FabSwingers.com forum: What are manners?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On here, we’re told we should reply, otherwise we’re rude, but what about manners to us?

What about if we say no. Is that rude?

Do people get confused between people pleasing and manners?

If you hold a door open for someone, they don’t thank you and you scream you’re welcome at them, who is rude? They didn’t ask you to hold the door open (I’m not saying they shouldn’t say thank you, of course they should).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbe cliché "they cost nothing" does make a good point. Takes no effort to at least nod if someone has politely waited for you to pass or held a door or whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners to me is having respect.. things like please/thank you's, not intterupting people when their talking, knocking the door to enter etc.

It is not about replying to everyone's message, flattering their ego or people pleasing. Ultimately if you don't behave in a way that is deemed acceptable by someone, they will call you 'rude'

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Respect

Thanks

Please

Hello

Dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, when I am driving and I let someone out, they could at least acknowledge it!

On here, by and large I am treated well though, thankfully I don't get much abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manners to me is having respect.. things like please/thank you's, not intterupting people when their talking, knocking the door to enter etc.

It is not about replying to everyone's message, flattering their ego or people pleasing. Ultimately if you don't behave in a way that is deemed acceptable by someone, they will call you 'rude'

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"On here, we’re told we should reply, otherwise we’re rude, but what about manners to us?

What about if we say no. Is that rude?

Do people get confused between people pleasing and manners?

It's no thank you or it's rude

If they don't say thank you for holding the door open then you just slam it on them

I may be joking, maybe not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A human construct

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, when I am driving and I let someone out, they could at least acknowledge it!

On here, by and large I am treated well though, thankfully I don't get much abuse."

I always got annoyed when people didn’t say thank you if I let them out, and then one day I read something, it said, you chose to let them out, they didn’t ask you, so whilst it’s nice to say thank you, it was your choice not theirs.

Plus, when you get annoyed about it (not saying anyone does) you waste you own time and energy, whereas they’ve not even noticed.

It really made me think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m also totally not advocating not using our manners, we totally should, I just think people have different ideas of what manners are.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think some people think as long as they say please, thank you etc that makes them polite. Which I totally disagree with. That's just hiding behind words in my opinion.

To me manners is about mutual respect and treating others as you'd like to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think some people think as long as they say please, thank you etc that makes them polite. Which I totally disagree with. That's just hiding behind words in my opinion.

To me manners is about mutual respect and treating others as you'd like to be treated. "

I agree, this is why I’m curious about what others think about it. It’s easy to say please and thank you isn’t it.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I think some people think as long as they say please, thank you etc that makes them polite. Which I totally disagree with. That's just hiding behind words in my opinion.

To me manners is about mutual respect and treating others as you'd like to be treated.

I agree, this is why I’m curious about what others think about it. It’s easy to say please and thank you isn’t it. "

I mean my kids say please and thank you because I taught them they should not because they necessarily mean it. I think it's just a formality

Them giving me a hug when out of nowhere or a smile because they are happy and their way of saying thank you, priceless.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I think some people think as long as they say please, thank you etc that makes them polite. Which I totally disagree with. That's just hiding behind words in my opinion.

To me manners is about mutual respect and treating others as you'd like to be treated. "

100 percent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, when I am driving and I let someone out, they could at least acknowledge it!

On here, by and large I am treated well though, thankfully I don't get much abuse."

That’s because you are an attractive big breasted female and not a single guy. I treat people the way I like to be treated.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

By practicing basic good manners, we are showing those around us that we respect them and are considerate to their feelings. This makes them feel better, and us too. We can have good manners and still stay no to a request even when it is obtuse in its content.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think some people think as long as they say please, thank you etc that makes them polite. Which I totally disagree with. That's just hiding behind words in my opinion.

To me manners is about mutual respect and treating others as you'd like to be treated.

I agree, this is why I’m curious about what others think about it. It’s easy to say please and thank you isn’t it.

I mean my kids say please and thank you because I taught them they should not because they necessarily mean it. I think it's just a formality

Them giving me a hug when out of nowhere or a smile because they are happy and their way of saying thank you, priceless. "

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Depends on what scale.

Please and thank you, while they may seem formalities and thin words that can be misused and abused, what they are putting across is that somebody opening a door for you for example has been acknowledged and is appreciated as a kind act of respect.

I don't do things like that in hope I get a please or thank you, but it is nice when they are said. I just do it because it is in my nature to do so.

