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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Really speak louder than words??

What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Interesting. I guess actions during the apologies matter.

If I fuck up royally, and just say sorry then that's worthless.

If we sit down, have a frank discussion about something that one of us has slipped up on and apologies and more discussion then yeah, I think that action speaks loudly.

I hear what you're saying, OP, and some things cannot be apologised for.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not sure why they do it but actions always speak louder than words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do. While words can be extremely powerful, they are also empty if never backed up.

Sorry means nothing if the same behaviour / actions continue to be repeated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really speak louder than words??

What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.

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Actions do speak louder than words yea

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If it's an empty apology then no point in doing it. But then most would actually recognise a true heartfelt apology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't know what prompted the thread, but I watch what people do far more than I listen to what they say.

It's easy to do something dim and apologise for it - we all do mad stuff sometimes, but if you apologise and continue doing it anyway the words clearly meant nothing.

I hope you're ok, whatever is going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what's said and who is saying it.

Some people are full of hot air so sorry means nothing.

Apologies are only real from people that love you.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Actions speak louder then words but u should also know wen someone is genuinely sorry .we all do say things we don't mean ..if someone constantly does wrong says sorry repeats offence then no x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Never listen to what people say, look at what they do.

Talks cheap

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

...

I think actions do speak louder than words. Not just with apologies though.

If someone says they want me in their life but they don't message then I'll assume they are just words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you've fucked up and are sorry, what else CAN you say?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Really speak louder than words??

What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.

"

I think what you said is an example of actions speaking louder than words. Somebody can say sorry but their actions will show you they haven't taken it to heart.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I think actions do speak louder than words. Not just with apologies though.

If someone says they want me in their life but they don't message then I'll assume they are just words. "

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes actions speak louder than words!

Talk is cheap

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I always go on what people do, rather than what they say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you've fucked up and are sorry, what else CAN you say? "

Depends if you value someone enough to say sorry. Some people stab you in the back without a prior thought for the impact it can have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I believe they do

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Really speak louder than words??

What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.

"

That is not wrong at all, but much more to it. The two enhance each other.

Think of the "I love you" situation. Somebody never says it to their partner, they just assume their partner knows because of their actions. When saying it just once would change the whole situation.

Then on the flip side of that, as you say, just saying "I love you" but never showing it makes the words hollow and nothing but a front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really speak louder than words??

What's the point in saying sorry when your actions showed you couldn't care less.

"

Yes, for me actions do speak louder than words.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Saying sorry, and being sorry are two very different things.

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sometimes though people don't get the chance to say sorry, no matter if they mean it or not.

Actions certainly speak volumes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying sorry, and being sorry are two very different things. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they go together. If someone fucks up then it's important they own that and apologise, but the sincerity of that apology will only be proven by subsequent actions.

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over a year ago

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out...

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out..."

Yes . This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you've fucked up and are sorry, what else CAN you say?

Depends if you value someone enough to say sorry. Some people stab you in the back without a prior thought for the impact it can have. "

They do indeed, but a genuine sorry can be a very positive thing to mend a disagreement

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes. I'm always saying this!

Apologies don't mean anything, if you keep doing what you're sorry for.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I never accept a sorry as its a get out of jail free card for so many people, tell me "I fucked up because I wanted to do something else and I should of told you that" and you will have earned my respect, I also don't like make up actions as people use them to gloss over the mistake and then go and do it in secret anyway, after all it's only a shitty thing to do after you are found out...

Yes . This "

Yes again to this.

People think that because they have apologised everything is hunky doory.

If you don’t accept their apology then they turn it back on you and act like now they are the injured party.

Just because an apology is given there is no obligation to accept it, especially if it is given to ease their conscience.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Depends on the situation, words are important and can mean so much. Simple I love you or a heartfelt are you really ok? Are sometimes really needed.

I don't think one is better than the other. Words and actions in combination are what is essential in my opinion.

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