FabSwingers.com forum: No one's cup of tea

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm with you on that one xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Love a cuppa tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to hear I/we aren't alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "

well you could put some effort into your profile

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" [....] but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go. "

You have an interesting profile with attractive pictures. I bet you're just the right sort of cuppa for quite a few people.

I wonder if this is the right site for relationships as opposed to fuck and go?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Your profile name suggests ‘fuck & go’ is good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" [....] but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

You have an interesting profile with attractive pictures. I bet you're just the right sort of cuppa for quite a few people.

I wonder if this is the right site for relationships as opposed to fuck and go? "

I think plenty of people have found relationships on here. It is what you make of it that counts

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

The fab shop windows vs the back room details are very different aren't they? We certainly get "accused" of being really popular, when we aren't.

So much effort and positivity to keep up, it gets tiring, even if you're not the ones sending 500 messages a day.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "
you can be the cream in my coffee anytime, don't drink tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems

well you could put some effort into your profile

Hadn't thought of that....thanks

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You are a cup of tea for some people but they also need to be yours. It's tricky to find your beverage for all of us at some point.

Don't lose hope QuimQuim. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are a cup of tea for some people but they also need to be yours. It's tricky to find your beverage for all of us at some point.

Don't lose hope QuimQuim. x"

QuimQuim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just realised my problem is that I don't like tea

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Do you have any theories as to why?

I have this theory in my head that some peoples profiles are too good, and don't reflect them accurately enough. So those people they'd be a good match for maybe feel they're out of their league?

I certainly think I don't talk to people I imagine are "too" attractive to want to meet us, whatever the truth is. As a result, I am very confident that our profile and gallery is very representative of us, rather than being some inaccurate sales pitch. Naturally though, that's more a reflection on me than anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Faf OP?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I had this chat with someone earlier, if all I was interested in was a fuck and go I could fill my boots so to speak, but I don't, I actually want to meet the person because they want to/are interested in meeting me not because they see me as an easy lay

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

"I have just realised my problem is that I don't like tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are a cup of tea for some people but they also need to be yours. It's tricky to find your beverage for all of us at some point.

Don't lose hope QuimQuim. x"

On a serious note Meli is quite right.

We all have someone where we think they are going to be the best things since Fab's first sliced loaf. Unfortunately they don't think the same as us. Conversely it is the same for others with us.

You just have to cross paths at the right nano second in time when you are logged on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my flirting and compliments are frequently counterproductive for me, but that's just me! People think I'm a tart but I'm relatively monogamous in my shagging and ideally just want one person for giggles, connection and sexy times

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile name suggests ‘fuck & go’ is good?"

Not to me

I think it's a rather elegant name which brings to mind spring meadows in full bloom. A lazy sunny afternoon watching a woman in a floaty white dress walking barefoot with butterflies fluttering in her wake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP we can't all be everyone's cuppa

And to be honest the majority of 'single' men here are looking for a fuck and go.

Have you been to any organised social events maybe that would be different?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm aware that my problem is lipid based.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree OP we can't all be everyone's cuppa

And to be honest the majority of 'single' men here are looking for a fuck and go.

Have you been to any organised social events maybe that would be different?"

I am booked into one and went to a couple pre-covid.

I kind of get lost in amongst everyone and find it very overwhelming, in a good way though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm aware that my problem is lipid based."

I feel your pain, trust me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "

Me too xx

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"Your profile name suggests ‘fuck & go’ is good?

Not to me

I find it rather poetic, gotta say.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems

Me too xx"

We sure do, sometimes those issues are internal too

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "

I mean. I would.

The issues guys have are being 10 to 1 men to women and genuine messages get buried in a sea of “hey how’s u”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a lot of men’s cup of tea, it’s just that they’re not yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "

Yeah we do but we just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m not anyone’s cup of tea ..I just add more sugar ... tastes a lot better then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt."

Oh I don’t think you can break that down so neatly into the two sexes

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems "

If my phone could type your name properly, then I’m sure we’d be able to find out if you’re my cup of tea lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I’m not anyone’s cup of tea ..I just add more sugar ... tastes a lot better then

https://youtu.be/0UIB9Y4OFPs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea but I'm also not going to try to 'appear' to be someone's cup of tea as they'd soon find out I was really a cup of coffee.

If I am myself on here and that attracts someone in then it's a bonus and if not c'est la vie.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

One waits many years for an excellent cup of tea, but when you get it, oh boy is it worth the wait!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"There are often threads from men saying they can't seem to get anywhere on here. I thought it may be reassuring for them to know it is the same for the ladies too.

I have met a couple of guys in my years here and get messages but I don't seem to be anyone's cup of tea... unless I am willing to fuck and go.

So chin up, we all have the same problems

If my phone could type your name properly, then I’m sure we’d be able to find out if you’re my cup of tea lol"

There you go QuimQuim, dilemma solved.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I'm aware that my problem is lipid based.

I feel your pain, trust me. "

Munch a carrot with me

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"One waits many years for an excellent cup of tea, but when you get it, oh boy is it worth the wait! "

Exactly! No one makes tea how I like it anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very horny profile imho

Love the smudged lipstick pic which attracts a certain level of mmmmmm

Great pics but yes this is a sex site rather than dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt.

