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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I like someone on here lol but looking at the guys she meets i believe I have zero chance with her.....think its time to give up? We do chat so there is something there....????? Think ill leave it and move on....wouldn't want to disappoint her....thanks for the advice guys.....peace and hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you. "

Oh she likes me.....but distance is stopping me.....and now I'm doubting my looks(shallow) after seeing the guys she plays with....oh well x

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

She must like something about you ,dont think she would waste time chatting to every Tom Dick or Harry don't give up

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"So I like someone on here lol but looking at the guys she meets i believe I have zero chance with her.....think its time to give up? We do chat so there is something there....????? Think ill leave it and move on....wouldn't want to disappoint her....thanks for the advice guys.....peace and hugs x"

Don’t judge yourself based on others.

Have confidence in yourself.

Don’t feel that by fucking you she would have to be slumming it.

You can just be friends, or you can try and take it further.

Distance is an excuse. If you want it to happen, make it happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says. "

She would....but seeing the guys she plays with are the opposite to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I like someone on here lol but looking at the guys she meets i believe I have zero chance with her.....think its time to give up? We do chat so there is something there....????? Think ill leave it and move on....wouldn't want to disappoint her....thanks for the advice guys.....peace and hugs x"

Not demoralising you, but as you think you have zero chance as per her likes, than go ahead give a try, you will loose nothing, but.. but what if she agree to meet even for social... Rest up to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you.

Oh she likes me.....but distance is stopping me.....and now I'm doubting my looks(shallow) after seeing the guys she plays with....oh well x"

Who's pics are on your profile then? You're a cross between Jason Manford and Paul Hollywood. Both hot blokes so double whammy.

Get her asked you spanner! x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you.

Oh she likes me.....but distance is stopping me.....and now I'm doubting my looks(shallow) after seeing the guys she plays with....oh well x"

But that's her to decide if she finds you atractive, not for you to assume she won't.

It is shitty when you find out when they don't but it's always best to know, and what's the point of always wondering if they do but never acting upon it.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Tell you what mate, you go for it. If this last few years have proven anything it's that it's all too short.

"Hey, I really enjoy talking to you, and wondered if you wanted to take it further. It's cool if not, but I thought I'd take the chance".

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Also, sod looks. You're a good looking fella, take it from a randomer that has nothing to gain by making it up.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Noochie you are lovely. Now pluck up the courage and tell her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noochie you are lovely. Now pluck up the courage and tell her. "

Lol its only Scotland...im sure its easy to get to

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Noochie you are lovely. Now pluck up the courage and tell her.

Lol its only Scotland...im sure its easy to get to "

Yes just head north and you will either fall in the sea or reach Scotland.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly fella, you've got nothing to lose. Although that's a bit of a shit sentiment from me, sorry. It's not even what I live by! I'm not overly good looking, I absolutely was not sculpted by a team of gods looking to expand their kingdom (I'm looking at you Tmontana!) and I'm not overly talented at any one thing. I believe in myself though. I believe that one day I'll be Star Trekkin' across the universe with Quck, if only for the one night. I believe I'll dance with Dancer69. I believe that I'll have a very unholy time with Fallen Angel. If I can believe in myself, you can believe in yourself too!

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Tell her dude. Maybe it’s the fact you aren’t like the other she likes... she likes you as you have said so shoot your shot (ok bad choice of phrase but you get my drift)

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just tell her, what's the worst that can happen...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says.

She would....but seeing the guys she plays with are the opposite to me lol"

Don’t make up her mind for her. If you get on well then that's a big part of what you need. Would you really want to move on and forever wonder what would have happened if you had asked? If you are respectful about it she's hardly likely to be upset. What on earth have you got to lose? If you walk away then definitely nothing is going to happen.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you.

