FabSwingers.com forum: Parking Etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just been out to get my second vaccine this morning (whoop whoop) and in the carpark there was one available space. The car on one side was parked right up to the line. They’d reversed in so it was the drivers side that was on the line. Do you think I’m obliged to give them room to get in? Or can I just park in between my lines as I see fit, even if that means they can’t open their door properly?

Is it their hard luck if they can’t get in their car because of their bad parking? Or am I the arsehole if I don’t allow them room out of my space to get them in.

Curious what people think as this seems to happen all the time.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

You could park right up to your side of the line, leaving about one inch between the cars... But if you then saw that the other car had an elderly or infirm passenger who needed loads of space at that side, you might feel a bit mean for not anticipating the other drivers problem.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Old style car parking spaces are not designed for modern wider cars. It makes it very difficult to park and be able to get out of a vehicle regardless.

However. If someone blatantly parks on or over a line. My works van will be dead centre of the next space. If they can't get in or out of the space due to their bad parking, their issue not mine.

And I have had stand up argument with an asshole regarding this very point. Parked correctly. They couldn't reverse straight out like a normal human being. Got shirty told them to fuck off. The wife who was driving the car left the gold chained alpha male husband to rant. She drove off without him....

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"You could park right up to your side of the line, leaving about one inch between the cars... But if you then saw that the other car had an elderly or infirm passenger who needed loads of space at that side, you might feel a bit mean for not anticipating the other drivers problem. "
there are spaces designed specifically for families, elderly or infirm. Yes these spaces can be taken. However highly unlikely that all are taken by those who the spaces are designated for.

Car parks that do not have these types of spaces. The owner of the car is responsible for parking correctly and if they are disabled or infirm. It is their responsibly to either inform the owners of the parking area or accept the spacing provided.

The fact that blue badge holders can park on double yellow lines regardless of time (scottish law at least) means they do not need to park in narrow spaces.

You can tell I have bee in my bonnet about bad parking...

Sometimes wish I drove a monster truck and just crushed cars for bad parking...

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If you're sure it's bad parking. Perhaps that was the only space available to them & whoever was on the other side of them had parked like a dickhead. And so on. If you're able to park & get out/in while leaving space then do so, don't get your pants in a knot thinking others are just pricks as default.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Did they park that way deliberately ?

Was the car next to them forcing them over by being parked too near to their space ?

Doesn't matter really.

What DOES matter is what you do now.

Should you park considerately for both of you ? Or should you just ignore any problem you might cause for them?

It's your choice, your behaviour. It doesn't do to say it was someone elses fault after you've made that decision.

What if they have to come inside and ask you to move your car ?

What if they dent your car trying to get into theirs...

Just do the decent thing , especially as you expect it of others.

( no one in particular - all parkers )

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Old style car parking spaces are not designed for modern wider cars. It makes it very difficult to park and be able to get out of a vehicle regardless.

However. If someone blatantly parks on or over a line. My works van will be dead centre of the next space. If they can't get in or out of the space due to their bad parking, their issue not mine.

Ha ha ha. Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What if you could only leave them room by parking on the line at the other side yourself?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could park right up to your side of the line, leaving about one inch between the cars... But if you then saw that the other car had an elderly or infirm passenger who needed loads of space at that side, you might feel a bit mean for not anticipating the other drivers problem. there are spaces designed specifically for families, elderly or infirm. Yes these spaces can be taken. However highly unlikely that all are taken by those who the spaces are designated for.

The fact that blue badge holders can park on double yellow lines regardless of time (scottish law at least) means they do not need to park in narrow spaces.

You can tell I have bee in my bonnet about bad parking...

Sometimes wish I drove a monster truck and just crushed cars for bad parking...

If I drove a monster truck there would definitely be a few flattened cars over the years

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I would make sure they had room to get in. They were parked there first however badly. Parking bay's are only guidelines after all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you're sure it's bad parking. Perhaps that was the only space available to them & whoever was on the other side of them had parked like a dickhead. And so on. If you're able to park & get out/in while leaving space then do so, don't get your pants in a knot thinking others are just pricks as default."

