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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had"

Saying something I wish I hadn't. Because once said I cannot take it back. I can go back and say something if I choose not to say something at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had"

Oh heck, think they both can invoke the same level of pain and hurt x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Saying nothing. So many times I should have said something!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

The latter

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had

Saying something I wish I hadn't. Because once said I cannot take it back. I can go back and say something if I choose not to say something at the time. "

i agree

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Saying something u wished u hadn't. Can't take it back no matter wot its bin said .only the person receiving it can forgive u if they do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had

Saying something I wish I hadn't. Because once said I cannot take it back. I can go back and say something if I choose not to say something at the time. "

This!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying something you wish you hadn’t...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had

Saying something I wish I hadn't. Because once said I cannot take it back. I can go back and say something if I choose not to say something at the time. "

Definitely this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying something you wish you hadn’t..."

Yeah Tmontana you meany!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying something you wish you hadn’t...

Yeah Tmontana you meany!

Her x"

I’m so mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Latter for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably saying nothing and wished I had but as I'm a bit feisty then that doesn't happen often.

Mrs KC

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had"
depends on the outcome of what you said, both can hurt one way or another but for different reasons

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had"

It depends on the details, but in my experience I usually mess up on option 1 worse and more frequently.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Saying something I wish I hadn't.

There's always time to say the thing in the future if you keep it to yourself, but once the words are out there they can't be taken back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

saying things cant be taken back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both have their pros and cons. In my life I've had cause to regret things said and also wish I'd spoke up sooner on some things. Both have had long reaching consequences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if anyone asked already.

But who is hurting. Other person or us. That could modify some answers.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

One might hurt the person you say it to, the other will eat you up inside, may make you feel guilty if things go tits up for the person you wanted to say it to.

Just comes down to a simple how strong is the friendship and whether they might actually listen to your point of view. Other wise I stay out of it, it’s not my business and let the individual work it out and maybe a lesson learnt depending on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying something I wish I hadn't.

I am terrible for this, my temper and mouth gets me into trouble. I am trying to learn and change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying something I wish I hadn't.

There's always time to say the thing in the future if you keep it to yourself, but once the words are out there they can't be taken back."

I think the latter.

The former can be undone. It may take time and much effort to prove that you had been wrong to say it but it can be undone.

To say nothing when speaking up might’ve helped is a guilt that cannot be easily let go of, especially when your silence has resulted in irrevocable damage.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure if anyone asked already.

But who is hurting. Other person or us. That could modify some answers. "

It's a hypothetical question as to which one people would choose.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

There is SO MUCH I regret not saying, and I have to live with my inaction for the rest of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which hurts the most:

Saying something you wish you hadn't

Saying nothing and wishing you had"

Saying nothing. Which I'm doing right now in a situation, to my own detrement.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

For me it would be saying nothing and wish I had.

I only end up wondering "what if" I had.

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