Oh she likes me.....but distance is stopping me.....and now I'm doubting my looks(shallow) after seeing the guys she plays with....oh well x"

So you want to meet her, you know she likes you, but the distance is stopping you? So your the one stopping it happening for yourself really? Get your big boys pants on and get your self on a train. You got nothing to lose but possibly everything to gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her mate... you’ll never know and will always wonder what if! Scotland’s not that far to drive trust me... even the drive there is enjoyable

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Nothing to lose but possibly so much to gain

Just ask!!!!! As for the distance it’s all part of the adventure

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

My advice is to tell her. She likes chatting to you so you're half way there. You shouldn't compare yourself to other blokes either. You're a good looking guy, tall both big ticks.

Just be casual and say 'fancy meeting up for a social one day soon?' I bet she would

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Do it, if you dont, you will always wonder what if.. you might get a no thanks, but at least you know. Bonus that you are actually chatting with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I like someone on here lol but looking at the guys she meets i believe I have zero chance with her.....think its time to give up? We do chat so there is something there....????? Think ill leave it and move on....wouldn't want to disappoint her....thanks for the advice guys.....peace and hugs x"

you’re....... welcome?

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over a year ago

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"She might want to be friends. She might want to sit on your face. What do you have to lose? Ask her what she thinks of you.

Oh she likes me.....but distance is stopping me.....and now I'm doubting my looks(shallow) after seeing the guys she plays with....oh well x"

If you think you doubting your looks is shallow, how do you feel about her? Do you think she's shallow?

Good looks are useful to get noticed, but if there is nothing else there it can soon fizzle out. It sounds like you have already got noticed, so you don't need looks to make that step (and although I'm a bloke, I can't see anything wrong with your looks anyway).

You can either give up now and forever kick yourself, or ask the question and find out for sure. If she says no, you are in no worse of a position than if you just walked away, except you will not be left with that 'what if' question in the back of your mind.

If she's a decent person, you asking politely is not going to scare her away from talking to you as she already does.

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By *adInLiverpoolMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL


"So I like someone on here lol but looking at the guys she meets i believe I have zero chance with her.....think its time to give up? We do chat so there is something there....????? Think ill leave it and move on....wouldn't want to disappoint her....thanks for the advice guys.....peace and hugs x"

Mate you’ve already lost before you tried!

Most women will tell you, if they think, you think “I have zero chance” that’s a big turn off.

Tell her want you want, if she wants the same, all good, if she doesn’t THEN you can “leave it”.

Also “wouldn’t want to disappoint her” have some respect for yourself when it comes to the opposite sex. If you think you can’t show a girl a good time, how are you ever gonna do it?

Not trying to be mean by the way, I was the same a few years back, as soon as I was assertive with girls that gave me attention I did so much better.

Good luck!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says.

She would....but seeing the guys she plays with are the opposite to me lol"

Perhaps she's been with them, whilst waiting for someone more grounded like you? Don't decide for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says.

She would....but seeing the guys she plays with are the opposite to me lol

Perhaps she's been with them, whilst waiting for someone more grounded like you? Don't decide for her. "

Don't decide for her!!

Absolutely right

I'll add, don't decide for her because itb feels easier than possible rejection.

Speak up, rather than wonder 'what if'.

And distance? Mate, you and I have touched on that before, kinda.

There was a distance between Mrs A and I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, don't chicken out

Ask her if she is interested in meeting socially, and see what she says.

She would....but seeing the guys she plays with are the opposite to me lol

Perhaps she's been with them, whilst waiting for someone more grounded like you? Don't decide for her.

Don't decide for her!!

Absolutely right

I'll add, don't decide for her because itb feels easier than possible rejection.

Speak up, rather than wonder 'what if'.

And distance? Mate, you and I have touched on that before, kinda.

There was a distance between Mrs A and I. "

And I'm nothing like Mrs A's previous exes.

I'm a hell of a lot better for her is what I am.

That's not arrogance, it's a fact.

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Nothing ventured nothing gained. You never she might be thinking the same thing and your both stuck in a mexican standoff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noochie you are lovely. Now pluck up the courage and tell her.

Lol its only Scotland...im sure its easy to get to "

It's not who's she's played with before, it's who she's going to get ploughed by next. You!

If she's in Scotland bring some shortbread. Women love it up here.

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