FabSwingers.com forum: Out of your league....

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx"

Punching above my weight

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx"

Well I’m definitely happy to play a game with you? Talking sport league here right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it odd that someone would message saying 'you're out of my league'. Are they hoping you'll say 'you're not'?

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx

Punching above my weight

That does my head in too....again no such thing and anyone who think that a person is punching is about as shallow as a raindrop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually love to be punching above my weight.

It's actually an exciting feeling getting into someone's knickers that at first wouldn't have gave you a second glance

To then be mad about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These leagues don't exist

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

This really annoys me too.

I'm just a normal, regular, average person.

Already today I've had the "you could have any man you want/you don't need to be on here"

Ugh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These leagues don't exist"

Yoy haven't seen my spreadsheet.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Maybe I'm just cynical but I never believe people actually mean these things when they message them to me. I've always seen it as just an attempt at flattery. It's like when they say "you're the hottest woman on here". Am I fuck

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I'm just cynical but I never believe people actually mean these things when they message them to me. I've always seen it as just an attempt at flattery. It's like when they say "you're the hottest woman on here". Am I fuck

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Same, it just makes me roll my eyes and think jog on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is out of anyone’s league they don’t exist, everyone’s idea of beauty is different... attraction is in many forms

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x"

Definitely that major turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no leagues.

Right, let’s have a look at hot pics page one and see who’s top.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x"

I think ur bien little hard some people are naturally shy x

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x

I think ur bien little hard some people are naturally shy x "

Being naturally shy still doesn't mean you should think you are out of anyone's league x

(And we all know you aren't shy) x

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Apart from the huge egos *much of which is a front. Everyone seems to under rate themselves. Eventually I figured just be me and assume nadda. Then nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, this is a sentiment that pervades throughout society. There are ‘leagues’ throughout it, from school onwards......only those who are within a league can look out differently from those looking in.

On Fab, it is about beauty. Offline, leagues are in every category of society from jobs, sportiness, brains, wealth, education/schools........there is an ‘out of your league element’ to it all. It’s human nature or animal instinct, I’m not quite sure.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx"

When they say " your los" inalways reply " I've lost nothing but you havnt gained anything"

leauges are for football just like lables are for clothes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x"

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there...confidence to try and strength to take the blow if rejected. This is what is needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are totally leagues, but also there is the FA Cup, this is where some stunning results have happened, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but it’s rare. But, it’s only hot people who say there are no leagues, but then they have to say that.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think there are totally leagues, but also there is the FA Cup, this is where some stunning results have happened, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but it’s rare. But, it’s only hot people who say there are no leagues, but then they have to say that."

I for one am definitely not hot...more lukewarm at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are. Quietly they exist like skeletons in the closet nobody will admit to. And who wants to be plan B for A lister?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twist. They can be saying that to inflate one's ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So am I now to think that not 1 of the women saying there are no leagues are In fact not out of my league ?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't subscribe to there being such a thing as leagues - it lends itself into the idea that people are better than others on what's essentially a sex site. That's not because I'm particularly hot but it's more an understanding of how the world works.

There are, of course, conventionally attractive people who are popular because of that. And people have particular preferences - slim women, gym fit men etc. It doesn't mean they are a league above, it just means that's what a person likes.

I do think that saying such a thing is both a bid to flatter the recipient and also of a reflection of a person's low self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one am definitely not hot...more lukewarm at best

Wasn’t describing anyone in particular, but I do think there are leagues, but they aren’t concrete, occasionally people move around.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't for one second believe it either. I find it a turn off when they say it as its like they have no confidence and that's one of the things that attracts me to someone x

I think ur bien little hard some people are naturally shy x

Being naturally shy still doesn't mean you should think you are out of anyone's league x

(And we all know you aren't shy) x"
I think to a degree, that fear of rejection, is something that makes some think they are as you say out of their league or punching above there weight or what ever phrase you want to use, my confidence has grown, I have taken the plunge and messaged a couple to say I am really interested, it doesn't bother me if I get knocked back now, there are some I chat to that I know I will never probably meet, because of distance, some I chat to, even though I am "not their type" and there are a couple that I would like to think it may progress to a meet, if I hadn't taken that first step, I would never know

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

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Haha my sentiments exactly when I get told that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t believe in leagues, it’s about connection and chemistry, and that person being right for you.

