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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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So I have been on and off fab for the last 10+ years

Back in the younger days it was easy to get a conversation following with a women etc even if it did not lead any where.

These days I send out msgs face photo included etc but just never seem to get any replies.

Then also what's with all these fake profiles popping up left right and center. You see them asking for money or follow me on such and such a website. Does any one else think fab as a site that the standards have slipped.

Cheers L

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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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And yes I have a meet showing on my profile but that was with someone who I meet with away from fab and introduced her to this site.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

In the time I've been here, I don't think it has - I've changed and I've changed how I've used it.

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By *dwan89Man
over a year ago

slough

I’ve noticed the same thing actually I feel like it’s getting harder or the fake profiles which I know are guys faking to be women, just reminds me of using Tinder lol, kinda of getting bored of Fab, getting a lot more results outside of the site to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to take it personally. We get 100s of messages a day it's a struggle to keep up. I always try to make a point of replying to those that have sent me a good message with a face pic out of politeness, but some still get missed occasionally xx

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The change I’ve noticed is the amount of women who write on their pictures asking for fabs. Fab if you want a fuck, fab if you want to see this, fab if you want to do that. It’s pathetic. Just have a good picture and let it chart wherever it’s supposed to chart without having to beg for fabs.

I’ve been here for 11 years and hot pics was always my territory so that’s my grievance.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users"

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?

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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"The change I’ve noticed is the amount of women who write on their pictures asking for fabs. Fab if you want a fuck, fab if you want to see this, fab if you want to do that. It’s pathetic. Just have a good picture and let it chart wherever it’s supposed to chart without having to beg for fabs.

I’ve been here for 11 years and hot pics was always my territory so that’s my grievance. "

Fully agree have see you top the hot pics a few times there's no reason to be needed not like fabs make prizes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?"

I've never seen anything in the site feedback board actioned, which is poor from the admins. More filtering including more profile fields etc. and better messaging would help. Location filters too xx

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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?"

I fully agree, the idea it's a swinging site has not changed, and lots of men join in the hope of getting a quick leg over. Tbh tinder and all the other apps are just as bad these days. But I guess the old saying sex sells it true these days

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By *iwie!Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've been on and off since 2014, definitely has changed. Fab makes it too easy to make profiles, women are overwhelmed by the amount of messages from the many, usually blank, profiles. Not only that but I think it give a lot of men 'nice guy' syndrome, because they're decent and not getting meets us women are the problem xD

There's also the issue that a lot of people don't read profiles, and just try their luck with mass messaging, for example I know a lot of straight men get hounded by bi/gay/flexible men for meets *just* in case.

I know that these things and other things have made me more jaded with replying, as well as more fantasists who arrange and don't show up or ghost you

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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?

I've never seen anything in the site feedback board actioned, which is poor from the admins. More filtering including more profile fields etc. and better messaging would help. Location filters too xx"

I think one thing what really should be part of any site like this, is you have to be photo or video verified to stop people joining and using others photos etc. More and more dating sites are doing this now but then saying that even that does not stop the fake accounts appearing or hackers still taking over other people's accounts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?

I fully agree, the idea it's a swinging site has not changed, and lots of men join in the hope of getting a quick leg over. Tbh tinder and all the other apps are just as bad these days. But I guess the old saying sex sells it true these days "

Plenty of us women are fine with a causal fuck too, I don't see that as an issue. But making it easier to find or exclude those with different interests would help. Xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It clearly does not work for a large number of its members yet those who run the site and make profit do not address this and are not interested in improving it so it fails its users

That is true as in all commercial ventures. How would it be improved? There have been many threads on this subject and most revolved around making it easier for guys to get laid.

I would say fab hasn't changed people have and people joining. The whole ethos of "Swinging" has changed. Is Swinging still an apt description any more?

