FabSwingers.com forum: Are you you from 30 years ago ?

By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

How old were you 30 years ago. Are you the same person or a different person now ? Should you be held accountable for things that you did at that age ?

e.g. If you punched a mate at work in an argument , should he be able to prosecute you now ? Are YOU the YOU that did it 30 years ago ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Difficult question. I'm not the thirty year old me, would that my body were

I knew not to punch people when I was 30 though. There were some things I didn't know not to do but I know not to now.

I suppose it depends on the seriousness of the action

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No you are not cos that is a very good point Kitty .....

So people who were children 30 years ago can't be held accountable .....

What about those that are 40 and up or 50 and up ...... ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No resemblance whatsoever

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was about 23 when I was 30, o was fairly immature in many ways

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I was 14.

If I were held responsible for the things that I did then, now, I’d be in trouble.

People learn and grow as we get older, this belief that historical words should be held against us now is contradictory to anyone being able to learn from mistakes.

There’s a reason why there’s a statute of limitations on some crimes

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Difficult question. I'm not the thirty year old me, would that my body were

I knew not to punch people when I was 30 though. There were some things I didn't know not to do but I know not to now.

I suppose it depends on the seriousness of the action "

Okay .... let's say you used her lippy and she severed all contact ( just to keep it nice and sexistly stereotypical )

Did YOU use her lippy or someone else from the past ?

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

My thought is that if they were illegal or punishable then yes.

Clearly there’s a lot of context and nuance, but if the victim(s) still live with the consequences then so should the perpetrator

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I was 14.

If I were held responsible for the things that I did then, now, I’d be in trouble.

People learn and grow as we get older, this belief that historical words should be held against us now is contradictory to anyone being able to learn from mistakes.

There’s a reason why there’s a statute of limitations on some crimes"

Would the actions of 14 year old you be the actions on which I could judge the character of you now ?

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have to go for an hour or two ..... got a visitor coming but i'll be back later

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I really am interested in what people think about this...

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I was 7! I don't really remember much about being 7.

So I hope I'm different now to what I was. Though I'm sure 7yo me was much less of a dick.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

However I hope I would have read the question correctly, unlike my 64 year old self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol"
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I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 1 so don't think I can say much lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was minus eighteen months old, 30 years ago

not sure i did anything wrong at that age.

making up for it now like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol.

I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

Aw man, I got sent out

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol.

I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

Aw man, I got sent out

They haven't sent me out yet!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Difficult question. I'm not the thirty year old me, would that my body were

I knew not to punch people when I was 30 though. There were some things I didn't know not to do but I know not to now.

I suppose it depends on the seriousness of the action

Okay .... let's say you used her lippy and she severed all contact ( just to keep it nice and sexistly stereotypical )

Did YOU use her lippy or someone else from the past ?"

The past is a foreign country they do things differently there.

For me this is an unanswerable question. I am not the same person in a lot of ways but I am at my core.

When I was three I had a bracelet with a poodle on it, my friend had one too but a different colour. I lost mine so I stole hers and threw it in a bush. Should my 64 year old self pay penance?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I was getting married a couple of weeks ago 30 years ago.

So though I feel very much the same person. I know that I am not really. 20 odd years of marriage (we separated 6 years ago), 2 children, leaving the Army and getting a proper job, fostering, grandchildren...

All of that (and the rest), must have changed me. Surely I'm wiser and more sensible now?

Possibly not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol.

I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

Aw man, I got sent out

They haven't sent me out yet!

Best you stay very quiet then, I made the mistake of revealing my age lol. Oops, I'm not even meant to be here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol.

I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

Aw man, I got sent out

That’s right, off you go young un’. Some of us were finishing uni then, not playing catch in the school playground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty sure I can't be legally held accountable for anything I did at that age. I may be too young for this thread lol.

I suggest you politely take your leave young lady. We know who this thread is fit for.

Aw man, I got sent out

They haven't sent me out yet!

Best you stay very quiet then, I made the mistake of revealing my age lol. Oops, I'm not even meant to be here

Out...both of you and go find some way to condole each other somewhere else.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I was 14.

If I were held responsible for the things that I did then, now, I’d be in trouble.

People learn and grow as we get older, this belief that historical words should be held against us now is contradictory to anyone being able to learn from mistakes.

There’s a reason why there’s a statute of limitations on some crimes

Would the actions of 14 year old you be the actions on which I could judge the character of you now ?"

Absolutely not!

I’ve changed a huge amount since then.

