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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A couple's profile about an hour old with no pics messaged me saying they recognised me and not gonna lie, I didn't know how to react and got a bit nervous so I just blocked them.

Has this happened to anyone? How would you dealt with it and do you think it may have just been a scare tactic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had men message me and I know who they are. I normally just block them.

But it’s happened about 4 times now.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Get recognized from here often! Sometimes bit weird as they spot on with where they saw me! But not to bothered x

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I once had ‘You’re Mrs Mac. I recognised your eyebrows’

Odd but could have been worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh... not so fussed.... we are all here for the same thing... tho my mates didn’t want to play as they thought it would be weird!! Hahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like to try the scare tactics here as it gives them a feeling of power. You were right to ignore and block.

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

Being recognised is fine. Life being made difficult as a result isn’t.

My view is that recognition is a byproduct of the site. Seems best to just ignore and move on.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Been recognised a few times. Usually messages asking if I had been in M&S at a certain time or out with my dogs in a certain park that day. I alway tell the truth as no point in lying.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I've had a few like that, tbh I think sometimes it to try and get a reply from you and not the actual truth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people like to try the scare tactics here as it gives them a feeling of power. You were right to ignore and block. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the input so far, seems it happens quite a bit. I don't show my face on here and I'm fairly low key in my personal life so I guess that's what kind of shook me as I wasn't sure where they could've recognised me from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s all about manners and tact. If you know those persons just ignore it and let it be! Maybe if you see them at a club then you could laugh about it, but in here ??

I know 2 peoples I used to meet in my local munch and regularly see them in town. Never I would dream to say hello or approach them and ask how’s your kinky life!!

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I had someone with multiple profiles do that to me once, I didn't know about the extra profiles as I had blocked the 2 I knew about, they messaged saying they knew me I had a panic and asked them a few questions I worked out they were lying got them to break and admitted who they were them promptly called them a few names before blocking them

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I've walked round Derby and gone to a few pubs with ma Ace Winger T-shirt on, I like it when people ask me what it means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It honestly doesn’t bother me. I’ve been recognised by few people I’d worked with previous, they’ve said who they are acknowledged and move on. Ultimately we all here for same reasons...nothing to hide

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've walked round Derby and gone to a few pubs with ma Ace Winger T-shirt on, I like it when people ask me what it means "

I'll be on the lookout. I won't just approach you though, that would be weird

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It honestly doesn’t bother me. I’ve been recognised by few people I’d worked with previous, they’ve said who they are acknowledged and move on. Ultimately we all here for same reasons...nothing to hide "

Yeah, I guess but if they know me, they know my family and that would be a bit of an awkward one, especially as my background doesn't care for this scene...

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I've walked round Derby and gone to a few pubs with ma Ace Winger T-shirt on, I like it when people ask me what it means

I'll be on the lookout. I won't just approach you though, that would be weird "

Don't worry, I'll get the first round in

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’ve been recognised loads….. doesn’t bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the input so far, seems it happens quite a bit. I don't show my face on here and I'm fairly low key in my personal life so I guess that's what kind of shook me as I wasn't sure where they could've recognised me from."

To be honest mate there’s no way they can recognise you based on what’s on your profile if you’ve never had a face picture on. There’s lots of men with similar physique to you so unless they said anything else specific about you that is clearly identifiable as you I’d ignore them they’re just doing a mind fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not got any face pics on here, but been told i was in the pub at the same time as them, so asked them where.... a different city to where I live... and just said next time come and say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m it has happened and it doesn’t bother me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, well yet. Somone may of recognised me and just not said anything but i doubt it

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down


"It honestly doesn’t bother me. I’ve been recognised by few people I’d worked with previous, they’ve said who they are acknowledged and move on. Ultimately we all here for same reasons...nothing to hide "

Sensible approach. As the various countries open up to normal life, most people will be too concerned with their own lives; most people don't give a damn what their neighbours' preferences or lifestyles are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get recognised a lot and when a profile messages me like Hay how's it going I think I saw you at whenever or I recognise from such and such I'm so and so I think it's fine and I'm like oh Hay how are you blah blah but I find it very creepy when an almost blank profile messages me saying I see yoh at work all the time or something and offers no more explanation or insight into who they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex has popped up from time to time

A local lad once recognised me but he's never been a dick about it x

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford

I (Bry) have been recognised twice by people I work with, and Char has been recognised once. We don't worry about it.

