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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So been seeing a guy over a year now. Just sex. What we both agreed on. Things were going great. Sex was amazing and still is. Lately though he is looking to meet even when I have my periods. He says things like oh we don't need to have sex. Just cuddle and watch movies.

Am I strange for not wanting to do this as that's how he makes me feel. If we aren't meeting for six I don't really see the point in meeting but he still thinks we should. I just don't want to lead him on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt matter if it's weird or not (but its not). If it's not what you want then it's not what you want, period

(Oh you better believe that pun was intended)

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Sounds like he's gone beyond a fuck buddy situation and is hoping to head towards more. Either FWB or relationship. Even if you suggest to keep things as it is he won't really want that. Gotta decide if you are happy to plough on as is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe time to remind him what fuck buddy means to you and you should stick to what you want from it..

maybe he now wants more so time to spell it out before it gets complicated

im married yet still get guys trying to cross the line i drop them like a sack of spuds im here to swing nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on if yiur friends with benifits or fuck buddy's... There two differant things to me I have fuck buddy's who I know nothing about don't particularly care to we see each other for one thing and out side of that there's nothing there... Then occasionally someone will be a friend with benefits, we both know it's just sex and not going anywhere, we don't want it to go anywhere but as well as amazing sex we also have a great laugh together will do see each other as friends out side of the sex too... All depends on what your comfortable with tho and if you dont want tk see him outside if sex than you shouldent feel like you have to

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"So been seeing a guy over a year now. Just sex. What we both agreed on. Things were going great. Sex was amazing and still is. Lately though he is looking to meet even when I have my periods. He says things like oh we don't need to have sex. Just cuddle and watch movies.

Am I strange for not wanting to do this as that's how he makes me feel. If we aren't meeting for six I don't really see the point in meeting but he still thinks we should. I just don't want to lead him on. "

No it's not strange. It's not strange for him to want to see you either. It would be strange tho if you let him come over when you didn't want him to. Just be honest and say no I'll see you next week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If cuddling and watching movies is not what you signed up for then you're not being weird or leading leading him on. He's trying to move the goal posts and guilt tripping you when you stay firm. Don't be pressured into anything you don't want to do.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just approaching the 5 year wedding anniversary with a woman who just looking for one off sex.

Whatever you want, let yourself live in the now. If you *don't* want it, then that's fine but if you're possibly clinging to the fact you *didn't* want it, be open to changing your mind.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

Are you just being grumpy because your on??

All joking aside just talk to him! Communication is the key! Remind him of your current arrangement and talk it out! Maybe he wants more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to meet him, then tell him. Fantastic arse btw

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Doesnt matter if it's weird or not (but its not). If it's not what you want then it's not what you want, period

(Oh you better believe that pun was intended) "

Exactly this. Its not particularly weird.. He is just suggesting something. Sounds like he cares and that's normal if you have been intimate for a while. If you don't want it, it's fine.

You can just say no thanks. And...if you're wondering if the dynamics have shifted in some way then you may want to consider a check in.. Ask eachother you both still getting what you want from the connection? All relationships need a check in every now and then regardless of the nature.. We're just human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really got the whole fuck buddy or friends with benefits thing. At some point one of the two will always start to develop feelings it’s pretty much inevitable.

Take it as a compliment this guy wants to spend time with you over someone else, I wouldn’t feel bad about it tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never really got the whole fuck buddy or friends with benefits thing. At some point one of the two will always start to develop feelings it’s pretty much inevitable.

Take it as a compliment this guy wants to spend time with you over someone else, I wouldn’t feel bad about it tho. "

Talks a lot of sense this chap!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get what you want and screw his feelings. Guy has to learn what he signed up for

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By *luttTV/TS
over a year ago

Duns

"I never really got the whole fuck buddy or friends with benefits thing. At some point one of the two will always start to develop feelings it’s pretty much inevitable.

Take it as a compliment this guy wants to spend time with you over someone else, I wouldn’t feel bad about it tho. "

Agreed - I don’t think I could meet someone on a regular basis over an extended period without the likelihood of developing some sort of feelings... although precisely where a regular hookup becomes an FWB is a complex question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He obviously has feelings for you,men can get possessive, you need to spell things out to him that you only want him for sex.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Sounds like he’s entering the FWBs phase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he's getting attached, could get a bit messy, probably need to have a chat with. Make sure he knows what this arrangement means to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never really got the whole fuck buddy or friends with benefits thing. At some point one of the two will always start to develop feelings it’s pretty much inevitable.

Take it as a compliment this guy wants to spend time with you over someone else, I wouldn’t feel bad about it tho.

Talks a lot of sense this chap!"

Cheers mate it’s not often I do that ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never really got the whole fuck buddy or friends with benefits thing. At some point one of the two will always start to develop feelings it’s pretty much inevitable.

Take it as a compliment this guy wants to spend time with you over someone else, I wouldn’t feel bad about it tho.

Talks a lot of sense this chap!

Cheers mate it’s not often I do that ??"

Makes it all the more poignant then, now back to talking bollocks man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'd say he's getting attached but I could be wrong and the only way to find out would be to ask

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ive never done the just a fuck thing as it’s not for me at all but I will say you need to tell him how you feel. Not really fair on either of you otherwise. Looks like he wants to change the dynamic x

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Broadly agree with the consensus. It might not be romantic feelings - maybe he just wants more intimacy or to get to know you as a friend. But you've got to respect each others boundaries as well as feelings so just talk it through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had FWBs where we've done friend stuff like eat together, go shopping and watch movies etc. but also have sex. I have gone there sometimes for the evening and slept in the same bed overnight and not had sex. Other times we've been at it like rabbits. But there was no romantic feelings, we just got on well xx

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

People have missed he might just be wanting a shag, so you might want to clear up terms before going in hard.

As other have said though meet on your own rules..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So been seeing a guy over a year now. Just sex. What we both agreed on. Things were going great. Sex was amazing and still is. Lately though he is looking to meet even when I have my periods. He says things like oh we don't need to have sex. Just cuddle and watch movies.

Am I strange for not wanting to do this as that's how he makes me feel. If we aren't meeting for six I don't really see the point in meeting but he still thinks we should. I just don't want to lead him on. "

Brutal ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So been seeing a guy over a year now. Just sex. What we both agreed on. Things were going great. Sex was amazing and still is. Lately though he is looking to meet even when I have my periods. He says things like oh we don't need to have sex. Just cuddle and watch movies.

Am I strange for not wanting to do this as that's how he makes me feel. If we aren't meeting for six I don't really see the point in meeting but he still thinks we should. I just don't want to lead him on.

Brutal ????"

That bad ???

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