FabSwingers.com forum: Dilema, points of veiw appreciated..

By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have been chatting to a Lady for a few weeks now. I like her pics and we seem to be on the same wavelenth. We have scheduled to meet tonight!. Dilema I now have she accidentally face timed me before and looks a lot older than her pics. "Question" do I go on the date bearing in mind its an hour drive each way to see if we do get on. Or be a bit blunt and kindly ask that she updates her pic and good luck?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be upfront about it, she might be the same age she says but like most people online, they can look different to their pictures. Id make sure there is no deceit before meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go and don’t be cruel. You don’t need to do more than chat and enjoy the company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't fancy her best to be honest, I know how awkward that is but you have to be.

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Go and don’t be cruel. You don’t need to do more than chat and enjoy the company."

True

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is the meet to involve play?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, you’ve enjoyed chatting. Was it only about sex? If so, then I stand corrected on my earlier comment. If there was more than that, I’d say it was cruel it base it on a short FaceTime call.

Then again, what do I know. I’m not experienced at this. I just think it’s decent behaviour.

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Is the meet to involve play? "

Just a coffee I never play on first meet, maybe footsie under the table but thats it...

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

Lots of people say I look a bit different online. Not in a negative way. Its actually mainly a compliment but I wouldn’t rule someone out from one FaceTime.

I’d give her a second chance and see if you like what you see upon meeting

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Is the meet to involve play? "

Yes, he's taking a game of Backgammon with him

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

If you're unsure, and feel that you may have been deceived. Maybe ask for a picture before you leave.

Though I will add from all the zoom meetings I've had this last year. I can say that some days I look ok the next terrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put it another way...

If she appears to be on the same wavelength, she looked exactly as she does on her pics but when you meet her the spark isn't there.

You wouldn't have found out until you met her.

What is an hour out of your life when it could lead to the best sex you have ever had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go. You might have nice time,

- a laugh and a chat and make a new friend if nothing else. Or you could stay home and browse through fab.....again

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is the meet to involve play?

Just a coffee I never play on first meet, maybe footsie under the table but thats it... "

Then I'd go. What have you got to loose. I find a lot of people look so much better in the flesh than they appear on screen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you accidentally facectime her?

Seriously, just give her a call or ask her to record a video....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

How much older did she look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is the meet to involve play?

Just a coffee I never play on first meet, maybe footsie under the table but thats it... "

If your not playing then you have nothing to lose, just go and have a nice coffee and see what happens x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Erm ...go ahead with the meet ... what's the worst that can happen..you might have a great time

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By *ouno2muchMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I’d go, since there is no play on first meet (always coffee meets). An hour of your time.. it’s not that big of a challenge. Think of it as a trip you’re making (since we’ve been locked down for so long) and about to meet someone you’ve chatted with for weeks. If there is no physical attraction, then it’s also fine, you’ve got to know someone new. Always nice to be kind. At least that’s what I’d do in your situation. All the best OP

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Just go for it, never judge a book by its cover

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

If its just coffee i would go. See if there is chemistry. Even if they look just like their photo that's still an unknown until you meet

Good luck! You might at least get a friend out of it.

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By *mateur100Man
over a year ago

nr faversham

If she's on here and checks out this thread you may find the decision is made for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you accidentally FaceTime someone? Did she do a video call and actually be there chatting to you with the camera pointing at her face? If it was an accident it could’ve been her mother doing it!

Don’t see how it could be accidental given the fact most phones are locked and require passcodes to be put in before actually dialling someone.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I take it she's not from Fab? Otherwise, she could easily see this thread

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Just rub vaseline in your eyes and continue to enjoy her in soft focus.

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Have decided to go and meet her I wouldn't like to be let down at the last minute, wish me luck and will be sure to update tommorow

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

To be fair to her, if I were to accidentally facetime someone right now then I'd probably look considerably different to a photo I had made an effort to take in order to look good. I currently have no make up on, hair tied up in a bun, I didn't sleep well and I've got a bit of a cold, I certainly look considerably older than I would on a day I'd done my hair & make up etc.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Uhmmmmmmmm you telling me she looked older than 99 ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair to her, if I were to accidentally facetime someone right now then I'd probably look considerably different to a photo I had made an effort to take in order to look good. I currently have no make up on, hair tied up in a bun, I didn't sleep well and I've got a bit of a cold, I certainly look considerably older than I would on a day I'd done my hair & make up etc.

K "

I was just about to say the same thing , I FaceTimed someone right now it definitely wouldn’t represent how I’d look on a ‘date’ !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll make this simple

Do you want to go now? Yes or No?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Have fun on your coffee social

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I'll make this simple

Do you want to go now? Yes or No?"

He said he's g oing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, I'd just go. Relax and enjoy yourself. It'll be fine.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Speak the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll make this simple

Do you want to go now? Yes or No?

He said he's g oing."

Sorted then. Happy days

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By *xhibitionisticvoyeurMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

"She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

Sounds just my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

Id love a Gardening 'friend'

We could talk Radishes, Anemones and plants with rude names

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

I want an update after pls!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

Id love a Gardening 'friend'

We could talk Radishes, Anemones and plants with rude names

Do you have an allotment shed ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

Sounds just my type

No accounting for taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She looks older than her pics so you don't want to meet her ?