I've never seen anything in the site feedback board actioned, which is poor from the admins. More filtering including more profile fields etc. and better messaging would help. Location filters too xx

I think one thing what really should be part of any site like this, is you have to be photo or video verified to stop people joining and using others photos etc. More and more dating sites are doing this now but then saying that even that does not stop the fake accounts appearing or hackers still taking over other people's accounts. "

Fab have said repeatedly that they're not going to do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also think it should be called fab sinners not swingers of fab connections or anything that takes the shady/shameful stigma away from being on the site. Think more women would join them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many apps/social media.

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By *unni6969 OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I've been on and off since 2014, definitely has changed. Fab makes it too easy to make profiles, women are overwhelmed by the amount of messages from the many, usually blank, profiles. Not only that but I think it give a lot of men 'nice guy' syndrome, because they're decent and not getting meets us women are the problem xD

There's also the issue that a lot of people don't read profiles, and just try their luck with mass messaging, for example I know a lot of straight men get hounded by bi/gay/flexible men for meets *just* in case.

I know that these things and other things have made me more jaded with replying, as well as more fantasists who arrange and don't show up or ghost you"

Can not agree more with this, I had to blocks guys. Just trying there luck I'm no way attracted to men not bi curious but yet they still try. I no when people are horny they just want some action but I'd never change my criteria just to get a quick blowie off a guy just because I was in that sort of mood.

As said above I think more rules on who can and can't msg and more flexible filters are really needed these days.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It would be pretty weird if FAB stayed the same and everything else just changed around it.

Don't forget YOU'VE changed too.

( no one in particular )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not been here long .. so guess I’m non the wiser ... plenty of genuine ones here though ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's changed alot I was on here for a while around 7 years ago, I chatted with loads of people, now it's seems it just an xrated instagram for likes and dreamers, obviously there's genuine people but few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the site has grown... But with single men. Which means if you're looking for a woman, her inbox is full and she's less likely to see your message, even if she might be interested. I'm certain I've missed loads of messages from great guys!

I specifically state that I won't travel more than 30 minutes for a meet, yet just today I've had messages from guys in Scotland and Ireland and Manchester asking to meet, to name just a few places I'd never travel to for sex. This just cock blocks the men who actually fit my requirements because I don't see their messages!

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Guys have to understand you have to market yourself well on here and put the effort and time in. Fabs been good for me tbh

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Guys have to understand you have to market yourself well on here and put the effort and time in. Fabs been good for me tbh "

Sometimes I just smile and love life.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Although it's not specifically the sites fault, the fab forum politics gets on my tits sometimes....

" Don't talk to them because they are an asshole , we don't like them , he don't like her , she don't like him "

I'll make up my own mind thankyou

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I've seen a change in the lack of effort from some guys ,they think a cock pic and hi how are you will get a conversation going ,when I either reply with a polite no etc get abuse or a why not ?.if they fully read profile I hope they would know if we are for them.or not ,still every day we get messages or winks from straight guys who run a mile when I say or think hubby giving them a blow job gets them a fuck at me!!!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Like already pointed out by some I think its changed for sure! Become more clicky esp in forums, more like insta a popularity contest for some & more profiles selling underwear & advertising OF accounts

But it is what it is things evolve with time

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

I guess I've just been lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having used this site on and off since 2009 the noticeable change is number of users. Obviously with that will come a broader spectrum of good and bad.

Bad if you wish to deem it such, is increase in drug statuses, seeking purchase of such. Also now a few users requesting that others buy them a supporters pass. I don't recall much or any of this few years back.

I can understand why those into a more traditionally viewed swingers lifestyle lament the site going backwards as it has grown with greater user base into a I'm here and you should fuck me demand from many male users.

However, that has always been true. So in that respect, how people interact via forums and PMs hasn't altered much at all over time.

If you look back via forum threads for example, the only ones which will be different are those commenting on events at that time.

You can guarantee you'd find who loves to fuck an older woman, do you like bareback, have you ever saw someone you know from her in real life etc., range of threads populated again and again and again from years ago.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I haven't seen a lot of changes on here.

