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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What bothers you most about men on fab?

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

When they do jot read our profile and ask the questions again or want things you said are not of interest ie; chat types, kik ect. other than that just be honest

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many things.

Those that say they’re 30 but show a pic and they don’t look a day under 55.

Those that say they’re straight on their profile but constantly putting up a status looking for cock.

Those that say they don’t smoke when they do. I smoke but if I’m meeting a non smoker then I shower, brush teeth, eat a packet of extra strong mints and then don’t smoke til I’ve left him. This is a waste when really they smoke.

Those that message and just want a bj.

I could go on and on but I’ll leave it at that lol

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It bothers me that some men on here think the women on Fab will sleep with anyone and have no respect for them.

There's quite a lot of misogyny on Fab.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

*grabs popcorn*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh this thread is soon going to fill up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing really as I only have met with the great guys in all the years I've been on here ... the rest are just, well being themselves, not interesting!

I have the ultimate (& easily done) control of my profile and my experiences on here so all is a win win

Just let the dicks be the dicks and what's left shine through

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That some of them think you are just something to fuck and are not deserving of respect. Just because I am a perv doesn't mean I am not a good person.

There are good guys on here though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here so must be willing to open my legs to anyone and have no preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts. "

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When they do jot read our profile and ask the questions again or want things you said are not of interest ie; chat types, kik ect. other than that just be honest "

What would you like to get from men in exchange for those things? What mental tick boxes do you have?

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

I wish they would read my profile...and not ask the things I have all ready answered on there..

Not to get arsey when the answer is a No..

I know not all guys are like this...some are very, very polite and a pleasure to chat too..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts. "

Yeah, I gathered those to be honest.

If you could — and would — add a feature to fab, what would it be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going off a few of the messages above, it is nice to see some women do notice there are anomalies on here, in contrast to quite a general consensus I've gotten from reading profiles that men are basically pests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts.

Yeah, I gathered those to be honest.

If you could — and would — add a feature to fab, what would it be? "

I wish you could stop guys messaging that live over a certain distance away.

Would cut out a lot of pointless messages from people that live 100 miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That they say one thing and do another.

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

All of what's been listed but also those that have an age of intrest for 18 to 99 that gives me the ick.

The self given labels BBC WBC another ick.

Must be discreet guys gives me another ick

Loads of pics of their dick and bare back play gives me another ick

Lastly pics of their dick next to objects ick ick ick xxx

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts. "
100% this everything I was about to right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?"

Being judged for something I've supposedly done and Being judged for somethings I've not done

Random message from a stranger saying in your area later wanna hook up . Like as if anyone would answer yes ok

Asking where exactly do I live. As if I'd share that info .

A photo of their cock without even a message. Like as if thats all that it takes to make me weak at knees and drool.

A lot of crude and disgusting suggestions as to what they would like to do to me .

I could go on but I'm sure the other ladies will cover all the rest.

Its lucky that there are some fabulous men here and that makes it worth staying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men think its about their pleasure, erm no, im here for purely my pleasure, couldnt give a fuck about yours tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?

Being judged for something I've supposedly done and Being judged for somethings I've not done

Random message from a stranger saying in your area later wanna hook up . Like as if anyone would answer yes ok

Asking where exactly do I live. As if I'd share that info .

A photo of their cock without even a message. Like as if thats all that it takes to make me weak at knees and drool.

A lot of crude and disgusting suggestions as to what they would like to do to me .

I could go on but I'm sure the other ladies will cover all the rest.

Its lucky that there are some fabulous men here and that makes it worth staying. "

You sound like a logical, reasonable woman. Nothing there I'd even dispute.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most men think its about their pleasure, erm no, im here for purely my pleasure, couldnt give a fuck about yours tbh"

I mean, as long as you can find a simp who'll do that for you, you're good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?

Being judged for something I've supposedly done and Being judged for somethings I've not done

Random message from a stranger saying in your area later wanna hook up . Like as if anyone would answer yes ok

Asking where exactly do I live. As if I'd share that info .

A photo of their cock without even a message. Like as if thats all that it takes to make me weak at knees and drool.

A lot of crude and disgusting suggestions as to what they would like to do to me .

I could go on but I'm sure the other ladies will cover all the rest.

Its lucky that there are some fabulous men here and that makes it worth staying.

You sound like a logical, reasonable woman. Nothing there I'd even dispute. "

I'm feisty too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men here are ten a penny

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?

Being judged for something I've supposedly done and Being judged for somethings I've not done

Random message from a stranger saying in your area later wanna hook up . Like as if anyone would answer yes ok

Asking where exactly do I live. As if I'd share that info .

A photo of their cock without even a message. Like as if thats all that it takes to make me weak at knees and drool.

A lot of crude and disgusting suggestions as to what they would like to do to me .

I could go on but I'm sure the other ladies will cover all the rest.

Its lucky that there are some fabulous men here and that makes it worth staying.

You sound like a logical, reasonable woman. Nothing there I'd even dispute.

