FabSwingers.com forum: Frustrating.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Messages do my head in. I do so many as most males do on here, get very few replies, n fab in their wisdom coz ya do forget who u message tell u not to message certain females as they never replied to u before so not interested. Scroll down see who you can message n lo n behold its the person who is not interested, actually viewing ur profile ??? Others who turn you down as no reply, then put out message moaning no one turned up for a group session n are u man or a mouse. Some of us just cant win hahaha bizzare place this is.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"bizzare place this is."

Yes it is...

However look at it this way.

If you messaged and they look at your profile outwith stealth mode, that's a sign that your message was engaging enough for them to take a look. Also means to profile picture had potential.

That's a positive!!!

If the message is engaging does your profile back it up?

The next step is that look and that reply... little steps here...

Remembering pandemic and touchy subject of meeting others.

Socials and clubs will begin to open and we will all be able to get out and physically leave the keyboards behind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fab reply Amelia. Your so right with ur suggestions and advice, it is frustrating tho, and will always be 1 step forward 5 steps back. But God loves a trier they say.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Messages do my head in. I do so many as most males do on here, get very few replies, n fab in their wisdom coz ya do forget who u message tell u not to message certain females as they never replied to u before so not interested. Scroll down see who you can message n lo n behold its the person who is not interested, actually viewing ur profile ??? Others who turn you down as no reply, then put out message moaning no one turned up for a group session n are u man or a mouse. Some of us just cant win hahaha bizzare place this is."

Viewing your profile means nothing. I just did (but I’m in stealth mode so you won’t see it), doesn’t mean I’m interested in you. I look at the profiles of everyone who messages me, but I’m not interested in any of them.

As for the group meet - if they turned you down it was for a reason, if no-one else turned up that’s unfortunate for them but doesn’t mean they should have agreed to everyone that messaged them.

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By *reston_SmallGirlCouple
over a year ago

Preston

We also look at profiles all the time, and it's rarely because we are interested.... yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's why I stealth view. Too many ppl see a view as a potential shag. Some times it's just a view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it’s a compliment that they viewed your profile. You’re not quite what they’re looking for but my goodness, you were interesting enough for them to look.

It’s not that strange. Not every girl at a bar will look at you and think they must engage with you somehow. Patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you actually want to meet people you think are harsh or bizarre OP? Surely you want to meet polite people on your wavelength, so why not focus your energy on finding them?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Do you really think you're compatible with all the profiles you send messages to?

What I find bizarre is people who send out loads of messages. I tend to think that the sender either hasn't fully read profiles or is happy with "has vageeeen" as a qualifier to be message worthy.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s not bizarre.

You’re sending out messages to random people and they’re not replying because they’re not interested. They might look at your profile but only to see who is sending messages to them.

It sounds like you’re obsessing over your messages and responses, the site is so much more than that!

If you send messages, delete your sent folder, then if you do receive a reply, it’s a nice bonus.

I haven’t sent a cold message to anyone in years and can count on one hand those that I sent before that, yet I’ve met plenty of people!

If an action is not working, then why would you keep repeating it? Adapt and improve your approach OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Majority of the women on here are looking for another woman/couple and the ones who aren’t probably have their choice of over 800 men ??. I bet majority of them in a normal setting you wouldn’t look at twice either so don’t sweat it.

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