them and all my hard work will be undone in that moment!! )

That's a really interesting comment, because for a large part of my youth (I still consider myself young, but 30), I was dead against jeans - I used to say that they were for doing the painting in. I have no idea why I initially didn't like them: it certainly wasn't my parents who influenced me, but now I almost live in my jeans (I change them obviously). I have no idea why I changed my perception of them though, but it happened one day. It was probably a suggestion by someone. So, I'd say you might want to brace yourself for a son who might, one day, turn up in jeans. That said, if that's the most he rebels, I think you've come out of the whole child raising experience well. Anyway, I digress with my waffle ... "

I hear you….I am bracing myself for when that moment arrives and a little corner of my world collapses….you may not recall but I assure you, it’s a woman’s doing just as I’ve had some try to entice me, the evil wenches.

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By *aul_j80Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

TBF you can't blame a fella glancing up your window, it might be wrong but if I was your neighbour I'd really have to fight the temptation

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By *aul_j80Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich


"I was never raised like that.

However I am a hgv driver.

I'm in London quite a bit.

As a driver we have set routes we have to take in London set out by the government.

I go past quite a few houses as you can imagine.

One house in particular sits right next to a set of traffic lights.

There is always a lady there either standing completely naked or in a sexy outfit.

You have to look as you need to watch the traffic lights you can't miss her."

Just for research purposes which junction is this?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not a universal moral code not to look upwards. Some people may appear to be looking in a specific direction but not actually looking at anything at all.

We should generally assume that we can take the greatest level of control over our own behaviour and not that of others. If we are especially motivated to do something, we can use our motivation to help guide our behaviour.

Contemplate what we can do to change things, that doesn't involve imposing mandates on to others to do the graft for us.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Could you not just put up a net curtain? You can get them from IKEA.

Lily

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Is he definitely looking in through the window? Does he make eye contact? Could he just be admiring your soffits, guttering, box ends or dry verge caps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

It is bad manners, but you can’t blame him wanting a little stolen pleasure in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

It is bad manners, but you can’t blame him wanting a little stolen pleasure in life

Or was he attracted to the sound of your nipples tapping on the window?

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

"

I'd make myself a brew and get my camping chair out

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?"

Take responsibility. Close your curtains when you are naked.

He's outside and can look where he wants.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Ooo we were raised the same, but there are a lot if perves out there!

I shower with the blind open all through the lighter months, but as soon as i have to put a light on i close the blind, otherwise I'd be doing the light fandango

So i guess if it disturbs you, then really the solution is curtains / blinds as you can't really control other peoples actions

If you mentioned it to his wife i am sure she deal with it, but it could cause an atmosphere /animosity "

I've never heard of ....... Putting the bins out and looking up = perv.

FFS ..... he outside his own house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home."

She's flashing the poor guy. Curtains were invented for a reason.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"You are deliberately showing off teasing the man.

Simple as that

I'm not sure that's fair... I'm not stood at the window stripping for him "

I think it's fair. I'm pretty sure he puts the bins out on a certain day at a certain time and NOT everytime you are getting dressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I was always raised to understand that it is very rude when walking along the street to look up into people's upstairs windows. We'd be really told off as kids if we did it, and it's stuck with me.

However, my neighbour (65 year old man) always looks up into my bedroom when he takes the bins out. Every time. He's caught me getting dressed a few times now and it's a little awkward, though I do try to remember to close the curtains, sometimes I forget.

I've never said anything to him cos he's my neighbour and otherwise he seems nice and his wife would be mortified if I said it.

Am I overreacting or is this really bad manners?

It is bad manners, but you can’t blame him wanting a little stolen pleasure in life

Or was he attracted to the sound of your nipples tapping on the window?"

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Update your status every hour with I need my cock sucked now!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don't think it's bad manners. Maybe if he stopped and just stood there looking. If I see movement out of the corner of my eye I will always look.

Thats what I was getting at but you worded it better.

As a one off, yes we have all done that, but this guy is persistently doing it, so for me, it is bad manners to continually do it. "

Persistently putting his bins out ??? Fucking bastard he is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

I'd make myself a brew and get my camping chair out "

that might cross the line into bad manners

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"From my sofa I can see a couple of other people's bedroom windows, and, to be honest, if a hot man undressed in front of one of them I would probably watch.

I wouldn't set my alarm to make sure I didn't miss it though, and there's no chance he can see me through my hallway and living room.