Even better though.....we had a message from someone claiming to know where we lived. Turned out he used to rent the house we now rent and he recognised the bedroom from some of our photos!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it recently, they know a lot about me. My name, where I went to college, things I had done, apparently made eye contact near my house and named the location... which I don't remember seeing anyone. But still won't tell me who he is as he has a girlfriend. Really Freaked me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes back in 2016 I keep geting a message from a black profile

Saying I know who you are wait till the lads at work get a look at this profile your going to be the laugh stock off the place

Instinly removed my profile and ever time I re hound I would get a message from a blank profile saying the same went on for around 6 months

Till one day I sed on you go show them like I care I shag then all I bet they all want a go

Nothing back nothing came off it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get recognised a lot and when a profile messages me like Hay how's it going I think I saw you at whenever or I recognise from such and such I'm so and so I think it's fine and I'm like oh Hay how are you blah blah but I find it very creepy when an almost blank profile messages me saying I see yoh at work all the time or something and offers no more explanation or insight into who they are "

It's definitely creepy, I asked them how they recognised me and when they didn't answer that's when I blocked them. If you're not bullshitting, at least give me an idea of who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (Bry) have been recognised twice by people I work with, and Char has been recognised once. We don't worry about it.

Even better though.....we had a message from someone claiming to know where we lived. Turned out he used to rent the house we now rent and he recognised the bedroom from some of our photos!"

Blimey, what are the chances!

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

One message who said they'd tell my work... instant block.

Checked with my work.. HR's exact quote?:

"Profile is very generic, as are pics, you're a grown woman, your life beyond here is nothing to do with us"

"Ps... we wish him luck... he'll need it!"

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford


"Blimey, what are the chances! "

I know! He did suggest coming round but then admitted to being married. Apparently he knows quite a few swingers in our village.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I've recognised a lady on here who lives in the same street as me. I don't think she knows of me - I didn't click on her profile, just seeing her in a "Who's Near" list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a few messages when on holiday from this man adamant he was sitting opposite us ... it’s definitely you why are you ignoring me etc etc ... he said I’d been chatting to him by the pool and I was game then?!? ... then he described me as having blonde hair

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’ve had this before and their just trying to get into your head, you did the right thing, don’t waste anymore time worrying about it

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

This happened to me too. They didn't know me, they were just full of shit.

They just wanted a reaction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half of us would be stuffed if we went to Sydney and that silly little disclaimer was true

Wouldn’t bother me if someone recognised me..hey ho

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By *iscoman7771000Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Not me

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By *eyboard123456Man
over a year ago

shirebrook

I dont show my face on picture because of my job till I'm 110% sure it's not a fake.

But I recognise loads of people in my town I think we are all here for the same thing so shouldn't spoil anyones fun

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By *onochrome2Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve been recognised quite a few times. Even though my face is not on display anyone that actually knows me real life can tell it’s me.

Generally not that bothered as long as the other person isn’t weird about it.

Had a fair few “I think I saw you, were you at x place at x time?” from people I’ve never met (and it’s never me, maybe I have a doppelgänger?)

Rob had been recognised by his tattoos before too.

I guess it is what it is!

Dee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few people say they recognise me from a previous profile but when questioned apparently iys a tactic to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happens all the time

don't worry about it. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This happened to me too. They didn't know me, they were just full of shit.

They just wanted a reaction!"

Its a conversation opener i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's creepy and I don't like it at all.

Block and delete

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"This happened to me too. They didn't know me, they were just full of shit.

They just wanted a reaction!

