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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me "

How do you normally attract women?

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Generally normal conversation, find out what floats their boat etc see if theres a connection and let it progress naturally.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Generally normal conversation, find out what floats their boat etc see if theres a connection and let it progress naturally. "

I like to receive pretty much what you've said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally normal conversation, find out what floats their boat etc see if theres a connection and let it progress naturally. "

Then that's your answer

Missy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh

And don't send a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's exactly what ive been doing and 95% of the time messages are deleted without a reply honestly doubting myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh

And don't send a cock pic

"

I don't I've even taken them off my profile. Lol

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Do you attach face pics to your messages OP as well as try quote something from their profile to show you have taken time to read it??

I like that as most people show that they didn't bother read mine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh

And don't send a cock pic

I don't I've even taken them off my profile. Lol"

Unfortunately a lot of the ladies don't filter their messages, so they get hundreds

Sometimes gods gift syndrome takes over

Be patient. There's some really lovely relatively sane women out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you attach face pics to your messages OP as well as try quote something from their profile to show you have taken time to read it??

I like that as most people show that they didn't bother read mine xx"

Yep and if I forget I'll send in another message.

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

There are lots of single guys on here so I’m sure it’s tough

We have been on here a while but never met anyone

Maybe beef up your profile a bit doesn’t really say much about yourself add few more pictures

Good luck

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Be patient, we get avalanched with messages sometimes if we don't have filters on or post new pics etc x

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Do you attach face pics to your messages OP as well as try quote something from their profile to show you have taken time to read it??

I like that as most people show that they didn't bother read mine xx

Yep and if I forget I'll send in another message. "

I can only suggest interacting in the forums and that will probably get you connected to women that will like how you get involved and present yourself through here and on your profile best of luck xxbig hug

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Do you attach face pics to your messages OP as well as try quote something from their profile to show you have taken time to read it??

I like that as most people show that they didn't bother read mine xx

Yep and if I forget I'll send in another message.

I can only suggest interacting in the forums and that will probably get you connected to women that will like how you get involved and present yourself through here and on your profile best of luck xxbig hug "

Hey candy xx

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham


"Oh

And don't send a cock pic

"
not to you but some women like them

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Hey _asmeen my darling how are you xxx lots of hugs

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hey _asmeen my darling how are you xxx lots of hugs "

Ok girl how are you xxx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Oh

And don't send a cock pic

not to you but some women like them "

Most don't like a handful of dick pics in a man's gallery and defo not as his first message sent to a woman

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Hey _asmeen my darling how are you xxx lots of hugs

Ok girl how are you xxx"

I'm good lovely xxxx

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham

Not on first mesage candy unless they say so on profile x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Hey _asmeen my darling how are you xxx lots of hugs

Ok girl how are you xxx

I'm good lovely xxxx"

Xxx

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham

He will have no trouble getting sex on here he is hit I am fab bi , he has a great body I would love to share him with a sexy lady he is hot I meant

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Not on first mesage candy unless they say so on profile x"

Yeah I'm pretty sure that person was telling the OP not to send a dick pic as his first message

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"He will have no trouble getting sex on here he is hit I am fab bi , he has a great body I would love to share him with a sexy lady he is hot I meant "

Have you seen what he looks like??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont have a face pic on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Candy do you think my profile os rubbish

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"Candy do you think my profile os rubbish "

No I would just say add what you do and don't like sexually and if you prefer one on ones or meeting at parties.

I like your pic in suit makes me intrigued to see what you look like I'm guessing you probably look around my age early to mid 30s xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joining through covid doesn't help, unfortunately

You have nice photos and remember that ladies will look at your profile before messaging back ... a good place to start

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hi OP, your profile text seems a bit negative to me and the line about having pictures seems a little shouty and grumpy.

Also there's a paragraph about Facebook?

Your pictures aren't bad but you could probably take some better ones.

Good luck

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I kind of agree with lacey.

Also, you demand a face pic on a profile yet there isn't one on yours. I get you say you send one but why should someone have one for all to see when you don't?

That being said.... You NG age a good body

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me "

I would change the headline, it's kind of saying if they don't like you they need to find some taste.

Probably lighthearted but could come across as arrogant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP, your profile text seems a bit negative to me and the line about having pictures seems a little shouty and grumpy.

Also there's a paragraph about Facebook?

Your pictures aren't bad but you could probably take some better ones.

Good luck "

This. From what I can see pics look good but I found myself rolling my eyes at the text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP, your profile text seems a bit negative to me and the line about having pictures seems a little shouty and grumpy.