Guys moaning because they can't get replies a lot have blank profiles no bio friends only pics if any they cheat to get through filters then moan because they get deleted. You get out of fab what you put in. And just because you think you suit a profile it does not mean that person agrees. Usually the guys who make an effort with their profiles actually get on okay on here.

Women moaning because men aren't respectful and that they get too many messages.Filters are there for a reason if you tighten them right up you get a hell of a lot less messages and if you can't stand all these men contacting you block them and make an effort to send the first message yourself.

Fakes etc are always going to be on here and pic veris do not guarantee it's a genuine profile anyhow .And no I don't believe people should be made photo verify the minute they join a lot of genuine people wouldn't at first until they get to see what the site is about the same as making people pay to join . There is no solution to the fakes they have always been here and always will be you get better at spotting them .Just block and move on.

As for people who use here to put up pics and get to the top of the hotlist but don't meet so what. That's how they enjoy using fab there is no rule you have to have sex with others on here and obviously their pics are popular with quite a few so what harm.

If people spent less time worrying about what others do on here and concentrate on their own journey it might actually improve the site a lot .But what do I know that's just my take on it.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"I've been on and off since 2014, definitely has changed. Fab makes it too easy to make profiles, women are overwhelmed by the amount of messages from the many, usually blank, profiles. Not only that but I think it give a lot of men 'nice guy' syndrome, because they're decent and not getting meets us women are the problem xD

There's also the issue that a lot of people don't read profiles, and just try their luck with mass messaging, for example I know a lot of straight men get hounded by bi/gay/flexible men for meets *just* in case.

I know that these things and other things have made me more jaded with replying, as well as more fantasists who arrange and don't show up or ghost you"

Fab I believe hasn't changed just maybe the perception, the above has always been the case. Been on since the beginning and what attracted people was cams and it was free and easy to join - large number aren't actually on here to meet they are here just to view cams. Why do you need a profile picture or profile if cams are all you are looking. for?

Pictures you put on at your own risk (I the terms and conditions). People friend you just so the can view your privates.

But that has been the same pretty much from the beginning.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Nope. FAB is FAB. Only the people change and people's perception change over time.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I reckon more and more people are joining but to be honest it shouldn’t matter how many people are on the site, if you have a good profile, good pics and send out well tailored messages then you’ll do well.

I think too many try and find excuses as to why they aren’t getting meets or people chatting when the answer is usually right in front of them.

The successful people on here see the advantages and use them. The unsuccessful don’t.

K

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I’m sure it’s changed in some ways, but I think it’s easy to see things through rose-tinted spectacles sometimes.

I joined in 2011, and my recollection was that there was just as many comments about how the site had changed and the real essence of swinging had been lost back then.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Been here some years now no fab has not changed well not enough getting a old website now time for a update .

The meet as always been a ball ache here but people are not just looking to have straight sex but looking for 3 way 4 way gangbang to see there wife fucked or husband or bit more than the normal.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You're rejoining after over a year of people waiting to meet old friends and long-standing pending meets. Thousands of single men joined throughout and went to the back of the queue. That causes extra lack of interest in new messages. Plus many people are not yet comfortable to start meeting.

The spam type profiles trying to get financial gain are a separate issue. With a long established site, there's an ever increasing number of people who will know of fab and try to use it for the wrong reasons. There are more sites now that exist for the sole purpose of getting money from people, for access to photos etc.

Using the Internet requires a certain minimum level of common sense, technical, financial security nouse etc to ensure that you remain focused on your objectives. With fab it's reasonably simple, you just stay in the site and not go offsite, until sure that you have compatibility and others are genuinely seeking no strings, no payment, fun.

Report any users and behaviour that's not appropriate or against site rules. With a growing user base, that's more people that are attractive to scammers, so it's largely down to us each doing our bit, to keep standards high.

Single men here will have to work harder to get results, if they leave and rejoin, as they are starting from scratch, going to the back of queues and having no reputation that backs them up. Use the forum to find the best tips on how to improve your potential chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't seen a lot of changes on here.