I would find that a turn off, quiet confidence is a turn on, being self deprecating is often seen as a good thing, but I don’t think it is.

It also strikes me as being a bit manipulative, trying to garner a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t believe in leagues, it’s about connection and chemistry, and that person being right for you.

I would find that a turn off, quiet confidence is a turn on, being self deprecating is often seen as a good thing, but I don’t think it is.

It also strikes me as being a bit manipulative, trying to garner a response.

It is a very strange world we live in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never say to someone’s you’re out of my league, certainly not to them, but I definitely think it, thats just how things are, generally attractive people go with someone similar, not always, but generally it’s the cause. That’s just how things work and people who say no such thing are being slightly naive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never say to someone’s you’re out of my league, certainly not to them, but I definitely think it, thats just how things are, generally attractive people go with someone similar, not always, but generally it’s the cause. That’s just how things work and people who say no such thing are being slightly naive "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys subconsciously put you in a category, they think that you’re attractive and that they’re punching, don’t realise that you’re actually just a normal person with feelings like everyone else. It’s worse if they know lots of men have their eye on you and they view you as a prize kind of thing, they know that you’re too good for them so they try and destroy your confidence and make you believe that nobody would want you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guys subconsciously put you in a category, they think that you’re attractive and that they’re punching, don’t realise that you’re actually just a normal person with feelings like everyone else. It’s worse if they know lots of men have their eye on you and they view you as a prize kind of thing, they know that you’re too good for them so they try and destroy your confidence and make you believe that nobody would want you. "

The real prize I feel is within, how we treat others

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Even I'm in the same league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that saying such a thing is both a bid to flatter the recipient and also of a reflection of a person's low self esteem.

& could also be offensive to people that they have been chatting to / making plans with...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I do think that saying such a thing is both a bid to flatter the recipient and also of a reflection of a person's low self esteem.

& could also be offensive to people that they have been chatting to / making plans with..."

Yes exactly! Like oh you're of moderate attractiveness, I'd never message someone out of my league but I'll message you because you'll probably put out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that saying such a thing is both a bid to flatter the recipient and also of a reflection of a person's low self esteem.

& could also be offensive to people that they have been chatting to / making plans with...

Yes exactly! Like oh you're of moderate attractiveness, I'd never message someone out of my league but I'll message you because you'll probably put out.

exactly this

and you explained it far better than I ever could

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in punching above your weight etc. Doesn't make it right but it is natural.

If there was no such thing women wouldn't spend an age getting made up or plaster themselves with filters on here....all trying to make ourselves appear 'prettier' than we are

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

So glad I don't have that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there are leagues at such, but we all have our preferences. Some 'classically beautiful' people might have a preference for a trait that isn't considered beautiful in the classic, traditional sense, but it really does it for them.

There's always someone out there who thinks you're hot.

But we do all have our types, and I suppose modern media and society/culture does have an impact on what 'most' people find attractive. Which had changed a lot over history, and between different cultures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, say an average guy messaged every woman on page one of hot pics, ignoring the fact they get tonnes of messages, then messaged the Equivalent number of women on fab elsewhere, just a standard message and face pic, who’s he more likely to hear back from ?!

I think we all know the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leagues and punching above your weight are only negative feelings of the beholder or thoughts of egotistical bullies ... therefore better off never excepting either!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Ok, say an average guy messaged every woman on page one of hot pics, ignoring the fact they get tonnes of messages, then messaged the Equivalent number of women on fab elsewhere, just a standard message and face pic, who’s he more likely to hear back from ?!

I think we all know the answer. "

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same, it just makes me roll my eyes and think jog on

Same for me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Nobody is out of anyone’s league they don’t exist, everyone’s idea of beauty is different... attraction is in many forms"

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I must be in a league of my own then.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

If a stunningly attractive woman has the personality of a brick then I’m still not going to be interested- for me I like a connection - someone who’s company I enjoy and that leads to other things - I can’t just play with someone I know nothing about … or more I won’t - I probably could just wouldn’t. I don’t see any leagues or divisions - just people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer. "

I might be missing the point here, so apologies.. Let's just put it down to brain fog

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Are you implying that, only the top of the league make it to hot pic's? And anyone else is below average?