I have no knowledge of why they parked that way. They left 2ft of of space on their passenger side, which could have been for a variety of reasons. I didn’t think they were a prick, just wondered what people’s thoughts were on how I should park.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did they park that way deliberately ?

Was the car next to them forcing them over by being parked too near to their space ?

Doesn't matter really.

What DOES matter is what you do now.

Should you park considerately for both of you ? Or should you just ignore any problem you might cause for them?

It's your choice, your behaviour. It doesn't do to say it was someone elses fault after you've made that decision.

What if they have to come inside and ask you to move your car ?

What if they dent your car trying to get into theirs...

Just do the decent thing , especially as you expect it of others.

( no one in particular - all parkers ) "

What is the decent thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would make sure they had room to get in. They were parked there first however badly. Parking bay's are only guidelines after all. "

So you would park further towards the car at the other side to allow them room?

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

I'm not the best parker but I try to make sure there is room, after all I don't want my car scratched by a door, all I can say really

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not the best parker but I try to make sure there is room, after all I don't want my car scratched by a door, all I can say really"

Yeah me too.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

I know some people who will park over two bays so that they don’t get their car damaged. But in my car park outside my apartment I’ll park within the lines regardless of where others are parked. If they can’t get in then tough.

I’ve had knocks on my door from neighbours and I’ve told them that I’m parked within the lines cause I have consideration for others.

Wont do when I get my new car on Tuesday though haha not in case it gets scratched

God knows what I’d do then haha

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I know some people who will park over two bays so that they don’t get their car damaged. But in my car park outside my apartment I’ll park within the lines regardless of where others are parked. If they can’t get in then tough.

I’ve had knocks on my door from neighbours and I’ve told them that I’m parked within the lines cause I have consideration for others.

Wont do when I get my new car on Tuesday though haha not in case it gets scratched

God knows what I’d do then haha"

Saying that though, if there was room for me to move over a little in a supermarket car park, I would.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"You could park right up to your side of the line, leaving about one inch between the cars... But if you then saw that the other car had an elderly or infirm passenger who needed loads of space at that side, you might feel a bit mean for not anticipating the other drivers problem. there are spaces designed specifically for families, elderly or infirm. Yes these spaces can be taken. However highly unlikely that all are taken by those who the spaces are designated for.

The fact that blue badge holders can park on double yellow lines regardless of time (scottish law at least) means they do not need to park in narrow spaces.

You can tell I have bee in my bonnet about bad parking...

Sometimes wish I drove a monster truck and just crushed cars for bad parking...

1) Blue Badge holders are limited to 3hrs on the public highway, whether on double yellows or not.

2) It is often unsafe to park on double yellows, especially as the sole occupants and driver of your vehicle, this is because..

a) You have to push your door fully open into the road, probably on a section of road that is busy/dangerous, otherwise there wouldn't be double yellows in the first place.

b) You have to get your mobility aid (wheelchair, in my case) out at the back of your vehicle whilst on an active highway. This is dangerous.

c) It's highly likely there will be no dropped kerb to get off the road and onto the pavement in the wheelchair.

Wheelchair users are at bonnet height, below bonnet height for vans, large SUVs, buses, trucks etc. We are incredibly vulnerable sat in a wheelchair on an active highway. It is to be avoided like the plague. I also often have a 4yo to get in/out of the car, so further safety considerations.

I, for one, am heartily sick of arriving at venues to find only 1 or 2 blue badge bays, which are already occupied. It's a very regular occurrence, particularly at my doctors (1 blue badge bay, the rest very narrow).

I have parked over two bays before, or right up on one side but I put my Blue Badge in the windscreen to show why.

If there are no Blue Badge bays, I try to park at the arse end of the car park, on the end of a row of bays. I then hope no-one parks next to me.