Its a conversation opener i think "

He reckoned he knew me from work. He had no idea who I was and still doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People often pretend to, just the get your attention, or if they're being creepy and don't want to let you know that they're spying on you on a second account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got recognised today total stranger ...Sainsbury’s .... she said Cherry as I walked past with a smirk ... think the shock in my face gave it away lol .. ...

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I got recognised today total stranger ...Sainsbury’s .... she said Cherry as I walked past with a smirk ... think the shock in my face gave it away lol .. ... "

Oh wow...did you recognise her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A couple's profile about an hour old with no pics messaged me saying they recognised me and not gonna lie, I didn't know how to react and got a bit nervous so I just blocked them.

Has this happened to anyone? How would you dealt with it and do you think it may have just been a scare tactic? "

I think it's more than likely it was a man with a couples profile stirring shit and causing worry for others,its sad but some people enjoy causing people drama,did the profile have a green flag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got recognised today total stranger ...Sainsbury’s .... she said Cherry as I walked past with a smirk ... think the shock in my face gave it away lol .. ...

Oh wow...did you recognise her?"

No .. never seen her before ..

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I got recognised today total stranger ...Sainsbury’s .... she said Cherry as I walked past with a smirk ... think the shock in my face gave it away lol .. ...

Oh wow...did you recognise her?

No .. never seen her before .. "

You sure she wasn't referring to the fruit in sainsbury?

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By *hyrichMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire

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By *hyrichMan
over a year ago

lincolnshire


"I get recognised a lot and when a profile messages me like Hay how's it going I think I saw you at whenever or I recognise from such and such I'm so and so I think it's fine and I'm like oh Hay how are you blah blah but I find it very creepy when an almost blank profile messages me saying I see yoh at work all the time or something and offers no more explanation or insight into who they are "
I wish I did see you around clee

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yep there's not that many big boobed redheads in Shrewsbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore being recognised

Mandy xxx

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"A couple's profile about an hour old with no pics messaged me saying they recognised me and not gonna lie, I didn't know how to react and got a bit nervous so I just blocked them.

Has this happened to anyone? How would you dealt with it and do you think it may have just been a scare tactic? "

It is funny how things change, have been recognised a only few times lately - hazard of being around a long time .

Generally once upon a time most of people I worked with or did work for were in the scene lol. Discretion was paramount, going to events business dinners you knew people very differently . Sadly discretion in many cases has left the building, these days. There are many I know here but I would never approach them here or anywhere else because they are entitled their privacy also

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By *0FLHMan
over a year ago

Devon

It happened to me very recently so I have taken down my face pic.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I like the idea of being recognised, I loathe the idea of being “ outed” as a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got recognised today total stranger ...Sainsbury’s .... she said Cherry as I walked past with a smirk ... think the shock in my face gave it away lol .. ...

Oh wow...did you recognise her?

No .. never seen her before ..

You sure she wasn't referring to the fruit in sainsbury? "

No .. it was the smirk for starters lol ... and plus I was in the biscuit aisle .. stop trying to burst my bubble you ... I’m on high here for once ..

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

nr Stamford

Not recognised from Fab as such, but Char had her "Hotwife" necklace on in Tesco on Sunday morning. Some guy commented "nice necklace" and we only registered what he said after we'd gone past. We turned round, Char wrote her number down and gave it to him.

Yes....he has texted. And yes....they are arranging a meet

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Don't think we've been recognised. Have recognised others and contacted in a non creepy way.

We have no problem with being recognised as long as the person contacting isn't creepy about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on before, made the mistake of including my first name in my profile. Someone said they knew me from school. Although they guessed the correct school, they confused me with someone else. In the end they got bored and moved on. I do make a point of blocking anyone who says they know me. Hasn’t happened to me since.

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By *andm300Man
over a year ago

guildford

I recognised a couple locally. Was not sure what to do so I sent a message given them a heads up. I sent a face pic thinking to even the score

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Know one male think he also knows me but neither will say. Due to how we know each other

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