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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Someone if they broke your confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ... and that’s them done too ...

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Simple answer, having had it happen to me, no, it broke my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not! I’m a confident person and for someone to ‘ break’ it would definitely be a no no for me.

How about you op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope, I would always be guarded around them after it happened.

I respect everyone until they give me a reason not to, but don't trust anyone until they have earned it.

I appreciate that probably sounds harsh, but its the only way I feel comfortable

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Someone if they broke your confidence? "

There are cases where I think it has to be expected. Anything you tell a friend is fair game to be told to their partner in general I think.

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Absolutely not! I’m a confident person and for someone to ‘ break’ it would definitely be a no no for me.

How about you op? "

I'm torn at the minute....

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Potentially, yes. We're all human. We allake mistakes. I try to be very forgiving because goodness knows I have needed a lot if forgiving in my time.

A lot of it depends on the approach of the person who has done wrong. There are things they could do to make it worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple answer, having had it happen to me, no, it broke my heart"

Exactly the same here.. not a hope in hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i let him bsck 4 times, subsequently

i dont believe in love anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not. Unless it was something unintentional.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

No I could never forgive that. It's happened once before and I forgave them , never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I could only forgive my partner as we have so much history, but it would cause so much damage and take time to rebuild. I'd struggle to forgive anyone else depending on how bad it was and my automatic response is no, not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgive them for your own well being but don't let them back in. I'm not saying this is the case but for some people it's a game to knock you down. Whatever the reason, anyone who makes you feel worthless isn't worth your time

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I don't believe in forgive and forget. I do think that maybe forgiving can be a healthy step towards moving forward for yourself though.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What sort of thing are we talking about here? You tell something to somebody they should keep to themselves but they tell somebody else?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Depends on the circumstances?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only trust my best friends to confide in. I have no idea what id do because after 33 years theyve never broke a confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely not! I’m a confident person and for someone to ‘ break’ it would definitely be a no no for me.

How about you op?

I'm torn at the minute...."

It’s ok to forgive but in reality if that person breaks your trust and makes you feel insecure/ sad about things, then it’s a difficult one to forgive as sometimes the trust has gone. But we don’t know the circumstances around it but hope you find your answer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forgive them for your own well being but don't let them back in. I'm not saying this is the case but for some people it's a game to knock you down. Whatever the reason, anyone who makes you feel worthless isn't worth your time "

Absolutely this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they did. I have forgiven people in the past, others I've dropped. I've never forgotten though.

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"What sort of thing are we talking about here? You tell something to somebody they should keep to themselves but they tell somebody else? "

Something along them lines..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would forgive but I would not forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work on the premise never confide in someone who happily tells you the secrets of others.

Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It would depend why they did it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope confidence = trust. Once it’s gone it’s gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't think I could. I would want to because if you have a place in my heart, that's never going to change. I'd just change what side of my heart you live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on what it was and their reasons for doing it. Was it intentional or not? Etc. So many factors but I think that I would always be wary of them in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I work on the premise never confide in someone who happily tells you the secrets of others.

Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild. "

If they talk about others you know that they will talk about you too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I work on the premise never confide in someone who happily tells you the secrets of others.

Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild. "

Yep. If they're sharing gossip with you they will be gossiping about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think you can't...move on

If you can.... Forgive and move on

Once the trust is gone it gone.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Simple answer no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone if they broke your confidence? "

I think it depends on what was said, who it was said to, are they remorseful and what was their motive for betraying your trust?

You obviously value this person or you wouldn't have confided in them initially, did you really misjudge that badly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One major break. Weak repairs keep been broken.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'd forgive. . It would be silly to hold on to a grudge over such a thing. I'd be cross and any trust would be gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They couldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what the actual subject was.

I also don’t agree with the it’s fair game to tell the husband/wife everything. If I speak about something to a friend then I don’t expect them to go home and tell their partner or husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been going through this since March.

I can forgive but never forget. It's not worth the energy. It's better to put that energy in build something new.

You can never go back to what you had.

It's gone. My love is unconditional, my presence is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend on if they had intentionally gone out of there way to break your confidance or if it happend inadvertently and they absolutely had no intention of doing so... If it was the latter I would base my decision to try to forgive and forget on there reaction... Do they seem genuinely upset they have knocked my confidence... Are they taking steps to try help me build it back up?

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

On Fab, I'm ok with giving a second chance, but never a third.

In relationships, I'm far too trusting and optimistic, often believing that previous bad form was a "one off". You'd think I'd know better by my age, wouldn't you?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Someone if they broke your confidence? "

Tell me what they said?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I personally would give them one more chance but make it clear that this really is the final one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would forgive and try to carry on as normal. Wouldn't forget though.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes I could lift is about moving forward not grudges

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yes I could lift is about moving forward not grudges "

Life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I could lift is about moving forward not grudges "

Amen

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yes I could lift is about moving forward not grudges

Amen"

True though xx

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Someone if they broke your confidence? "

I think it's based on how badly if trust was involved and this trust was abused badly when we look in life some things are less than the unthinkable all surrounding confidence and their actions. What is forgivable their is always a line.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

It would depend on the nature of my relationship with this person and on the severity of the transgression.

But generally speaking? Yes, I could forgive them. We're all human, and we call all make mistakes, or bad decisions.

That's not to say I could ever fully trust them again, or that our relationship would continue as it had previously, if at all, however.

Forgiveness doesn't have to go hand in hand with taking someone back, or giving them another chance, is what I'm saying.

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