Or have I misunderstood??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm mentally out of everyone's league on here

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes. "

I don't know the answer.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"If a stunningly attractive woman has the personality of a brick then I’m still not going to be interested- for me I like a connection - someone who’s company I enjoy and that leads to other things - I can’t just play with someone I know nothing about … or more I won’t - I probably could just wouldn’t. I don’t see any leagues or divisions - just people x"

What about a really ugly woman with a great sense of humour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh golly i didnt know it was a competition ha ha .

I did get a message reply the other day and it did actually say i was out of their league. I replied , i dont mind falling down a league or two ha ha

Gosh no your right sparkle its not a league.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

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Exactly this! X

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By *adrick2011Man
over a year ago

manchester

I think all the women on here are beautiful. .. just saying

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's all down to self perception I guess, I often think there are some that are way out of mine and they wouldn't look twice at me so stay in the shadows and don't say anything, but equally get told by some they were worried about messaging as I'm out of theirs (which I normally reply to don't be stupid)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes. "

Out of respect for you and respect for my lazy frame of mind I'm not going to "challenge it". It's the weekend.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I think all the women on here are beautiful. .. just saying"

I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes. "

Erm hellooooooooo I did I did...

Look up man!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes.

Out of respect for you and respect for my lazy frame of mind I'm not going to "challenge it". It's the weekend.

I wanna know tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??"

Yes it is, provided the ability to not be influenced by manipulative people is also there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes.

Out of respect for you and respect for my lazy frame of mind I'm not going to "challenge it". It's the weekend.

Ok, then maybe don’t say I have bias when I’m stating my opinion based on my observations on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all create these leagues that don't exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all know the answer.

Ha! Your bias is amusing City.

Noticed no ones challenged me, or said actually I don’t know the answer, which speaks volumes. "

It's an unfair test.

Which league are then men in? An average league? And the hot pic women are the in the hot league?

So which league are the women in that would be messaged elsewhere on fab? You need to specify.

Would it be average or lower CJ?

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

What about a really ugly woman with a great sense of humour?"

I definitely find that more attractive and I don’t think any woman is ugly - a personality definitely can be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Classes I guess are in some way leagues

I am in my own opinion lower class

I'm happy there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why someone who believed you were "out of their league" would even waste the time it takes to write it in a message soi would say its not that this is what they actually think, it's more likely that it's a way to get you to reply to them and when you say that you are not out of their league then it seems to them that you are saying you are interested.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

This place is full of beautiful people with great personalities x you included x

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??"

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??"

This place is full of those people XX you included xx

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We are just a normal, down to earth couple with no airs or graces. People don't want that, they want attractive couples with perfect bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

This place is full of those people XX you included xx"

I agree, kitty does seem to have a very nice personality aswell as being very attractive

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

"I don't get why someone who believed you were "out of their league" would even waste the time it takes to write it in a message soi would say its not that this is what they actually think, it's more likely that it's a way to get you to reply to them and when you say that you are not out of their league then it seems to them that you are saying you are interested. "

I tend to agree that's its just another chat up line or way to try and engage with someone through flattery.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

If anyone says that I am out of their league then I will presume they have little confidence in themselves and therefore not for me. I like strong men who think positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never send someone a message saying you’re out of my league but……

There is some people on here where you do think is it a waste of my time messaging this person.

I’m more put off by someone if they’re into stuff I’m not into and there’s not really any common ground.

To be honest I don’t want to meet anyone or do the social stuff until I’ve had my second jab. So not bothering messaging any women for that reason at the moment.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

^^ this.

I think, generally speaking, that we perceive ourselves to be in a certain place on the societal/media driven consensus of attractiveness, and tend to go for people that we perceive to be at around the same level. I think these terms are used when someone perceives another to be at a much different place on that scale.

Or it could just be tiresome false flattery as an attempt to get in your knickers or obtain some new wank bank material... but we all know that never happens on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leagues are an interesting concept because that then relies on everyone having the same ideals of beauty which isn't true.

I'm pretty happy with my body but there are women on here that I look at and think wow and get body envy but I wouldn't consider them to be in a better league to me, just maybe they have features I find attractive.

For men I couldn't say one is better than another as for me it's not a type or a physical attribute more a certain something about that person which I can't put my finger on.

Mrs M x

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Leagues are an interesting concept because that then relies on everyone having the same ideals of beauty which isn't true.

For men I couldn't say one is better than another as for me it's not a type or a physical attribute more a certain something about that person which I can't put my finger on.