Guys moaning because they can't get replies a lot have blank profiles no bio friends only pics if any they cheat to get through filters then moan because they get deleted. You get out of fab what you put in. And just because you think you suit a profile it does not mean that person agrees. Usually the guys who make an effort with their profiles actually get on okay on here.

Women moaning because men aren't respectful and that they get too many messages.Filters are there for a reason if you tighten them right up you get a hell of a lot less messages and if you can't stand all these men contacting you block them and make an effort to send the first message yourself.

Fakes etc are always going to be on here and pic veris do not guarantee it's a genuine profile anyhow .And no I don't believe people should be made photo verify the minute they join a lot of genuine people wouldn't at first until they get to see what the site is about the same as making people pay to join . There is no solution to the fakes they have always been here and always will be you get better at spotting them .Just block and move on.

As for people who use here to put up pics and get to the top of the hotlist but don't meet so what. That's how they enjoy using fab there is no rule you have to have sex with others on here and obviously their pics are popular with quite a few so what harm.

If people spent less time worrying about what others do on here and concentrate on their own journey it might actually improve the site a lot .But what do I know that's just my take on it. "

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Change costs money, why spend money if you don't have to. If it aint broke don't fix it.

Would people be prepared to pay at more as a supporter if they re-vamped the site. I suspect not and the forums will be full of moaners they still can't get laidfo the money.

Just being devils advocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab hasn't changed, just the people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the issue for us is fab isn’t for swingers anymore, it’s a hook up site. 90% of the site aren’t genuine swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps "

You have plenty going for you, as well as being fit, you’re lovely and you speak to women respectfully, and like we’re normal people too, not just a set of holes or tits.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps

You have plenty going for you, as well as being fit, you’re lovely and you speak to women respectfully, and like we’re normal people too, not just a set of holes or tits."

Thank you very much, you're always making me smile

You're always a delight to talk to and you light up my days xx

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"So I have been on and off fab for the last 10+ years

Back in the younger days it was easy to get a conversation following with a women etc even if it did not lead any where.

These days I send out msgs face photo included etc but just never seem to get any replies.

Then also what's with all these fake profiles popping up left right and center. You see them asking for money or follow me on such and such a website. Does any one else think fab as a site that the standards have slipped.

Cheers L "

Definitely changed.. the pandemic hasn’t help either mind

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Of course it has, or at least the people that use it have.

Internet dating is very much a thing now and people treat those they meet online with the same trepidation and cynicism. People are increasingly savvy to fakes, frauds, fantasists, etc, and as such that affects fab too.

Also, people have a tendency to use hindsight in conjunction with sepia tinted lenses, which means that as much as it might have seemed easier, the people nicer and meets better, they most likely weren’t. Even if they were, it doesn’t make things now any different.

Just roll with things as they are, adapt, innovate and improve, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree with you. I've asked numerous times to admin that I want to be a moderator.ive been knocked back at the moment but I'm looking to combat this problem and help the site out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The change I’ve noticed is the amount of women who write on their pictures asking for fabs. Fab if you want a fuck, fab if you want to see this, fab if you want to do that. It’s pathetic. Just have a good picture and let it chart wherever it’s supposed to chart without having to beg for fabs.

I’ve been here for 11 years and hot pics was always my territory so that’s my grievance. "

It leads to further exposure of their social media. They make money from it all. Plus theirs escorts on this site aswell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the thread.

But I've been around a while

I think it's the same as it always was

Maybe it's busier - more 'single' male profiles and fantasists but largely it's the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be pretty weird if FAB stayed the same and everything else just changed around it.

Don't forget YOU'VE changed too.

( no one in particular ) "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon more and more people are joining but to be honest it shouldn’t matter how many people are on the site, if you have a good profile, good pics and send out well tailored messages then you’ll do well.

I think too many try and find excuses as to why they aren’t getting meets or people chatting when the answer is usually right in front of them.

