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By *ady Lick OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never stayed where l am not happy ,if l am happy it would take a lot to get me to move .

What is your motivation for the move? Financials aren't everything ,sounds like it great so go for it

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By *damBFDMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service? "

It'll be hard but you'll get used to it .

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service? "

Yes it is, don't look back.

12 years they didn't bat an eyelid to make me lay me off, made me realise behind all those smiles I was nothing but a number on a spreadsheet.

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By *ady Lick OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I have never stayed where l am not happy ,if l am happy it would take a lot to get me to move .

What is your motivation for the move? Financials aren't everything ,sounds like it great so go for it "

Tiny pay rise but further to go, generally the package they offered me is much better though. It's a very nice setting and I'll be able to take a bit more responsibility

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By *ady Lick OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service?

It'll be hard but you'll get used to it . "

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By *ady Lick OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service?

Yes it is, don't look back.

12 years they didn't bat an eyelid to make me lay me off, made me realise behind all those smiles I was nothing but a number on a spreadsheet.

Same! My boss tried to secure more hours for me but hr said no, even though I've been working loads extra for what feels like a very long time. That's corporate life for you. Greedy bastards.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service? "

Change is good, but often unsettling.

Yes the old familiar job was good.

The new unfamiliar one will be too.

Apprehension, is totally normal.

Good luck OP.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I work as a contractor so have worked,in many different companies.

In every company there have been many great people and I've made lots of friends. There's always people you don't get in with, but that's life.

Look forward to the new challenges and making new friends.

Good luck.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I decided on a new job today. My boss phoned up and she kept the job open for me since last week. Better hours. I'll be home at 5 instead of 9.30 and I'll never have to work a Sunday. Also can work days/ hours to suit me which are flexible. I'm really excited. I really liked my job before and I'll miss the people so much but I'm just concentrating on the positives. There must have been a reason you decided to leave in the first place so just concentrate on that

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I left a job after 11 years once it was such a good number I could cycle in, work from home, great final salary pension and left for a job in Cambridge with a startup 2 hour commute each way, pay cut and no pension. Best thing I ever did. It’s right to be nervous change and development is meant to be a little scary. The people that really matter you will stay in touch with, but you’ve likely outgrown most of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change is good... I've worked for my employer for 26 years, but in a number of functions /roles

My old boss used to say if you don't feel like you are stepping off a cliff /out of your comfort zone when you take on a new role, its not worth it (ie, you'll be ve bored very shortly)

I started a new job in Jan, it took me a couple of months to relax and now its going really well

Good luck, and enjoy getting to know your new company /products /colleagues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first job i was in was for 13 years, left that job in 2002 to further my own career, i still think of the people i worked with a lot and have fond memories of them all, apart from the boss, he was a cunt, my current employer though is great, can’t fault the place at all, we all get along and despite the daily cock ups, we get through the day pretty much unscathed.

You’ll always feel very nervous in a new environment, took me a couple of weeks to settle in to my new role, so just do the job, be polite to everyone around you and you’ll soon became part of the family, very best of luck to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stayed in the same company my entire working life but I’ve changed employers several times. Takeovers, mergers, blah blah blah, new personnel from new company. I’ve left for a new job and employer without even having moved!

It’ll be great. You’ll need to adjust but you’ll fit right in very quickly. Soon, you’ll probably be wondering why you hadn’t done it earlier.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Allways daunting the thought of new job! I was on furlough this time last year then end july they had to make all but one redundant as they lost 85% of their customers! i had no choice to start anew! But u will get used to it! Good luck x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Change is always scary, fear of the unknown is what keeps so many people static.

Remember why you’re doing it, the positives and accept that being nervous is part of the journey. Give yourself a few months to bed in, get used to the role and you’ll be great.

I left a job of 4 years in December. It was a good role, 5 mins walk from home, great people and I was valued, they didn’t want me to go and offered me more money which only made it harder.

I moved 150 miles, new situation, new job, to say I was nervous is an understatement!

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

Stuff creeps into a job, stuff that you out up with and accept as a bit of “give and take”. But when they balance starts to not feel fair, and if you push back and nothing improves, you have to leave rather than let the feeling of unfairness build up and turn to resentment.

We are all different, of course, motivated in different ways, snd even the same people are motivated in different ways at different stages in career or life, as personal circumstances change.

I’ve just quit a job I have been in for 8 years. It stopped being the job and organisation that I had enjoyed for most of that time, and I now realise that I was in denial for at least the last 6 months, hoping things would settle down and improve when the truth is that they won’t.

When the things that you enjoyed about a role or organisation don’t really stack up any more, it’s time to consider moving.

And no matter how much you love a company or a job or a team, and no matter how bad a boss tries to make you feel for leaving, companies move on and replace us all eventually. It’s still just a job.

And buy-backs or quick fixes on reasons for leaving ... this very rarely works.

Good luck in your new role!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I've jumped twice, both from really good jobs to something entirely different.

No regrets.

Enjoy the excitement and the new life chapter

C x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was settled in my last job and had been there 15yrs but got redeployed 4yrs ago. My new role was completely different and I have had alot to learn. Hope this will be my last job as there comes a time in life when you just want to plod on until it's time to retire.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

I left a really good role after 17 years, it was scary at the time, but I needed a change and it helped me see a different side of the real world. I soon settled in and was glad I made the change. I still keep in touch with friends I made back then.