Do you mean less attractive ?

Does she look the age she claims to be ?

I'm glad you are going to meet her. You are not going to lose anything. It was only a coffee and an hello. You might find out that you actually like her....

If someone accidentally facetimed me now i'd shit myself.

I look like a farmer! I've been doing the garden in long socks , ragged jeans and an ancient jumper with a worn out gilet......

Sexy or what!

Id love a Gardening 'friend'

We could talk Radishes, Anemones and plants with rude names

Do you have an allotment shed ?"

Ive got a summerhouse / shed

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

I feel we need an update. How did it go?

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if the advice on this thread would be different if it was a man who looked older than their pics and not a lady

I hope it went well and you got on ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... we seem to be on the same wavelength. "

That's the main thing, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think she killed him???

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How did the date go ?

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Take a tip from a guy here who has been around the scene since the days when the information super highway here hadn't even had it's first coat of tarmac laid. "Swinging is the grand leveler of all human greatness"

You might be pleasantly surprised to discover that you have a mental connection that's so strong, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other, and something big happening between you, so to speak.

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"Do you think she killed him???

I once worked with a woman who described (to 16yo me) the meeting of her husband as ‘we met on a blind date, he came back to mine after the pub and 23 years later he’s never left’ and my overly literal mind was like ‘wow. Is he still sat there in the same clothes and boxers’

Maybe OP has fallen blissfully in love and is too busy doing the horizontal tango and staring into her eyes to text us back

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Or maybe he forgot about this thread as he was too busy posting on others

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

O.P, this thread needs an update!

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"O.P, this thread needs an update! "

I’m gonna inbox him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did the date go? I just read the thread expecting a outcome lol

Hope it went well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O.P, this thread needs an update!

I’m gonna inbox him

I hope he updates

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

I am sorry it has took me so long to update my thread, and more importantly a big thankyou to everyone showing an intrest in lil old me.

So as you are aware i chatted for some time and we really got on online and decided to meet.

That morning for whatever reason she face timed me. Which took me aback a little bit to be honest.

Still the same Lady chatty and humourous, but a little bit older in the flesh, however her heart and soul are more important, beauty is skin deep after all and I am no leanardo decapriwhats his face. We arrange to meet at seven oclock, She trusted me and I went to her house. I got there it was like a bomb site, my heart sank, i knocked on the door and there she was, i was pleased, we sat and drank tea, i could feel the instant togetherness and mutal dynamics of what i hope could be a wonderful relationship and very special. As you will be aware from my profile I am submissive, She is a Domme not a pro Domme a lifstyle Domme she craves to be dominant with her partner as i crave submission to mine. If people are intrested i shall go into the depths a D/s relatiinship can go i am seeing her again on Saturday and will update if people wish.

Thabkyou once again to all you wonderful Fabbers for taking an intrest and reading my thread, sirry fir the gammer and spelling am a builder x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sorry it has took me so long to update my thread, and more importantly a big thankyou to everyone showing an intrest in lil old me.

So as you are aware i chatted for some time and we really got on online and decided to meet.

That morning for whatever reason she face timed me. Which took me aback a little bit to be honest.

Thabkyou once again to all you wonderful Fabbers for taking an intrest and reading my thread, sirry fir the gammer and spelling am a builder x "

Thank you for updating us

Also thak you for for sharing your thoughts and worries. Im sure rhat some of the comments ( including mine) may not have made easy reading.

Im so pleased you met and even more pleased you both had a great time. I really hope this can be the start of something great for you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think she is going to kill you?

If not fuck it, go and see what happens. You get on eh?

Looking at the time you've probably already made a decision. Hope you had fun whatever youd decided

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good news. Look forward to the profile update in due course

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Quick update.

She did not like the idea of my 28 year old son still living with me.

She asked me to stay over Saturday night, I declined.

She blocked me...

Onwards and upwards, any single Dominant Females out there, am freerrrrrrrr

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By *ilver Fox 60Man
over a year ago

Southport

If you've both had two jabs each, then go for it.

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

Op i would go and enjoy the chance of company...not many women meet on here so you are a lucky guy...we all can look a bit off by camera...nothing better than meeting in flesh

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

"Quick update.

She did not like the idea of my 28 year old son still living with me.

She asked me to stay over Saturday night, I declined.

She blocked me...

Onwards and upwards, any single Dominant Females out there, am freerrrrrrrr

Chalk it up to experience... you went with an open mind. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for the update OP

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Thanks for the update OP"

Unfortunate one but your welcome.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Can you pretend you are not blocked and write the next chapter anyway.

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By *ubmissiveman2u OP Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Can you pretend you are not blocked and write the next chapter anyway.

Sorry no game over on this one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you pretend you are not blocked and write the next chapter anyway.

Sorry no game over on this one... "

Why declined staying over?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why declined staying over? "

Maybe didn't want to leave his 28 year old home alone !

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