Take home message - especially at vaccine centres, which seem to be in church halls and other such venues with very limited parking, not all apparently inconsiderate parkers are inconsiderate. Some of us might need to get a wheelchair up the side of a vehicle, or to assist an elderly person who also need the door opened fully.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I blame the white line painters...all the parking bays are far too narrow to open a car door properly

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I would make sure they had room to get in. They were parked there first however badly. Parking bay's are only guidelines after all.

So you would park further towards the car at the other side to allow them room?

Yes providing I also had room to get put. If not I'd bitch and moan as I circle round and round trying to find a better space.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had knocks on my door from neighbours and I’ve told them that I’m parked within the lines cause I have consideration for others.

Wont do when I get my new car on Tuesday though haha not in case it gets scratched

God knows what I’d do then haha

Saying that though, if there was room for me to move over a little in a supermarket car park, I would. "

I try to park as best I can considering space and potential door dents ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve got a big car, and I’m fat, so bay parking can be tricky. I normally try to park fairly central in the space, if a little bit over, to give me room to get out whilst not getting too close to the cars either side.

In this case today I left the person on the line as much room as I could so as not to mean the person at the other side was hemmed in, and I could get out without dinging their door. But I wouldn’t have been able to easily get in my car with the amount of room they had. Luckily when I got back to my car, that one was still there so I moved before they needed to try get in.

I think my approach is that if I can park somewhere else then I will. If I can’t and it’s that space or nothing then I’m going to park so that I can get out and not risk being hemmed in myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d give them room... more for the fact that I’d rather they didn’t hit my door while trying to squeeze back into their seat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can park in between your line but that does come with a risk if they ding your car opening their door, but leaving them room mean you yourself can't get out.

People who park like that are arseholes anyway, even 5 year olds know how to stay within the lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about time parking bays were made wider, like disabled bays or parent & child parking

The amount of damage I've had done to my cars in car parks over the years fucks me right off

I'd like to think others weren't out to deliberately damage other people's property but when you only allow a gnats cocks worth of space between cars, damage is bound to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama"

What do you mean by parking normally?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama

What do you mean by parking normally? "

Meaning parking how you would park in a normal situations, in the middle of the bay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is leave as much room as possible equally for all involved to get in or out of their cars.

You have no idea what kind of day they've had. They could have had a truly shit day and it could be the last straw if they can't get in their car.

And you also don't know how hostile they'd be towards you if they waited for your return.

If you can make like easier for yourself and others then why not do it.

In my mind it's not a massive deal at the end of the day if someone parked wrongly for whatever reason. We all do it at some stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like it’s a selfish person who doesn’t care how they park. If parked properly there is enough room to get out without touching the other cars.

So you done nothing wrong but they might get angry and frustrated as they would have to climb from the boot of the car to get in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama

What do you mean by parking normally?

Meaning parking how you would park in a normal situations, in the middle of the bay"

Wouldn’t that cause drama though, because by parking normally they wouldn’t be able to get in. Well not easily anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama

What do you mean by parking normally?

Meaning parking how you would park in a normal situations, in the middle of the bay

Wouldn’t that cause drama though, because by parking normally they wouldn’t be able to get in. Well not easily anyway. "

That would be their own fault for parking the way they did. They could hardly moan at you for parking square in a bay. Like I say why cause unnecessary drama

What if someone forced them to park too close to the line and they tried to be considerate by parking as far over as they could? Who's at fault then?

Or the most logical thing would be to find another bay

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

what if, when they arrived for their appointment, there was just one space left and the person parked next to them was not correctly parked between the lines ?? they would also have to park wrongly and so a chain reaction begins.

What if YOU were that person and then someone blocked you from getting in your car??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, just park normally. I'd be worried about damage to my car. Easier to just move along without the drama

What do you mean by parking normally?

Meaning parking how you would park in a normal situations, in the middle of the bay

Wouldn’t that cause drama though, because by parking normally they wouldn’t be able to get in. Well not easily anyway.

