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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Yes. Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my enemas close

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. Definitely

I'm giving it a go then

enemies request sent

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep my enemas close "

Don't cry over spilled enema.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible. "

Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers.

in a dragon cave.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close. "

What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no.. i don't have friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"no.. i don't have friends

Px "

Are you sure ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends who they are in your life and how they slot in

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Works for me... an "enemy" at work got caught in a whirwind of love and appreciation... worked more to my advantage... folk like me...loathe her...

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible.

Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers.

in a dragon cave. "

I think it's more that I can't cope with it. I second guess enough at the best of times. No point with someone who hasn't got my interests at heart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it depends who they are in your life and how they slot in"

Come on Midnight. Give me more !

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close.

What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend? "

I was saving myself from getting beaten, keeping friendly with his friends stopped the beatings.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible.

Sometimes the place for toxicity is only behind seven mountains and rivers.

in a dragon cave.

I think it's more that I can't cope with it. I second guess enough at the best of times. No point with someone who hasn't got my interests at heart. "

Oh I get it. Its good to be protective of your heart. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Damn right I do, thankfully I don't have any at the moment but when I did they were close.

What did you get out of it emotionally if I may ask? Wasn't it exhausting to pretend?

I was saving myself from getting beaten, keeping friendly with his friends stopped the beatings.

Oh dear. It takes a toll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is some truth to it but it isnt something I practice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Works for me... an "enemy" at work got caught in a whirwind of love and appreciation... worked more to my advantage... folk like me...loathe her..."

Things have a way of settling themselves sometimes.. I'm waiting for that day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm a grown up, I don't have enemies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think there is some truth to it but it isnt something I practice. "

It seems like a mammoth emotional task to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I'm a grown up, I don't have enemies

Good for you.

what a lightweight life for a soul it must be !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enemies/toxic people/the ones that drag you down/leach off you ... they get cut out of my life and I move on.

Friends are cherished and looked after.

Quacksplat - you have lots of friends, even if you aren’t aware of them.

Mr HH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no.. i don't have friends

Px "

Yes you do baby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Enemies/toxic people/the ones that drag you down/leach off you ... they get cut out of my life and I move on.

Friends are cherished and looked after.

Quacksplat - you have lots of friends, even if you aren’t aware of them.

Mr HH"

Clean cut seems to save lots of mess often.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I wouldn't say I've ever had any enemies as such, as that would mean that I gave two hoots about them or their behaviour - but there are certain people who I don't trust who I prefer to keep an eye on, just because I know how vengeful and deceitful they have been in the past.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say I've ever had any enemies as such, as that would mean that I gave two hoots about them or their behaviour - but there are certain people who I don't trust who I prefer to keep an eye on, just because I know how vengeful and deceitful they have been in the past. "

That sounds like a good tactic. If you know nothing stops them from being nasty, good to watch them carefully and what they are up to.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Mostly I forget their existence. I've got better things to invest my emotions in. Does mean that occasionally I find someone that seems to have a dislike of me, and I cannot even recall what it might be about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly I forget their existence. I've got better things to invest my emotions in. Does mean that occasionally I find someone that seems to have a dislike of me, and I cannot even recall what it might be about."

It made me chuckle a little. Imagining the confusion. Who are you again?!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont have enemies

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I prefer to concentrate my energies on my friends.

I can only really think of one person I'd class as an enemy, from years ago, but that's water under the bridge.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

It made me chuckle a little. Imagining the confusion. Who are you again?!

That together with the fact that I have a slight degree of face/name blindness. I'm sure there must be some technical term for it, but very often I see a face and know that I ought to know who they are, but the name just will not come. Embarrassing when it's someone you've known for 25 years...

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By *ck BasswardsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I dont think of it as having friends/enemies..... personally i go with treat as you hope to be treated as a general rule.... i trust all a little, i trust some a lot, and trust a few not a jot..... even if you have done me wrong, im not one for being abusive, etc just no point, i tend to remove myself from the equation.... i can honestly say i have never sent anyone an abusive msg on here (i know, from many lady friends from clubs) not everyone can say that....

If you wrong me once, i will forgive but not forget, if you do it twice, then i will adjust my behaviour accordingly as by a third, you are actively choosing to bring it on yourself... and by being petulant/angry/abusive you are effectively sending the message they are relevant..... if they are detrimental to you, “aint nobody got no time for that” haha :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my enemies are dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I couldn’t care less about what they are doing or their opinion of me

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By *ildbillkidMan
over a year ago

where the road goes on forever

I'd want to be around my friends, and my enemies as far as possible, (or maybe enemies close enough to throw a banana peel under them)

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Kind of with work, because you can’t always easily get rid of your enemies so you have keep them in a safe place where they can’t attack you until you can properly dispose them. Personally never, if someone crosses me I’d either forgive or just cut them off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All my enemies are dead"

I'm kind of glad now we don't know each other..

