FabSwingers.com forum: Why do so many single guys have pictures of random women on their profiles

By *tue555 OP Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

As requested

Why do so many single guys have pictures of random women in various positions, suggesting by them on their profiles.

oh and do they have their permission?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

To make themselves look like studs and re the permission probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really puts me off

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

But don't a lot of ladies and couples have pictures with others in? What's the difference?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"But don't a lot of ladies and couples have pictures with others in? What's the difference?"

Yep when the other person's consent to having their pictures on here is questionable I find it off-putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the most off putting thing ever. For me it serves two purposes, either I look at who they’ve fucked and think the woman looks a bit rough and therefore the guy has no standards or the woman will be better looking/better body and I’d think well if he’s had that he’s not gonna be happy with me.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

To prove that they’ve had the sex and that they know where to put their penis.

It’s like the picture on a cereal box; serving suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK, I'll admit, I don't look at many guys profiles.

If the pics are there without consent though - that should be ban-worthy surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve literally just clicked on someone’s profile for just that reason. Their profile pic looked like a woman but they are male. I was just curious as to the back story. Their profile didn’t clear it up though, I’m still in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To prove that they’ve had the sex and that they know where to put their penis.

It’s like the picture on a cereal box; serving suggestions "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, I'll admit, I don't look at many guys profiles.

If the pics are there without consent though - that should be ban-worthy surely?"

How do you prove it though? I suppose you err on the side of caution and remove any pic that isn’t just the user but the pic mods have enough to do as it is

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By *partacus2024Man
over a year ago

Near You

"It’s the most off putting thing ever. For me it serves two purposes, either I look at who they’ve fucked and think the woman looks a bit rough and therefore the guy has no standards or the woman will be better looking/better body and I’d think well if he’s had that he’s not gonna be happy with me. "

Lol no grey area then ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are probably trying to prove they’ve had sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here? "

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"As requested

Why do so many single guys have pictures of random women in various positions, suggesting by them on their profiles.

oh and do they have their permission?

in somecases its fabs smoke and mirrors they may not be singles. Just the male half of a couple with his own profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To prove that they’ve had the sex and that they know where to put their penis.

It’s like the picture on a cereal box; serving suggestions "

Serving suggestion yes! Can of spam here

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"OK, I'll admit, I don't look at many guys profiles.

If the pics are there without consent though - that should be ban-worthy surely?

How do you prove it though? I suppose you err on the side of caution and remove any pic that isn’t just the user but the pic mods have enough to do as it is "

Personally if you sign up as a single male or female then any pics containing someone else shouldn't be allowed.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Because they can just like single women can and do also .

It makes no difference to me what people put on their profile.

Would it entice me to answer a message from someone who has pics of other women on their profiles probably not if I'm honest but there are other things that put me off more.

Also if their are names on both pics then I don't see an issue if not then yes it makes me wonder if they know their pics are used. But I only control what I put on mine or who I would allow to take pics of me.So what others do with theirs doesn't bother me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OK, I'll admit, I don't look at many guys profiles.

If the pics are there without consent though - that should be ban-worthy surely?

How do you prove it though? I suppose you err on the side of caution and remove any pic that isn’t just the user but the pic mods have enough to do as it is

Personally if you sign up as a single male or female then any pics containing someone else shouldn't be allowed."

I agree actually - unless they really up the technical complexity of the site it would be impossible to police consent. So just ban it completely. I'd be fucking mortified if someone was posting my pics anywhere without my consent.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

When a guy messages us with those types of pics on their profile, more often than not we are checking out the female and asking for her details if she’s hot…

They usually aren’t compliant

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By *elethWoman
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I find it really off putting and consent would be one the first questions that would come to mind. I wouldn't engage with a profile like that.

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

Surely if the person isn’t identifiable then consent doesn’t apply. Most of those I’ve seen don’t show the faces of the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if the person isn’t identifiable then consent doesn’t apply. Most of those I’ve seen don’t show the faces of the other person. "

I can kind of see where you're coming from. If it was just like a close up of a cock going into someone for example.

But, you'd be surprised what people could recognise. Could be something as simple as a tattoo that's only just on the edge of the frame, a mark on the skin, even stuff in the background like ornaments in the room and stuff!

