FabSwingers.com forum: Mistress

By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Some generic advice, what kind of sub are you? What is it you are looking for and what is it you are expecting to give the Top?

Also not all tops will like the term mistress, and others feel like they shouldn't be given titles until they are earnt. But how to address a potential Dom may be in her profile. Hope this helps

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Would echo all that Frida has said and suggest that perhaps reflect that a little more in your profile - as it stands there's about one line that merely hints at it without providing a great deal of detail.

Remember too that Dommes looking for male subs are the unicorns of the kink world and most will expect a submissive to clearly articulate what their submission means to them, their expectations, limits, boundaries, likes/dislikes etc.

They'll also be looking for someone that matches well with their own idea of D/s - so it's important you know what yours is.

Too many male submissives think BDSM is simply about the stereotyped whips, chains and being told what to do - it actually goes a lot deeper than that and can vary greatly from dynamic to dynamic so again the key is understanding yourself as much as anything.

I've also found that it's not so much as case of "finding a Domme" as finding each other through conversation and dialogue that doesn't necessarily start off from a D/s standpoint.