That would be their own fault for parking the way they did. They could hardly moan at you for parking square in a bay. Like I say why cause unnecessary drama

What if someone forced them to park too close to the line and they tried to be considerate by parking as far over as they could? Who's at fault then?

Or the most logical thing would be to find another bay "

Ah ok, I get you.I agree, I wouldn’t want to overly compensate to accommodate them because it has a knock on effect.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Park dead centre. If they were forced to park that way by somebody else, that has a knock-on effect to you, and you could leave the next parker the same issue. If you can stop that chain the you should do it.

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Did anyone read the bit where it was pointed out blue badge holders may have to park towards one side of a regular bay if blue badge bays are unavailable? I HAVE to open my door fully or I cannot get out, simple as, so unless the regular bays are jolly wide, you may well find me parking off to one side, but within the lines. As I said earlier, if this is necessary, I try and take myself to the farthest reaches of the car park and attempt to find an end bay. This means I choose to increase the distance I have to self propel (possibly with my 4yo in tow) to try and make things more convenient for non-disabled drivers. The multi storey car park that I pay full whack for a season ticket on has 3 blue badge bays. These can be full and my only choice then is to park on odd number floors (no lifts on even numbers). The NCP people have told me to park across two bays and put my badge in, so they won't fine me, but I've come back to all sorts of rude notes on the windscreen and, although I can't prove it, vandalism of my car.

I do apologise for the fact I need a mobility aid; cannot use the steps and need to open my door fully. I realise this is a massive inconvenience to those of you who ARE more able to drive up to the top floor, where there are ALWAYS spaces, but you have to walk down 1 set of steps to get to a lift.

I don't claim benefits, I pay my season ticket, I pay my taxes etc, I just need a bit more space, so don't shoot the wheelchair user if we do have to park asymmetrically or, heaven forbid, across two bays (as instructed by the attendant).

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

"I blame the white line painters...all the parking bays are far too narrow to open a car door properly

It's not the painters fault, it's the planners who use the regulated standard size parking bay 4.8 meters x 2.4 meters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did anyone read the bit where it was pointed out blue badge holders may have to park towards one side of a regular bay if blue badge bays are unavailable? I HAVE to open my door fully or I cannot get out, simple as, so unless the regular bays are jolly wide, you may well find me parking off to one side, but within the lines. As I said earlier, if this is necessary, I try and take myself to the farthest reaches of the car park and attempt to find an end bay. This means I choose to increase the distance I have to self propel (possibly with my 4yo in tow) to try and make things more convenient for non-disabled drivers. The multi storey car park that I pay full whack for a season ticket on has 3 blue badge bays. These can be full and my only choice then is to park on odd number floors (no lifts on even numbers). The NCP people have told me to park across two bays and put my badge in, so they won't fine me, but I've come back to all sorts of rude notes on the windscreen and, although I can't prove it, vandalism of my car.

Do you have stickers on your side and rear windows alerting others as to why you have to park like it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If makes sense if the driver side has allowed more room by moving over in the space. In those circumstances I wouldn’t think anything of parking next to them normally, because it won’t affect them getting in. What happened to me today though was that it was the driver side that was on the white line, so by parking normally i left them little room to get in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I were you I would park across 2 bays as advised by the attendants. Your badge should be enough, but people are pricks, so I’d probably put a note in my window too to explain why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Park dead centre. If they were forced to park that way by somebody else, that has a knock-on effect to you, and you could leave the next parker the same issue. If you can stop that chain the you should do it.

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly. "

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Do you have stickers on your side and rear windows alerting others as to why you have to park like it? "

No. I have a Government issue blue badge in the windscreen, which is always facing the aisle because I always reverse park. It's no-one else's business. It's exceptionally rare I park across two bays, but it's done with permission of the NCP so that's adequate. There are plenty of spaces but unfortunately because lifts are only on odd floors, perfectly able people seem to dislike parking on the even floors, which usually have plenty of space. You only have to walk down one flight of stairs to an odd floor to find a lift, but unfortunately this is impossible by wheelchair and I refuse to wheel up/down the car ramps.

