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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good afternoon all, i have been on this site for a fair few weeks now, I'm starting to lose faith in this site, i signed up too talk and hopefully meet like minded people.

Ive messaged people on here and had no reply, could you all check my profile out and see if its got anything to do with my profile, i will look forward to reading the advice

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Profile looks good but just be mindful that you joined during a pandemic (albeit towards the end) so swinging has taken a bit of a back seat for some.

You look cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a profile problem

it's shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that there are a lot more men than there are ladies on here. I've spoken to some who have had 100's of messages in their inbox and just don't get chance to read them or delete them without opening them. Also, with the pandemic and whatnot, very few people have been meeting or replying to messages. I'm not really qualified to give advice on here, but keep doing what you're doing, be polite, make each message personal to the person you're messaging and don't take it to heart if your messages are getting deleted or unread.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

You look and your profile looks fine. Early days for you on here especially with what's going on. Many people can't reply to all the messages they receive. I'd suggest you read their profiles to see if you are what they are looking for before you message them. Also get out to the club socials that have started and club nights when they open. Good luck. Unfortunately I'm too old and too far away haha

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You need more photos.

Bio is ok .. could be a bit more detailed about what you enjoy etc

I'm sure things will pick up soon as the restrictions relax.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, i will take that on board, when you mean say more about what i like do you mean in general?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice, i have taken that on board, but yes its very frustrating when i message and get no reply, even worse when she reads and deletes straight away.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

You have a great smile and a friendly face OP

A few more pics would be great

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Your profile is ok, but nothing that makes you stand out from the 1000’s of others. It’s nice to see your face, but people will expect to see your body too.

I would say your attitude/expectations are the issue. If you’re fed up after 8 weeks of not getting much interaction and are getting upset because people don’t respond then this might not being the place for you.

Most people won’t respond if they’re not interested, that’s because that approach is a huge part of the site rules. It’s not impolite, it’s just the way it works here.

Now things are opening up, try get to some socials in your local area or something. If you rely solely on Fab you will likely be disappointed.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Good afternoon all, i have been on this site for a fair few weeks now, I'm starting to lose faith in this site, i signed up too talk and hopefully meet like minded people.

Ive messaged people on here and had no reply, could you all check my profile out and see if its got anything to do with my profile, i will look forward to reading the advice "

Losing faith after a matter of weeks?

Two things come to mind. Either you need to reassess your expectations, or this site is not for you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Coming towards the end of a pandemic - we hope - where people have been unable to meet, means that the last few months have been awful for everyone. Health, employment, family issues etc have taken hits and people are waiting to reconnect with old friends.

That thousands of men have joined in this period means they've gone to the back of the queue. Many aren't vaccinated yet and the new Delta variant means most are concerned and cautious.

Many people broke site rules trying to force meets when they shouldn't have, causing reluctance even further.

Your profile needs to reflect you, to sell you. Giving others a taste of your personality, your physical attributes, desires etc. In a tough market, it's even more important than during standard times.

A standard feature of Fab is that no reply = no interest at present. It can seem unusual but with so many men touting their wares, it's useful to think of the messages received as like unsolicited stuff pushed through the letterbox. The site terms state to accept no reply as no interest.

What you can do is to create realistic expectations that won't leave you disappointed and to craft your profile and behaviour so that it's maximising your potential.

As we reopen, socials and clubs are good places to connect with others and to stop the notion of being an isolated individual, without progress.

In standard times, it's generally perceived that it takes a lot of hard graft and time to get established and results. This can help you to gauge if your expectations are realistic.

Your profile photo is good but ideally will be with others that give viewers an accurate understanding of your physique and the body that they might want to be touching. Your text would be helped by having more definite interests. If you view some other men who have been around a good time, check out how they do this. Some will be better than others but you could be influenced by ideas sparked from them, on how you could do this too.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Remember your profile is how you market and sell yourself.

You look good and have a great smile but a single photo doesn’t give you much to go on especially when your bio mentions you have photos. That doesn’t mean load up 40 dick pics.

Your bio is a bit bland. “Ask me more” lines turn me away, you need to have something that grabs the attention such as, “I’m an amateur cowboy in my spare time”...

Put some more likes, both sexual and non sexual, to give people something to talk about in an opener, or to allow you to mention it and they read it on your profile.

Also while it is annoying to have messages read and deleted, it is accepted here as a decline so the sooner you come to recognise it the better you will be. Some people will delete their sent messages to help them avoid seeing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks good and nice to see a face pic. Obviously can’t see the messages your sending or if you are meeting what’s asked for on other profiles but from what I can see from the offset I could imagine you being quite popular.

I just suggest engage with people in the forums chat with people outside of the forums and see what happens. Don’t check your sent box either it’s the worse thing as your better to just wait for the yellow unread message sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to ask yourself what your expectations were of this site.

And then realign them.

Just because fab is a place where people make connections, usually with a view to meeting up for sex, it certainly doesn't mean that anyone on here will meet just anyone.

It's just the same as it is in the real world. There has to be mutual attraction.

Not everyone is going to fancy you. In truth, very few will.

Not everyone who finds you attractive will be attractive to you.

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