The successful people on here see the advantages and use them. The unsuccessful don’t.

K"

Well said

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps "

It's because you're lovely and respectful, I enjoy our chats x

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It has changed over the years, this being my third time here. It's more populated than it ever was, with people that use it for different reasons than I do.

You only have to look at many of the threads in the forum's to see that. Trivial subjects, people trying to be the most popular.

I wonder how many people are actually on here to meet anymore? Most seem to use it as another social media site. Which is their choice. I just feel they now outnumber those who are on here for the reasons the site was set up for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps "

Someone been looking at my profile

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"It has changed over the years, this being my third time here. It's more populated than it ever was, with people that use it for different reasons than I do.

You only have to look at many of the threads in the forum's to see that. Trivial subjects, people trying to be the most popular.

I wonder how many people are actually on here to meet anymore? Most seem to use it as another social media site. Which is their choice. I just feel they now outnumber those who are on here for the reasons the site was set up for."
THIS I agree with like Facebook with naked pics as for the Forum people blowing smoke up each others arses mostly ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The change I’ve noticed is the amount of women who write on their pictures asking for fabs. Fab if you want a fuck, fab if you want to see this, fab if you want to do that. It’s pathetic. Just have a good picture and let it chart wherever it’s supposed to chart without having to beg for fabs.

I’ve been here for 11 years and hot pics was always my territory so that’s my grievance. "

Thus is true madam

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"It's hard for single guys on here but not impossible, maybe I'm just lucky I really don't know but I do actually get replies.

I don't have much going for me but I can hold a conversation about pretty much anything and I don't try getting in someones knickers within the first few messages.

Try talking about jaffa cakes or pizza etc, that helps

Someone been looking at my profile "

I may be guilty of dropping by now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even some in Essex say fab if you want f**k me lol think there are a lot of lady’s want to work for the bbc they keep advertising it on there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have generally had a very positive experience on FAB.

I find that being engaging/genuinely interested and taking care to write a tailored introduction to anyone I message without exception - whilst always remaining respectful - has got me the opportunity of talking to plenty of people. (Except in dare cases where I might message/reply to a thread post, where my message might just be topical note, depending on the thread conversation).

Of course, as in any situation, there are those that will always act like entitled c**ts and go out of their way to be demeaning; there are those that will miss your messages (because they’re usually inundated); those who will automatically delete your message without reading (that’s their prerogative - I take no fence from it) and also those with whom you kick off a conversation, but soon realise there isn’t much chemistry and so you both says “thanks” and go your separate ways.

There is no doubt that FAB has been popularised in the last couple of years - it’s had a lot of exposure and column inches on any number of “dating app review sites” - and so it’s inevitable that it’ll become a stomping ground for charlatans and chancers - men and women alike.

Be good, be kind, be polite, be genuine. Even ugly middle aged f**kers like me have something to offer. But only the “right” people who are compatible with me will discover it, and I am fine with that.

X

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Yes I agree with you. I've asked numerous times to admin that I want to be a moderator.ive been knocked back at the moment but I'm looking to combat this problem and help the site out. "

So you want to make the site what you want to site to be is what you are saying basically .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not been on here long, but have come across some women who have commented that they don’t know why guys message them as they are not attractive. What rubbish. Every one is different and beautiful in their own way. No one should be on here and have doubts. Just be fearless and have fun. Things change, some people have found this site who are just trying it out and are not swingers. Maybe that change is part of the reason things have changed on fab. Evolved or changed into something else entirely.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is interesting there is a divergence of opinions. People say fab has changed others that it hasn't. I'm in the latter camp I just think people have changed and maybe the dynamics. Is that the same thing ?

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Think its changed a bit during Covid.

Lots of folks with time on their hands and feeling low, vulnerable, snappy etc.

Once things get back to normal the dynamic will change and the meets will start again.