Mrs M x"

You point at it and I’ll put my finger on it!!! You’re gorgeous XX

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx"
well said. Theres someone for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

This place is full of those people XX you included xx

I agree, kitty does seem to have a very nice personality aswell as being very attractive

My mum thinks so too. She's a little biased though

I'm possibly more annoying than she'll admit to lol

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'd agree but say naive or disingenuous.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

This place is full of those people XX you included xx

I agree, kitty does seem to have a very nice personality aswell as being very attractive

My mum thinks so too. She's a little biased though

I'm possibly more annoying than she'll admit to lol"

Your mum has done a fabulous job from what I can see XX

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We are always the glass is half full kind of people and will always message who we like

if we message and they aren't interested then that completely cool with us and we don't take it to heart

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"We all create these leagues that don't exist

They do exist, but some people ignore them (if the ugly woman gives a good blow job).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

This place is full of those people XX you included xx

I agree, kitty does seem to have a very nice personality aswell as being very attractive

My mum thinks so too. She's a little biased though

I'm possibly more annoying than she'll admit to lol"

I do miss my mam

When I was in my late teens early 20's and was meeting girls left right and centre I'd walk in look in her living room mirror and her words every time

I don't know who the fuck you think you are

Oh mammy if only you knew

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By *ackt815Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

No point not trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had so much of the opposite today to be fair lol.... I've had one person ask why 'I would fuck a fatty' somone els informed me I've gone from a 7 to a two on account of the fact I obviously have no standards, also been told I must have low self esteem and sleeping with 'fat ugly men' makes me feel better about myself.... Some people are so shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all create these leagues that don't exist

They do exist, but some people ignore them (if the ugly woman gives a good blow job).

The past 12 months if generated in dislike to the word ugly, iv discovered it's a nasty word

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I've had so much of the opposite today to be fair lol.... I've had one person ask why 'I would fuck a fatty' somone els informed me I've gone from a 7 to a two on account of the fact I obviously have no standards, also been told I must have low self esteem and sleeping with 'fat ugly men' makes me feel better about myself.... Some people are so shallow "

Probably men with paper thin egos and you hurt their feelings by not jumping into bed with every one of them. Their first response is to put the fact that you don’t find them attractive as an issue with you not them. XX They’re arseholes. You’re lovely x Their problem not yours xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it possible to have a great personality and be stunningly beautiful??

This place is full of those people XX you included xx

I agree, kitty does seem to have a very nice personality aswell as being very attractive

My mum thinks so too. She's a little biased though

I'm possibly more annoying than she'll admit to lol

I do miss my mam

When I was in my late teens early 20's and was meeting girls left right and centre I'd walk in look in her living room mirror and her words every time

I don't know who the fuck you think you are

Oh mammy if only you knew

I don't really understand this, sorry

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

When I tell a woman she's beautiful, I (Luke) avoid this whole league thin. I just pay the compliment and hope it's appreciated.

Some people would not consider another person for anything romantic or sexual if they are not conventionally good-looking enough. The thing about leagues is an acknowledgement of that. If that's not true for you, that's great. I can see how the "out of my league" could seem really odd, but I would still consider it to be meant genuinely. It unfortunately makes a judgement that you put yourself on a pedestal in the way they do. It doesn't make it any less sincere though.

It is true though that there are some women on here that both of us have looked at together and had an omfg reaction. It is nice to be able to say so. I would never put it terms of leagues though.

It's also probably quite a good job some of you women don't think of yourselves as hot as some people who look at you do. I think you would be insufferable if you did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to confidence.. You either have it or you don't. We see lots of people we think are out of our league. Men women and couples..says a lot about our levels of confidence

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If Fab has taught me anything, it's that all different folks like all different strokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few fabbers are in a league of their own

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Quite a few fabbers are in a league of their own "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Quite a few fabbers are in a league of their own "

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just jealous that you turned them down x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

The thing is, it's a tricky one.

Not directly related to fab.

And of course sometimes it is just said to offer a false compliment.

However generally when you get knocked back, or declined, or given a "No thanks" eventually it engraves itself in to you, not by choice, that people with a certain level of attractive traits will never have interest in you. If it happens, it is very rare, not enough to change any "damage" that has been done.

So "leagues" are formed.

We can't change who or what we find attractive so nobody should feel bad for it. But it simply creates divides and leagues that others can't stand a chance in.

