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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

In a one to one situation, can you have sex without any kind of passion.

A friend ended a meet, because the other person wouldn't kiss.

Your thoughts

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I need that passion. It feels to cold and clinical without x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Yes. The sex throughout my marriage was devoid of passion and kissing.

As a very passionate person myself you can imagine how frustrating that became.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need passion click if it sounds corny x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?

Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I met someone from here a few times who didn't kiss.

The sex was what I call raw sex, and it was needed at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that if there’s no passion/spark then the intimacy will be the same and if that’s the case then what’s the point it started with a kiss mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have a wank if it's just rubbing body parts together

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I feel that if there’s no passion/spark then the intimacy will be the same and if that’s the case then what’s the point it started with a kiss mwah"

It all starts with that kiss....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion makes it hot. Anticipation makes it better. Otherwise you might as well hire an escort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd rather have a wank if it's just rubbing body parts together "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nope. Not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be passion. To feel that you are wanted and to make the other person feel the same way. Sex without passion really isn’t a turn in for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd rather have a wank if it's just rubbing body parts together "

Definitely, far less complicated. No passion, no fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel that if there’s no passion/spark then the intimacy will be the same and if that’s the case then what’s the point it started with a kiss mwah

It all starts with that kiss...."

It soooooo does

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Yes. The sex throughout my marriage was devoid of passion and kissing.

As a very passionate person myself you can imagine how frustrating that became.

"

That was exactly the same as mine.

I'm naturally very passionate, and so that is a big part of what I'll be looking for on here.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Sex without passion is likely food without seasoning.

Boring, bland and lifeless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be kissing x the passion a good kiss builds makes for even better sex. I have been known to actually cum just by kissing if its soooo good x always need passion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion "

This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion

This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical."

That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is essential to been sensual.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I reckon 99% of men can do this without a second breath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion is needed. I dont think I would meet someone who wouldn't kiss me.

Nikki x

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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines


"I reckon 99% of men can do this without a second breath. "
then I must be in the 1% who can not

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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Passion is definitely needed.

Plus I couldn’t meet someone who didn’t want to kiss, it’s so sensual and a huge part of a meet for me x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I could but I wouldn't want to. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion

This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical.

That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion? "

Yes (most of the time depending on mood) I can have very good sex without emotion coming into it.

One of the last times was a massage from a man who finished it off with a blowjob and I have absolutely no emotional interest in men but the whole situation was really erotic and a massive turn on.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Passion before during and after otherwise what's the point?

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By *breedyouMan
over a year ago

Chobham

There needs to be some connection otherwise it’s difficult to get or keep going.

I remember once at a club playing with a couple and she just laid there even with her partner encouraging her. I looked at him and said her it’s now worries if she’s not up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I wouldnt entertain it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone didn't want to kiss me, it wouldn't go any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough, as I have now surpassed the age mark of 35 I have found the ability to shower and see myself naked, without touching my genitals!

Make of that what you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A kiss says a lot sometimes,so if that's not part of it then it's a massive no for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a one to one situation, can you have sex without any kind of passion.

A friend ended a meet, because the other person wouldn't kiss.

Your thoughts"

There are certain things I can do in a meet that doesn’t require passion but full on sex is not one of them. Passion / mild intimacy is required to do “everything” and most Definitely trust of the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?

Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that? "

I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.

Assumption are a mediocre attitude too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?

Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that?

I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.

Assumption are a mediocre attitude too"

Her fantasy was fulfilled, was yours is the question?

If so more power to you and enjoy, if not why go through with it if both parties aren’t satisfied?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is not the only ingredient in passionate sex?? And some people are reluctant to kiss because of bacteria or find it disgusting to kiss... phobia etc and still can have some great sex!

Just a point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is not the only ingredient in passionate sex?? And some people are reluctant to kiss because of bacteria or find it disgusting to kiss... phobia etc and still can have some great sex!

Just a point of view "

Thanks for explaining, I was just curious

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By *ilkandhoneyxWoman
over a year ago

leicester

posted in these types of thread before. i don’t kiss during sex, because i don’t like it. but these things should be discussed before a meet anyway. don’t take it for granted, something you think is necessary in sex is just not someone’s cup of tea. if you can’t get off without kissing, mention that you’re looking for a meet with kissing. similar with other acts like anal or spanking. one person might not imagine sex without it, but someone else might hate it. always discuss this stuff first.

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By *eandHim2019Couple
over a year ago

preston

I need passion. I'd get seriously bored otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone can have sex without passion, as it’s their choice. But it would feel pretty grim, wouldn’t it?

Kissing is most essential, in my opinion. In my experience, if the kisses aren’t good, the sex is likely to be nothing more than mediocre too. And who wants that?

I have many time sexual sessions with women who didn’t kiss for different reasons. It didn’t mean it wasn’t good, on contrary their fantasy were fulfill everytime.

Assumption are a mediocre attitude too

Her fantasy was fulfilled, was yours is the question?

If so more power to you and enjoy, if not why go through with it if both parties aren’t satisfied?"

I am always yes, kiss is not my focus and tbh I don’t bother myself.

