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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read an article which was about someone who was rubbish at casual dating because they couldn’t separate love and sex. This got me thinking. I’m new to the site, not in the mindset of falling in love or looking to date, that’s why I’m here.

What does happen if I meet someone on here and I feel somewhat emotionally attached to them.

Would this make me rubbish at the friends with benefits, nsa stuff. Is it possible to have someone as a regular sex buddy and not become too emotionally involved that it negates being on a site like this.

This is just something that peaked my interest and felt it might make an interesting topic. Thank you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have regular gentleman friends ive been seeing donkies years. I care very much about them but have no romantic feelings for them so it is possible

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I have regular gentleman friends ive been seeing donkies years. I care very much about them but have no romantic feelings for them so it is possible"

I'm very much of the same mind set with my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin "

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me FWB involves friendship so of course there will be feelings - the same feelings I have for my friends. Just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t mean you have romantic feelings or have to act on those feelings.

No feelings would be a fuckbuddy (FB) situation for me.

I have a FWB at the moment and we do friend things like send each other random memes & funny things, check in on each other, go to the cinema or out for a meal (when we could!). We have sex too. We are pals. We know a capital-R relationship wouldn’t work between us.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

I would love to find a Fwb. I thought I had recently, but in reality, I was just being used while he hunted for someone better to date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely "

I utterly adore him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely

I utterly adore him "

What mine . I’ll fight you

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

To be fwb you have to have feelings for each other.

The theory is that you are friends who become lovers during the times that either of you or both of you are between lovers, consequently the benefit side of things stops and starts but you stay friends.

Without feelings you are just fuck buddies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just got to take it one step at a time mate I’ve met a few people and some I see as friends and others we just see each other as fun for the night. You just got to do you. Just chill and enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it can depend. I’ve had long term fwb where no feelings have been there apart from caring about them and what happens to them but I could separate the two.

But on the other end of the spectrum I had a fwb who became my everything, we would cool it off but be back together like magnets and who I will always love.

So yes you can separate the two until you find that person and there is not a lot you can do to stop it, you just have to find ways to manage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it can depend. I’ve had long term fwb where no feelings have been there apart from caring about them and what happens to them but I could separate the two.

But on the other end of the spectrum I had a fwb who became my everything, we would cool it off but be back together like magnets and who I will always love.

So yes you can separate the two until you find that person and there is not a lot you can do to stop it, you just have to find ways to manage it "

Exactly that.... and I’m there at the moment, trying desperately to manage it... Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely

I utterly adore him

What mine . I’ll fight you "

Let's get a room and top +tail with our Daddies and then get our bottoms spanked... I know how to be naughty, so that we can get extra spanks !!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It can be a difficult dynamic and is not for everyone but when it works it is great.

There is alwaya the risk that someone starts to feel too much or starts to be jealous and that will usually bring it crashing down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely

I utterly adore him

What mine . I’ll fight you

Let's get a room and top +tail with our Daddies and then get our bottoms spanked... I know how to be naughty, so that we can get extra spanks !! "

I think we could be VERY naughty together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met my DD here.. . DD/lg is very intense, I've struggled to keep emotions in the tin

I didn’t so much struggle, as fail completely

I utterly adore him

What mine . I’ll fight you

Let's get a room and top +tail with our Daddies and then get our bottoms spanked... I know how to be naughty, so that we can get extra spanks !!

I think we could be VERY naughty together "

We might need to order numbing cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read an article which was about someone who was rubbish at casual dating because they couldn’t separate love and sex. This got me thinking. I’m new to the site, not in the mindset of falling in love or looking to date, that’s why I’m here.

What does happen if I meet someone on here and I feel somewhat emotionally attached to them.

Would this make me rubbish at the friends with benefits, nsa stuff. Is it possible to have someone as a regular sex buddy and not become too emotionally involved that it negates being on a site like this.

This is just something that peaked my interest and felt it might make an interesting topic. Thank you."

No I couldn’t the men I’ve been e were you I scare off because I get too attached

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

I've met someone on here and we've actually discussed this. We're not looking for love, but we can share a romance, we can care for one another, and we can enjoy the other's company. There a protectiveness and a togetherness than means we care, but neither of us are in love with the other and it works perfectly.

For someone else, that level of 'relationship' may be too much and it'd be more about the primal urges. That's part of the fun in getting to know someone though, exploring boundaries and finding out where your pieces of the jigsaw connect.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"I've met someone on here and we've actually discussed this. We're not looking for love, but we can share a romance, we can care for one another, and we can enjoy the other's company. There a protectiveness and a togetherness than means we care, but neither of us are in love with the other and it works perfectly.

For someone else, that level of 'relationship' may be too much and it'd be more about the primal urges. That's part of the fun in getting to know someone though, exploring boundaries and finding out where your pieces of the jigsaw connect."

You're fortunate to have found this

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol


"I've met someone on here and we've actually discussed this. We're not looking for love, but we can share a romance, we can care for one another, and we can enjoy the other's company. There a protectiveness and a togetherness than means we care, but neither of us are in love with the other and it works perfectly.