I'm feisty too... "

By the definition of feisty it never stopped a man like me, haha – need some fire in the name of sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men here are ten a penny"

It's a "numbers game" as they say; all down to ratio. I wouldn't say women would have no standards if thirsty men ceased to exist, but I believe standards would drop.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Nothing, they are all splendid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts. "

pretty much this. Arrogance too xx

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By *lla_eastWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"They don't read the profile.

Profile pics of cocks.

They msg with stupid requests.

They think we're free sex workers.

They get shitty when you don't reply.

They get shitty if you say no thanks

They're entitled.

(Not all Fab men) before anyone starts. "

Got it in one! (Or seven)

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

That most of them have an age range that stops at 45...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They send me photos and want to have sex after 3 messages

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t think anything actually bothers me as such. I have a few rolling eyes moments but it is what it is

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There are some who are cockwombles and think it is dial a ride but a lot more are not like that. I guess the biggest bug bear is white knighting and putting other guys down trying to big themselves up.

The cockwombles are easy to deal with just block and ignore them and move on.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Apart from the setting distance thing, to avoid people from too far away, not sure what other features you could put in to avoid most of the issues.

Don't think people will want to provide id etc.

Lying about age/marital status is another one.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Entitlement, bigotry, arrogance (or thinking they deserve a medal for the most trivial of things), and a profound lack of respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t say I’ve ever treated a lady like that .. ...

some fellas eh !

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The stains on my curtains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The stains on my curtains. "

Not got a flannel

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The stains on my curtains. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming that being online means you're in some alleyway with your knickers knickersround your ankles waiting for a fuck.

Messages like "I come to your house where you're blindfolded, and you've left the door unlocked, fuck you, then leave without saying a word. That might work with someone I trust, maybe but I don't fancy being robbed blind whilst naked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who suck up to every woman in the forums with the hope of things developing to a meet. Some have me cringing as its always the same men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming that being online means you're in some alleyway with your knickers knickersround your ankles waiting for a fuck.

Messages like "I come to your house where you're blindfolded, and you've left the door unlocked, fuck you, then leave without saying a word. That might work with someone I trust, maybe but I don't fancy being robbed blind whilst naked. "

too many chancers think women are all into 50 shades and after a mr grey character it’s a cut and paste that everyone gets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys who suck up to every woman in the forums with the hope of things developing to a meet. Some have me cringing as its always the same men."

good point and great profile xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?"

Lying about their marital status and disrespecting clear boundaries. makes me blow my top with those timewasters.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I'm with the Duchess. I have met lovely guys and had very little abuse.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"The stains on my curtains.

Not got a flannel "

I do but they seem to prefer the curtains!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They think your insta-shag or they think you would invite them around without even seeing what they look like

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

I was discussing with someone earlier; the fact that I have my face in my profile picture suggests that is gets mixed in with a lot of cock when I message someone with the thousands of other men.

I don't want my face in a sausagefest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was discussing with someone earlier; the fact that I have my face in my profile picture suggests that is gets mixed in with a lot of cock when I message someone with the thousands of other men.

I don't want my face in a sausagefest."

why not as surely you’ll stand out more amongst all the other men that way?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

When i hold their nose and pinch their mouth shut they get weird. Thought you could breathe through your ears HornyTruckerDaveHeavyCummerRepeater?! Was that a fib?!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"When i hold their nose and pinch their mouth shut they get weird. Thought you could breathe through your ears HornyTruckerDaveHeavyCummerRepeater?! Was that a fib?! "

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"When i hold their nose and pinch their mouth shut they get weird. Thought you could breathe through your ears HornyTruckerDaveHeavyCummerRepeater?! Was that a fib?! "

I hope you laughed as you wrote that Jamie

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Just check the who's near button ..cock cock TV .. forty-five-fifty nine years old ..cock ..cock...more cock .. unconvincing TV ...ooo nice TV....lady ...five more cocks

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"When i hold their nose and pinch their mouth shut they get weird. Thought you could breathe through your ears HornyTruckerDaveHeavyCummerRepeater?! Was that a fib?! "

It was, that is why I changed my name.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"When i hold their nose and pinch their mouth shut they get weird. Thought you could breathe through your ears HornyTruckerDaveHeavyCummerRepeater?! Was that a fib?! "

Pah ha ha ha ha!!!

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the decent men get lost in the sea of crap ones.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Nothing particularly bothers me, I just scroll on past the dubious ones

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"What bothers you most about men on fab?"

Some of the vile messages they send.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Oh, and if that works out then happy days!

On the other hand, I don't want a plethora of penis packed around my profile. Not the look I'm going for "

I can't help it that I look like a giant penis!

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol


"I was discussing with someone earlier; the fact that I have my face in my profile picture suggests that is gets mixed in with a lot of cock when I message someone with the thousands of other men.

I don't want my face in a sausagefest.

why not as surely you’ll stand out more amongst all the other men that way?"

Oh, and if that works out then happy days!

On the other hand, I don't want a plethora of penis packed around my profile. Not the look I'm going for

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I got over the reading profile years ago so I don't care about that now.