"

You could go open plan. Then he'd be able to see .....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm pretty sure that public decency laws extend to what's going on indoors too.

I c.b.a looking but if this was a bloke saying some woman saw his cock cos he got dressed in the window you lot would flip .......

Kitty is gorgeous but you men need to stop thinking with your cocks.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"So ladies, and f your neighbour was a smoking hot guy who occasionally walked around his bedroom naked with curtains open, you telling me you wouldn't look??

Yeah thought so

I'd make myself a brew and get my camping chair out

that might cross the line into bad manners "

I'm late doing the spring watch bird counting thing..

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By *ill74Man
over a year ago

New forest area

I can't believe some of the comments on here. Just wow.

You are entitled to feel safe and comfortable in your own home. Whether you're dressed, half dressed or naked.

So I assume all those saying it's the Ops fault, what do you expect, close your curtains blah blah. When you have sex or a wank or dry yourself etc. Do you always have the curtains closed.

It's like saying don't get out of bed naked. You must get dressed whilst under your duvet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty sure that public decency laws extend to what's going on indoors too.

I c.b.a looking but if this was a bloke saying some woman saw his cock cos he got dressed in the window you lot would flip .......

... "

"One day I was taking my bins out and looked up and the neighbour was watching me. He was naked in the window with his curtains wide open.

Now when I take the bins out he's often in the window again, his curtains wide open, cock out, looking down at me......."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm pretty sure that public decency laws extend to what's going on indoors too.

I c.b.a looking but if this was a bloke saying some woman saw his cock cos he got dressed in the window you lot would flip .......

Kitty is gorgeous but you men need to stop thinking with your cocks. "

Wow. This isn't even about me being naked. Almost all of the time when he looks in I'm fully dressed, because I close my curtains as often as I can remember, which is almost all of the time (as I said in my OP, I've only occasionally forgotten, and I bet you all have too). This was about him constantly looking up into my bedroom whenever he's outside. I'm sorry if you all think that's my fault, I'll keep my curtains forever closed.

I think everyone has assumed I'm doing indecent things in the window!

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home.

She's flashing the poor guy. Curtains were invented for a reason. "

With fear of a white knight label.

At no point has she said she's flashed.

She's said she's been getting dressed. I think everyone knows you open your curtains when you are dressed and then finish getting dressed (hair, prob makeup or tidying up).

You don't get completely done ready to go, then woosh open your curtains, exiting.

It'd mean you'd have to close them as soon as you then entered, never to have any light in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love how this devolved into blaming a woman about a man's behaviour.

"She made him do it/ she was asking for it"

She needs to change her behaviour so he doesn't behave inappropriately or rudely in this case.

The guy chooses to look. I would too. But the OP isn't being inappropriate. She's living in her home.

She's flashing the poor guy. Curtains were invented for a reason.

With fear of a white knight label.

At no point has she said she's flashed.

She's said she's been getting dressed. I think everyone knows you open your curtains when you are dressed and then finish getting dressed (hair, prob makeup or tidying up).

You don't get completely done ready to go, then woosh open your curtains, exiting.

It'd mean you'd have to close them as soon as you then entered, never to have any light in there. "

Google 'electric lighting'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm pretty sure that public decency laws extend to what's going on indoors too.

I c.b.a looking but if this was a bloke saying some woman saw his cock cos he got dressed in the window you lot would flip .......

Kitty is gorgeous but you men need to stop thinking with your cocks.

Wow. This isn't even about me being naked. Almost all of the time when he looks in I'm fully dressed, because I close my curtains as often as I can remember, which is almost all of the time (as I said in my OP, I've only occasionally forgotten, and I bet you all have too). This was about him constantly looking up into my bedroom whenever he's outside. I'm sorry if you all think that's my fault, I'll keep my curtains forever closed.

I think everyone has assumed I'm doing indecent things in the window!"

I don't think everyone assumes that though was you who mentioned him catching you a few times. I'm wondering if he can see in at all. Unless you have light behind you I'd not think he'd see anything. Have you looked up yourself while out to check?

I don't have my bedroom curtains closed but the blinds are tilted in such a way that no one would see in anyway. I'd check from outside tho, if your room is unlit I'm guessing there's not much will be seen

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We had a conversation about being nude in your own house and somebody looking through your window and one of our police friends said it depends on the situation but if you can be seen from a public road and a neighbour complained then you are in the wrong.

The rules are different if the person happens to move onto you property.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m just bloody nosey lol.

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