I do it sometime after she blow me and kissing her with my cum inside her mouth make her even wet and hornier

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Deffo need to kiss! I've been talking to someone for a while now we intend to meet as soon as we allowed! He asked last night if I'm ok to kiss! I wouldn't engage in sex without! Which he is happy about! X

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By *ige2464Man
over a year ago

torquay

If she said no kissing . I’d walk away I need to feel the passion

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sex with no passion would feel like a waste of time at best, or transactional at worst.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Passion isn't possible for me unless I know someone extremely well. I can enjoy sex without that element. I enjoy eroticism rather than passion

This ^^ for me. I've visited sex workers and the whole experience is very erotic and has never been mechanical.

That's interesting. Would you say you're able to separate sex from emotion?

Yes (most of the time depending on mood) I can have very good sex without emotion coming into it.

One of the last times was a massage from a man who finished it off with a blowjob and I have absolutely no emotional interest in men but the whole situation was really erotic and a massive turn on."

We understand

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think it depends what you mean by passion? There definitely needs to be something. Can't imagine anything worse or as awkward as attempted sex without mutual drive, lust and desire (even if just in the context of that space and time). I don't think everything has to be Mills and Boon but there needs to be a shared desire, something almost tangible in the air. And that of course very much depends on the dynamic of the people involved. For example some people don't kiss but doesn't mean they don't find fulfilment on the scene. But consequently they need to find people who can also find that fulfilment without kissing.

For us chemistry very is important (oh and we both love kissing btw). But that doesn't always mean you have to date the hell out of people to find it. Sometimes it is something in the air, in that time, that space. We had an random encounter with a couple once in a play room we'd never talked before (suspect English wasn't their 1st language). It just happened then and there. It was hot and the chemistry was just right in that time and space. If we had have talked to them before hand maybe we would have fancied them, maybe we would have disliked each other? If it's there it's there, if it's not it's not.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Passion and kissing are essential or i am off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely not. Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't have one without the other.

What's the point...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion is the key,I won't meet anyone that won't kiss,its the spark that creates a physical connection.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Oops, sometimes we have a morning quickie without kissing We'll be having a good snogging session tonight though

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Yes. The sex throughout my marriage was devoid of passion and kissing.

As a very passionate person myself you can imagine how frustrating that became.

That was exactly the same as mine.

I'm naturally very passionate, and so that is a big part of what I'll be looking for on here. "

I wouldn't have minded so much if there was another aspect of sex, other than blow job, hop on, hop off.

He wouldn't even let me tie him up and put a finger in his bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?"

I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.

My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?

I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.

My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha."

I am rather impressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?

I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.

My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.

I am rather impressed! "

Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?

I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.

My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.

I am rather impressed!

Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha."
Hey, perhaps we should introduce that as a filter ?

Just kidding x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a one to one situation, can you have sex without any kind of passion.

A friend ended a meet, because the other person wouldn't kiss.

Your thoughts"

I would have ended it too.

Physical attraction, instant attraction, lots of kissing,playing and hot passionate, rampant sex

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By *incerelyFabCouple
over a year ago

Lancaster

As a couple, passion is the only way for a meet. We didn't think many were that way inclined

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Ooh you mean like..when I told him to pull my nightie down when he'd finished

And jeez....try not to wake me up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh you mean like..when I told him to pull my nightie down when he'd finished

And jeez....try not to wake me up! "

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Kissing for me is very important, sets the atmosphere

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?"

I must admit, I wouldn't take things further if they had bad/missing teeth or terrible breath. A nice smile is part of the attraction for me x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

There’s always a need for passion and especially the look in her eye when you know she wants to and also the look she gives you when she’s enjoying it

If there is no passion you might as well checkout how paint dries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry, a connection is the single, most important component for intimacy and good sex to be possible. And I would only kiss somebody if that chemistry was there.

I would however walk away from a social (always do social first) with no further agenda if that person had bad or missing teeth or bad breath. It is a real turn off for me and I could not possibly go further.

Others may have other things that would turn them off?

I'm similar,everyone should practice oral hygiene but especially when going for a meet.

My co-workers take the pee out of me because I have mouthwash in my car in the car park before work,I explain that if you do mouth wash straight away after brushing your teeth,then you're washing away all the goodness of the toothpaste,so I wait at least 30 mins or more then take mouthwash,that way you get the best of both worlds.....I always tell them that they can take the piss all they want but I'm never going to feel shit about doing that,its called making an effort....but then again,most of them don't practice oral hygiene haha.

I am rather impressed!

Thank you _phrodite, I'm ready for my dental qualifications now haha.Hey, perhaps we should introduce that as a filter ?

Just kidding x"

Haha,I bet they'd be hell on xx

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Passion is absolutely necessary..

Im not a human fuck machine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How are we defining passion?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Not too sure about passion but kissing is a deal breaker for me. No kissing no meet it's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing for me is very important, sets the atmosphere "

Sets the tone for everything that may follow, doesn’t it

Good to see you again, WB

Will

X

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Has to be some kind of passion getting that heart pounding otherwise feeling less and cold when that happens i just lay back and hope its over quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make me laugh men on here stating kissing and passion is everything when they have a cock pic On their profile and also I bet if a woman send a quick fuck message they would answer no thanks I like candlelit first...

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Make me laugh men on here stating kissing and passion is everything when they have a cock pic On their profile and also I bet if a woman send a quick fuck message they would answer no thanks I like candlelit first... "

Just because you've got a cock pic as your profile pic doesn't mean you're not capable of feeling a powerful attraction for someone. Resulting in passion, lust....

And kisses well...they range from the sensual to the deep passionate kind.

Passion and candle light don't necessarily go hand in hand

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