It is all well and good having the perfect personality, but it means absolutely fuck all if people don't find you attractive enough to get to know it.

We all like to deny it, and nobody is better than anybody else, but do leagues exist. It is simple human nature.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"The thing is, it's a tricky one.

Not directly related to fab.

And of course sometimes it is just said to offer a false compliment.

So "leagues" are formed.

We can't change who or what we find attractive so nobody should feel bad for it. But it simply creates divides and leagues that others can't stand a chance in.

It is all well and good having the perfect personality, but it means absolutely fuck all if people don't find you attractive enough to get to know it.

We all like to deny it, and nobody is better than anybody else, but do leagues exist. It is simple human nature. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are leagues. I know not its not morally correct but physical beauty in humans is to do with symmetry. Obviously beauty can be found in imperfections but generally a person with perfect symmetry will be deemed attractive in the eyes of the majority.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Cos of Covid, "strange" seems to be the norm. Un-happiness, nastiness & rudeness too! It's just the climate.... possibly some may have their own insecurities about themselves? Do we all have them?

I don't think I'm a billy big bollocks who blows kisses at themselves in the mirror or the shop window - I'm def not a Narcassist.

I take the view point a faint heart never won a fair maiden. If she says thanks but no thanks - nothing ventured nothing gained. Move along... It's their loss not yours!

You are always gonna get the fastest gun in the west synhdrome. Someone is always gonna be more attractive than you; more ripped than you; skinnier; richer; personable; better car; better hair; better clothes etc. Get over yourself and move on!!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Is there something in the water...?

I've received quite a few messages saying just the thing!!

I am one of the most unassuming persons ever. Those that have the unfortunate hell of meeting me would agree.

There are no leagues on Fab. If you like someone then message...if they don't respond then you haven't lost but you may just have gained a little xx"

That is such a sweet thing to say ... it's worth taking this in mind

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Of course some people conform more to the stereotypical idea of beauty than others. Some are sexier, others more intelligent. This site can be very looks based so it's not a surprise that some are seen as more attractive than others therefore seen as outt of the league and reach of some.

The fortunate thing is everyone is looking for something different. It may be your obsession with star wars that makes you the perfect person for another, or a particular word in your profile. Be you and you will find your person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone remember the army guy I met end of 2017 beginning of 2018(he’s long gone from here now). Well last year during COVID he messaged me asking to meet up again. I said no he said why, I said cos you treated me like shit and made it clear you didn’t want to meet me again. He said well you had your pick of the guys so why would it matter if he blew me out!!

It’s like hello, you could have 1000 guys interested but only like and have feelings for one so the other 999 become obsolete you stupid cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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You’re absolutely gorgeous with an incredible figure. It’s not flattery

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

A form of flattery but one should not put themselves down.. we all have something extra-awesome that would allure particular people.

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By *ark sirenWoman
over a year ago

shropshire

No leagues

Seriously there is sorry , try being one of the larger older and plainer looking women on here and see some of the comments we get.

Youth and beauty only last so long and waistlines can be lost so easy

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s a nice compliment if they do say it but in reality no one is out of anyones league

Of course in here it comes down to the great thing called preferences

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I doubt I’m anyone’s cup of tea

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"No leagues

Seriously there is sorry , try being one of the larger older and plainer looking women on here and see some of the comments we get.

Youth and beauty only last so long and waistlines can be lost so easy "

I'm really sorry to hear you say that about yourself. Your definatly not plain looking! Unfortunately we are our own biggest critics. Your a beautiful lady though. That's what we see.

Everyone gets nasty comments here. Usualy out of jealousy or you turned them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt I’m anyone’s cup of tea

Some people drink coffee pal

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Its about chemistry

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I doubt I’m anyone’s cup of tea

Some people drink coffee pal

Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading profiles, some intentionally and perhaps sometimes unintentionally, put themselves out of reach..

"we're a professional couple.." or "I'm a professional.." this or "I'm intelligent.." that, "..so if you're gonna get in touch impress me. If you can you'll be in for a treat!"

Automatically, I'm like fuck.. absolute no go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I contantly meet guys who I consider to be out of my league, no one is more surprised than me, especially when they want to meet again!

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"I contantly meet guys who I consider to be out of my league, no one is more surprised than me, especially when they want to meet again!

Humblebrag

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