FabSwingers.com forum: How does a newbie fit in here?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi All I've been on here for a couple of weeks now and finding it difficult to talk to people. Not just because I'm totally new to this and don't know where to start but also because people say in their profile no unverified singel men. How do I get verified if I can't talk to anyone. I've been on cam in the chat rooms but no one has verified me. Am I just being impatient? X

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

I would of thought people that have seen you on cam would of verified you.

Interact in the forums and still go on cam and you should see a change eventually

best of luck OP xx

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Kinda impatient, there's people on here for a few years not been verified. The forum is a good place to start to talk to people.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Hi All I've been on here for a couple of weeks now and finding it difficult to talk to people. Not just because I'm totally new to this and don't know where to start but also because people say in their profile no unverified singel men. How do I get verified if I can't talk to anyone. I've been on cam in the chat rooms but no one has verified me. Am I just being impatient? X"

You need to start by writing a decent profile.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Truthfully? Yes you are being impatient.

3 weeks isn't a little bit of fuck all time wise, it's a massive chunk of fuck all time wise (for a bloke anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are being impatient wait for clubs to open up go to socials...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Truthfully? Yes you are being impatient.

3 weeks isn't a little bit of fuck all time wise, it's a massive chunk of fuck all time wise (for a bloke anyway)

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Which bloke.. last profile 2 days.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You would benefit from reading the information provided by the site in FAQ if you haven't already taken advantage of this. And explore the site so your able to take onboard further information as a learning curve then use it to your advantage it all helps.

Good luck

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Truthfully? Yes you are being impatient.

3 weeks isn't a little bit of fuck all time wise, it's a massive chunk of fuck all time wise (for a bloke anyway)

Which bloke.. last profile 2 days."

Well done?

I'm talking in general terms. Women sign up to site and have offers coming out their shit box within minutes with no pics or profile text, men sign up and get offers from men... again, in general.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Like others have said, 3 weeks is literally a nanosecond. Just talk bollox on the forums and get yerself known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Place holder verification cam chat (you don’t control who verifies you, could be make, female, tv/ts.

For some who have a bug up their ass, it has to be a real life meet verification.

I got my verification by accident. Went to Empire and got verified by one of the staff who is tv/ts for just being nice.

I’m not fussed who verifies me, anyone welcome. There is also the option of going to a swingers club and if you make a good impression. They might verify you.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Dip yourself in chocolate and jump in to a pool full of lesbians.

Seriously though, chill. It'll happen.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Place holder verification cam chat (you don’t control who verifies you, could be make, female, tv/ts.

For some who have a bug up their ass, it has to be a real life meet verification.

I got my verification by accident. Went to Empire and got verified by one of the staff who is tv/ts for just being nice.

I’m not fussed who verifies me, anyone welcome. There is also the option of going to a swingers club and if you make a good impression. They might verify you.

Why does someone have a bug up their arse to want a meet in person veri? For many people it's a safety issue, and they trust a met in person veri that says someone was a decent human a little more than a webcam veri where chances are all that happened was a willy got waved.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Dip yourself in chocolate and jump in to a pool full of lesbians.

Why would lesbians show interest in a man who'd turned their pool brown ?

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Have a look at some of the threads about profile improvement, and understand the context of the last 15 months of lockdowns.

And immediately remove the last line of your profile, before extensively modifying it.

This is a marathon, not a 100 metre sprint.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

When in the chatrooms did you actually ask if anyone would mind verifying you? People aren't mind readers. You have a face pic on your profile, I would have thought that if you actually ask people to that at least one person would veri you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run naked around the local racecourse doing a willy helicopter. Guaranteed success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not fussed who verifies me, anyone welcome. There is also the option of going to a swingers club and if you make a good impression. They might verify you.

A fair point, but though you may not be that fussed, it may have an impact on those who you are interested in meeting.

For example, if a male, claimingbto be straight and looking to meet women has a couple of veris from other men, his potential matches may take issue with this

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not fussed who verifies me, anyone welcome. There is also the option of going to a swingers club and if you make a good impression. They might verify you.

A fair point, but though you may not be that fussed, it may have an impact on those who you are interested in meeting.

For example, if a male, claimingbto be straight and looking to meet women has a couple of veris from other men, his potential matches may take issue with this"

This is true.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

As others have said, a few weeks is nothing. Under normal circumstances a new single guy would take about 6 months to get his first meet, without an international pandemic going on.

Lower your expectations.

Now lower them further

Further

There you go.

It’s not a sprint, it’s not a marathon either as it’s not a race. Take time, get to know people, work on your profile and make the effort to find people that you connect with.

The site is just one aspect of a lifestyle, if you think that it’s just a way of getting quick sex, then it’s going to be a very long learning process

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice everyone!! Much appreciated! X

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