Thankfully I didn’t do anything to hurt anyone though. If I had, then there might be an addendum as to whether I’m responsible or not

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Definitely not, 30 years ago, I went through the most traumatic event of my life, it changed me in more ways than you can imagine, but it forged me into who I am today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 3 so couldn’t remember

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

I was very young - too young lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like some of the last nazis, ones in their 80s. Are they the same people they were ? Should they be held accountable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years ago I wasn't born yet, so I think I'm exempt

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

I was 22, just qualifying in my chosen profession with a job already lined up.

Was I responsible? Professionally, yes. Personally? Not really. Having an affair with an older married man probably rules me out.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"Like some of the last nazis, ones in their 80s. Are they the same people they were ? Should they be held accountable? "

Yes of course they should, age is no excuse.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

No, I'm well behaved. Always have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was swimming away in the womb 3 months cooked so I no idea

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

30 years ago I was 13 thought I knew it all and was a twat..I knew right from wrong but wasn’t mature enough to make the right decisions ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No resemblance whatsoever

Same here

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Well I can't lie, I have changed slightly since I was 8. I pinched a few penny sweets when I was a toddler, I'm ashamed of myself but I've learnt and left my bad boy rep behind me now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thought is that if they were illegal or punishable then yes.

Clearly there’s a lot of context and nuance, but if the victim(s) still live with the consequences then so should the perpetrator

Need infallible evidence and proof though , not he/she said this and that .

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Oh dear 30yrs ago I was 36 married had 3 kids and earn more than I do now lol

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"How old were you 30 years ago. Are you the same person or a different person now ? Should you be held accountable for things that you did at that age ?

e.g. If you punched a mate at work in an argument , should he be able to prosecute you now ? Are YOU the YOU that did it 30 years ago ?"

Have changed significantly in a lot of ways but some of my core me hasn't which for me I hope is not a bad thing and did many stupid things.

No only certain things, murder has no statute which I accept and agree with not murder of course

just having no statute

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Difficult question. I'm not the thirty year old me, would that my body were

I knew not to punch people when I was 30 though. There were some things I didn't know not to do but I know not to now.

I suppose it depends on the seriousness of the action

Okay .... let's say you used her lippy and she severed all contact ( just to keep it nice and sexistly stereotypical )

Did YOU use her lippy or someone else from the past ?

The past is a foreign country they do things differently there.

For me this is an unanswerable question. I am not the same person in a lot of ways but I am at my core.

When I was three I had a bracelet with a poodle on it, my friend had one too but a different colour. I lost mine so I stole hers and threw it in a bush. Should my 64 year old self pay penance?"
Not at age 3 no. It was said above ( by someone very right ) that we couldn't hold children responsible .....

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

By the way ........ all you gloating kids..... hush .... I can hear you. Splat and Kittie and Kietonel ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 18 and it was the start of the 90s.....I did things in the 90s that would probably kill me now.....I miss the 90s....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would of been 10 years old and probably sat there day dreaming like I have been for most of today and still can't snap out of it ha ha

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Like some of the last nazis, ones in their 80s. Are they the same people they were ? Should they be held accountable?

Yes of course they should, age is no excuse."

We are not really thinking about age..... but if you can be held responsible for something that happened 30 years ago ......

What of you is the same as it was 30 years ago ?

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Already been involved with the swing scene for over 10 years 30 years ago.

Feel really old now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a very different person 30 years ago, pre marriage and children. I don’t remember doing anything that I could be held accountable for, I was bit of a goody two shoes x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I became an adult when I was 12 due to circumstances and responsibilities. I then took on further responsibility when I was 22. 30 years ago I was 26 and got there without ever experiencing my teenage years.

I didn't do anything back then that I need to be held accountable for. I'm proud of that fact but at the same time I'm glad the "now me" is not the same as the "then me".

The "now me" is more confident and actually has self esteem.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I liked my dolls and playing with cars. I think I’ve change considerably

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

No, I was very confused about my masculinity and needed to do some stupid stuff to give me reassurance that I was still a Man. I was either trying to be ultra macho or experimenting with my feminine persona.

Now I know who I am, my strengths and weaknesses so no longer need validation from anyone, including myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years ago I was 23 and in the middle of turning my life around from being a bad wee shite. I'm a totally different person now, or do I'd like to think and it's a constant evolution. I still know what I've done and that will always be with me no matter how much I've changed.

So short answer is yes Granny, we're all still accountable. There's no statute of limitations on right and wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

According to most police interviews seen on TV all I can do as an 18 year old me is "no comment"

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Was innocent then and I still am

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Was innocent then and I still am

I can smell something

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

No, I got funnier, sexier and more deluded too.....!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Just fatter and balder.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think C would say she’s completely changed from 2 years ago…she’d never taken a pic of herself, hated selfies, only had one orgasm a session, if that and didn’t even know what BDSM was….she was about to join the WI!

