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By *entlemenpip OP   Man
over a year ago

not far

I suffer from a number of mental health issues but the one that has the biggest impact on my day to day life is depression.

It makes me feel worthless , saps my ability to be productive ,gives me nothing but negative feelings

I often try to shake it off and someday it just has full hold of me.

Anyone else here have this issue or able to offer suggestions to not be consumed by it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Talking to others and connecting. It’s so helpful even when it’s the last thing you think you can do. Sending OP.

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By *entlemenpip OP   Man
over a year ago

not far


"Talking to others and connecting. It’s so helpful even when it’s the last thing you think you can do. Sending OP. "

Thanks

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Link in with GP and local services and get qualified clinical advice and support, have a buddy (friend or family) and tell them how you're really feeling, lots of fresh air outside, find your particular coping strategies and be conscious of particular triggers for you -- everybody is different -- check out resources on Mind website, be gentle with yourself and be conscious that feelings are just that, not actuality but your current response to your circumstances and can change, talk to people and if you can't talk..be with people, eat well, sleep well, exercise like walking, mindfulness, talking therapies, find your useful "things", but above all else know you are not alone. You really aren't. And being honest about how down you are with others is liberating for them and you. Be buoyed in the knowledge there is support, others will relate and you are very much worthwhile. Hugs.

The Blurt Foundation have some excellent advice, CALM (campaign against living miserably) is good on men’s experiences, and Mind has its Elefriends forum.

Samaritans have a helpline - open 24/7 and free to call and you can discuss anything and call anytime. Please use it if you're in crisis.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Best advice, dont do what I did, sat on my arse letting it get me down keeping it bottled up pretending everything was ok.

Speak to people, there is a lot of help out there, you just have to reach out, even if it's just one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had struggles with depression (and other issues) for most of my life.

I have been officially diagnosed with severe clinical depression and take an SSRI which helps to take the edge off and allows me to cope better when my mood dips and stops it going right to the depths. I still get mood swings daily,weekly,monthly (major and minor).

If you haven't already I would talk to a GP first and they may be able to refer you (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is one such therapy) or prescribe an anti-depressant.

On a more immediate level talk to someone close to you or phone one of the helplines already mentioned. I find going for a walk helps to alleviate a low mood and even just going to a cafe to have a coffee where there are people can help as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I've learnt is once you suffer from depression, you always will. It will surface again at different times in your life so it's important to recognise your triggers before it takes over again.

Most importantly talk to someone, acknowledge what you are feeling and get it out. It's also good to have time to yourself and writing down your feelings can help. Exercise is a great distraction and puts your energy into something positive.

Ultimately find the best way for you to cope, there's no single cure. Just look after yourself and don't refuse help from anyone that offers it.

Hope your okay OP

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By *entlemenpip OP   Man
over a year ago

not far

I have done alot of the things listed and find them hit and miss, medication has made me a zombie or given me physical side effects

I have friends I can talk to but unfortunately they are all to far away for anything more than a call when I really low I find it hard to be around people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have done alot of the things listed and find them hit and miss, medication has made me a zombie or given me physical side effects

I have friends I can talk to but unfortunately they are all to far away for anything more than a call when I really low I find it hard to be around people "

If you search for 'self-help therapies nhs' they have links to books, apps and websites which may be able to help.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have done alot of the things listed and find them hit and miss, medication has made me a zombie or given me physical side effects

I have friends I can talk to but unfortunately they are all to far away for anything more than a call when I really low I find it hard to be around people "

It is so hard when you’re feeling ike that, I hear you. With medication you often have to keep talking with the GP until you find something where you’re not suffering more with the side effects then the effect on the depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't recommend medication, from my experience it does more harm than good and just numbs you. Taking it one day at a time, setting no expectations on yourself to feel better and trying new things e.g. foods, hobbies, clothes all helped. Get exercising and meet new people. My allotment was a big help. I lost myself in gathering reclaimed wood and building a shed come disco palace as well as looking after everything I had planted or sown. I've met like minded people and the fresh air and quiet have done me wonders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been reading alot of positives about Magic mushrooms and LSD from scientists who have ignored the positive affects of these two drugs on depression...hope something is found in the near future that brings some relief for depression sufferers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't recommend medication, from my experience it does more harm than good and just numbs you. Taking it one day at a time, setting no expectations on yourself to feel better and trying new things e.g. foods, hobbies, clothes all helped. Get exercising and meet new people. My allotment was a big help. I lost myself in gathering reclaimed wood and building a shed come disco palace as well as looking after everything I had planted or sown. I've met like minded people and the fresh air and quiet have done me wonders."

Good to hear...all the best to you.

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By *osmicRobMan
over a year ago

Chorlton cum Hardy


"Been reading alot of positives about Magic mushrooms and LSD from scientists who have ignored the positive affects of these two drugs on depression...hope something is found in the near future that brings some relief for depression sufferers."

I believe microdosing magic mushrooms has become very popular, increasing creativity and general positivity.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Talking Change are really quite helpful, I did a courses there and had some one on one sessions. They're opposite Tesco on Drayton way.

Alot of my issues were actually due to vitamin deficiencies. So if you haven't already, get some blood tests done. Check your B12, folate and Vit D. Since one treated them I've felt much better. Don't let the docs fob you off, you might need to do a little research into optimal levels and good supplements to take.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Talking Change are really quite helpful, I did a courses there and had some one on one sessions. They're opposite Tesco on Drayton way.

Alot of my issues were actually due to vitamin deficiencies. So if you haven't already, get some blood tests done. Check your B12, folate and Vit D. Since one treated them I've felt much better. Don't let the docs fob you off, you might need to do a little research into optimal levels and good supplements to take."

*Fratton Way

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