FabSwingers.com forum: Feelings!

By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.

You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.

I just needed to get it off my chest.

Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.

Im still a shy person underneath it all.

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'm off to finish the decorating.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which feelings would you like to share OP? I'm always here to listen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.

You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.

I just needed to get it off my chest.

Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.

Im still a shy person underneath it all."

I totally get where you’re coming from, I’m sure you will have friends somewhere for you to open up and you’ll almost feel liberated.

Not an easy thing to admit but looks like you’ve made the first step

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Nothing wrong with that PP.

Some folk are an open book and others need someone willing to turn the pages for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy maybe.....

But you do have an awesome bottom!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm off to finish the decorating."

What are you decorating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is sometimes hard to express yourself ..... if you ever need a chat or just an unload my inbox is always open xxxxx

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing? "

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good.

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"I'm off to finish the decorating.

What are you decorating?"

The back passage.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

So many people suppress their true thoughts, feelings and emotions on here

Good on you for sharing PP

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

We all have up a and downs, sometimes I feel invisible on here.

It's been very difficult during lockdown and I have felt very alone and sad, I used the forums as a pick me up but got kicked to many times so now trying to build my confidence back up.

Stay strong sweety x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good. "

If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good. "

So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

You can unload on me OP

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

In our culture, men have generally been brought up not to show or share feelings. I was shown a page from a kids book the other day where the male character feels "grown up" for not crying when he's very upset, for hiding it.

In my view that's damaging. But cultural norms do make it hard for many people, men especially, to show and share feelings.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Let em.out xx

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good.

If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone. "

It hasn't done me any good whatsoever.

I've tried to reverse it through my kids, I tell them I love them everyday and that they can tell me anything.

So far it's working.

So that's a positive for their future.

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By *rivateparts! OP Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good.

So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it. "

Yeah that comment has alot to answer for.

That's not a personal dig at you.

It's what we are expected to do.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I never open up about mine, I'd never stop if I did. I'll keep that book firmly shut x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good.

So you’re going to be told to ‘man up’ & get on with it.

Yeah that comment has alot to answer for.

That's not a personal dig at you.

It's what we are expected to do."

It’s not a term I’d ever use myself, although I have it thrown at me in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What sort of feelings are you talking about suppressing?

All of them, I'm from a generation that was told to never show your feeling as it's a sign of weakness, as you can

its done me a lot good.

If it's done you good why are you bothered? You don't have to share anything with anyone.

It hasn't done me any good whatsoever.

I've tried to reverse it through my kids, I tell them I love them everyday and that they can tell me anything.

So far it's working.

So that's a positive for their future."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t suppress happiness and joy.

This sometimes causes others to not suppress their other emotions because they deem I don’t have them.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I hear you OP.

You're not alone in that.

Lots of people don't even admit their true feelings to themselves, let alone to other people.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.

You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.

I just needed to get it off my chest.

Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.

Im still a shy person underneath it all."

If I tell people I’m shy, they piss themselves laughing.

Must be my years of overcompensating for feeling inadequate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For some of us it's part of our personality to be less expressive. It doesn't mean we don't feel things as keenly. It isn't wrong, it's just not fashionable currently to be the still waters. It must be easier in some ways to be an open book but people close to you know how you feel.

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By *andm300Man
over a year ago

guildford

Check out Check out the book the body holds the score, somatic body work, moving meditations, emotional release workshops, bio energitics (shaking), Osho techniques, yoga, Tibetan Buddhism And if you really game find a therapist that works with psychedelics.

As a very sensitive man who learnt to suppress feelings and be tough. I work as a plumber and competed as a fighter Muay Thai. So I guess I am a pussy just a hard one lol.

I learnt the hard way how important it is to express you feelings (ending up with cancer 15 years ago). You don’t have to share them with others but it’s important to feel them fully and pay full attention to what’s happening inside your body. This changed my life for the better and helped me learn how to open my heart fully again which transformed my marriage And family relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For some of us it's part of our personality to be less expressive. It doesn't mean we don't feel things as keenly. It isn't wrong, it's just not fashionable currently to be the still waters. It must be easier in some ways to be an open book but people close to you know how you feel. "

I really like this and it's very true! Be yourself PP, I think all I'd add is try not to regret but try not to dwell if you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree

I used to bottle things up but they would always find a way if explosively finding their way out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PP this is wonderful, keep it up

Only my mum has told me that she loves me in the last 25 years

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I think I better express myself through actions, not words. I'm working on the words part though. They're in my head, but saying them out loud can be tough.

Do what works for you and work on what you know isn't working for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I better express myself through actions, not words. I'm working on the words part though. They're in my head, but saying them out loud can be tough.

Do what works for you and work on what you know isn't working for you x "

Behave! You're a poet!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Same... Wasn't brought up to show any kind of feelings.

Have brought my son up differently.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"PP this is wonderful, keep it up

Only my mum has told me that she loves me in the last 25 years

My parents have never actually said that to me. I know they do, but they never say it.

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By *erdy NancyWoman
over a year ago

East Devon

Some people have no need to express them, it's definitely the in thing now whereas throughout near history it hasn't been

If it's important to you to let them out then need to find a person friend/family/professional that gives you that safe non judgemental space and listens

Nothing worse than pouring your heart out to someone who doesn't listen or even those that then give you unnecessary advice etc

Just be comfortable with yourself OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people have no need to express them, it's definitely the in thing now whereas throughout near history it hasn't been

If it's important to you to let them out then need to find a person friend/family/professional that gives you that safe non judgemental space and listens

Nothing worse than pouring your heart out to someone who doesn't listen or even those that then give you unnecessary advice etc

Just be comfortable with yourself OP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.

You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.

I just needed to get it off my chest.

Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.

Im still a shy person underneath it all."
You can always talk to me PP. I think lots are in the same boat. We can all big big brave and bold behind a screen. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always suppressed mine and there are times I wish I could express them, but the nervous fear and anxiety of rejection prevents me from doing so.

You are probably mocking me not or wondering why I'm saying it.

I just needed to get it off my chest.

Yes I'm bold and brassy on here, but expressing how I really feel isn't.

Im still a shy person underneath it all. You can always talk to me PP. I think lots are in the same boat. We can all big big brave and bold behind a screen. Xx"
Be*

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