That would make it even harder to police and check for any moderators.

I'm not some sort of prude about this or anything, I'd be happy to allow a partner to have photos of us if she wants them... but they are hers. I trust her to not share them. Her having them doesn't equal implied consent to share them.

Aren't there now "revenge porn" laws that might actually apply here?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Women and couples have guys in their pics too, some have more than one, shock horror!!! Some women have other women in their pics, can you believe it!!!!

Are we questioning every profile to see if they have e consent or not or are we just demonising men again?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Some of those pics are tributes to someone they have had sex with, I have some in my friends pics and I am in some on my playmates pics, its nice to have memories

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"As requested

Why do so many single guys have pictures of random women in various positions, suggesting by them on their profiles.

oh and do they have their permission?

Permission or consent to use images. Highly unlikely!! unless they state so in their profile.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Surely if the person isn’t identifiable then consent doesn’t apply. Most of those I’ve seen don’t show the faces of the other person. "

It's covered in the T&C's:

"10.5 In the case of those over 18 (or higher applicable age of consent), you must not publish or send any Content (including images) which enables those persons to be identified unless you have obtained their explicit written consent to the image / information being provided as well as to our privacy and cookies policy."

The pictures showing me with other men's wives are all used by consent - and none show enough of their faces for them to be identifiable...

....and whilst, apparently, such pics might put some off, the reverse is also true - I've had meets because of my pics (here, and elsewhere)...

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

I have one or two pics of me with others in my friends/private pics. None of them show faces though and and any tattoos are blurred out. As they were all taken in hotels or at my home there is nothing that would identify the other people.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's really off-putting, and I tell them that.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I always pass by those singles with "action shots" especially if they are bb. I find it more yuk when I've been chatting to a guy and they feel the need to send them I a pm aswell. Couple of times when gone off site I've they have gone as far as sending videos of them pounding some women with a message on lines of " this is what im gonna do to you" "bet you want to be her" why why why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To prove that they’ve had the sex and that they know where to put their penis.

It’s like the picture on a cereal box; serving suggestions "

Serving suggestion

- excellent

If they’re flattering pics, arty, like a tribute to the person as another has said then yeh I’m happy to see them. If it’s a pic where it’s 95% the other person and a teeny bit of themselves on the edge that makes me

and think it’s just a bit of woooo look at me I got to shag this sexy person

Although is that so bad? ... because then I might think well if that person did maybe they’re good lol. Should always always be no distinguishing features though - unless their fabname is written on and so (you’d guess) permission has been given x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't have any of me with someone else but I wouldn't rule out having something tasteful, suggestive but not full blown sex and it would have to be with their consent because I'm not a arsehole.

Pretty sure most don't know they have had photos or videos of them shared which could get the poster in trouble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main reason I never film or let anyone take pictures when doing the deed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here? "

Hahahaha made me chuckle! Very true though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love filming and photography but I don’t share that and wouldn’t unless I was in a couples profile. I don’t really like seeing single women’s profiles with lots of other men in either if I’m honest

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"But don't a lot of ladies and couples have pictures with others in? What's the difference?"

Correct. What I do with my profile is up to me alone and if you don't like it then pass it by but please do not judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts us off, we always pass those accounts. We know you can shag, proof isn't required

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

To make it easy for us to filter them out as an option

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Seems a bit sanctimonious on a swingers site openly judging other profiles picture content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women and couples have guys in their pics too, some have more than one, shock horror!!! Some women have other women in their pics, can you believe it!!!!

Are we questioning every profile to see if they have e consent or not or are we just demonising men again?

no one replied to this because its the truth. demonising men again on this forum!

and look. its always the same fucking people doing it and adding to it.

mostly the same bitter women who are lucky they get any sort of attention and jealous of anyone enjoying themselves!

this is a swinging site. people meet for sex and have sex, they get naked and if they want to put pics of that on profiles what the fuck has it got to do with any of you? nothing!

its not your profile, if you dont like it leave it alone and mind your own business.

go look in the mirror and see why others are having fun and leaving you in the dumpster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems a bit sanctimonious on a swingers site openly judging other profiles picture content"

I wouldn't judge anyone for what they have on their profile. Its up to them.