Of course manners are much more than that, but even the little things are important. If the use of such things were to fully stop, even as just a formality, the world would become a much more hostile and cold than it already is.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m very respectful to everyone in the real world, I’d probably go out of my way to be respectful. I’d like to think that it’ll come back if I do…if it doesn’t then I haven’t let myself down.

On here, not replying to an unsolicited message is not rude, I haven’t asked for that message. But we try and be respectful to most people who message even when saying no and a lot thank us for doing so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, we’re told we should reply, otherwise we’re rude, but what about manners to us?

What about if we say no. Is that rude?

Do people get confused between people pleasing and manners?

Manners cost nothing I’m a big fan of manners, but I also no the difference that a reply doesn’t mean you’re rude. I had an experience once where I held the door open for a lady and was told why am I holding the door open for her do I think she can’t open her own door. Which to me it’s just polite. I can tell you now my response wasn’t polite

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s a dying art! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I hold the doors open for them, it's only fair I get to spank their arse as they walk through!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I hold the doors open for them, it's only fair I get to spank their arse as they walk through!"

Well, quite honestly, it’d be rude not to

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Being rude is expecting the world to revolve around you.

Its absolutely not rude to not reply. Some folks dont answer us when we message them and its zero skin of our backs. We ultimetly messaged them in a unsolicited manner

Claiming it's rude when someone does not respond to a unsolicited message just shows what a self entitled tit the complainer is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's rude to not reply to decent messages.

It's also rude to turn people down when they ask for a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's rude to not reply to decent messages.

It's also rude to turn people down when they ask for a fuck.

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's rude to not reply to decent messages.

It's also rude to turn people down when they ask for a fuck.

FAF?"

I should leave this with no reply but I can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one I ways find odd is car drivers who get annoyed that people don't say thank you or wave when may stop at a zebra crossing.

It's like they expect you to say thank you that you obeyed the law of the road and didn't run me over and do they wave and thank pedestrians every time they wait on the edge of the pavement for them to pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, we’re told we should reply, otherwise we’re rude, but what about manners to us?

What about if we say no. Is that rude?

Do people get confused between people pleasing and manners?

In an ideal world they likely would say thank you, but not everyone's mental health allows them to have the currouge to speak to anyone let alone say thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don’t say please/ thank you out of courtesy or when you are an arsehole just for the sake of it

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?"

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?"

I don't think anyone 'should ' do anything they don't want to do

I was giving a cultural example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it"

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Putting the loo down seat down when you're down....fellas..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting the loo down seat down when you're down....fellas.."

Or lifting it up

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Putting the loo down seat down when you're down....fellas.."

I do that anyway, its just better looking. To have it closed.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female "

It's not about entitlement, I've given up my seat for lots of different people of different ages just because that's how my mind works. I know I'm more than able to stand for hours but you don't know if that person really needs to sit down or not. It's about being mindful and thinking do I really need to be sitting or would that person maybe appreciate the seat more than myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?"

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

" I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over"

Don't take the bait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over"

I'm not believing you've not once thought in your head, she's attractive I think I shall offer her my seat

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over

I'm not believing you've not once thought in your head, she's attractive I think I shall offer her my seat"

Well obviously in my 38 years of being in this world I've offered my seat to someone I found attractive but as I said before I don't do it in the hope I'll get something from it. That's a self centred approach to life and thinking about yourself and not someone else, which is the whole point in offering your seat in the first place because you're thinking about someone else and not yourself

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

" I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over

Don't take the bait! "

It's all good I can spit it back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female

Has it ever got you any phone numbers ?

I've never asked, I don't do it to get my leg over

Don't take the bait!

It's all good I can spit it back

And so you should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter one - Catherine, I have but one thought and that of you. That you and I in hand and heart may ramble through towns and fields and become one. My heart is full of you and I wish to bring you nearer. J.

Letter two - If you were here, and oh that you were, my Catherine, we need not talk at all, our eyes would whisper for us, and your hand fast in mine, we would not ask for language — I try to bring you nearer. J.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners usually cost nothing. Even if someone is ignorant to you, you can be mannerly back and feel like you have kept your dignity.

Personally I like being mannerly. It doesn't hurt.

On here or in real life.

I admit I'm cheating on here because I have my filters up so I don't have to deal with messages. But in general I think I am polite and well mannered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I know that after a 12 - 16hr shift of running around like a maniac after other people if someone gives up their seat for me I could actually cry with gratitude!

I don't expect it - but it often happens and it's beautiful

I must look knackered and ancient

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J."

That's good

Is this pre or post camera though because there's no mention of a unsolicited dick pick and I feel this has been his demise

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"All I know that after a 12 - 16hr shift of running around like a maniac after other people if someone gives up their seat for me I could actually cry with gratitude!