Oh I don’t think you can break that down so neatly into the two sexes

Can I take your order pleas Inca?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had this chat with someone earlier, if all I was interested in was a fuck and go I could fill my boots so to speak, but I don't, I actually want to meet the person because they want to/are interested in meeting me not because they see me as an easy lay

Never go with anyone that wants “easy”.

#knowyourworth (as I know you do) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt.

Oh I don’t think you can break that down so neatly into the two sexes

Definitely not! But actually probably mostly accurate for 90% of people in each genders case lol x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Never go with anyone that wants “easy”.

#knowyourworth (as I know you do) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt.

Oh I don’t think you can break that down so neatly into the two sexes

Can I take your order pleas Inca?

Can I be Lego friends too

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

Haha. Oddly. I have a Lego NASA rocket in my home office

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There is someone for everyone. Just finding them is the tricky part.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

I've got a huge lego saturn 5 personally. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is someone for everyone. Just finding them is the tricky part. "

Finding the real and genuine ones is the hard part right...down to earth and clever, should be easy right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is someone for everyone. Just finding them is the tricky part. "

Agree totally ... it's like swimming against the current, awesome when you find someone that swims with you

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Very good OP. I don’t think I’m anybody’s kind of beverage

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

I've got a huge lego saturn 5 personally. Just saying. "

Same. Currently on top of my book shelves in my office. The new Discovery is looking good so far

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m so pleased I’ve found my cup of tea.

When I was single I wasn’t looking really. I think that’s the key.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’m so pleased I’ve found my cup of tea.

When I was single I wasn’t looking really. I think that’s the key.

I love it when you talk about us

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

If there’s ever evidence regarding being someone’s tea or not, I present; myself!

Joking aside, no one can be to everyone’s taste but everyone is to someone’s taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I’m not anyone’s cup of tea ..I just add more sugar ... tastes a lot better then

https://youtu.be/0UIB9Y4OFPs

Had my head bopping and then some

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By *irty builderMan
over a year ago

pontefract

Just remember if you was everyone’s cup of tea you’d be a mug

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We are far from everybody's cup of tea but we do just fine.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Just remember if you was everyone’s cup of tea you’d be a mug

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?"

You won’t reply to my message. So....?

Lover of good quality herbal varieties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?"

No. Did you?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?"

More importantly, did you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

I've got a huge lego saturn 5 personally. Just saying.

Same. Currently on top of my book shelves in my office. The new Discovery is looking good so far"

Whoever thought we would have a pissing contest over Lego on Fab?

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Cup of tea? Where where??!!

It's true though. We all have different likes & dislikes. Some personality types attract, others grate.

There's always someone out there though.

I am just friends with you for the Lego

You should see my Space shuttle

I've got a huge lego saturn 5 personally. Just saying.

Same. Currently on top of my book shelves in my office. The new Discovery is looking good so far

Whoever thought we would have a pissing contest over Lego on Fab?

Is that a niche Danish porn site?

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By *heekyfun84Man
over a year ago

county durham

"I have just realised my problem is that I don't like tea

Haha dito

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?"
no bloody filters

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

I've had a few really nice cups of tea. Problem is, they often come with an undisclosed jug or sugar bowl that they didn't tell you about.

Leaves a bad taste...

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few really nice cups of tea. Problem is, they often come with an undisclosed jug or sugar bowl that they didn't tell you about.

Leaves a bad taste...

Oh dear

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"Did anyone manage to find their cup of tea after this thread?"

Nope. Did you find yours OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think my tea is just too much for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think my tea is just too much for men. "

Oh think again

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over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think my tea is just too much for men. "

Bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem on here is that a guy’s mentality is the fab version of a Mac Donald’s drive thru. Ladies fab mentality is a nice 3 course meal at a lovely restaraunt."

Exactly! It’s not just the mentality it’s the sex on offer too.

Hate McD’s - I’m more a 3 * Michelin Restaurant girl myself.

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By *ohn6969999Man
over a year ago

tamworth

Me and my wife are on here. Were in an open relationship.

She gets hundreds of messages. Im lucky if i get someone look at my profile.

Its so disheartening. Keep thinking what does it take to actually find a regular friend who u can chat to and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel like that at times, it’s difficult to find that 4 way attraction. We’d rather wait for the right couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with you on that one xx"

There is absolutely no way you are not somebodys cup of tea

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We know how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a supermarket own brand doesn't help me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my wife are on here. Were in an open relationship.

She gets hundreds of messages. Im lucky if i get someone look at my profile.

Its so disheartening. Keep thinking what does it take to actually find a regular friend who u can chat to and have fun"

If they did look at your profile; what do you think their assessment would be? Most women look on ninja mode, so you wouldn’t know.

But I do know this - your profile is weak and I don’t think it’ll court much attention. Sorry to be blunt, but please believe me when I say I am trying to help. Look at the profiles of a few other guys in the forums and take some inspiration.

Spend one hour - just one hour - and re do your profile. describe who you are, what you’re about, what interests you, what makes you laugh. Imagine it’s a job interview. Because it is really. It’ll be an hour well spent.

Based on your profile, I wouldn’t employ you, and I’m not even looking!

Sorry chap, but best of luck.

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