I don't let anyone new message me now but what would go for messages and in chat room would be the minority that get the arse when they're not replied to immediately so give abuse or continue to message.

Guess that's why the block button is there.

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol


"I got over the reading profile years ago so I don't care about that now.

I don't let anyone new message me now but what would go for messages and in chat room would be the minority that get the arse when they're not replied to immediately so give abuse or continue to message.

Guess that's why the block button is there. "

Personally, I like to read a good profile. Gives me an insight into the person and I'm interested in a bit more than just pictures...

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"I got over the reading profile years ago so I don't care about that now.

I don't let anyone new message me now but what would go for messages and in chat room would be the minority that get the arse when they're not replied to immediately so give abuse or continue to message.

Guess that's why the block button is there.

Personally, I like to read a good profile. Gives me an insight into the person and I'm interested in a bit more than just pictures..."

I used to have a decent profile but thought there was no point and it can be left to messages. If someone has a profile and I'm interested, I'll read it but I also like to read veris to see what others have thought of someone. I'm not a massive fan of photos, I'd rather talk to someone to decide if I want to meet them than look at some pics.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"That the decent men get lost in the sea of crap ones. "

That's the truth.... and there's a lot of good ones and not enough ladies for us

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol


"I got over the reading profile years ago so I don't care about that now.

I don't let anyone new message me now but what would go for messages and in chat room would be the minority that get the arse when they're not replied to immediately so give abuse or continue to message.

Guess that's why the block button is there.

Personally, I like to read a good profile. Gives me an insight into the person and I'm interested in a bit more than just pictures...

I used to have a decent profile but thought there was no point and it can be left to messages. If someone has a profile and I'm interested, I'll read it but I also like to read veris to see what others have thought of someone. I'm not a massive fan of photos, I'd rather talk to someone to decide if I want to meet them than look at some pics. "

Yes! It's all about the profile. And I'm saying that knowing I need to update mine, but pictures can only go so far. The conversation, the rapport, the commonalities, the build... there's so much more to be said for that.

The photos do have their place, obviously, but I grew out of picture books when I was really young and for many years now have enjoyed the text too.

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

That if you agree to a social only meeting..they still expect something..

When you read a message that doesn't require a response, or they ask you a personal question, they get arsey because you haven't replied..

When they are wanking over your photos and setting your inbox on fire... then they ghost you after they have shot their load

(I've got loads more I've been here too long)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the amount of really nice men on here I don't dwell on the few that aren't

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Not reading profiles..sending dick pics and friend request without saying hello first...offering you money..

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Nothing as we block single men #

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What bothers you most about men on fab?"

The rudeness when you refuse to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When thay send a message like 'upfor meeting me n my m8 we won a spit roast ya' from an almost blank profile and with no prior communication.... Like, why yes my good stranger I would love to invite you and all of your invisible friends around to have a go on me... The more the merrier... Like this isn't tesco and the women here are not like loavs of bread sitting in the shelf, just pick the one you want and drag it off home to demolish it, we are actual people

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

When they chat for a while and you arrange to meet for a social which they then cancel due to ‘work’ but they really want to meet so they’ll be in touch - then nothing at all ever again

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"When thay send a message like 'upfor meeting me n my m8 we won a spit roast ya' from an almost blank profile and with no prior communication.... Like, why yes my good stranger I would love to invite you and all of your invisible friends around to have a go on me... The more the merrier... Like this isn't tesco and the women here are not like loavs of bread sitting in the shelf, just pick the one you want and drag it off home to demolish it, we are actual people "

One guy messaged me asking if I wanted to meet him and his mate for a threesome…. In his van.

I said yeah that sounds safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this I feel totally neg'd out.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"With the amount of really nice men on here I don't dwell on the few that aren't "

Tips invisible hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When thay send a message like 'upfor meeting me n my m8 we won a spit roast ya' from an almost blank profile and with no prior communication.... Like, why yes my good stranger I would love to invite you and all of your invisible friends around to have a go on me... The more the merrier... Like this isn't tesco and the women here are not like loavs of bread sitting in the shelf, just pick the one you want and drag it off home to demolish it, we are actual people

One guy messaged me asking if I wanted to meet him and his mate for a threesome…. In his van.

I said yeah that sounds safe "

It's wierd to me that they think it comes across as a normal request... I wonder does it ever work for them lol

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"When thay send a message like 'upfor meeting me n my m8 we won a spit roast ya' from an almost blank profile and with no prior communication.... Like, why yes my good stranger I would love to invite you and all of your invisible friends around to have a go on me... The more the merrier... Like this isn't tesco and the women here are not like loavs of bread sitting in the shelf, just pick the one you want and drag it off home to demolish it, we are actual people

One guy messaged me asking if I wanted to meet him and his mate for a threesome…. In his van.

I said yeah that sounds safe

It's wierd to me that they think it comes across as a normal request... I wonder does it ever work for them lol "

That's definitely not a normal request, I've had some weird ones myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 2/3 week contact carousel which I find myself on where men "have another go" after I've already declined .

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

The bathroom tiles

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