I don't expect it - but it often happens and it's beautiful

I must look knackered and ancient

Exactly and this is basically what I was trying to put across earlier as you never know what sort of day someone has had

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over a year ago

"I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J."

Hahaha

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over a year ago

On here ,I don’t reply to quite a few messages, normally from the same few men , who just don’t get it , I’m not interested in them , if you reply they take it as i am interested and then carry on sending you message after message ,

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over a year ago

"I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J.

That's good

Is this pre or post camera though because there's no mention of a unsolicited dick pick and I feel this has been his demise

Maybe he drew round it on some parchment paper.

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over a year ago

"We all have different ideas of what manners are and how important they are to us.

Especially culturally- there are so many different unspoken rules

Being polite and saying please, thankyou and sorry isn't in some peoples vocabulary

Where as opening a door or giving up a seat for a woman, elderly person or a child is done without thought or need of thanks.

Personally if I do something for someone else then a smile or a thankyou is nice but I don't get annoyed if it doesn't happen.

Do you feel seats should be given up for women ?

If yes could you please explain why ?

I wouldn't say should but I'm more than happy to give mine up for a pregnant lady or someone disabled, a oap etc

Just because I can and I really don't mind doing it

I wasn't asking about pregnant or disabled or an oap

I stop my car in rush hour traffic to allow those people to cross the roads

Manners are not expecting a bloke to give up his seat for you simply because your a woman

No I'm not a woman hater but i have learnt that equality needs to be much bigger than it is and that the feeling of entitlement is fucked up

Manners are a 2 way street

It's almost saying men are not deserving of a seat

The male suicide rate is fucking outrageous

And maybe

Just maybe

Things could do with changes for the good of us all

Male and female "

Equality for everyone.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Yes, when I am driving and I let someone out, they could at least acknowledge it!

On here, by and large I am treated well though, thankfully I don't get much abuse.

Plus, when you get annoyed about it (not saying anyone does) you waste you own time and energy, whereas they’ve not even noticed.

It really made me think "

Its a covert contract, the same with holding the door open and them expecting a certain type of response that has not been consented to or communicated.

Covert contracts can lead to abusive behaviour as you don’t get what you want.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

However, in the context of the OP I am sick of hearing that its “rude” not to reply to messages.

I don’t owe anyone anything, certainly not a reply to a message I never asked for from a person I don’t know.

When I get a nuisance phone call I just hang up, I don’t wait for them to go through their spiel and then politely tell them to fuck off!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"However, in the context of the OP I am sick of hearing that its “rude” not to reply to messages.

I don’t owe anyone anything, certainly not a reply to a message I never asked for from a person I don’t know.

When I get a nuisance phone call I just hang up, I don’t wait for them to go through their spiel and then politely tell them to fuck off!"

In addution, if ladies replied to all messages, even with a polite "thanks but no thsbks". Its all they would ever do because of the numbers of emails. Guys, check your ego at the sign on screen and get a grip!!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Manners means never lifting your menu off the table:

"In formal dining, the menu should always be touching the table in one place," said Meier. So if you're looking at the menu, make sure to have the bottom, or at least one part of it, still touching the table, even if your impulse is to bring it closer to your face.

And never asking for an oyster fork:

If there's no oyster fork on the table, don't ask for one; the lack of oyster fork means that the oyster is already loosened and ready to go. (If, for some reason, there is still a bit of oyster attached to the shell, you can use a knife to loosen it.) Once you've finished the oyster, turn the shell over on the plate to signal you are done.

If you can get those two things right, the rest will fall into the place.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We think its rude when someone that matches what you are looking for sends you a message and its read and not replied to.

A simple no thanks does not take more than a few seconds.

We tend to block when we have taken an effort to send a message and all they do is read and not reply.

We always reply that ppl that message us that fit our bill even if its a no.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I do wonder if men centuries ago who were trying to court a lady engaged in the same behaviour as has evolved on site now.

Letter three - This shall be my last correspondence for the other two were left abandoned. Catherine, you're a fat fucking slag. Goodbye. J.

That's good

Is this pre or post camera though because there's no mention of a unsolicited dick pick and I feel this has been his demise

Maybe he drew round it on some parchment paper.

That's definitely it

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over a year ago

"All I know that after a 12 - 16hr shift of running around like a maniac after other people if someone gives up their seat for me I could actually cry with gratitude!

I don't expect it - but it often happens and it's beautiful

I must look knackered and ancient

Do you ever give up your seat for a man ?

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