Also there's a paragraph about Facebook?

Your pictures aren't bad but you could probably take some better ones.

Good luck "

I agree with this. The text would put me off, it all comes across as a little arrogant to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos are good

The text feels like you looked at several profiles and pulled together various pieces - there's no story, just a lot of passive-aggressive statements

I would put some effort into thinking about how to 'sell yourself'... Your profile is the bait to catch interest.. How do you want to project yourself?

I will help you if you want, pm me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me "

Honestly fabs is like tinder except 100x more brutal. Woman can be ultra selective on here and unless you fit into some kinda niche your always gonna struggle.

Use fabs for the social side of things and if a meet comes along great. Use tinder for fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me

Honestly fabs is like tinder except 100x more brutal. Woman can be ultra selective on here and unless you fit into some kinda niche your always gonna struggle.

Use fabs for the social side of things and if a meet comes along great. Use tinder for fwb "

Exactly what this guy said.

You're a good looking dude but the ladies hold all the cards on this site. I've seen some horrendously unattractive women having to bulk delete their inboxes to clear some room. If you're looking to hook up with women, you're probably in the wrong place.

My advice is to wait until lockdown fully ends and go stand outside your local bingo hall on Wednesday afternoons. You'll have a much easier time pulling, and they'll probably be younger, too.

Good luck bro!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me

Honestly fabs is like tinder except 100x more brutal. Woman can be ultra selective on here and unless you fit into some kinda niche your always gonna struggle.

Use fabs for the social side of things and if a meet comes along great. Use tinder for fwb

Exactly what this guy said.

You're a good looking dude but the ladies hold all the cards on this site. I've seen some horrendously unattractive women having to bulk delete their inboxes to clear some room. If you're looking to hook up with women, you're probably in the wrong place.

My advice is to wait until lockdown fully ends and go stand outside your local bingo hall on Wednesday afternoons. You'll have a much easier time pulling, and they'll probably be younger, too.

Good luck bro! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me

Honestly fabs is like tinder except 100x more brutal. Woman can be ultra selective on here and unless you fit into some kinda niche your always gonna struggle.

Use fabs for the social side of things and if a meet comes along great. Use tinder for fwb

Exactly what this guy said.

You're a good looking dude but the ladies hold all the cards on this site. I've seen some horrendously unattractive women having to bulk delete their inboxes to clear some room. If you're looking to hook up with women, you're probably in the wrong place.

My advice is to wait until lockdown fully ends and go stand outside your local bingo hall on Wednesday afternoons. You'll have a much easier time pulling, and they'll probably be younger, too.

Good luck bro! "

Horrendously unattractive? That’s not very kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning Fabbers. So I've never struggled with attracting women but this site is killing me .

What is it that you ladies want or more importantly dont want when receiving messages, please share.

Most of the time I feel like im the kid out of 6th sense, only old men want to talk to me

Honestly fabs is like tinder except 100x more brutal. Woman can be ultra selective on here and unless you fit into some kinda niche your always gonna struggle.

Use fabs for the social side of things and if a meet comes along great. Use tinder for fwb

Exactly what this guy said.

You're a good looking dude but the ladies hold all the cards on this site. I've seen some horrendously unattractive women having to bulk delete their inboxes to clear some room. If you're looking to hook up with women, you're probably in the wrong place.

My advice is to wait until lockdown fully ends and go stand outside your local bingo hall on Wednesday afternoons. You'll have a much easier time pulling, and they'll probably be younger, too.

Good luck bro! "

Jesus, what a lovely way to talk about women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab isn’t worth trying to “attract” women. On fab, I think the ratio is 50:1 male:female. A lot of women will get attention on here that they never would on tinder, and it is what it is, more power too them.

Fab is brill to make connections, speak to people in the swinging scene, and keep up to date on events etc. I prob get one meeting on fab to ten on tinder. I get matched easy about 15 a day on tinder, they come to me, whilst on fab I have to do a lot of work to get a couples or ladies attention, again it’s just the way it works, nothing wrong with it.

On tinder I can put on my face and discuss a lot more about my personality. On fab it’s more about location, reliability and stats (cock size etc) you are competing with guys with a lot bigger cock than yourself. I cannot put my face on fab due to job (company I work for do a lot of vetted work for government) which puts me at a massive disadvantage but again it is what it is.

Like my boss always says, use the right tool for the job. Tinder is perfect for casual meets with very attractive ladies, fab is perfect for the swinging scene and getting more into your kinks and exploring.

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