I’m glad she didn’t…whilst her cake baking is good, the sex kitten she’s turned into is much much better

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Was innocent then and I still am

I can smell something

Is it coconut oil

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Was innocent then and I still am

I can smell something

Is it coconut oil

Not quite

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"30 years ago I was 23 and in the middle of turning my life around from being a bad wee shite. I'm a totally different person now, or do I'd like to think and it's a constant evolution. I still know what I've done and that will always be with me no matter how much I've changed.

So short answer is yes Granny, we're all still accountable. There's no statute of limitations on right and wrong. "

So ....... If as a young wee shite, you did something I'd really disapprove of and I said to you ..... well I cannot have anything to do with you then.... Would you consider it fair that I had judged you on when you were aged 23 ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So short answer is yes Granny, we're all still accountable. There's no statute of limitations on right and wrong.

Hmmm, interesting. Possibly not fair as you didn't know the 23 year old me, but I would understand why you'd come to that decision and ultimately I'd have to accept it. I would hope that knowing the current me, you'd be able to see past the past.

I should add I was just a wee wanker, not a hardened criminal or anything!

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

My Dad punched someone at work, he was the leading fireman and shop steward, didn't stop him getting hit and he didn't do a thing about it. But hey that was my dad, he wasn't to be messed with

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

This is interesting as 30 years ago i was 26 and married with a baby. The quietest period of my life. If you had said 40 or 20 years or even 10 then ive changed completly especially from 10 years ago. Ive done some crazy things when i was younger. Im no longer that person. If someone wants to judge me on my past actions then that is entirely up to them. I dont judge people on the past and love to here a good story of how people have changed their lives around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, i was 6... my aspiration in life was to be a bin man, i failed

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

-1

So no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"-1

So no

I was five years from being born so not sure...

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"How old were you 30 years ago. Are you the same person or a different person now ? Should you be held accountable for things that you did at that age ?

e.g. If you punched a mate at work in an argument , should he be able to prosecute you now ? Are YOU the YOU that did it 30 years ago ?"

I would have been 23 and married

but saw the light and got rid

I did know right from wrong back then..now 30 years later I'm a bit more 'life experienced'...still the same mad character..and takes less shite from people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would've been 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How old were you 30 years ago. Are you the same person or a different person now ? Should you be held accountable for things that you did at that age ?

e.g. If you punched a mate at work in an argument , should he be able to prosecute you now ? Are YOU the YOU that did it 30 years ago ?

I would have been 23 and married

but saw the light and got rid

I did know right from wrong back then..now 30 years later I'm a bit more 'life experienced'...still the same mad character..and takes less shite from people!!

As time goes by I tend to give less of a shit about the things I can't change and more about the things I can. Our past is what made us who we are today, good and bad experiences.

That was waaaay too deep for me!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm not the person I was last, 30 years ago is something else. I'm constantly changing and evolving.

Should I be held accountable for what I did so long ago at such a young age, not really I didn't harm anyone to my knowledge.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I was 33 and at my strongest physically. Not so strong now, my right hip is on its way out.

But I'm still 33 inside!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was mid 20’s 30 years ago...if you’d have asked this question 2 years ago I’d have said I was not the same person I was...

Asking now... I am most definitely that person again... loving life, creating new adventures

... and I am accountable for things I did then.. but that’s what’s made me me...

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I was 17, so old enough to know right from wrong.

I am a very different person now, but I still hold most of the same values I did then.

In terms of whether I should be held responsible for my 17 year old actions, yes I should. Thankfully there was no social media back in the day or I'm sure I'd have posted some cringeworthy stuff that doesn't reflect who I am now, but I would take responsibility for posting it, know that I was in the wrong and that knowing better now means I can now do better now.

If it was a criminal offence then I absolutely ought to be held responsible for my actions. Although at 17 I was technically a minor I was certainly old enough to have been tried as an adult for the most serious of crimes.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Was 20yo back then.

The beginning of my life away from home and the start of my very first and only love relationship.

Immature and volatile back then but much mellowed down now.

I always take full responsibility of all my actions ever since I can remember (at least from age 7yo). That persist until now.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I was 5 and responsible for egging the dog on in his mischief, I think. I had to take responsibility then (my then-3yo bro got away with everything) so little has changed in that time! I'm still the responsible one. I've not done anything terrible in my life so PC Plod is not going to come beating my door down.

I like being too young for a thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my defence I was left unattended lol

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