I'm talking about a private car park, where I have permission from the operator to park thus. I mean, they could put more blue badge spaces in, right? There are three on the ground floor, but also about 6 regular spaces, which could be converted.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

PS: I never park asymmetrically if another vehicle is already parked. I pick somewhere with no-one else parked. If someone else choose to try and squeeze in after me, that's their choice. I drive to the higher odd floors to try and get away from the masses - it doesn't matter how many floors I go down in a lift.

Apart from the day I parked on 11 and when I came out, the lift was out of order

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way. "

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PS: I never park asymmetrically if another vehicle is already parked. I pick somewhere with no-one else parked. If someone else choose to try and squeeze in after me, that's their choice. I drive to the higher odd floors to try and get away from the masses - it doesn't matter how many floors I go down in a lift.

Apart from the day I parked on 11 and when I came out, the lift was out of order

I get you think it’s nobody’s business - and yes, the blue badge should be enough!

HOWEVER - not everyone thinks the same so maybe stickers on the side window should be considered. I’ve seen them before and it has worked wonders.

Would certainly save you having to rant

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Apart from the day I parked on 11 and when I came out, the lift was out of order

I get you think it’s nobody’s business - and yes, the blue badge should be enough!

HOWEVER - not everyone thinks the same so maybe stickers on the side window should be considered. I’ve seen them before and it has worked wonders.

Would certainly save you having to rant "

I don't especially want to plaster my attractive Sports Tourer with stickers, I'll be honest. It's enough to endure the stares which ensue when people watch me reverse in (assuming I'm not disabled). They scurry off quickly when the crutches come out, followed by the wheelchair. I've had people gesticulating at me before I've had a chance to get out, because obviously a woman of 35 cannot possibly need a blue badge space.

Today in Manchester, the absolutely pig-ignorant people who I had the misfortune to come across wouldn't have cared if I'd painted myself as a blue badge with naked body paint.

Yes, I'm ranting, because pretty much every time I go out somewhere, I'm painfully reminded that society is not designed for wheelchair users and especially not for ones with young children in tow. I fucking hate it and I do NOT want to be further "labelled", to be perfectly honest. I have the Government issued label and that should be sufficient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the day I parked on 11 and when I came out, the lift was out of order

I get you think it’s nobody’s business - and yes, the blue badge should be enough!

HOWEVER - not everyone thinks the same so maybe stickers on the side window should be considered. I’ve seen them before and it has worked wonders.

Would certainly save you having to rant

Today in Manchester, the absolutely pig-ignorant people who I had the misfortune to come across wouldn't have cared if I'd painted myself as a blue badge with naked body paint.

Then I wish you all the luck.

I only mentioned the stickers because my aunt had to put up with the ‘pig-ignorant’ people you mentioned so she decided to do something about it and help herself by adding them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf"

You don’t know. Well, unless the car is still there. I this case I didn’t have much option because there was one space, so I gave as much room as I could, but couldn’t leave enough as he needed because there wasn’t room.

I don’t think it’s petty though to just park straight. What’s the point of having bays if we all just ignore them.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Then I wish you all the luck.

I only mentioned the stickers because my aunt had to put up with the ‘pig-ignorant’ people you mentioned so she decided to do something about it and help herself by adding them. "

My reference to pig ignorant people today was in relation to navigating the streets, shops and outside spaces by wheelchair with a 4yo strapped to my knee. My reading of the lines about helping oneself, I might be misreading the intention behind them, so I won't comment further.

Disabled people shouldn't have to bend over backwards to avoid perceived inconvenience to people who are more able to, for example, not use the lift. Step to one side. Step up a pavement rather than at the dropped kerb. Etc. My stressful experiences are far more frequent in the public spaces occupied by blinkered, self centered people, more than car parks.