For someone else, that level of 'relationship' may be too much and it'd be more about the primal urges. That's part of the fun in getting to know someone though, exploring boundaries and finding out where your pieces of the jigsaw connect.

You're fortunate to have found this"

I do feel fortunate. I saw your earlier post, I'm sorry things things work out. X

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"I've met someone on here and we've actually discussed this. We're not looking for love, but we can share a romance, we can care for one another, and we can enjoy the other's company. There a protectiveness and a togetherness than means we care, but neither of us are in love with the other and it works perfectly.

For someone else, that level of 'relationship' may be too much and it'd be more about the primal urges. That's part of the fun in getting to know someone though, exploring boundaries and finding out where your pieces of the jigsaw connect.

You're fortunate to have found this

I do feel fortunate. I saw your earlier post, I'm sorry things things work out. X"

Thank you. I guess I expect to be treated the way I treat others x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can understand emotional attachment doesn't necessarily mean that you are falling in love with someone then you'll be fine... I have 2 FWBs, I love both, in love with neither and I live with one... I never want to be their wife/girlfriend, or anyone elses for that matter... I understand my emotions a little too well after losing the man I was in love with... Possibly a little too well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find a Fwb. I thought I had recently, but in reality, I was just being used while he hunted for someone better to date "

Don’t take it personally - many Fab women have been used like that, me included. There are a lot of emotionally immature men on Fab who think it makes them “alpha” to behave like that.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"I would love to find a Fwb. I thought I had recently, but in reality, I was just being used while he hunted for someone better to date

Don’t take it personally - many Fab women have been used like that, me included. There are a lot of emotionally immature men on Fab who think it makes them “alpha” to behave like that. "

Thanks for that xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fell for my FWB about 9 years ago ..but she felt differently after I told her I loved her..even asked her to marry me

.sadly it wasn't to be and ended after that .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read an article which was about someone who was rubbish at casual dating because they couldn’t separate love and sex. This got me thinking. I’m new to the site, not in the mindset of falling in love or looking to date, that’s why I’m here.

What does happen if I meet someone on here and I feel somewhat emotionally attached to them.

Would this make me rubbish at the friends with benefits, nsa stuff. Is it possible to have someone as a regular sex buddy and not become too emotionally involved that it negates being on a site like this.

This is just something that peaked my interest and felt it might make an interesting topic. Thank you."

Nope doesn’t negate at all

Some people think far to much in to what if ?

Your here now rocking out threads so fair play don’t try evaluate a situation that hasn’t and might not happen ! This site is different for everyone use it in what ever way suits you !

If you catch feelings so what !

Enjoy mate hope this rant was somewhat helpful

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I fell for my fwb

So I ended things to save myself getting hurt again.

I miss him so much but not anything I can do about it, he's blocked me on everything

He fell for me too. So I hurt both of us, when we could of been so happy together.

But I wasn't strong enough to deal with the emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fell for my fwb

So I ended things to save myself getting hurt again.

I miss him so much but not anything I can do about it, he's blocked me on everything

He fell for me too. So I hurt both of us, when we could of been so happy together.

But I wasn't strong enough to deal with the emotions"

Maybe looking back wrong decision you think ?

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"I would love to find a Fwb. I thought I had recently, but in reality, I was just being used while he hunted for someone better to date "
i would love to find fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fwb you have to have feelings for each other.

The theory is that you are friends who become lovers during the times that either of you or both of you are between lovers, consequently the benefit side of things stops and starts but you stay friends.

Without feelings you are just fuck buddies."

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

It's pretty hard not to develop feelings for a FWB especially once you are inside each other's head's. Where it tends to go belly up is when they start getting ideas about having the whole package far too soon in the relationship for the other one to be comfortable with. If only they had taken it more slowly, they might have got just that.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You can be emotionally attached to someone without wanting the ring, or becoming jealous of them seeing other people.

I find sex is better when I'm closer to someone and have an emotional connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d been with my FWB for 8 years and we’ve had some great times. I thought that we did have a good friendship, but when it really counted he wasn’t there for me, so it is what it is. Although saying that the sex we had was awesome, a great fuck buddy!

Mrs S x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

This is my ideal, fwb. You can still care and love someone without being in love with them.

I think it gives you a lot more freedom, it's all the best bits with none drama/commitment/family etc etc

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

Also depends what you're looking for. FWB can lead to more x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I fell for my fwb

So I ended things to save myself getting hurt again.

I miss him so much but not anything I can do about it, he's blocked me on everything

He fell for me too. So I hurt both of us, when we could of been so happy together.

But I wasn't strong enough to deal with the emotions"

It's tough (and scary) when you don't feel ready. Could someone else not make contact for you, if you wanted to reconnect?

As much as we only have one life, living each day on its own is a far less intimidating outlook. Best of luck with whatever you do

C xx

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"You can be emotionally attached to someone without wanting the ring, or becoming jealous of them seeing other people.

I find sex is better when I'm closer to someone and have an emotional connection.

"

Exactly this

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