I'm just concerned about posting pics of people (however, anonymous they may look) without consent is a) morally dubious and b) possibly illegal and, c) against the rules of the site.

I'm not even saying that I'd be against people posting fairly anonymous looking pics which include me (or bits of me, anyway haha) providing I give them consent... but it could be very difficult to enforce consent on a site like this without a lot of moderation.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Women and couples have guys in their pics too, some have more than one, shock horror!!! Some women have other women in their pics, can you believe it!!!!

Are we questioning every profile to see if they have e consent or not or are we just demonising men again?

no one replied to this because its the truth. demonising men again on this forum!

and look. its always the same fucking people doing it and adding to it.

mostly the same bitter women who are lucky they get any sort of attention and jealous of anyone enjoying themselves!

this is a swinging site. people meet for sex and have sex, they get naked and if they want to put pics of that on profiles what the fuck has it got to do with any of you? nothing!

its not your profile, if you dont like it leave it alone and mind your own business.

go look in the mirror and see why others are having fun and leaving you in the dumpster."

. You tell em kid!

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here? "

Quietly removed the bareback pussy pics on my profile

Legal disclaimer: there’s only ever pictures on me on my profile lol

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My opinion is - I don’t like to see it. I will pass it by. Couples fine, it’s a couples profile! Women on men’s profiles and vice versa no thanks it will be an instant put off for me no matter how hot they are.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"My opinion is - I don’t like to see it. I will pass it by. Couples fine, it’s a couples profile! Women on men’s profiles and vice versa no thanks it will be an instant put off for me no matter how hot they are. "

And to add to that, 2 women together on a woman’s profile bring it on. I like it. Double standards? Meh so what. We like and want what we like and want

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By *MrandMrsRedxCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I have picture on me and the Mrs on my single profile but that’s due to the single profile coming first. I’m not looking to meet alone, that profile is just for a chat now and again. Properly single guys with them just makes me think they are trying to prove they’ve had sex maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here? "

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I don't personally like that kind of pictures. And agree I've not come across many women who think these photos are appealing. Wouldn't it be interesting if men hot pics could be separated into those fabbed by men Vs women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

Brilliant idea!!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

Why do they need to be appealing? It’s a pic on a profile, I’ve had pics of guys on my profile, it’s not there to be appealing, it’s to show that a good time was had, in fact it was so good we took pics to remember it by

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Women and couples have guys in their pics too, some have more than one, shock horror!!! Some women have other women in their pics, can you believe it!!!!

Are we questioning every profile to see if they have e consent or not or are we just demonising men again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

Some of the men like to see it though

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

That's two different things though in my mind. I have pictures and videos of me fucking for my own personal enjoyment and memories. But photos on a profile need to appeal to me to want to chat further and potentially meet someone else.

I don't care what others put on their profiles that is up to them, just as much as I have my own preferences of what photos I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

Some of the men like to see it though

Let the men fuck them then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

Some of the men like to see it though

Let the men fuck them then

I imagine that’s who it’ll attract.

I just want to watch if they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its always a turn off for me.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

I don't, you know just saying

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

I'm just good at attracting dick unfortunately

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

I'm just good at attracting dick unfortunately

I don't possess a cock, well not last time I checked

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

I'm just good at attracting dick unfortunately

I don't possess a cock, well not last time I checked

That's good to know because if I find one down there I would not be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah totally not a good move but they aren’t alone some women do the same with different guys I’ve noticed so it’s not just the guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

I'm just good at attracting dick unfortunately

I don't possess a cock, well not last time I checked

Same.

I’m so happy

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"To make sure they don't get to meet a female on here?

it must be - because I've never heard any women say they like it.

The ones where they're hanging out of a selection of different women is even worse.

With assorted pictures of them flapping their bits about in a disembodied fashion - just no

But - we all like different things so I shouldn't be so judgey

I'd be high ish on the fabbed by men

I find it interesting and curious about how different people see different photos. If you had that info you could like tailor your pictures to the people you wish you attract.

I'm just good at attracting dick unfortunately

I don't possess a cock, well not last time I checked

Same.

I’m so happy

And I'm mega happy for you too, I've been silently stalking your story

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