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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Seems to be a lot of women in their early 50s on here but my partner says she has no sexual desires anymore as the signal from her brain to her lady parts etc is not working. Starting to think it's something else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked her?

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Yeah many a time, I get sex at special occasions ie my birthday and when got told about promotion at work. I don't understand how can be ok for them occasions but nothing any other time. I get shut down every time I make a move.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Every person is different, how a body responds to the menopause will be different to another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every person is different, how a body responds to the menopause will be different to another."

This I guess, I've certainly not had a decrease in desire, at times I wish I had lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to be a lot of women in their early 50s on here but my partner says she has no sexual desires anymore as the signal from her brain to her lady parts etc is not working. Starting to think it's something else "

Maybe she has a profile on here and she's seen yours.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Yeah many a time, I get sex at special occasions ie my birthday and when got told about promotion at work. I don't understand how can be ok for them occasions but nothing any other time. I get shut down every time I make a move. "

Have you tried changing the moves you make? I'm not trying to say it's all you but sometimes people get bored of the same things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to be a lot of women in their early 50s on here but my partner says she has no sexual desires anymore as the signal from her brain to her lady parts etc is not working. Starting to think it's something else

Maybe she has a profile on here and she's seen yours."

Lol

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

My partner is similar...Ive found If I am very understanding.. patient.. attentive there is a little loving..Im afraid this is just part of the deal we've signed up for... more loving with less sex.. I know it sounds corny..When it happens and she feels good make sure its full dress up with all the bells and whistles..Less can be more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she on hrt as that can help

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Thanks for the replies everyone, no she not on here lol well least I've not seen her. She can't use HRT for medical reasons and I'm very patient with her and understanding and do little date nights for her and suprise dinners like dress up and pretend I was a waiter met her at the door with a glass of wine then went got changed in the kitchen and came out as myself on a date as such l, but nothing just had a laugh etc. Also she don't reciprocate anything feels all one sided. But done a lot reading up on the menopause so to understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies everyone, no she not on here lol well least I've not seen her. She can't use HRT for medical reasons and I'm very patient with her and understanding and do little date nights for her and suprise dinners like dress up and pretend I was a waiter met her at the door with a glass of wine then went got changed in the kitchen and came out as myself on a date as such l, but nothing just had a laugh etc. Also she don't reciprocate anything feels all one sided. But done a lot reading up on the menopause so to understand it "

Why do you want to fuck her? Just fuck women on here. She is happy with you doing that instead of her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every person is different, how a body responds to the menopause will be different to another."

Precisely.

Sheila had a terrible time and her sex drive went from high to virtually non existent, from wanting mmf fun to only wanting sex with me, and only about once a month

Just be patient and support her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies everyone, no she not on here lol well least I've not seen her. She can't use HRT for medical reasons and I'm very patient with her and understanding and do little date nights for her and suprise dinners like dress up and pretend I was a waiter met her at the door with a glass of wine then went got changed in the kitchen and came out as myself on a date as such l, but nothing just had a laugh etc. Also she don't reciprocate anything feels all one sided. But done a lot reading up on the menopause so to understand it "

Well good for you for trying to understand but there just aren’t any hard or fast rules when it comes to women and their sex drives. Maybe she just doesn’t need sex that often anymore. Doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t love you though.

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands


"Thanks for the replies everyone, no she not on here lol well least I've not seen her. She can't use HRT for medical reasons and I'm very patient with her and understanding and do little date nights for her and suprise dinners like dress up and pretend I was a waiter met her at the door with a glass of wine then went got changed in the kitchen and came out as myself on a date as such l, but nothing just had a laugh etc. Also she don't reciprocate anything feels all one sided. But done a lot reading up on the menopause so to understand it

Why do you want to fuck her? Just fuck women on here. She is happy with you doing that instead of her. "

What makes you think that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m no menopause expert (I know, surprising isn’t it). I would guess though that because it’s about hormones it effects everyone differently. And I’d say by the amount of ‘single’ guys aged 50+ on here you’re not on your own!

I think over time people’s needs and desires change for various reasons. Maybe you need to find some new techniques and styles to help her enjoy it. Experiment a little, make that part of the fun. It’s probably as frustrating for her as it is you. Always remember a man doesn’t make a woman orgasm, he just helps her to achieve it!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I am now 45 but been in menopause for 5 years. I lost all interest for about 2 years. It can happen. But every woman is different. You need to talk to her, let her know you still love her & care for her. And don’t rush her. Does she know you are on here?

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Menopause can be brutal for some women and they lose all desire. If she's not allowed hrt it might be worth seeing if she can have some testosterone as that can help or there are some herbal remedies too

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Seems to be a lot of women in their early 50s on here but my partner says she has no sexual desires anymore as the signal from her brain to her lady parts etc is not working. Starting to think it's something else "

I have plenty sexual desire thank you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What do you miss most the actual sex or the intimacy?

It's tough when a relationship goes from sexual to platonic. You either have to accept it or discuss it and find solutions. One of which might be seeking sex elsewhere if it's just sex you're looking for.

Good luck to you both

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By *ampant Lion34 OP   Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I miss the sex and the intimacy as we don't cuddle etc as much now either.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I miss the sex and the intimacy as we don't cuddle etc as much now either. "

Can I suggest you discuss affectionate touching like cuddling without any expectations of sex? If someone is not feeling sexual at all they might think that any physical contact will send out the wrong message. Also sometimes non sexual displays of physical affection can slowly awaken desire. It makes a person feel loved for themselves rather than their body.

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