I started another new role last year which was daunting due to the pandemic. It was way out of my comfort zone. The first couple of months I wondered if I did the right thing, but I helped my old team recently. I definitely made the right decision. I needed a new challenge.

Something must have spurred you into applying for the new job you’ve got. I’m sure you’ll really enjoy it once you’ve settled into it.,

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

Having quit, and just started my notice period, I am now in that strange zone with my manager where she isn’t bothering to pretend that I was wrong about the things that I had expressed concern about. 2 weeks ago I was wrong, “it’s not really like that”, fixed on the way, etc. Now that she has accepted that I am leaving, she has dropped the corporate face and admitted that she is worried about those issues/concerns too. Why not just be honest in the first place?

Am also in that twilight zone where you listen to corporate messages with renewed scepticism, wondering if the people around you really buy this shit or whether they are just making the right noises for an easy life. It’s strange how people become someone different in work!

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

Go ahead, it will be great and you will enjoy your new job.

I am just waiting for the confirmation and then after 7 years will hand in my notice this week. Staying in would mean relocation, shift work and on-call duties. The team was reorganised into new structure and is moving into cheaper locations: half of the team has already decided to leave and the other half, including me, is frustrated and demotivated. The new job will be much better, going back to a real office will be treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough I'm having the same thoughts, and I'm going from the private sector into the public, where I'll have to mind my p's and Q's

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service? "

Just left my old role of 19 years and hopefully starting in the next few days, once the paper work is sorted.

Leaving people is hard, but look forward to the new challenge, the experiences and proving to yourself that you can succeed and do this.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Go ahead, it will be great and you will enjoy your new job.

Isn’t it incredible how much of a balls companies can make if these things? Start with a hard-working and settled workforce, and manage to piss them off so much that a load of them leave?

I work in a small company, am the third one to quit after a recent takeover and half the others are “giving it a few months.” Given that our experience and team are high up on the list for the new lot buying the business, that’s quite an achievement!

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Same firm multiple positions from 2003 till present.

Will retire from this when I’m 55 and do something else I reckon. Something completely different. Probably property.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"I've been with my current employer for 15 years which is my longest. I am currently working my notice then having a week off before starting my new job.

I've had second thoughts.

I'm nervous about it.

I'm leaving behind a wonderful bunch of people.

But I know it will be great.

Everyone seems really happy.

Change is good ~ right?

Anyone else left a long term job recently have any words of wisdom?

What's your longest service? "

Longest was prob about 9 years...loved what I did..

They employed you...so you obviously had something

Your bound to be nervous its only natural to be like that

I'm sure theres great people working in the new job...

Enjoy your week off and best of luck in the new job

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I left after 17 years with the same company. I'd become institutionalised. I was petrified of the unknown. And it was the best thing I ever did work wise.

I ended up back at that company after a buy-out, and I didn't like it, I could see how unpleasant it was, all the stuff I'd previously accepted as the status quo which shouldn't be going on...I've just moved again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

I suppose you're taking an exciting but daunting leap of faith.

I have been with my employer for 23 years, I have had a number of promotions and different job roles which kind of feels like a mini fresh start each time.

I am starting to think about my future and am tempted to reach 25 years service and then look elsewhere and possibly go part time. Having said that we are hoping to relocate in 4 years to North Wales and maybe my fresh start will happen then.

I really do wish you every success and best wishes

NBVN x

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over a year ago

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

Hey op I didn't leave a single long time job but an industry I had spent 15 years working up the chain in hospitality working every job there was in practical every branch of the industry but my body couldn't take it at age 30 I had a heart attack. My doctors made it clear to me if I wanted to stay alive I had to change my life style and work was the first thing.

I was scared shitless to be trying to change course bit thankfully I found a calling that ment I could use the people skills I had learned over the years and apply them to a less demanding industry plus I now run my own business.

My advice is simple we dont know what tomorrow will bring so make the most of today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rule of thumb to think about.

Why did you apply to another company in the first place?

Was it stimulation in the workplace was lacking, you have reached the highest part in your career in that workplace or there was an undertone reasoning while you was not happy in the workplace.

If you was 100% happy then you wouldn't apply to work for another company.

The feelings you have is normal.

Once you move it's go's two ways the right move or shit the grass is not greener.

If you are leaving on good terms it shouldn't hinder if you would like to return. Most places keep a open door if you was good at your job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only advise id ever give is don't stay somewhere your even the slightest but unhappy op, don't stay somewhere your not as appreciated as you feel you should be and don't let no employers old past present or future to take the piss

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Only advise id ever give is don't stay somewhere your even the slightest but unhappy op, don't stay somewhere your not as appreciated as you feel you should be and don't let no employers old past present or future to take the piss

Completely agree. And don’t fall for the techniques that firms use for stringing people along, telling them everything is going to be fine in a few months, trying to fob you off with half-promises and the occasional pissup. And guilt trips about leaving the team and letting people down! Do what suits you, you only get one go at this life, live it on your terms not for somebody else’s convenience.

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By *ady Lick OP Woman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Thank you all for your comments. I'm not unhappy where I am, everyone I work with are lovely (obvs some have their moments), it's a lovely environment. I've been promised the extra hours I've been working made contractual for ages, we've had 4 manager's in fewer years, they've all said yes but it never materialises. Minimum wage, a head office who are utterly rubbish when it comes to stock management which on turn pisses the customer off.

Anyway 2 days to go

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