Those who just want to chat will still be here but for us, we are only interested in folks who meet. Anyone on the site for 6 months with no verifications we just delete.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

Definitely changed. Used to be able to chat to women and have a normal conversation. Now a lot more messages don’t get read cause the girls are inundated with horny lockdown horny males who will shag anything that moves so send out 10,000 “fuck now?” messages a day

If fab limited 10 new intro messages a day to newbies and unverified accounts, and then have a filter to block copy and paste messages then the site would be a lot more fun for everyone.

Also, have another message box for authorised messages. So if you’re in a conversation with someone, your message goes to this new inbox instead so it doesn’t get hidden in the deluge of horny males.

I could build that feature in an hour lol it’s not difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely changed. Used to be able to chat to women and have a normal conversation. Now a lot more messages don’t get read cause the girls are inundated with horny lockdown horny males who will shag anything that moves so send out 10,000 “fuck now?” messages a day

If fab limited 10 new intro messages a day to newbies and unverified accounts, and then have a filter to block copy and paste messages then the site would be a lot more fun for everyone.

Also, have another message box for authorised messages. So if you’re in a conversation with someone, your message goes to this new inbox instead so it doesn’t get hidden in the deluge of horny males.

I could build that feature in an hour lol it’s not difficult. "

Great ideas. This site is crying out for some love. My husband is a software product manager, teamed up with a developer (which I assume you are) you could probably both make so many improvements xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't think it has changed in fab itself over the 2 years I've been here, it stalled and a lot more people found the forums over lockdown, but recently its all getting back to its normal hunting grounds that were here when I first joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There certainly appears to be a lot more of the status’s which are essentially saying people will meet of you can provide drugs, which i personally think is a shame. Others will disagree.

I also think more and more people use it as a more risqué version of facebook where they can post a naughty pic attention seeking status.

I have always known that as a single chap on these sites you have to put the effort in to get the results you want. Years ago i was more willing to put the hours in and, while not exactly prolific, i managed to have some incredible fun. Nowadays i generally can’t be bothered so i get nowhere so thats 100% on me. Although i am also in the wilderness years of not being a younger man for the mature ladies or old enough to be of interest to the younger fabbers so i tell myself thats the real reason lol

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Think this is my fourth year and it hasn't changed noticably in that time.

Still works ok for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so, this was all Ceefax when I was first on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 things could change the site for the better is 1. the really popular girls who cant deal with 100's of messages a day, should be more specific who they want to message, narrow types n ages down for example. 2. The age group is highlighted on the messages page, theres an awful lot of time wasted looking up a profile haveing seen a message to ur liking only to find that having read the profile ur not in the age range required !

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Definitely changed. Used to be able to chat to women and have a normal conversation. Now a lot more messages don’t get read cause the girls are inundated with horny lockdown horny males who will shag anything that moves so send out 10,000 “fuck now?” messages a day

If fab limited 10 new intro messages a day to newbies and unverified accounts, and then have a filter to block copy and paste messages then the site would be a lot more fun for everyone.

Also, have another message box for authorised messages. So if you’re in a conversation with someone, your message goes to this new inbox instead so it doesn’t get hidden in the deluge of horny males.

I could build that feature in an hour lol it’s not difficult.

Great ideas. This site is crying out for some love. My husband is a software product manager, teamed up with a developer (which I assume you are) you could probably both make so many improvements xx"

Trust me. Starting building an alternative during lockdown but then work got in the way and I forgot about it lol

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long ago in a galaxy far far away, we had a site called xcite, it was a real community and everyone was kind, supportive and accepted one another. I yearn for something like that!

Meanwhile, back at the ranch…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have been on and off fab for the last 10+ years

Back in the younger days it was easy to get a conversation following with a women etc even if it did not lead any where.

These days I send out msgs face photo included etc but just never seem to get any replies.

Then also what's with all these fake profiles popping up left right and center. You see them asking for money or follow me on such and such a website. Does any one else think fab as a site that the standards have slipped.

Cheers L "

Yeah their are less dick pics which is really annoying me right now

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