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Only in politics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope. I couldn’t care less about what they are doing or their opinion of me "

Wise. Peaceful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts "

I love your gran

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't have enemies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont have enemies"

And may it long continues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. I couldn’t care less about what they are doing or their opinion of me

Wise. Peaceful

Time is precious. Too precious to waste on toxic people

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By *irdlover69Man
over a year ago

SE London

Do unto others before they do to you

Including when it's time to give head

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Generally takes a lot for me to dislike someone that much and if I feel that way I need to keep them as far away from me as possible. "

This is kinda how I am too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do unto others before they do to you

Including when it's time to give head

When is the time ?!? My calendar didn't say so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only in politics"

Life is all politics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd want to be around my friends, and my enemies as far as possible, (or maybe enemies close enough to throw a banana peel under them)

You wouldn't!

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By *irdlover69Man
over a year ago

SE London

"Do unto others before they do to you

Including when it's time to give head

When is the time ?!? My calendar didn't say so.

Haha, that can easily be corrected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tend to prefer my own company to be honest op, friends came the enemy

If they gossip to you chances are they gossip about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tend to prefer my own company to be honest op, friends came the enemy

If they gossip to you chances are they gossip about you

Can be

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Once someone has become my enemy then I disengage with them completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lifes too short for hate enemies and all that negativity.

Far easier to walk your own path and leave others to do the same....

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

It takes a lot of hate for me to consider someone my enemy. It takes a lot of energy to hate. I am not a fan of expending energy unnecessarily. I just walk away.

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By *irdlover69Man
over a year ago

SE London

Spooning leads to forking!

Self explanatory really. Takes a seemingly innocent graze of a finger on the upper thigh and waist to transform the energy in that room!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enemies generally hand you the scissors to cut them off.

Keeping them close is negative and work that isn't necessary. I don't have the time or the capacity for enemies. I'd rather use good energy on people that are worth it.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I wouldn't go as far as calling them enemies, but in a business context it helps to keep the competition/devious/manipulative ones close so you can manage them better.

In my personal life I've no need to keep anyone close who I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'll get back to this tomorrow with a fresh head. Thanks for all the input so far. X

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By *irdlover69Man
over a year ago

SE London

I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..

As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..

As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close."

I did wonder what was that about !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lifes too short for hate enemies and all that negativity.

Far easier to walk your own path and leave others to do the same...."

What if they follow you?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I prefer to concentrate all my energy on my real life friends, they are far more important.

Whilst Fab is a virtual platform..... yes, I do have friends here too. Enemies .... no! That’s such an emotive word, it portrays weapons. There are certainly a few here I don’t much care for, mainly due to their actions across the forums and their duplicitous, devious and deceitful manner whilst portraying a whiter than white persona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My gran always used to say “if he sounds like a cunt , he probably is a cunt “ my gran lived until 104 on that , then again she knew a lot of cunts

I'm still laughing at this. Thanks for the comment bump

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!

For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!

For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy. "

I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I tend to keep my friends in my circle protected... and my enemies stacked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!

For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy.

I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings. "

I meant more like keeping someone at the distance where you can work out what they're up to again.

And since I say how I feel usually I would probably struggle, even at a distance. Eh. But thanks for helping me figure this out collectively thread contributors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I tend to keep my friends in my circle protected... and my enemies stacked "

Stacked?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Friends on the friend list

Enemies on the block list

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

No. The people I have in my life make it better. Why you would want to spend any time on someone who has a negative impact on your life. People who do most likely thrive on drama. Concentrate on the good people in your life and you'll be a lot happier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"I hope I don’t have any enemies masquerading as friends!!

For me, once I decided animosity has won that’s it. You don’t get any more of my energy.

I don't think I could do that. I'm not good at pretending, mostly black and white in my feelings.

I meant more like keeping someone at the distance where you can work out what they're up to again.

And since I say how I feel usually I would probably struggle, even at a distance. Eh. But thanks for helping me figure this out collectively thread contributors.

I’m afraid I lack the capacity to care what they’re up to once I hit that point. I don’t involve myself and if a situation arises that we’re thrown together then I extract myself. It’s the only way I know to keep my cool and remain the maturer person.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough. "

Well I'll repeat myself.. thrive on drama. One thing worse than dealing with your own is being involved in someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough. "

Sometimes you have to keep enemies close to protect yourself and others. I understand that.

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By *irdlover69Man
over a year ago

SE London

"I owe this thread an apology. I misunderstood it, probably because I've had a drink..

As many have pointed out, having enemies is not a great use of time or energy but if you do, know if they mean you harm and if so, then keep them close.

I did wonder what was that about !

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Only in a work environment, as you have to be professional. In personal life no, I do not need them anywhere near me or their toxic ways / views

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I cannot give enemies the energy to keep them close. I put distance between me and people who want to do me harm. Knowing they are enemies is enough for me.

I understand why some people keep enemies close. But to me it's the equivalent of playing with fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have any enemies, they need be as far a possible from me .. out of sight and out of mind and all that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no friends or enemies on here I just enjoy the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's face it none of us truely have enemies, real life isn't marvel, we just don't like certain people.

I can be respectful if I have no choice to be in their company but otherwise steer clear. Life's too short for toxicity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Keep friends close, but enemies even closer?

Do you follow that rule in real life *if you happen to stumble upon so called enemies* or just stay clear?

If you do - how did that work out for you?

It's very complex. And not for my benefit. Tough.

Sometimes you have to keep enemies close to protect yourself and others. I understand that. "

That's partly the case and the dilemma. Thank you

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