Today's issues:

- People queuing for Wetherspoons three deep, blocking dropped kerbs but who are either a) all deaf or b) ignoring the "excuse me please"

- People who clearly do not NEED to, using the lift to move between floors in the Arndale (there are escalators and stairs too), but because it's one household per lift, means waiting upwards of 10, sometimes 15 minutes just to get in and move between floors

- People on phones who seem unable to see a fat woman with a tall 4yo on her knee in a wheelchair and fall over you, then swear at you, e.g. "for fuck sake, bitch"

- People who walk past you when you're keeping 2m distance in a queue and push in, because obviously we're invisible

- People tutting or swearing at me when I make them stop/slow down so I can take a kerb slowly (I don't want to faceplant my daughter into the tram lines). Usually because they're walking far too close behind and not watching where they are going

- People who walk right in front of me as I'm trying to push up a steep slope

- People sitting on the disabled access ramp eating food, who need to gather up all their crap, while you are holding yourself and aforementioned 4yo on a slope with just the power of your shoulders

- Cyclists who ride through red lights and nearly crash into us as we cross the road on a green man

- Pavements closed to allow scaffolding on building sites, but the temporary space provided for people to traverse is inaccessible for wheelchairs

- Pavements and on-street disabled bays blocked by extra outdoor seating

- Shops with one way systems that only have one accessible door, so to get out, you have to push past people all going the opposite way, whilst saying "sorry, excuse me" all the way and trying not to run people's feet over

- Disabled toilets in cafes used to store the spare seating removed so that tables can be socially distanced

- The fucking awful broken pavements/lack of dropped kerbs/other crappy public realm that cause the wheelchair wheels to get caught and abruptly stop. We have been tipped over before now

- D*unk people who shout things at you and scare your child (not unique to wheelchair users, but harder to get away from them)

That's just today, and you wonder why I feel like utter shit right now? That was my first trip out to the city centre (other than to go directly to my workplace) since 2020.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf

I don’t think it’s petty though to just park straight. What’s the point of having bays if we all just ignore them. "

They're just guidelines. You can park horizontally across them if you wanted. To deliberately park in such a way to prevent someone access to their vehicle is not nice. You have the choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf

I don’t think it’s petty though to just park straight. What’s the point of having bays if we all just ignore them.

They're just guidelines. You can park horizontally across them if you wanted. To deliberately park in such a way to prevent someone access to their vehicle is not nice. You have the choice. "

I wouldn’t block anyone in on purpose for spite. But I’m not going to park like a prick and make it difficult for someone else to accommodate a person who’s on the line.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf

I don’t think it’s petty though to just park straight. What’s the point of having bays if we all just ignore them.

They're just guidelines. You can park horizontally across them if you wanted. To deliberately park in such a way to prevent someone access to their vehicle is not nice. You have the choice.

I wouldn’t block anyone in on purpose for spite. But I’m not going to park like a prick and make it difficult for someone else to accommodate a person who’s on the line.

But you did do it in purpose. You weren't forced to park there really even though you claim it to be the only space left. It was vaccination clinic so I should have imagined the churn for spaces was fairly high. You could have waited for a more appropriate space.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If nobody forced them to park like that, then it's their problem if they have a hard time because you decide to park correctly.

Yeah that’s what I did, I think the same way.

But how would you know if someone was forced to park like that?

This just screams pettiness tbf

I don’t think it’s petty though to just park straight. What’s the point of having bays if we all just ignore them.

They're just guidelines. You can park horizontally across them if you wanted. To deliberately park in such a way to prevent someone access to their vehicle is not nice. You have the choice.

I wouldn’t block anyone in on purpose for spite. But I’m not going to park like a prick and make it difficult for someone else to accommodate a person who’s on the line.

I got there when I needed to. And I’m not driving round or waiting to find a new space when I can park in the one that’s there. I don’t think that’s a reasonable expectation. It’d be a bit entitled if the driver of the badly parked car to expect that I think.

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol